Hiding the Freak

A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

IMO....it's a very cute gesture BUT, since it's only been 4 months I wouldn't pull out all the stops. I'd keep the intimacy a little vanilla but still fun. She can give him a taste without giving him the whole cake🙂 Keep him guessing.

Glad you agree. Isn't just any kind of doll she's dressing up as either. The girl has one hell of an imagination. And some serious confidence.

Posted by LibraFLgirl
IMO....it's a very cute gesture BUT, since it's only been 4 months I wouldn't pull out all the stops. I'd keep the intimacy a little vanilla but still fun. She can give him a taste without giving him the whole cake🙂 Keep him guessing.

Whatever works for her, works.

Personally I'd agree with you. I'm only gonna let him color with a few crayons at once.

Posted by ScorpioBoar

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by LibraFLgirl
IMO....it's a very cute gesture BUT, since it's only been 4 months I wouldn't pull out all the stops. I'd keep the intimacy a little vanilla but still fun. She can give him a taste without giving him the whole cake🙂 Keep him guessing.

Whatever works for her, works.

Personally I'd agree with you. I'm only gonna let him color with a few crayons at once.

Maybe it's because I don't stay with one partner for long, but I don't have a problem letting a man color with all the crayons at once; it's sorta like go big or go home.

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I need stability an continuity to really trust someone and open up like that (Taurus ven). 4 months isn't long enough for that to happen. Not that it wouldn't eventually happen, mind you.

Posted by MlleFisk
There's probably some aspects in their sex life she's not telling you. This might be one of the few guys she has felt completely comfortable with in a while. And probably now feel that she can express and be open with her sexuality... and play out her fantasies.

When you've been holding some things in, finding a dude who is completely game feels like freedom.

For her sake I hope this is the case. Really, I wish this for all of us who don't have it. Self included!

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by LibraFLgirl
IMO....it's a very cute gesture BUT, since it's only been 4 months I wouldn't pull out all the stops. I'd keep the intimacy a little vanilla but still fun. She can give him a taste without giving him the whole cake🙂 Keep him guessing.

Whatever works for her, works.

Personally I'd agree with you. I'm only gonna let him color with a few crayons at once.

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Omg, I love you

Posted by Kim31
A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

Are you still with the 2nd Bull who treated you better than the 1st?

Posted by Kim31
A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

When Feb 14 gets here it will be 6 months.
Depending on how deeply they feel and how well they know each other that's enough time to get freaky.

Everyone is different. For me, I'd be perfectly happy with freak flags flying after four months, but others will be even faster or slower. I think it's all about where the relationship has progressed, and the kind of value one places on their inner freak. Because this produces a really complicated situation, communication is of the utmost importance.

I think in the ideal situation, you wouldn't even have to ask if what you want to do is too forward. However, taking risks grants great rewards. You just need to know how to turn the odds in your favor. I mean if you learn your guy wants to fuck Tinkerbell, then surprising him dressed as her has a pretty low risk factor, wouldn't you agree?

Sorry, that's a bit fucking strange after 4 months.

But who knows what their kinks are. As long as she's sure he'd be down for it. But if she's just doing it because she thinks it's some brilliant idea, she should seriously reconsider.

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by Kim31
A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

Are you still with the 2nd Bull who treated you better than the 1st?

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I was never with a bull. Aries, Virgo, Libra... Never a bull! Probably where I'm missing out.

Posted by ScorpioBoar
I feel like sex is a way to creatively express yourself. If I have to wait 4 months to do that, I'm going to leave yo ass for someone who will let me do what I want and do what they want as well.

Nowhere did I say that I'm stiiffling self-expression...

But with certain types of play I need to feel safe. I'm not gonna let him tie me up for example unless the trust is there.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
What's her sign?

Cancer but her chart is mostly earth

Posted by ScorpioBoar

Posted by LadyNeptune
I need stability an continuity to really trust someone and open up like that (Taurus ven). 4 months isn't long enough for that to happen. Not that it wouldn't eventually happen, mind you.

Geesh, you make it sound like such a big deal 😱

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Good thing then that we're not dating each other then 😄

Posted by Gobshite
What is it with you women and time frames?

Some of you really need a slap... with a fillet of rotting fish.

If it works for them, who are you or anyone else to judge?

No one's judging. Obviously, people are stating they're own opinion about a particular matter. Because dxp is an appropriate place do to that. Have not known where you were this whole time?

Posted by Kim31
A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

That's very acceptable at any point.

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Kim31
A friend of mine told me how she's planning a freaky Valentine's day. She's dressing up like a specific type of doll. She met the guy in August. Am I prude or is dressing up like a doll after about four months of solid dating a little forward?
At what point is it acceptable to show your inner freak?

That's very acceptable at any point.

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I'll live by this for the next 40 days and let you know what happens if anything. Bold move for this prude. Starting tomorrow.

She's dressing up like a blow up doll, is that it? So no clothes but has her mouth wide open and fingers glued together and a sharp seam outlining her body. Thats what I am imagining when you say specific type of doll.