Did I mess things up with my cancer guy ? Advice ! (Page 2)

I want to be with him but Im not going to rush it. Because him just ignoring me for a whole week really had me upset and I don't see how we could jump from that to being in a relationship like everything is oaky. We both have some issues we need to work on, but I need to know that he is willing to work with me. I had no intent to hurt him at all, I was just being honest with my feelings at that time, but no matter what I still want to be in his life cause he is a good person. Him not talking to me for a week made me realize that we all have faults, and I can't expect him to up to my standards expressing feelings. Thats just the way he is, and with time Im sure he was going to open up even more. I can just be a little impatient sometimes, which is a flaw of mine that Im working on. But either way, we both had our fair share of expressing issues taking things the wrong way in this whole time we been talking at points. All I know is now I reached out cause I do want to be with when the time is right and I want us to still be exlcusive like things were before he asked me to his gf. But now Im feeling like I might not even have a chance. I opened my heart up to him into the text messages and his responses were "I would still like to be with you but we have issues we have to work on first" "Im fine being friends for now and see where it goes, Im glad you understand" like I feel like now he has the upper hand because I opened my heart up to him and pretty much told him how much I do want this and dont want to give "us" up. And I dont want him thinking Im just going to wait around for him. & he was like "Im just going to need my space a bit as friends" like wtf is that as well. Whats this space ? why do you STILL need space ? I think hes making it bigger then what is it. I couldn't have hurt him that bad, and if it did, I opened my heart up to u and u know i still want this, im sorry and you still want space ? I just dont get it. I guess im just going to back off n let go. Because its sounding like hes nicely trying to not talk to me, even tho i asked him if thats what he was doing and he said no not at all. but idk, its just starting to really get to me, and i cant keep texting him and trying after today.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Maybe he was giving you space not ignoring you ?
Sounds a bit 'come closer...no no scritchy scratch go away you're smothering !!! no wait, come closer...etc'. You admit to being impulsive so I can guess this plays a part.
You had a similar predicament with someone who turned out to be a Leo right, iirc ?

I doubt he was giving me space. But yeah like I said I don't think were going ot talk anymore I guess, Idk hes probly just going to distance himself away even more and we will just never talk. Cause Im not going to text him anymore unless he texts me. I poured my heart out to him and if has nothing else back to say to that then pretty much telling me "we can be friends, build whats on there, and if i decide to move on i'll let you know" it makes me feel like hes just keeping me around and will toss me to the side if he wants to... or at least thats how im taking it as.

I mean it was maybe like 2 full text messages all together, but he hasn't responded since yesterday. And yeah he is just being rude, so Im over it. I really tried with him but he's had his week and still wants his space. So theres nothing more I can do.

This is so much drama....I wouldn't reply to a 2 page text message either. Radar you are just way too damn pushy and emotional, any man would distance himself from a woman whose being this way, I mean what the hell does a person say to a 2 page text? I hate text messaging b/c it's so impersonal and I honestly don't answer heavy messages online or via text. I'm not sure why you're behaving the way you are, it's just too much. He doesn't owe you anything, if you're not happy with his behavior delete him from your social network and phone and move on. He was being rude before you sent the text and then you sent another text and he's still being rude, stop going around in circles, you did this not him...Who sends a text message to a guy that's ALREADY ignoring? The obvious is if he was ignoring you before you sent the message well he's going to continue to ignore, you can't force a response out of him. He isn't interested in connecting with you, accept it and let it go.

Just don't let him back in when he comes back or you'll just be encouraging his in and out behavior to continue....

I don't think their is anything wrong with me texting him how I feel. Im being honest. There has been times when he has sent me a 9 part text message ! There have been times where he has reached out to me when I really didn't know to say to him. He always texts me first, and most calls me first. Im just trying to be honest with my feelings here, Im not being pushy. I did a lot of things for him and we spent a lot of time together, and we both really really liked each other & wanted something with each other. Yes, maybe I should have been a bit more understanding that he has issues opening up, & maybe I was wanting him to give me more then what he really could have did. But Im not perfect & sometimes we make wrong judgements. But at the end of the day I felt what If felt because his actions were showing enough, and actions speak louder then words. And I don't feel bad for being honest with myself because I did nothing wrong ! I still did everything for him and the end of the day, I've done things for him that he told me no girl has ever done before, I really went above and beyond for him so no matter what I SAID, I SHOWED him & he knows in his heart I wasn't going anywhere. I'm really trying and sticking around because I know he's a good person & this whole time the only problem has ever been about him not expressing himself, that what every little issue is about because it leads to extreme miscommunication having him thinking one thing and me thinking one thing, thats why this whole thing has been so confusing. I don't think Im being pushy about anything, Im not demanding answers from him because in first text message I sent, I wasn't asking him any questions or even expecting him to respond, I was just letting him know how I felt. He chose to respond, he didn't have to. But once he did, I really wanted to explain myself, & I was sorry if being honest with him hurt his feelings so bad, because I had no idea. He acted so fine when I felt, I honestly thought things were cool. I didn't have the slightest idea. If he was so upset, he should have told me. Im not a hard person to talk to. He knows I will never get mad at him or judge him, Im always there to listen & work & talk about whatever the issue is. He had believing things were still cool. Then that very next week just doesn't talk to me ? But I reached out, cause at first I wanted to know what was going on. Once he didn't respond, I didn't call his phone everyday or constantly texted. I waited a few days

Then I told him how I felt, not expecting an answer or anything. It was just closure for me and nothing to do with him. Because I figured no matter what, I need to get it off my chest how I felt, even if he did never talk to me again. Because I knew it was right what he was doing. And shockingly he responded. So I expressed myself how I do care for him, I want him in life, and I'll give him his space, because I'll do whatever needs done cause I do want to make him happy. And thats just my honest truth. I don't hide back my feelings and I dont care if people think its coming on to strong, he was honest and cired to me about his issues and I listened. And Im being honest how I feel about him, I don't hold back. But he him saying "if i decide i'll move on then I'll let you know" isn't fair to me. Like he hasn't said "no its just done, I just want to be friends", he's saying "lets be friends for now and see where it builds" but then saying "I need my space during our friendship so I work on expressing myself" like I dont understand why he STILL needs space !? So at this point, Im pretty much just going to let it go, Im not a pest and Im not going to bother him or text him.

I understand what you mean everrevolving, I'm just not a text message kind of girl so I guess I'm bias, I understand young people her age use it constantly, I myself can't stand too much of it and if I receive 2 pages I won't reply or I'll come back with one line sentence which I guess is pretty rude but that's how I am, don't like talking about heavy issues through a machine, let's talk face to face or I'm over it.

You don't think anything is wrong with what you do period radar and that's why you're in this mess. You keep saying you did a lot of things for him, well do yourself a huge favor, the next guy that comes into your life stop investing in a guy that isn't your official exclusive boyfriend and you won't feel so jilted.

You sent a text to a man that was ALREADY half ass ignoring you...Just because he responded to one text doesn't mean barrel him over with your damn feelings, you are really coming off needy and desperate b/c you desperately want him to validate you and your feelings and when he doesn't you feel even more frustrated and resentful.

You are being pushy because your TIMING IF OFF, you are opening a discussion that he's not receptive to, you go FULL ON about all these issues you have with him and you can't see how critical this appears to the other person, you behavior translates as disapproval, he only hears how you are not not happy with him and the END RESULT is him pulling away and going back into his shell. If you'd just sort yourself out and stop all these heavy ass talks he'd eventually warm up and become more receptive and then you can bring it up but you won't allow this to happen, you keep pushing your feelings off on him at the wrong time.

WAIT learn how to wait to get things off your chest, do you want to be right or do you want to be with him? If you want to be with him then CHILL OUT but no, you do all these unattractive behaviors and then you make excuses for it.

I'm not taking his side, I'm just saying stop doing what you're doing b/c it's not working....If you want to keep him pushed out then keep doing what your doing b/c you really are closing the gap to THE END.

...timing is off

Hush Moon...Help Radar instead of bantering with me.

"In her defense though he could just write something quick or 'talk later' etc"

I actually agree with you but here's the thing, if he isn't replying or half ass replying back then her spilling all her feelings won't help this situation it'll only make it worse, her timing is so way off, if she'd just relax, give it time to heat up again she'll have an opportunity to discuss it, I'm not saying she's wrong for sharing her feelings, it's just the timing is wrong, he's clearly not receptive right now so pushing all these heavy feelings onto him will only make him go deeper into himself and avoid her.

I don't like how he's treating her, I definitely feel she could be treated much better.

I don't think Im wrong because I didn't do anything wrong by being honest with my feelings, I been being HONEST about my feelings from day one. He has kept feelings from me & ignored hanging out for a whole month, having these affection issues, so I have a right to be honest about my feelings. But I do care for him & want him to be in life, take things slow & see where they take us. I think he is over reacting about me saying "no to being his gf" I was just being honest with him & myself, I want us to work on getting to know each other, getting over these affection issues before we get into a relationship, so I can finally have some sense of security with him. Because I'm a cancer and we need to feel secure before we go into ANYTHING. If I can like someone & see the good in them all I want, but if I don't feel secure with someone Im not going to get into a relationship with them. & he is not secure with his feelings which would cause problems in a relationship. I want us to really grow together & be together. I wan't to know why he likes me & why he wants this. Because he's never said anything to me like that give me any reassurance. If thats makes me having "bad behavior" because I have standards for a relationship like most people do then so be it. I never said anything to him to purposely hurt his feelings. & someone who hardly shows any feelings, after I said that I did see a side of him open up cause I guess his feelings were hurt. But I did not mean for him to take it that way, but instead look at is it for time for us to really grow together. & he know I was right. Because I do care for him & I SHOW it all the time. He's had many opportunities to open up to me, and maybe he if he did more I would have said yes but he never did. But in the end he knew I really did care for him and I really tried my best, but he wasnt willing to make this work and give it time. Hes just ignoring his true feelings I think. Maybe he will text me back and we will talk, maybe he wont, all I can say is Im not going to bother him, Im just going to let it go. I'll lock the door, give him the key & when he is ready to open it, he can, if not oh well. sometimes I feel like guys only want to play mind games with me and after I actually like them ... they ignore me and never cared about me in the first place . You can't hold onto something that doesn't wanna be held onto.

Posted by moongirljj
You have done nothing wrong Radar. Tiki no offence but I really dont think you understand Cancers, men maybe but Cancers are deeper and more sensitive. My Cancer guy loves long heart felt messages and he sends me them too, it shows him I care. Radar just keep being honest with him, openhearted and sweet, then sense when he needs some space and back off. I'm sure he will come around, one thing I am realizing is if they do stick around its because it isn't over.

I have come to realize that he's just a guy, a special one maybe, but he's not mine. I don't need to do things to make him like me again. If he wanted to, he would. I realized that it doesn't matter whether me & him last a week, a month, a year, or we end right now, I'm happy when I'm around him. I'm was so happy that it scared me. It hurts to think that it might not work, I won't deny that. Once you've been shattered as many times as I have, you can't imagine there's a person out there that's not out to break your heart. But I truly believe he isn't. I don't have a doubt in my mind that his intentions are anything short of honorable. He doesn't tell me how he feels a lot which makes me quite nervous because I've been in relationships where nothing was said and it seemed fine before it was over. Someone once told me that the power in all relationships lies with whoever cares less, and he was right. But power isn't happiness, and I think that maybe happiness comes from caring more about people rather than less... tis is entire time, I have gone above and beyond for him. I've gone out my way to see you, open up myself to him, cook for him, tell him how amazing he is. And I just don't feel like he appreciates it that much. All I want is to know, is for him to show me that he cares instead of ignoring or not talking to me, because I never did it him when there was an issue. He's the one that just doesn't see what he's doing- what he's losing.I don't see things the way he does . . . so he needs to give me a reason to believe.

"tis is entire time, I have gone above and beyond for him. I've gone out my way to see you, open up myself to him, cook for him, tell him how amazing he is. And I just don't feel like he appreciates it that much."

Nope he sure won't appreciate it b/c you took his job away, now he's behaving like a girl and you don't like it...You showed him through your behavior that he doesn't have to give to you b/c you did all the giving and now that you won't reciprocation you're being met with the complete opposite (selfishness) you won't get what you put into it because he really doesn't owe you a relationship nor does he owe you anything for all the things you chose to do for him, you gave to a man that never invested himself in you and the end result of a man not investing in a woman is he loses interest. He's not losing anything of value because he never put his energy, time, money into you to value you as someone significant in his life, you thought what you were doing would make him make you a priority and it only served to bring you the opposite of that.

You gave yourself away and the end result of doing that is hurt, pain, disappointment, confusion, frustration....be careful who you give your heart to, next time make a man earn your YOU and earn your heart b/c your heart is precious and you can't just give it away all willy nilly or you'll get exactly what you got...Nothing

Posted by tiki33
Hush Moon...Help Radar instead of bantering with me.

"In her defense though he could just write something quick or 'talk later' etc"

I actually agree with you but here's the thing, if he isn't replying or half ass replying back then her spilling all her feelings won't help this situation it'll only make it worse, her timing is so way off, if she'd just relax, give it time to heat up again she'll have an opportunity to discuss it, I'm not saying she's wrong for sharing her feelings, it's just the timing is wrong, he's clearly not receptive right now so pushing all these heavy feelings onto him will only make him go deeper into himself and avoid her.

I don't like how he's treating her, I definitely feel she could be treated much better.

Well you are right I must say. I guess I am using the wrong timing, but I had just had to get it off my chest because it was driving me crazy having him not know how I feel. I just had to let him know THEN be done with texting him. I wanted a little more out of him, but I got the picture wanted to leave the topic a lone and have his space & that's what I will give to him. It just I feel like I had no choice, because he was hurt & ignoring me because he was thinking I didn't want anything with him ever & that I wanted to move & it really wasn't like that. Us just not talking & if I would have never said anything he would probly think I really don't care & completely get over me & move on. But I had to say something because I had to let him know & yes I poured my heart out to him but it was truth & I needed him to know how much I really care. Not matter if he thinks I was coming on strong with what I was saying, being to pushy or not at least he knows I how much care & can be more mindful about what he wants to do with his while he has his space. Maybe him knowing how much I really do want him will make him realize I do ulitmately want to be with him. Now Im not saying anything else. I said what I had to say & I wont say anything else if it kills me, I said enough, told how I really feel & thats all I can stand by, the rest is up to him.

Posted by tiki33
"tis is entire time, I have gone above and beyond for him. I've gone out my way to see you, open up myself to him, cook for him, tell him how amazing he is. And I just don't feel like he appreciates it that much."

Nope he sure won't appreciate it b/c you took his job away, now he's behaving like a girl and you don't like it...You showed him through your behavior that he doesn't have to give to you b/c you did all the giving and now that you won't reciprocation you're being met with the complete opposite (selfishness) you won't get what you put into it because he really doesn't owe you a relationship nor does he owe you anything for all the things you chose to do for him, you gave to a man that never invested himself in you and the end result of a man not investing in a woman is he loses interest. He's not losing anything of value because he never put his energy, time, money into you to value you as someone significant in his life, you thought what you were doing would make him make you a priority and it only served to bring you the opposite of that.

You gave yourself away and the end result of doing that is hurt, pain, disappointment, confusion, frustration....be careful who you give your heart to, next time make a man earn your YOU and earn your heart b/c your heart is precious and you can't just give it away all willy nilly or you'll get exactly what you got...Nothing

He was the one who said we were in an exclusive relationship, saying hes not talking to anyone else & Im not talkng to anyone else so that is kinda like a relationship, and I did stuff like that for him because we had the same hopes to be in a relationship, timing when it was going to happen we both didn't know. i felt like he didn't appriacte me that much because he has such bad issues with expression & he's so shy & scared to say anything he's really feeling. So that was getting me upset at times because I felt like we were on two different ends of the spectrum at times. How can you say, time, money and value ? He has put money into me ( not as much as I have with him ) & time to see me. Its not like I did EVERYTHING, he played a good part to, Im just saying it wasn't enough for us to fully be in a relationship yet. And instead of facing things for what they were on working on to making them better and know each other more, he gets upset & has almost this resentment towards me becau

Posted by tiki33
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You gave yourself away and the end result of doing that is hurt, pain, disappointment, confusion, frustration....be careful who you give your heart to, next time make a man earn your YOU and earn your heart b/c your heart is precious and you can't just give it away all willy nilly or you'll get exactly what you got...Nothing

because I said no to being his gf. It wasn't that serious because he knew I still cared for him and wanted only him but we couldnt be together at that time, he was taking it wayyy to personal, like i gave up on him and didnt want to talk to him anymore. Hes so senstive and touchy that you really have to watch what you say to him. One time I said something and he was so cranky and moody & just had straight attiude with me for no reason, I called him out on it & he said sorry. He said "I sometimes take things out on people that care about me the most when I should take it out on the person that was being a dick to me" and he said he was sorry. I feel like tiki33 your making me out to be this smoothering girl when im really not, I dont call him constantly, I give him space, I just speak my mind, & i know when to stop and give him time. I just hate i have to do this again, its like were in high school, we are both adults, and I feel like can't handle things like an adult. All I want to do is be there for him & show him how I feel. & maybe you were right, i put my heart into to much, but i dont think i pushed him away, its his own feelings & being able to handle love that hes fucking himself up in the head & can't deal with his own shit, let alone how to keep it real with a woman. so i dont make me out to the bad guy, like this is all my fault, it takes two to tango & showing him love & care & not wanting to rush but being honest with my feelings isnt a bad thing. most men would kill to have someone like that !

You're too thick for me Radar, I'm exhausted...


Maybe it's all his fault and maybe you did everything right whatever the case I wish you nothing but the best.

Posted by tiki33
You're too thick for me Radar, I'm exhausted...


Maybe it's all his fault and maybe you did everything right whatever the case I wish you nothing but the best.

Sorry u feel that way. Thanks for the advice though !

i think it possible for two people to do everything correctly and still not have a successful relationship and conversely for two people to do everything wrong and despite that, still have a successful relationship. the beauty is in trying and having the experience. it is part of being alive and living......and to not do so, to not try, really is, not living. congrats on giving it a good try, and congrats on your future good tries and eventual successes.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
One word: Skype
Nothing is going to get lost in translation then 🙂

"if i decide i'll move on then I'll let you know"
That's a bit rude though.

I'll skype you. You'd have exuse the cornish (NOT GREGGS) Pasties tho

I'm just surprised an outgoing bubbly hotty would go for a shy emotional dude. Must be really hot or rich or something

Posted by moongirljj
Bloody typical, you come here wanting some clarity for your confused emotions, feeling vulnerable and instead of support you get insulted and told your stupid.

Radar, I think you need some time to figure out what you really want. It seems this relationship is hurting you, and both of you seem terrified of opening your hearts to each other, maybe if you can take some time out for yourself he will place himself in a position where the two of you can talk properly, and then you both need to let down your guard and speak honestly about how you feel and where you can go from here.

I figured it out, I do want a relationship with him but with time. Good relationships don't just happen they take patience and two people who really want to be together. I want to be able to work on things but he has to want the same things to. I can't be in this alone, I'll give him his space since that's what he wants but im slowly coming over it day by day that we don't talk. I just never had anyone just ignore me & not to me in my life like this, so it just doesn't sit with me well. I really like to talk to things out. Im just honestly going to have to give it a time frame because I can't & wont wait forever, Im no ones fool & I don't want him to think he just have me whenever cause thats not the case. If I dont hear by him on sunday then Im just cutting all contact, deleting his number & removing him from any social network we are on together cause I don't want to see his stuff. It would be a shame if it had to end like that but it seems like it's really over he hasn't said a word to me so far, from his social sites hes updating like everything is fine with him & hasn't even tried to reach out to me, this is the longest we haven't talked, actually the first time we haven't talked cause from day 1 we talked every single day I keep telling myself that if he wanted to talk to me he would. But I guess Im just going to move on... I know there's no point living on false hope & least I know it really is over so I can move on.

Posted by AA
I'm just surprised an outgoing bubbly hotty would go for a shy emotional dude. Must be really hot or rich or something

No its not neither, he doesn't even drive, I go see him all the time, he's average looking. I just really connected with him & I liked that he wasn't all over me or smooth talking like some of the guys who have approached me the past.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Just no funny shit like this, K ?

lmao

i need to download the thing and figure out how to use first tho. looks easy enough

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Posted by AA
I'm just surprised an outgoing bubbly hotty would go for a shy emotional dude. Must be really hot or rich or something

No its not neither, he doesn't even drive, I go see him all the time, he's average looking. I just really connected with him & I liked that he wasn't all over me or smooth talking like some of the guys who have approached me the past.

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fair aneigh

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Posted by AA
I'm just surprised an outgoing bubbly hotty would go for a shy emotional dude. Must be really hot or rich or something

No its not neither, he doesn't even drive, I go see him all the time, he's average looking. I just really connected with him & I liked that he wasn't all over me or smooth talking like some of the guys who have approached me the past.

fair aneigh

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Si 🙂

Radar, I don't think he would leave updates of what he's feeling/going through if he's a shy private person to begin with.
I'm pretty private on my FB when it comes to relationships and almost always never udate my feelings regarding that. I'm heartbroken right now but my post/replies to other people on my FB would never show that and I'm sure it comes across as me not caring about what's going on to my Cancer guy.

Posted by Rosepetals
Radar, I don't think he would leave updates of what he's feeling/going through if he's a shy private person to begin with.
I'm pretty private on my FB when it comes to relationships and almost always never udate my feelings regarding that. I'm heartbroken right now but my post/replies to other people on my FB would never show that and I'm sure it comes across as me not caring about what's going on to my Cancer guy.

Yeah your right but hes talking about other girls kinda, like little comments he makes. idk im just over it for now lol

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Do you talk to/about other guys ?

Nope never ever, when Im with someone I don't have eyes for anyone else. Even if they aren't my boyfriend just yet, but that's just how I am.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
That's fair enough you old school romantic you !

Lol yes I am so old school romantic lol !

Posted by wineaux
so how are things now? have you guys talked?

nope he still hasn't texted, called...nothing :/

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Posted by AA
I'm just surprised an outgoing bubbly hotty would go for a shy emotional dude. Must be really hot or rich or something

No its not neither, he doesn't even drive, I go see him all the time, he's average looking. I just really connected with him & I liked that he wasn't all over me or smooth talking like some of the guys who have approached me the past.

fair aneigh

Si 🙂

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so wtf did he do then

*gets notepad ready*

& he hasn't txt back yet?

So he's average looking, doesn't drive, is shy, emotional, maybe too emotional. (aqua moon? but hey) no chat up lines or game plans. What did he hit you over the head, handcuff, bound and gag you? I mean jesus throw me a fricken bone here

Posted by AA
& he hasn't txt back yet?

So he's average looking, doesn't drive, is shy, emotional, maybe too emotional. (aqua moon? but hey) no chat up lines or game plans. What did he hit you over the head, handcuff, bound and gag you? I mean jesus throw me a fricken bone here

haha its a long story. but if you really wanna know more just read my main post. but mainly we were talking for 3 months, he is shy, not really expressive but fun to be around, he's totally normal and cool around me and his friends, but it comes to sexual things & like showing affection for each other he doesn't really know how to show it, and he's kinda shy & acts aloof about things sometimes. when we first talked talking I really started to like him & wanted something, but at the time he told me he didnt want a relationship right now & kinda just put distance between me in for the rest of the month, then out of know he acted more interested in me again & we started seeing each other, but because i felt so weirded out & was kinda upset how he just didn't see me & put so much distance between him & I for no reason I just was fine with still talking & really getting to know each other, not rushing anything. & I did as much as I could to make him happy & we became closer. But then out of no where he just asks me to his gf, I told him no because of all those reasons & he needs to time get his feelings and opening up more to me, so we could work on being happy. the entire time we talked i told him how amazing he was & how much I liked him & he never once told me if I mean anything to him ect. I know some people don't need security and reassurance like I do but those are important to me & I didn't feel that with him just yet. Everything seemed fine, & then now hes been ignoring me, not talking to me or texting me, i asked him why & he said because he was still hurt a bit and need his space but hes fine with just being friends. i had to explain to him that i still wanted something just didnt want to rush, but he still really didnt have to much 2 say about that really. but i was just upset that i really went out of my way for him, did so much for him & really put my time n & hes just blocking me out his life & ignoring me. but im getting over it now.

you have so many confusing emotions radar, what's your moon and venus placements?

@wineaux I've SHOWED from day one how much I like him. If he's never ever had to question my feelings for him because I've liked him from the start & approached him from the start. If he's questioning my feelings for him then he's crazy, because I've made it very clear to him about how I feel about him & been honest this whole time. I feel like maybe I show him too much affection because sometime's he retreats away from me. At first I thought it was me doing something wrong, but he further went & said that he's never dated a girl who was so affectionate & caring as I am. I don't know what more I can show because I feel like I've showed him so much... I'm a cancer 2 & I'm all about actions... maybe it's time for him to step up & show me SOMETHING. He's never showed me anything. All he did was tell me he liked me & he NEVER did that on free will, I always had to ASK him how he felt about me. I know he might be hurt a little bit about what I said about me not wanting to be his gf, but I was being honest & in no way meant to hurt him. I said it the nicest way I could, only because he shows me NOTHING. I don't expect him to open up full on being through what he's been through but a relationship is about communication & I felt like we were not communicating enough to be in a relationship JUST YET. With time yes, but how can I get in a relationship with someone who I know is caring loving & a great guy but has never showed me how much he cares or how much he wants this, I need to feel secure with my feelings before I get into a relationship. & deep down he know's I went about this the right way, because he know's he has a lot of issues to work on within himself & if he LETS ME, I'll be every step of the way. But everytime there is an issue, he ignores it or goes away needing his space. I can't be with him someone who just going to walk out on me & ignore me when there is a problem. But to be honest, all that's said & done, I can't take back what happened & neither can he. I really do want to be with him ONCE we get to know each more & grow & bloom into a relationship. I opened my heart up to him in that text message & said I was so sorry if I did anything to hurt him, but he seriously needs to get over it & move forward with me & work on things...that happened 2 weeks ago & because he has a girl who is pretty much waiting around for him & doing everything in her power to make this right. But once he didn't respond to my texts after he did text me, I didn't know w

I didn't know what else to say. I don't want to be a pest. I don't know what more I can do at this point, I said what I had to say & so did he, but I can't keep trying for someone who isn't willing to meet me half way. He's just simply not talking to me & it really hurts. Because put so much work & time in this & I feel like its hurting me more then him, because I keep telling myself, if he wanted 2 talk to me he would. He's making no effort when I made 3 attempts in the past 2 weeks & got half ass answers. How are we ever going to move past this & figure things out if we don't talk about it ? I mean he knows how I feel & he said he would like to be friends but it just doesn't seem like he's interested anymore. I could sit here & reflect about what happened but It's over & done with & nobody can take back what happened. I just want to really work on this, but I feel like I would look so stupid to hit him up again when hes not even texting me or seem like it's bothering him. If I do send him a text message, it will be a fair well text message & let him know I tried... do you think that would be to much. Just saying "Hey, well I guess this just done, sorry for whatever happened but Im letting this go, take care" or something like that ? I mean its been really damn near 2 weeks of us not talking & it just kills me holding on, if its just done n I cut him out completely i'll be able to finally move on from it. I just idk what's best right now, if I should hold out...wait n see he texts me or calls, or if i should just cut the cord n let go.

Posted by AA
you have so many confusing emotions radar, what's your moon and venus placements?

my moon is in pisces & my venus is in leo

his moon is in aquarius & venus in virgo

Your so emotional and passionate he can't handle it.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Maybe he's better face to face and not text ?
Seems like the simple solution, and more human too.

I think that as well, facebook, txting and even using the phone annoys me

i don't have FB, i never answer my phone or ring people for the hell of it

oh and i think you should give this jerk an ultimatum.
Show me more love or piss off!

Posted by AA
oh and i think you should give this jerk an ultimatum.
Show me more love or piss off!

I can't do that, that will push him away even more if i give him an ultimatum. If I demand him to talk to me about this, he will just be like "whoa, your not my gf" & probly really never talk to me again. I guess the only thing I can do is just wait to see if he talks to be within the next few days if not then let it go.

Don't chase him but also don't let him be for too long. I took mine out of his shell (slowly) by sending him short, cute and noncommunicative texts. "Sweet dreams 🙂" .. then 4-5 nights later "Miss you.." and he would respond.. it went over like 3 weeks and he finally started msg'ing me with more than 2 words. or just plain ignoring me.

They definitely like their space and feel of independence. So don't chase him but let him know you're still around.