Is this classed as losing his trust?

Hi girlie! How have you been? Do you believe him or do you believe something is shady? He’s been giving you doubts for awhile and I know you’re back and forth in your mind.

Posted by Klh1203

I kept accusing him of cheating on me (due to my own insecurities from a past relationship) the accusations became too much for him he just broke up with me and left.

Now I feel like he doesn’t trust me because I was doing too much. We stopped talking for 2 weeks until I reached out to him and now we are taking it day by day but it seems like his shell is hard right now and I can’t get inside.

Whenever we speak he seems happy to speak to me but it’s like he’s protecting himself also.

LOL, he just got a free pass tk cheat on you anyday.

Lucky bastard.

Posted by pinkbird03

Hi girlie! How have you been? Do you believe him or do you believe something is shady? He’s been giving you doubts for awhile and I know you’re back and forth in your mind.

I’ve been ok babe I’ve deleted my snapchat so I can’t message you anymore. And I’m like that with every guy I meet so i don’t know

No one wants to be accused of doing something they aren't doing over and over again. It gets old real quick. Why dont you stay single for a while and work on yourself before getting into a relationship?

Posted by SeaLion

No one wants to be accused of doing something they aren't doing over and over again. It gets old real quick. Why dont you stay single for a while and work on yourself before getting into a relationship?

You’re right. I need to truly heal from what I’ve been through in the past I just don’t know how to heal. Before I met him I was single for a while and I was fine but it’s like as soon as I meet someone I just do the most😢

Posted by Klh1203

I kept accusing him of cheating on me (due to my own insecurities from a past relationship) the accusations became too much for him he just broke up with me and left.

Now I feel like he doesn’t trust me because I was doing too much..

No I think it is you who doesn't trust him.

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Posted by Klh1203

Posted by SeaLion

No one wants to be accused of doing something they aren't doing over and over again. It gets old real quick. Why dont you stay single for a while and work on yourself before getting into a relationship?

You’re right. I need to truly heal from what I’ve been through in the past I just don’t know how to heal. Before I met him I was single for a while and I was fine but it’s like as soon as I meet someone I just do the most😢

First of all you should understand that not every man is the same, and not every guy cheats. Also you should aknowelage that you have no power on the fact if someone will cheat on you. Controlling someone won't prevent cheating, and you put yourself into unnessesery stress. Have you tried therapy? Maybe consultation will help you to find way how not to get into paranoia.

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I always attempt therapy then get scared for some reason. I know I need it though

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Posted by Klh1203

Posted by ClassyAquarius

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by SeaLion

No one wants to be accused of doing something they aren't doing over and over again. It gets old real quick. Why dont you stay single for a while and work on yourself before getting into a relationship?

You’re right. I need to truly heal from what I’ve been through in the past I just don’t know how to heal. Before I met him I was single for a while and I was fine but it’s like as soon as I meet someone I just do the most😢

First of all you should understand that not every man is the same, and not every guy cheats. Also you should aknowelage that you have no power on the fact if someone will cheat on you. Controlling someone won't prevent cheating, and you put yourself into unnessesery stress. Have you tried therapy? Maybe consultation will help you to find way how not to get into paranoia.

I always attempt therapy then get scared for some reason. I know I need it though

Don't be scared. Therapist isn't there to Juge you. Everyone who get into therapy they have moment of doubt. If you will be strong and pass it you will see how much it helped you. Just be strong 🙂

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I will do... I’ve had enough of it now I always have a potential good thing then mess it up by being insecure because I have this “all men are the same” mindset

If you're like that with every guy you meet, then there's your issue. It's totally Ok for a woman to be on her guard and to observe. Sorry, but I have not read every word. I would spend some time working on yourself (even if you still date him or another guy) and ensure you welcome some good friends (male/female) to surround yourself with, and let them help you navigate things. Just think if you're with a large group at a bar and you perceive some behaviour from your bf, with a good friend seeing it too. He/she could tell you if you're overreacting or not.

There is always a chance that someone can cheat on you. It would hurt me too. But, if we all build our self-esteem to a sufficient level, we can address it when it happens. Work on the relationship or show him/her the door. Just think if someone you loved cheated on you, and you had the awareness and strength to end things thinking, boy am I glad I got rid of him before I spent any more time or got married or further, now I can find someone better.

Speaking as a guy, I've had girlfriends who were insecure and accused me of cheating. I can honestly say I've never cheated. If I'm looking elsewhere that means I have to work on the relationship or end it before I move on. I once broke up with a gf and she was convinced that I had met someone else, which I hadn't. It really made it more difficult to have a constructive conversation to end things.

If a guy (or a gal) is accused of cheating where they are not, it can wear on the relationship. It can also seem like a way of sabotaging something good because of fear. Or if a guy/gal goes very far to prove he/she is not cheating then that means he/she loves me?

That being said, if a guy really cares about you and you are able to get to the nitty gritty of your insecurites, and try to work on those, a good guy will try to work through it with you.

If I'm dating a women who suffers from anxiety, I'm going to do what I can to help her not worry about things. Help her rationalize that she shouldn't be worried about what other people think if she's doing that too much, for instance. Support her if she's taking medication and getting therapy. Let's say she lost a loved one in a car accident. She might need me to check in with her if I'm travelling so that she doesn't worry unnecessarily. I want her to work on worrying less while understanding that I cannot expect her to quit worrying "cold turkey". So, if I'm delayed on a trip (car broke down, I stopped to eat and had an upset stomach, etc...) then the considerate thing to do is to let her know, and not view it as a burden.

My point is if someone cares for someone, they need to do what they can withing reason to help reduce their need to worry, while they offer to support as that person works toward conquering/reducing their anxiety/anxieties internally.

It's about communication and supporting each other.

If you're worried about every guy cheating on you then you will be tormented until you start dealing with the roots of that. Start by talking to people you trust. Nothing wrong with seeking counseling. No one has to know but you.

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by pinkbird03

Hi girlie! How have you been? Do you believe him or do you believe something is shady? He’s been giving you doubts for awhile and I know you’re back and forth in your mind.

I’ve been ok babe I’ve deleted my snapchat so I can’t message you anymore. And I’m like that with every guy I meet so i don’t know

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I was sad to see that!! You know I’ve been in the same boat as you. Guys seem suspicious and it’s hard to trust that!! But I gotta tell you I’ve met a new man and he gives me all the attention in the world, puts the effort in, communicates well, tells me I can check his phone (which I don’t) because he wants me to trust him and he gets lots of work messages. He builds that trust because he cares. It’s very hard to find those qualities. I’m almost 31, but he was worth the wait!! I think that’s what you need to feel secure with a man.

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Posted by Klh1203

Posted by pinkbird03

Hi girlie! How have you been? Do you believe him or do you believe something is shady? He’s been giving you doubts for awhile and I know you’re back and forth in your mind.

I’ve been ok babe I’ve deleted my snapchat so I can’t message you anymore. And I’m like that with every guy I meet so i don’t know

I was sad to see that!! You know I’ve been in the same boat as you. Guys seem suspicious and it’s hard to trust that!! But I gotta tell you I’ve met a new man and he gives me all the attention in the world, puts the effort in, communicates well, tells me I can check his phone (which I don’t) because he wants me to trust him and he gets lots of work messages. He builds that trust because he cares. It’s very hard to find those qualities. I’m almost 31, but he was worth the wait!! I think that’s what you need to feel secure with a man.

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I’m so happy for you girl! About time honestly! When I make a new Snapchat I’m gonna add you on it so we can catch up properly

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by pinkbird03

Hi girlie! How have you been? Do you believe him or do you believe something is shady? He’s been giving you doubts for awhile and I know you’re back and forth in your mind.

I’ve been ok babe I’ve deleted my snapchat so I can’t message you anymore. And I’m like that with every guy I meet so i don’t know

I was sad to see that!! You know I’ve been in the same boat as you. Guys seem suspicious and it’s hard to trust that!! But I gotta tell you I’ve met a new man and he gives me all the attention in the world, puts the effort in, communicates well, tells me I can check his phone (which I don’t) because he wants me to trust him and he gets lots of work messages. He builds that trust because he cares. It’s very hard to find those qualities. I’m almost 31, but he was worth the wait!! I think that’s what you need to feel secure with a man.

I’m so happy for you girl! About time honestly! When I make a new Snapchat I’m gonna add you on it so we can catch up properly

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Thank you and I’d love that!!