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This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Wishbear on Friday, October 30, 2009 and has 7 replies.

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@Wishbear
17 Years

Let's just say me and my Cancerian man have been keeping company for almost two years - no commitment, and no sex. He is well aware of the type of girl I happen to be. I have said that what I need the most is consistency, someone who does not disappear all the time. I am the one to talk about feelings, he is the one addressing issues!!!

After rejecting him one afternoon, a few weeks ago, he was put off and ignored me, until the other evening, when he finally called to talk. I was on the other line and didn't click over!!! Now, he is ignoring me again!!!

Does he not like me enough to work for my love or what— 😢

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@ninjamu
17 Years1,000+ PostsLeo

for real? u've been stringing him along for 2 years? also the way u worded it... make him work for ur love... wow.

the truth? he's a man. most likely if he's not getting it from u then he's getting it somewhere else. especially after 2 straight years. i'm a woman and i would have been put off about a year and a half ago.

i don't wanna sound harsh but i always give it to u straight. u wanna know what's honestly going through my head? "who the fuck does she think she is, anyway?" i think it's the work-for-ur-love part that immediately made me think ur playing some kinda head game and are possibly a high maintenance princess. like u think ur shit smells like roses or something. don't get me wrong, u have every right to abstain but it just feels like ur playing with this guy's emotions. hey, i don't just give myself away either (unless i feel like it) but it takes 2 to tango.

u should feel so grateful that he's been so persistent, and consistent, for this long. most men, and ppl in general, wouldn't have been as understanding or patient. go show him some love. he deserves it!

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@Wishbear
17 Years

Ninjamu:

Guilty as charged. 🙂

Indeed, he goes off and gets it somewhere else... I tell him that I do not care whatsoever!!!

I cannot get even remotely close to him, since he disappears all the damn time!!! Of course, he blames me when all is said and done.

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@Wishbear
17 Years

He's gone...

For good this time - I am sure.

I wish we never met because it feels as though I am trapped.

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@Wishbear
17 Years

He's gone...

For good this time - I am sure.

I wish we never met because it feels as though I am trapped.

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@CancerianGoddess
18 Years1,000+ PostsCancer

WOW... I Would say after 2 years and you makeing snapy decisions like that,. made him crawl into his shell a little. It happens. You need to decide what you want and now, Cancers HATE head games!

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@Wishbear
17 Years

Cancerian Goddess:

He says he is not looking for love, but if it finds him, he is open... —

Is this some sort of subtle courtship maneuver?

Or, in the alternative, am I not the One?

What the hell am I supposed to do when he makes a habit of disappearing, and then, goes out of his way to ask me what doing so makes me feel—