Celebrating Cancer man's success

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TrueTaur57
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Well I am in love with this Cancer man but he rejected and friend zoned me. I last saw him about 8 months ago. We had no contact policy. He asked me to move on so that we could be friends.

About 3 days ago I got a text that he is now earning well and opened his own production studio. I was very happy for him 🙂 he asked me to meet and celebrate his success.

I want to see him because I still love him but maybe he asked me to meet as just friend. Since then I am making scenarios about where we would go, what will I wear, how would we celebrate blah blah.

Should I go and celebrate his achievement? How would a cancerian like to celebrate success? Or should I just say no? I really want to celebrate with him though.

He asked me to cook food for him as he loves my cooking, should I do that?

I don't know if I should hug him formal or friendly or long tight hug or just abstain touching. - confused.

For some reason my mind is making me feel as if its going to be a date and I am trying to match my dress with stilettos like a little teenager. I am 26 and he is 28.

Help me!

Taurus
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TrueTaur57
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Posted by soundsunscene
do it - i love celebrating success as a cancer its a downer when you have noone to do it with - just let it flow see what happens

Taurus and Cancer are so possible so dont give up on it !
Thanks 🙂 But how? Any suggestions? Should I cook for him? Should I be in evening dress as its a big thing or be in casual as its just a casual meet? I don't know if I am exaggerating that he opened his own company in the field he is passionate about. Should I touch him? Behave as a friend or still as someone who loves him?

soooooo......many......questions.....
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soundsunscene
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I guess if he asked you to cook - don't go too overboard

cook in an evening dress -i dunno about that sexy casual as a guess

just have nice underwear on "just in case" ...id keep it in the middle because if hes just being friendly you will feel embarrassed

let him lead ...not as a cancer ...but as a man

he should be taking you out so make sure hes not being lazy or not making any effort by going overboard with the cooking thing
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To be honest. He friendzoned and rejected you eight months ago. He now ask you to meet and celebrate his success and he wants you to cook for him... doesn't anybody think that's odd that he would have this sense of entitlement? I understand that you still have feelings for him. But it's been eight months and there's been no contact.

If he wants to meet, he should be taking you out. I honestly don't think you should go above and beyond just to celebrate his success.
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So he tried to meet me 4-5 times during those 8 months but as a friend. It takes him an hour to reach me. Whenever he tried, I said no as I still love him.

So If I said yes to meet this time, he will be coming to my town. I thought about saying no this time too but I know its a really big deal for him and me too and he asked me to be with him.

I was able to resist meeting him all these months even when he tried but this time I am becoming weak. I am genuinely happy for him.
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Can you deal with just being friends with him? And are you able to be friends with him, like a genuine friend? Not a 'I'm gonna pretend to be friends with you so I can still be close to you'.
No I am in love with him. I can never fake that's why I kept on resisting to meet him whenever he asked. If it's going to bring more complications, I will just say No this time too.
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Tell him the truth - that you are afraid seeing him will rekindle your feelings - feelings that he said doesn't share. That celebrating and alcohol may end up putting you in a position where he can hurt you. Ask him why he is choosing to celebrate this with YOU.

You have a right to ask. Be cute, cheerful and upbeat about the way you word it, but do it none the less.

His response will tell you his intention.

No two people are friends when one has romantic feelings. Ever.

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Posted by GalOnTheCusp
Tell him the truth - that you are afraid seeing him will rekindle your feelings - feelings that he said doesn't share. That celebrating and alcohol may end up putting you in a position where he can hurt you. Ask him why he is choosing to celebrate this with YOU.

You have a right to ask. Be cute, cheerful and upbeat about the way you word it, but do it none the less.

His response will tell you his intention.

No two people are friends when one has romantic feelings. Ever.


Yep I will do the same 🙂 He said he will make a plan and let me know in few days. If I get his text I should ask him his intentions before making a decision if I want to continue to resist meeting him or should I break it.

Glad I asked here 🙂

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TrueTaur57
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" I love you as a friend" "as much as I love my family" -his words

He wants to spend time with me in a friendly fashion.

Its funny that people does not recognize that other person has a passion and fire in their eyes for them. Its impossible to he friends. I said no and permanently let him go. Im not feeling sad but light. Me thinking to become millionaire as a reward for myself to let him go lol