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Hi cancers 🙂

So, how long do you hold on (in your heart) to your ex's? months, years? think about them often? do tell 🙂

They are exes for a reason and I don't harbor feelings for jerk offs particularly if it ended badly. I don't worry or hang on to memories of mucked up relationships.Does that answer your question?

Posted by guest1
They are exes for a reason and I don't harbor feelings for jerk offs particularly if it ended badly. I don't worry or hang on to memories of mucked up relationships.Does that answer your question?

What is your decan?

hmmm.. not what I was expecting. I thought i read that they never let go and that you are a part of them. like there first love or something

When an ex is gone... they are gone. Sure, I my have memories of *cough* "good times" together but believe me there is no going back. Especially if it ended badly. I'll hang on to anger much longer than I'll hang on to loving feelings, haha!

jk... but not really

I was going to correct my spelling mistake, *may*.... but I don't understand why people do that so often. I mean, we get the point. I just type too damn fast.

what you do mean "decon"? It ended because of a sistuation I am in, not because of anything in our relationship. it was really hard for both of us to do and she didnt know what to do.

As a Cancer woman...once I have made up my mind-that's usually it for me. I was married to a Cancer male for many years-and we are still close...we have children together...but I never think about being with him again.

Now...if someone wants to end it with me...before I am ready...I have an initial knee-jerk reaction to hold on. 😢

damn thats crazy to think that she is over me, seeing the things she said to me like right before the ended things(again because of my situation). She said that that she loved me and that she has never felt cared about anyone the way she cares for me and that i am/was her first love and real boyfriend. kinda of sad ahah.

and that was about a year ago, crazy how you guys chance quick i guess. i am wondering is she is waiting for all my stuff to be over which will be in like a month....

Posted by SillyCrab
As a Cancer woman...once I have made up my mind-that's usually it for me. I was married to a Cancer male for many years-and we are still close...we have children together...but I never think about being with him again.

Now...if someone wants to end it with me...before I am ready...I have an initial knee-jerk reaction to hold on. 😢

I dated a Cancer woman as a Cancer man and it really isn't a good match. You can be good friends who like to hang out and have fun and relate in alot of ways, yet we share alot of the same problems and those can only be balanced by other zodiac signs, not by each other.

I agree with the second part, I as a cancer man I have a knee jerk reaction to hold on unless its me initializing the breakup.Its a hypocritical thing I know.

I hold on until I'm ready to let go, and once I do then it's done. I'll always care, etc. but never have gone back to anyone of my exes (they've all asked, go figure smh)once I've reached that point. I'll say, that if I'm not the one to end it, even if I get or understand why or even if I know it's for the best? I take forever to let go even when I know I need to. Once someone has my heart, it's hard to tell it let alone make it let go, no matter what. Probably have passed up a lot of wonderful men and potential dating/relationships because of it. We're talking months of processing, brooding, over analyzing, etc. Not something that's over with by the end of supper and passing of the potatoes. *Sighs*

Posted by mac101
what you do mean "decon"? It ended because of a sistuation I am in, not because of anything in our relationship. it was really hard for both of us to do and she didnt know what to do.

No, they were asking guest1 what their 'decan' was. There's three 'decans' with each sun sign (dependent on what your DOB is depends on which 'decan' you fall under in for your placements... water, air, earth, fire. I fall in the 2nd of Cancer, which is Scorpio.

When you look back and say, "What the FUCK was I thinking?!" I'd say you're not holding on anymore! LOL!

i wasn't saying that at all. I dont think she is/ was either...

i think she thought that she had too and that is was too hard to keep in contact. conflict between heart and head...

I didn't mean YOU literally...just in a general sense 🙂

gotcha 🙂 thankkkss guys and gals. have you guys ever contacted someone out of the blue like a year plus, after no contact or do they just fade and you dont think about them anymore (first love too ahah 😉

Posted by mac101
Hi cancers 🙂

So, how long do you hold on (in your heart) to your ex's? months, years? think about them often? do tell 🙂

I've loved twice and I have never, ever let go of either. Even though I moved on. There is one that is what you would call a boomerang relationship. It never dies.

thank you sheisamazing. yeah, thats what i sort of thought. do you not talk to them anymore/how long was no contact. my ex cancer was both or our first loves. and her first real relationship (and sex) and she said she has never felt the way she does about me towards anyone else. yet i have not spoken to her in almost a year...

Posted by mac101
gotcha 🙂 thankkkss guys and gals. have you guys ever contacted someone out of the blue like a year plus, after no contact or do they just fade and you dont think about them anymore (first love too ahah 😉

I contacted an ex after a year of no contact. I was still very much in love with him. We got back together. And for the record, I thought of him every day during that year apart.

how and why did you guys break up then. was is messy? also how long did you date before the break up. sorry for the 21 questions, just trying to compare 🙂

This is not the best example, but it's my only example. We were in a relationship for 5 years. We were friends for about a year before. We broke up and it was all his fault. Truly. He broke my heart. I couldn't bear the thought of having any contact, so I ignored all attempts at communication for a whole year. It was messy, so I removed myself completely from the drama. I tried to move forward and I did just that. I dated someone else, too. But I missed our friendship and I missed my ex. I called him one day, without expectations, out of the blue and we picked up right where we left off. It was pretty amazing. The only reason we aren't together now is for the same reasons not being resolved. He is an addict in active addiction.

So, I am a Cancer girl. I left my ex because it was the right thing to do, not because I really wanted to. It was like cutting off my own arm. There was never anyone else in my eyes. I just couldn't be with him, then. I never really left him. It was hard every day being apart from him and I struggled with the decision.

the day i told him that i didn't want him anymore is when i lost all feeling for him i would neeeever go back to him

Depends...

My "first love" is a bastard and if he was on fire and I had a bucket of ice cold H2O, I wouldn't dump it on him. I'd watch him burn with a smile on my face. 🙂 And even though I got my payback (VICTORIOUS) years after our BAAAAAAAAAAAAD break-up there is no reason for us to talk...again...EVER in this life or the next. You can't ever really "forget" a first love, but you sure in hell can stop giving a fuck about them! LOL!

Now on the other side of the coin, MOST of my other exes I'm friends with and stay in contact. We have GREAT friendships too. But with those relationships, it was either mutual break-up or one with no malice behind it. We just knew the relationship wasn't working, but remained friends because THAT is what worked.