how to get my cancer man back?? help! (Page 2)

So as usual its been a while but there are def UPDATES!

the cancer ex and i went out 2 weeks ago. i told him how i felt about him and that i wanted to get back together. he said that he isnt sure exactly what he wants right now, in life in general. he doesnt have a job, is going thru a rough time at home because their remodeling the whole house! hes just got a lot going on right now and is pretty stressed. he said he wants us to hang out here and there and basically see where it goes. start slow, not jump back into things so fast. just take our time and be 100% sure about what we are doing. i was more than happy with that. i want to take it slow. i dont wanna force the guy to be with him, i want him to be 100% sure about wanting to be with me. he did clarify that that night was our "1st date" and we kissed at the end of the night and all. it was great.

so last night was our "2nd date" even tho 2 of his close friends joined us... wow i had soooo much fun!!! it was an awesome night. when he took me home and we finally had some one on one time he started talking about stuff again. he told me that he always feels a slight awkwardness when he is with me. and asked if i feel it too. i told him of course and it is normal because of the past that we share. we agreed that the whole discomfort/awkwardness is because of us probably holding some of the things we feel inside (afraid to say too much/possibly hurt the other). it was a good chat. then he asked me to come sit on his lap and he began telling me how much he missed that, and how much he misses me. he also said he constantly thinks about all the memories esp the good ones. and bottomline he misses us. i didnt push anything. i just said if were meant to be itll happen. the awkwardness will go away with time. just takes patienece.

how does this look? is he opening up more to me? should i contact him a little more often to just see how he is doing and not wait for him to contact me? what are some more things i can do to get him really thinking

Your relationship might consist of possessive streaks.

it sounds like you're making some really healthy/good progress with your cancer man. he's opening up to you -- and he's showing it. you should definitely follow up and let him know you are thinking about him and care for him. don't play games though...just be honest, sincere and genuine with your feelings and he will respond.

when he sees that you truly feel what you feel for him...he will automatically come back to you. just be real with him.

I NEED HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLP !!!!
I'm in love in this cancer guy for more than 3 months but our story began like this:
We met on facebook more than a year an half ago, he kept sending me emails asking about me and me replying then after a month i added him on my messenger list, so we kept talking on the messenger every night then he began to love me and calling me his love and he told me that he loved me but i didnt feel the same towards him because we never met face by face.He loves in another country but he believed in long distance relationships and ppl can get married through such relationships. So he even asked were i live and that he was ready to propose as soon as he comes to meet me. This is were I began to feel frightened of the whole situation; I was afraid that i might not like him in reality and that he might conquer my frredom and so one because everytime we talk on messenger he asks me where have i been and whom i talk to (this is typical from cancerian). So i began to retrieve my self (tried to escape ) from him and avoid him as much as i can, so i kept telling him that how can two get married in such relationships and we havent met !!! so he didnt ask me why or what and he understood what i was trying to do so he backed off .
Later after couple of months, i missed him so i sent him a messege on facebook, he replied that he came to visit his parents and he was in bad condition that no one knew he cam back !!!!! i couldnt believe that he was near to me !!! he gave me his phone no. and STIIL calle me his lover and told me to never hesitate to call him at any time. After couple pf days i called him and we talked then he wanted to see me but every time he gives me a date, he nevershows up !!!! at last after 2 weeks he decieded to see me for the 1st time we met !! he was amazing, a guy that was perfect to me But he didnt love me, it was obvious from his acts and he told me that he doesnt want to hurt me and that his siutaion cant make him in a relationship now nor get involved and that his heart is almost dead from any emotions !! we kept talking on phone but i was the one to call and im the only one that texts him and most times he never replied .
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This kept on more than a 2 months , I knew he was changed and he wasnt honest with me but in the same time he told me that he doenst have any other girl in his life, after 2 months and before he was about to leave the country in 3 hours !!!!!!!!!!!!! he calle me and told me he was leaving for good and not coming back because he was still looking for a job. I was furious and hung off the phone and sent him a text message explaining that he hurt me , he kept texting me and at his last messge he told me that he loves me and that he told his mum about me and he sweared that he loved me and that he didnt mean to hurt me , so the nesxt day in tha airport i called him and i was supportive and we kept talking till he got on the plain....

The problem comes after this.......... after a week of his departure he sent me his new phone no. i called him and told him that i miss him sooo much and i love him , this kept for more than 2 weeks; me sending mesgs and he rarely replies saying that hes busy ... but everytime i talk to him he says that he loves me sooooooo much but when i see his actions it says the opposite !!! i asked him again about his mum and told me that he will talk to her but i didnt beleive him . A week ago was my birthday and everyone greeted me and wished me a happy birthday BUT he didnt even ask !!!!!!!!!! nor called nor text me !!!!!!! although i saw his activites on facebook and he was the whole week online !!!!!!!!

I just cant believe his actions, I sent him a text msg this week and told hims thanks for everything , is the what i get from loving and being loyal and faithful , but he never replied ..


plz plz plz ....i'm desperate and I dont know what to do ....i really need help so plllllllllllllllllllllllllz help me ASAP

I'm not in any contact with him anymore for more than 2 weeks and i dont know why he acts like this. I even know that he lies to me but he thinks im not clever enough to understand that !!