feeling alone

my cancer man just doesn't care anymore if he hurts my feelings or not. I ask him why he wont just break up and he says because he cant... im five months pregnant and im so depressed because of this... cancer men help me understand why is he like this now

He may be afraid of responsibility. He felt comfortable but now he understand things are gonna change. Nothing and noone can help him but himself.

stop being weak for cancer men.
can you not see he means you
no good? pregnancy is a trap
because they think you cant
readily leave when you are
carrying their babies.

add strength! ganbatte!

we never know.
nothing is very
certain in life.

all of you may be right... maybe he does want to leave but knows I will go to California if things don't work between us... but the stupid part is he cant be afraid of that because again he does what he wants to do and when I say good bye he begs to come back the same day

Of course he's miserable, you trapped him and tried to force his hand and now he has to decide if he really wants to try to make it work or not. He more so wants to leave you because of what you did, whatever desires he had to be with you have fell to the bottom because now all he feels is betrayed and might leave you for that reason alone. Cancers don't take being forced or pushed to do things lightly nor is anyone going to make us do something we don't want to do. He knows he has to come to a decision soon but its' not looking good for you especially if he meets someone else.

wait CANCER LADY... are you sure you are under the right message board cause I do not know what the hell you are talking about... I have never done anything to him and I surely did not force him to do anything... I have kids he doesn't so I suggested he make the decision to keep our daughter and he stated that he wanted his family so that's what I did... I do everything for him. he helps me as well. we only argue when he gambles too much or gets too drunk to come home. other than that watching cartoons and netfilx all night and eating good is our regular schedule... so the whole betrayed thing im not understanding because he is the only one that has cheated not me... I AM NOT A CHEATER EVER!!!!

I always ask him does he want a open relationship or to tell me if he is not happy and he responds with he loves me he sticking with his family so their is no force...woman

I gotta say this is a fucked up situation. It's such a difficult one. If the unborn child was the only child then it would be a little easier. Now don't take this the wrong way but having a guy who gambles and gets pissed ain't exactly a role model for the kids. If u have family I suggest you leave this guy. Easier said than done because he can simply walk away where as you can't as you're the mother and he WILL do this further down the line. You need your friends and family (if any) to help out.
Even still though you will always be reminded by him because of the unborn child and that child will eventually find out and wanna see him.
Very harrowing situation. As others have mentioned he could be depressed and you both could try find professional help to make it work.

I did not trap him... I have kids already and I am really starting to think the only reason he wanted to hurry and get me pregnant is because the last girlfriend he dated for two years and had a kid by the kid ended up not being his after a year of my bf doing everything for the kid... we found that out two months before I got pregnant and he was very depressed and drinking his life away... I felt bad for him as well as I had just got out of a terrible relationship where I was being abused and so I was vulnerable for love when I met my cancer and he did all the right things to woo me. it wasn't until a few months ago I found out about the cheating and gambling which by then I was already three months pregnant... he said he wants to do right but he scared of getting hurt again... which has nothing to do with me... he also mentioned that everytime I am upset with him I threaten to leave back to my hometown so he doesn't know when I am going to say screw him

I wish I can get a males response smh men and womaen think totally different

A few males have responded including me lol. Ur in a very hard situation and u need as much support as u can get. As one of us said just think of the unborn child. Wait till they pop out nd love them like ur others. Ur cancer man needs to get a grip. But I'd u knew he git hurt I suppose it was the wrong thing to do to threaten leaving all the time as it would just make him worse.
Again it'd be nice for u both to see a wiser person. I'd deffo give him an ultimatum especially if he wants the child. He has to step up.

How can someone hurry and get you pregnant? As a woman with kids already why would you allow yourself to get pregnant by a man that has not made a commitment to you? Now you have another kid on the way by a different man that is pretty much letting you know you're not going to be able to depend on him. He probably does want to be there but he is living out a another situation that ended badly for him which yes that experience has nothing to do with you so you get knocked up by him was very dumb.

He is in no shape to take care of you or your baby and don't threaten to leave. just do it because you're going to continue to be alone in this anyway. That is the harsh reality you created when you decided to get pregnant.

HELLO bLACKPHASE... I WAS RESPONDING TO THE FORCED COMMENT SOMEONE MADE ABOVE... THEY STATED MAYBE I FORCED HIM TO GET ME PREGNANT ETC...

ALFABUTT... I AGREE WITH TALKING TO A COUNSELOR OF SOME SORT. I THINK THAT WILL HELP... AT THIS POINT I AM GOING TO HAVE TO JUST FOCUS ON OUR DAUGHTER... HE IS 24 AND I AM 28 WITH KIDS SO THE LEVEL OF MATURITY IS DEFINETELY OFF A NOTCH WITH HIM WHICH IS WHY IVE BEEN PATIENT. I JUST HAD A TALK TO HIM AND HE ACTING CONFUSED AS IF I AM TRIPPING FOR NO REASON AND THAT HE LOVES ME AND DOESNT UNDERSTAND WHAT THE PROBLEM IS... I ASKED HIM IF HE WANTED TO CO PARENT AND DO OUR OWN THING FOR NOW BECAUSE I DONT WANT HIM TO STAY WITH ME BECAUSE OF OUR DAUGHTER AND HE SAID NO HE WANTS TO BE TOGETHER AND TO PLEASE NOT START AN ARGUMENT WITH HIM... CONVERSATION OVER THAT QUICK

FIRST OF ALL CANCER LADY IT TAKES TWO PEOPLE TO GET PREGNANT... AND MY COMMENT WAS ONLY A BRAIN STORMED SUGGESTION THAT MAYBE HE WANTED TO HURRY AND HAVE A CHILD WITH ME TO FILL THE VOID HE HAD EXPERIENCED IN HIS PAST RELATIONSHIP. SECONDLY, YES IT WAS NAIVE TO HAVE A CHILD WITHOUT A MARRIAGE COMMITMENT BUT WE ARE WELL PAST THAT DISCUSSION AS FAR AS WHETHER IT WAS A GOOD IDEA OR NOT... THREATENTING TO LEAVE MAY HAVE NOT BEEN THE BEST IDEA BUT THAT IS SOMETHING I AM LEARNING TO WORK ON AS WELL BECAUSE THATS USUALLY HOW I DEAL WITH MOST OF MY ISSUES... JUMPING UP AND LEAVING THEM WHERE THEY STAND INSTEAD OF CONTINIUOUS CONFRENTATION. I USUALLY PREFER TO WALK AWAY BUT I AM TRYING TO DO THIS DIFFERENTLY SINCE WE BOTH AGREED TO DO WHATS BEST FOR OUR DAUGHTER WHICH WAS BE A FAMILY... HE IS JUST NOT BEING THE BEST BOYFRIEND... THATS THE POINT ON THIS POST... OTHER THAN THAT HE MAKES SURE I EAT AND GET REST AND GOES TO EVERY DOCTORS APPOINTMENT, HE NAMED HER ALREADY AND BUYS LITTLE THINGS HE SEES WHEN HE IS OUT...

WHY BABYGURL.... THAT WAS THE BEST RESPONSE IVE READ AND I APPRECIATE YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME OUT TO CARE ENOUGH TO SUGGEST AN ENTIRE PLAN FOR ME TO TRY OUT LOL... I AM GOING TO START SPEAKING POSITIVITY INTO EXISTENCE INSTEAD OF BEING SAD ALL THE TIME ASKING DO YOU LOVE ME OR SHOULD WE SPLIT EVERYDAY... I THINK MAYBE THATS WHAT HE DOESNT WANT TO COME HOME TO BECAUSE COMING HOME WASNT AN ISSUE AT FIRST... I HAVE A REALLY GOOD JOB HERE AND WOULD HATE TO UP AND LEAVE BECAUSE I AM AFRAID THINGS MAY NOT WORK OUT... I AM GOING TO HAVE FAITH AND USE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION PRETTY MUCH TO MAKE THINGS BETTER .... WOOSAH THAT WAS A RELIEF NOW I NEED CANDY AND A CHOCOLATE CHIP MILK SHAKE

I hope some of us have helped. It's a great site to try find help. Some really understanding people on here. I really hope it all works out for you in the future.
Alfabutt.

just kill him and
get it over with.