Libra Woman/Cancer Man...sexually curious.... (Page 2)

I think you got him....he's showing to much emotion to not be interested. Instead of ignoring him just deal with him very causally. Don't allow him to push your buttons, restrain the Libran tendency to panic. You're be ok, if he wants to act high schoolish fine, but you don't. Please do me a favor, stop thinking about your once friendship because you guys have already crossed the line to the relationship side which is a good thing. Just go with the flow, treat him like you dig him regardless of how he acts unless he's terribly rude. GOOD LUCK and stick in there...you know you want to. Peace!

Honey...I know he is lying! But I am still curious. 🙂

Honey...i know he is lying....but I am still curious as hell!🙂

Ok...I know you all are probably sick of me by now, but here is an update. Christmas Eve...my cancer and I had to work late together. Huh....I came to work looking flawless. 😉 Anyways...I told myself that I would keep my distances no matter what. We were pretty much the only ones in the office. Lord have mercy! He asked me if I would wrap some gifts for him and I did. He brought me a gift. I was so suprised. It was an MP3 player. We started talking and everything I promised myself went right out the window. I know I am going to regret it next week. I keep telling myself that I am not going to get sucked in by this man. I keep trying to tell myself that a relationship is the last thing that I need. I tell myself that we could never be more than just good friends. You have no idea how hard I fight to stay out of his world. I get so lost in his eyes. I get so lost in his touch. I hang on to every word that he says. I laugh so hard when I am around him. I am losing control when I am in his presence. I want to be all that he needs and wants. He is in my dreams and I hate myself for caring about my friend the way that I do. I know that this can only lead to pain....and yet I still care. (crying) I wish I could be honest about the way that I feel...but I can't. I can't even be honest with myself.

Moon you were so right about cancers opening up and how most people are suprised when they do. This cancer man is taking me on the ride of my life. For the last few weekend we have been spending so much time together. A group of my girlfriends decide to go out to the club. I knew that he and some of his friends would be there...so we decide to just all get together and have a good time. Anyways...that night he and I were dancing and grinding. I was so excited. We both forgot that our friends were even there. It was if no one was even there. Before you knew it we both were kissing and just enjoying the night. We decided to leave...and I thought for sure this would be the night. He said NO. He was so sweet about it. I said ok...not that easily...but ok! After that night...we just started talking more and spending more time together. Well...tonight he did a suprise visit. He text me and told me that he wanted to kiss my lips again. I was blown away. Cause if you just knew this man...he is so not the forward type. If I want something from him I have to damn near take it. Needless to say...It got really really really passionate. I was taking his clothes off and kissing all over him. He was doing the same to me. I thought OMG...it's going to happen. I know he was feeling me. I could tell by the way he moaned and how he looked at me. It was intense. He said NO! Not now. I wanted to cry . I was so hot. Don't get me wrong...I am enjoying him very much. I love just being near him and touching him. But it's crazy. I have never had a man tell me NO. What am I to think of this? Is he playing with my mind? Does he have a plan that I don't know about? What is it?

Hi saymyname7247, I stumbled across your message accidentally sometime back & had followed ur messages since. If you don't mind, may I just add in my 2 cents worth. I'm a female, cancerian, but I do understand how ur cancerian man feels about u, because, alright, I'm gay. My ex galfren was a libra. & I knew another Libran more than 2 years ago, & I almost can relate to what you had mentioned above, I mean, from the cancerian man's perspective. Anyway, every relationship is unique, not trying to compare, but I think your cancerian man is utterly & deeply in love with you. You mentioned u guys were 'almost there' but did not. Don't get discouraged, it is just a start. I think he is not only starting to open himself up emotionally, but sexually as well, hold on, don't give up on him. For cancerians, sexual relationship has to be consummated with a reason. & that reason has to be LOVE.

Assure, reassure him that you LOVE him. (Yes, we are just so bloody damn insecure)The next time round, perhaps, u can try to take it slow. Let him know what u want him to do to you, how u would like him to feel you, to touch you. We cancerians would love to pamper our lover, but yet at times, can feel so shy about ourselves, to let our lover feel us or come on to us too strongly. It could even be seen as an invaasion of privacy, which cancerians protect at all cost.

Let him feel that you wanted him & needed him, whisper to him that you love him, hm...I think he could be all yours.

2 cents worth.

Btw, I rejected a gal whom I deeply loved few years ago, because she just suddenly came on to me, caught me off guard, & I was too stunned to do anything. That's how cancerians are, Blockheads.

OMG...thank you so much. This is all I wanted to hear. I pray to God that you are right. I am so feeling him. I have a few issues in my life that need to be cleaned up to make being in a relationship easier. However, I would love to be the one that he thinks about at night and all through the day. We both are really scared. I don't mind taking it slow...I guess I just wanna now that I am truly what he wants. Sometimes he make me feel like he not sure. Thank you so much for the advice. 🙂

ok ...Fly....After reading your post I got up enough nerve to ask my cancer about the other night. I wanted to know why he keeps telling me "NO." Anyways...he told me that he is trying to turn over a new leaf bullcrap. He told me that he loves being close to me and that he is trying to go without sex. I know this to be a lie. I think that he forgets that we are best friends and he tells me everything. I assured him that I just like being with him. I like it when we are close. Why is it that he is going so far with me...but not far enough? At first it was our friendship...then our relationships...now some new leaf crap. I asked him was it me...and know it not...but I asked anyways.🙂..He told me that it wasn't...that I was everything any man could ever want..Just this new leaf bull crap. Grrrr...

The Cancer man wants to control the relationship. He knows he's vulnerable, sensitive and a target for those women who are clever at exploiting a vulnerable and sensitive male. However, his behavior is extremely childish and "high schoolish." If he's not meeting your needs during the courtship don't expect him to meet your needs later. I was patient and waited and waited and encouraged and waited...... Trust me. If you're a Libra, the approach he's taking is not going to work well with you....EVER. Remember, you're setting the tone of the relationship now. Stop letting him have his way with you (I know you're enjoying it) when he has already made up in his mind that he's not going to have sex with you. Think about it. If he doesn't have sex with you because of a moral issue, he's being a hypocrite. So, let's face it. It's all a mind game. He's seeking control and power in the relationship. What you put up with now is how he will want things to remain. My advice would be if you want this man you need to tell him so and if he doesn't respond, let him go. If he wants you that badly, he will contact you. The Cancer I dated has contacted me numerous times over a 10 year period trying to get back with me. That's how they are if they really want you. Don't sweat him, at all. You're going to find that although he may be a nice guy he's a man with a lot of insecurities and issues, just like the others. Decide now what you will and will not tolerate because you are setting the tone with your actions. After over 10 years of not seeing the Cancer I dated, he was trying to make me jealous. Don't fall for the games. You'll regret it, later. The eyes are dreamy...that's part of the Cancer charm. But if he's willing to say disrespectful things to make himself feel better, whether that might be towards your friend/s or relatives, it's unacceptable. He knows you care and he's seeing how far you're going to let him go with his s--t. He'll respect you more for putting him in his place b/c it challenges him to be a better man. I know from experience.

I am a Libra.

That was.....Intresting.

Manyara, I appreciate your input and in some ways I believe what you're saying is true. However, we have been friends for 5 years. He is my best friend. Just last year did our relationship change. He calls me and runs behind me all the time. He tells me sweet things and is very sweet. I really think that he is impotent. I think that he is ashamed to tell me. When we were just friends he sort of told me that sometimes he get nervous and can't really perform. In some ways maybe he is trying to control the relationship...but maybe not to the extreme you are referring to.

I forgot to mention that he is 10yrs older than me.

say,read ur posts & others. I applaud ur courage & the extra miles you went for ur cancerian. & I do agree, this cancerian is a tough nut to crack. If you are running out of patience, you should move on & don't waste your time with him. Unless you really do love him, then help him get out of his shell.

Cancerian & libras, to be together, really has to "pull the bull by the horn". & you are not guaranteed results. I guess it is really true, that certain signs are compatible, some aren't. If you ever have the crazy idea of sticking with cancerians (for libras) you might find yourself totally changed & transformed, because you have done something crazy out of love. hahaha.

As a cancerian myself, I give your guy the benefit of doubt. If you might like to give him a 2nd chance, tell him direct how u feel about this relationship, & you will not go on waiting for him. Give him a deadline (specific) to think over what he wants from you, from this relationship. If he doesn't respond, too bad. Bye bye. Cut him off. Anymore correspondences with him, will only keep the intensity there.

When You know you've tried your best. No regrets.

Sorry, my opinion.

Cancerian & libras, to be together, really has to "pull the bull by the horn". & you are not guaranteed results. I guess it is really true, that certain signs are compatible, some aren't. If you ever have the crazy idea of sticking with cancerians (for libras) you might find yourself totally changed & transformed, because you have done something crazy out of love. hahaha.

So, you recommend to come out and lay it all on the table at the risk of being rejected?

Someone told me that cancer men are very wise when it comes to love and relationships. They seem very charming but deep down under all of that charm is a game player. They know when to move and calculate their next moves very seriously. I am trying to get close to this man without all of the game playing. I just don't want to get hurt in the process. He know how I feel about him, but I refuse to let my guard all the way down with this man until I know it is safe to do so.

If you are running out of patience, I suggest just lay everything out on the table, at the risk of being rejected. At least, u know u are not going to waste any more time on this man. If you have the patience to go along with the cancerian, then, you really have to take the time to slowly understand them, observe them. I don't know if Libras has the patience to do so. So far, I guess only scorpios are able to do so, or even virgo. Because scorpios are naturally secret diggers, they love to know what's underneath the tough cancerian shell. Virgo are deep thinkers who are good at analysis, & are able to understand the cancerians pretty well too.

For Libras, what you see is what you get, which Cancerians has difficulty in understanding, because they tend to read too much into what the Libra is saying. Eventually, communication many times got misinterpreted. While Cancerians always uses figurative speech, which tend to confuse Libras, thinking cancerians are playing mind games. What you see on the surface of a cancerian, is seldom what the cancerian is thinking. A cancerian is a born strategists, it is in their nature, what you see, is SELDOM what it actually is. Hence, many times, Libras may get fascinated with cancerians, because they never cease to surprise a Libra.

From my experience, libras prefer someone who is direct in their approach. Cos' perhaps, they themselves have difficulty in making decisions. Hence, many times Libras ended up with Capricorns, or Aries. As these 2 signs are quite forthright in their approaches to relationship. But they also have the tendency to end up being with someone just for the sake of companionship.

I dont' want to believe everything that this board said about the cancer man, however I do think that flyingfoxes has a point. I don't think that what you see is all that you get. I do believe that there are several layers to the cancer man. This is the only cancer that I have ever come in contact with. He has been my friend for several years now. I am not sure that we will make it past that, and maybe that's a good thing. Sometimes, we as women get so caught up in the feeling and the touch, that we ignore what is really going on. I asked him...what he wanted from me. He stated that loved he our friendship and all the other stuff was just icing on the cake. He said that our friendship meant more to him ...then I knew. I thought about what he said and I concluded that not matter how soft his kisses were and no matter how electric the touch, that we were just friends and nothing more than that. I tend to get confused by the words and things that he does for me. He is so sweet and charming. He bought me and hour massage session, because he knows I have joint problems. He is always writing me love poems. He makes you want to love him. However, I know that I need to take him at his word. He loves what we have ....and as for as the icing on the cake...I will have to limit my frosting from now on. And for me, that is easier said than done!

smn, i think this man does love u, pretty much, to do so much for u, serious, i think he does love you. & all these things that he does for you, are his action of love. a fren doesn't write another fren love poem, a fren doesn't kiss another fren. perhaps to him, a lover has to first be a fren, in order to go deeper. the rest are just icing on the cakes. that's pretty true. i mean, what is a relationship, if there's no bonding, no understanding. i think he wants you, not as a superficial romantic lover, for the sake of fun & go. but someone who will stick with him, & for him, u are someone whom he likes to shower his love & concern. cancerian loves to care & nurture. that's how they love a person. & that's how i interpret it. love him for what he is doing it for u now, let him have the freedom of loving u the way he wants...& see how things go. don't make too quick a judgement that u guys will only be friends.

2 cents worth.

Fly...I am going to take your advice because I believe you know what you are talking about. I would really love to give my cancer what he needs, but at the same time I need him to give me more of what it is that I need. I spoke to him about it and he kinda of went into his shell a little. I kiss him and rub his head and tell him how much I care. He loves the way I love him, but he is very slow in loving me back and giving me attention. This makes me feel as if he doesn't really care about me. It is so confusing to me. He is like no other man that I know. Sometimes ...he acts as if my love and touch doesn't matter, but then he acts as if he needs it so desperately. He told me that he realizes that getting close to him is hard. I told him to just try and let me in a little more. I am trying to be patient with him, but it not easy. Sometimes ..I just want to say to hell with this...but my heart gets so soft when I am around him.

Today, I am really sad because my cancer and I had a heart to heart talk. I had been feeling a little insecure about our friendship and where it was headed. As you know we both are going through a divorce. We have tired to be there for each other through the process. My cancer told me that his wife had not paid the mortgage in 3 months and she was so depressed that she was finding it difficult to take care of their son. He told me that financially he could not afford to pay for 2 places at one time. He was considering moving back in with his wife. I asked him if this was the reason for telling me no to sex. He said that he had been so confused lately and this was really hard for him. He told me that he didn't want to hurt me or drag me in his mess. He told me that he didn't want to lose me as a friend, but I am finding this hard. When he told me this it hurt. I was so disappointed. He is asking me for time to get his self together. I will always be his friend but I don't want o be stupid. I could really get hurt. I am scared. I feel like I need to back u and give him his space. What am I suppose to do? I really could use some advice.

Don't feel hurt. Your cancer must have loved you, if not, he wouldn't be in such dilemma, & for practical reasons, he has to consider moving back, not because he still has feelings for her. At least, now you more or less, knows why he kept holding back part of himself. Imagine if he just went on & consummate your relationship, & then break this news to you, that would be a total different story & a different set of problems.

Perhaps, you have to consider now, whether to give him time to settle this problem, or whether both of you could work something out to settle it together. Or maybe you want to give up & move on & look for greener pastures.

From what I see, at least he is responsible enough to be open with you on this issue. I don't think he can give himself to you fully if he has not settled this problem.

Are you afraid that he will reconcile with his wife? Will he? If he does, perhaps his feelings for you was not that deep as compared to his wife eventually. & when you know the truth, at least, you will know what to do.

I don't agree. This is exactly what I feared for you. I've been through it. Many times, the Cancer man will come off as your friend. But he can be extremely selfish when it comes to feeding his ego and reassuring himself when it comes to his many insecurities. If he had really been your friend he would have involved you in the full process from the very beginning and not shut you out while wanting to engage your heart. Afterall, he knew he had drama in his life and thought it best that he keep things a secret. People speak about the duality of Libras but there is duality in Cancer that you wouldn't believe. With this man you MUST keep it simple. You tell him how you feel about him and where you want the relationship to go. Either he responds positively or negatively, based on what your needs are and what you expect or want from the union. If it doesn't make you feel secure, let it go. Don't hurt yourself. Remember I told you at an earlier time. The way you begin a relationship is the way it will be. Don't settle. Because that's what you're doing. The man is torn. If he didn't have feelings for the woman he could live with a friend or family member. Where there is a will, there is a way. Believe me. He is doing what he wants to do. Let him do just that. Don't put yourself out there any more than you already have. Don't baby him b/c it'll never stop. His insecurities and other crap will become your load to carry. The load is far heavier than you want to bear. You're not his mother. You're a woman looking for love. If he can't provide you with it, MOVE ON and be happy doing it!

I would be very selective about listening to some females who have decided that being a doormat is the way to a man's heart. Listen, men are very simple creatures. We, as women, are the complicated ones. If a man loves you you're going to know about it. You won't have to wonder or ponder when it comes to down to that. You will know. If you don't, it's because he doesn't love you. Please, don't be foolish. Make your heart defer to your head. It doesn't seem right because it isn't. Many times Librans have a habit of being led into emotional relationships with incompatible persons b/c of the mystery and intrigue. But when you peel back the layers, you always find the same thing: nothing but a lot of wasted time. Don't wait on him, clear your mind and get your thoughts together and resolve that you are meant to be nothing more than friends. If there is to be anything else, let him divorce his wife and be willing to give himself, wholeheartedly, to you. Otherwise, don't settle for your scraps under the table. You're the hidden woman whom he doesnt' want her to know about. This shows you where his priorities really are. I wouldn't be surprised if he was/is sleeping with her. My Cancer denied it up until 2 years ago. Now, it took him over 10 years to finally tell the truth. I knew all along. I just wouldn't allow myself to believe that this "wonderful, sensitive, kind, loving, and loyal friend" of mine would be so scandalous when I was truly a friend to him and made myself available to him during some of his roughest times. The morale of the story is: Follow what your head tells you. The Bible even says, "The heart is desperately wicked." Who can know? He hasn't shown you that he even wants you to be his woman. Let is be. Believe me. When a Cancer loves a woman, she will know it. He will do just about anything for you and because he is only doing things like buying you little things here and there to make himself feel better, he's just not that into you. He may like you but he's not in love, at all. It may hurt but be honest with yourself. Don't be another woman who becomes bitter with men because you refused to listen to reason and defer to your head 1st rather than your heart. It's not worth it. He's not worth it.

alright, from beginning to the end, I've the least intention of trying to sway you, SMN. Just offering another perspective, from a cancerian point of view. Cos' I know, because of our insecurities, & our indirect approach to things, which I've never denied, we have always been misunderstood.

& I've also mentioned, that cancerian & libran's relationship, will never be easy. Loads of frustration. If you are not the patient type, then just move on.

& I do agree what manyara has mentioned, [His insecurities and other crap will become your load to carry. The load is far heavier than you want to bear.] That's why, unless u love this guy, you are not going to be his mother, & mother him.

So, I hope you can come to your own conclusion on how you wish to proceed from here, & hopefully, it will be a good decision & you will be happy about it.

Sounds pretty possible, leokitten. When I met my Libra, it was also after both of us had a failed relationship. She was cheated by her capri, & I was let down by my ex-libra. Hahaha. Seems like SMN's ex was also a capri.

I would be skeptical of getting involved with any man, Cancer man or not, if he is less than a year at least from being divorced let alone still married. I was never legally married but I was with my daughter's father for 7 years and we lived the married life and when I left him it took me a long time just to get my mind right and emotional stability back. I needed time to come to terms with our relationship, what happened, what went wrong etc. I made sure I did not date anyone for at least a year so that when and if I got into another relationship I wouldn't make the same mistakes and I could take those lessons that I learned and apply them to any future relationship.

It sounds to me that you two are leaning on each other in your times of need. I made 2 mistakes in my life. (1) I got involved with a man who was just out of a relationship with his ex who said he wanted a serious relationship and wanted to have kids and it all sounded great. Eventually, because his emotions were so conflicted he changed his mind and decided that he didn't want a relationship months later after we started "dating".(2) I got involved with a man who was just divorced after 14 years of marriage and 3 kids. Financially he was strapped, emotionally he was drained and psychologically he was damaged. Years later, we remained friends after it didn't work out with us and he told me he knew he wasn't ready for anything serious and he led me down that path anyway. I asked him why he said he didn't know...that was his answer exactly...he didn't know. Well thanks for nothing assh*le. A person who is hurting will do anything to make themselves feel better fully knowing that they are not ready for anything serious...it's a distraction from the hell they are going through. It's not intended to hurt you but to make themselves feel better.

I have a friend who started dating a Cancer man who was still married and he would talk bad about his wife saying they were getting a divorce and she doesn't do this and she doesn't do that and he's tired of it...etc. Well years later he's still with her. My friend got out before her heart got in so she was lucky.

My advice is to let this one go. Save your heart some pain. Let him take care of his personal life and issues and if and when he gets his feet back on solid ground let him come to you fully ready mind, body, soul, spirit, and heart to love you the way you deserve to be loved.

LK, i think your Cancer did the right thing by taking time out for himself. By him doing that you reaped the benefits of his healed heart and spirit. It may not have been fully healed but close to it. Relationships can be complicated enough even when both people are truly ready. It could be absolute hell when one or more parties are recovering from their relationship from hell. I am a Sag woman but I have never cheated on any man I was with. I am fiercely loyal to a fault.

"more wine was poured LOL."

I'll drink to that!

*sippin' wine*

LOL!

He has been separated from her for 1 1/2 years. He is just so confused. Tonight, he told me that he told his wife that he is moving back in to handle the bills. She laughed in his face. He said that made him angry. He told me that she has someone else that she is seeing and I don't have to worry about him. All, I know is that I have had enough drama in my life with my own bullshxt, and I be damned if I am trying to get back into it with drama that ain't mine. I like he alot. I love him as my friend and I will always love him. He has been a good friend to me, but right now...I need him to work out his mess without involving me. I truly wish things were different but they are not. Someone told me that cancer men find it hard to give up on some relationships. This maybe the case. Because ...why after a year and a half do you feel the need to move back home. SELL THE HOUSE! I told him that I would be there for him as a friend, but I can not get involved with his issues. He got made with me. I want a man not a son.

It stung a little because everything that I had been wondering about...was revealed in one night. He is not ready and maybe neither am I. It just hurts, because I feel like I am losing my friend also.

I'm sorry for you, at the same time, a sense of relief for you as well, SMN. At least, you know the truth, how to proceed from here, & move on.

My personal advise to you is, don't remain as friends, for your own good, & for the cancerian. As long as you stay in contact, & love him as friend, there may always be an undercurrent lying between both of you, & pulling you back somehow. There may be this possibility that if ever the cancerian settled, or realised that he has lost you, he will come on to you aggressively, & that will drag on further.

Cancerian & Libran are just from different planets. An air sign & water sign, mixed together, if everything goes well, you get lovely bubbles. If things aren't smooth, ladened with burden, past hurts, the air becomes damp & condenses, forming rain & storm.

Anyway, IMHO, all these experiences is best seen as lessons in life, not something bad & negative.

2 cents worth.

Yesterday, he told me that he was falling for me. I didn't say anything at first and that confused him. Later, I told him that I valued our friendship, but I am not emotionally equipped to deal with the situation. I tolded him that time would tell if he was really "falling for me."

typical cancerian & libra outcome....i am not surprised at all, of your reaction, & his response. He will feel that you are rejecting him, & will back off again.

May I ask, what do you expect a man who is falling for you to do?

Fact of the matter is that I truly care about him but I don't want to get my heart broken. I don't want to be a stupid woman and just believe everything that he tells me. He will be around her everyday. Am I suppose to just accept the fact that he is back home with his wife and act as if nothing has changed? He knows how I feel and I am not playing games with him. I am just acting and reacting out of fear.

If he really cares...like he proclaims. I want him to pull it together. He feels like I am not being very supportive.

This sounds very familiar. What I had experienced before, with my ex-libran gf.

Perhaps it is really good to cool it off for a while, let him think what he wants to do. He felt you are not being supportive because he thought that you are not in his situation & could not understand what he is going through, yet you want him to do it your way. He might even think that you don't trust him.

From your point of view, what he is doing, is merely to have best of the both worlds, to have you, as well as to settle his family problem. & you are right as well, that who knows if he take the chance to cheat on you. Even if he doesn't, there's this possibility of a reconciliation.


sigh....this is really exasperating.

I don't think there is anything wrong with me wanting to be the only and the most important woman in his life. I am not going to except anything less. He wouldn't do it for me. He wouldn't except the fact that I was moving back with my husband for financial reasons and beleive that we are going to not sleep together or reconcile. Please...manyara said something that I believe to be true, what you except in the beginning is what he is going to do though out the relationship. He is my best friend and I want the best for him and I want him to be happy. He has to find out what that is. I will always be his friend, but this time around I am going to guard my heart. I need to step back and let him make the decision. I have way more to lose than he does, and I am not willing to but in all on the line. Sorry...thanks for listen foxes!

sorry for the typos

Hello, I am a libra and i date a cancer for six months and now it is been a month since we broke up. I miss him so much...😢

Thank you very much...

I don't think that there is much hope. First we were so much into each other and then ... well he wanted to stop seeing my male friends .. I felt so frustrated.. plus i started to suffocate with his friends.. he used to think that i prefer the company of my friends on him..
the thing is that he saw how impatient i am and the fact that i can't just stay home...
I don't know... anyway hopefully better in time..

yeah but the thing is that we agreed on a break and all alone he decided that we should break up telling me that u were the one who was more bored than me...

so sometimes i feel that i should blame myself for not being patient but on the other hand he could have done more effort...in accepting my need for freedom..

you are right...
I miss him and at the same time i know that i cannot lead such a life. but still I miss him... don't know what to do... sometimes i feel so free and happy, but then i feel that i need him ...
I just wish that there was a way to reach him.. to communicate..

what about you?

🙂 I meant tell me about yourself.

I can tell you from experience that a Libra/Cancer relationship is diffently challenging. I wish you all the luck in the world. I hope it works out for you.

Update!!!!!! Most already know the story so I'll just recap on the end part. My cancer friend went back to his wife based on financial reasons so he said. Well...anyways I became a little cold after that. I missed him so much, but I backed off and decided he needed sometime to get his situation together. He felt like I was not there for him during this time. Anyways, during this time we went out a few times and had a lot of fun together. However, I knew that I couldn't let my emotions get the better part of me. He told me yesterday that they decide to put the house on the market. He told me that they didn't sleep together and that he wished that I would have trusted him. He has become really really moody and distant. I have tired to be there as best I could without hurting myself. He is now being really cold. This really hurts. He is now spending more time with his "other girlfriends". I pretend like it doesnot bother me. We use to be able to talk about anything and everything. Now our conversation seems strained. I tried to talk to him about it..but he acts as if nothing is wrong. Is he trying to put a guilt trip on me? Was I wrong for not trusting him? I have since backed off. I feel like if he really values or friendship like he has stated so many times, that he will come around. I know this one thing...I have just about had it with his mood swings. You just never know what person you are getting from day to day. I have never seen a man acts so childish in all of my days. OMG Such a turn off.

There's a blemish to your relationship, perhaps to your cancerian guy, I think. The best, just leave him & move on. I can sorta see his perception, of the 'trust' issue & 'not being there'. You guys are just looking for different things in life, & in love.

"I tried to talk to him about it..but he acts as if nothing is wrong."

No point. Since you trying to talk to him, is merely to let him see your perspective. If you think you are right, then, whatever he thinks you are not doing enough, will be out of the question.

A cancerian looks for a woman, who is times of troubles (in his own perception) will trust him totally (no matter how illogical or irrational) it may seem & go through things with him.

I've personally gone through somethings similar. My libran-ex placed a lot of pressure on me to come out with our relationship, in the midst of a family crisis, & threw tantrum, threatened to break up with me. In the end, I dropped her, regardless of how much & how deeply I was in love with her. My view, if she cannot go through trials & tributions with me, & have faith on me that I will not let her down, she's not fit to be that someone in my life.

We patched back, & broke up, as I've lost my faith in her.

I am not saying that your cancerian guy is right, or that I endorse what he is doing. Just that, cancerian & libra are too different, & seeks different things in life. to prevent yourself from further hurt, you should move on & leave him alone, & don't let his little antics affect you in anyway.

Hav'g an interest'g time read'g all your posts. Me= Cancer (Sun), Aquarius Moon, Leo Acs.
I fall for, or is that, Libra men...fall for, humbly speaking I get myself entangled with Libra men all the time. I dated one for 3.5 years and that ended poorly. I have had several friendships/relationships with Libras in the past. (some just friends-but they always wanted more). (1) guy I should have- we were the best of friends for a long time (his constant brooding was downer- and I was having too much fun at 24 to slow down). It's gotta be the moon and Leo Asc. that attracts. Yet again, I am head over heels for a Libra. The attraction is WOW!! At this time, we are still in the flirting back and forth-that's been going on for like a month...I did the first kiss. He hasnt even asked for my #. What is up wiht that Libras?? Thru his sister we meet out every weekend. I dont know how to approach a "thing" with him.