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Well have thought about letting him be with another person or you find one that's more compatible sex is very important?
So everything is fine except the sex? If you were married what would you do?
I'm a Libra too, with a Cancer man. My Cancer wants to have sex a lot, usually 2-3 times during a visit, sometimes more. We spend about 4 times a week together. I've found him to be the most passionate sexually. It's like hes on another planet or on X haha. He also has gemini in his 8th house. Perhaps that's why?
Posted by VirgoGentHe's SUPER sensitive to criticism and expressing displeasure at a man's sexual shortcomings is likely not going to go over well
Have you expressed your frustration with him?
Posted by SolitudeDon't get me wrong, I do love it! But my last boyfriend and I had sex constantly, so going to this is kind of hard to deal with. I want a balancePosted by confusedlibra78I'd love this
I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me.click to expand
Just find Virgo to take care of your needs fine.
Does your need for sex depends on his appearance? is he attractive that much that makes u horny? Or you just need the sex anyway?
Does your need for sex depends on his appearance? is he attractive that much that makes u horny? Or you just need the sex anyway?
Posted by GetMistedRight?! The dick and pussy would be so sore.
Who has time for sex 5-10 times a day?!
I have two questions...
#1 what is his mars?
#2 when you say 5-10xs translate that into time. Are we talking an hour, 10 hours? How long is each go? And are you being satisfied by him? Are you getting your O?
(more than two questions, whoops!)
#1 what is his mars?
#2 when you say 5-10xs translate that into time. Are we talking an hour, 10 hours? How long is each go? And are you being satisfied by him? Are you getting your O?
(more than two questions, whoops!)
Posted by BuffaloBills28I've got Sag in 8th house. Is that why I want it so much? He's Taurus in 8th
I'd have sex 5-10 times in an hour at one point 🙂 You need to get yourself a sun in the 8th house individual, lol. 🙂 Where sex is everyday, all day.
Posted by KoniuchaaThat was my Scorp ex. We averaged 3-4 times and went up to 5+ times.Posted by GetMistedI agree! And we are sexy Scorpios ?
Who has time for sex 5-10 times a day?!click to expand
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I wouldn't marry him, lol. Sexual compatibility it important to me. Everything else isn't great but it's good. I like how emotional he is and there's no drama, but it's kind of boring.
So everything is fine except the sex? If you were married what would you do?
Posted by blackphaseTo me the beginning of the relationship should last for years as far as sex is concerned. My Sag ex husband and I had lots of sex for 7 years before it started to slow down.
Once a day is still better than most.. In the beginning of a relationship seems to be the only time I get it multiple times a day.. it slowly fades once the novelty wears off.. But I am like you.. I don't ever tire of it 😛
Posted by DivaCanLeoI'd be fine with twice a day, and remember, I only see him 4 days a week. Hell, I'd probably settle for once, but not at all?? I guess he and I are just incompatible.Posted by confusedlibra78you're incompatible, we're not meant to be sexing 10 times a day, we got sheet to do. go get you another sign
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?click to expand
Posted by julietteLol, it's easy. You don't sleep.Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
5-10 times a day— what do you eat? when do you work?
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Posted by notsosureI'm not worried about titles, lol. I just meant that if he were just in it for sex, we'd have sex every time we see each other. I don't know where I stand with him because he doesn't communicate. I've never met anyone like him. He's totally closed.
Well you are satisfying him sexually either way, so you can still be a booty call or a FWB. All these god damn titles and non-titles. So lame. And it´s making some of us women shake in our boots, because we just crave that title of girlfriend to feel validated and recognized as valuable in society.
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But does it bother you a lot to not have sex? Or is it not just because you feel insecure about yourself? I think that´s what it comes down to in this situation, also based on your comment with the booty call, which makes me believe, that you don´t know, where you stand with this guy, and that makes you insecure. So maybe have a chat about that instead. I think that could solve some problems for you.
Posted by heliumfiascoWhen we have sex, he's like that. His 8th is in Taurus and mine is in Sag. It explains me but I don't know enough about Taurus in 8th.
I'm a Libra too, with a Cancer man. My Cancer wants to have sex a lot, usually 2-3 times during a visit, sometimes more. We spend about 4 times a week together. I've found him to be the most passionate sexually. It's like hes on another planet or on X haha. He also has gemini in his 8th house. Perhaps that's why?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I had a Virgo boyfriend once. We weren't compatible. So far sex with Sag, Scorp and Cap have been the best
Just find Virgo to take care of your needs fine.
Posted by facepalmingNo, he's not really that good looking. But when I'm physically close to him, I want him.
Does your need for sex depends on his appearance? is he attractive that much that makes u horny? Or you just need the sex anyway?
Posted by ReincarnationHmmm, I might just suggest that. He also smokes weed and drinks. Maybe that's killing the drive?Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
Have his testosterone and prolactin levels tested. It's a cheap test.click to expand
I'm really missing out on life.....l have sex like every 3 months with my wife...
Cancers love cuddling more than sex.
Cancers love cuddling more than sex.
Posted by KoniuchaaOr perhaps he's expecting her to initiate and/or be more 'awed' by him? The Cancer I dated briefly was like that. But that was the only one I have had personal intimate experience with.
Perhaps he is being standoffish because he might think all you are interested is in sex.
Posted by LadyNeptune1. His Mars is in Cancer, mine is in Scorp
I have two questions...
#1 what is his mars?
#2 when you say 5-10xs translate that into time. Are we talking an hour, 10 hours? How long is each go? And are you being satisfied by him? Are you getting your O?
(more than two questions, whoops!)
2. My Scorp ex and I averaged 3-6 times a night, over an 8 hour period, with the high being 10 times in 10 hours. Each go was probably a good 20-30 min. With my Cancer guy, it's about 20ish minutes. He usually tries very hard to get me off orally, but he often can't. I actually don't care too much about that. The sex itself is really, really good and he's the first guy who's gotten me off during sex, though not every time. He complains a lot that he wants to finish in me but I'm not on birth control due to my age, so maybe that's a deterrent for him?
Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
I haven't really been around the last few months, and it sounds like this is same committed-to-his-bar-job Cancerian man I remember you talking about last time? I wonder, how many threads have you started about this man in that time?
Clashes with different sex drives can and will kill a relationship if a compromise cannot be met. In your case, you need to require it less, which you have done; and he needs to give it more, which sounds like he hasn't. It also sounds like sex is really important to you, and makes me believe you have a lot of activity in your 8th house.
Any and all advice I have has to do with him, and not you. You are already doing your part by requiring less, and being patient. I can tell you to dress sexy, give him massages, cook for him, wear an enticing fragrance and many other things to try to get him hornier, but HE has to be receptive to it.
The other option I can mention that is a bit unorthodox, but it is actually schedule a day to have sex. I only recommend this when it just isn't happening. Sex should never feel like a choir, and it's better when it's spontaneous, but it has actually proven to have success with getting partners to desire each other more, and having sex more often. When it comes to sex, it is totally true that if you don't use it, you lose it. The best way to get your body to want to get off, is to get off.
Lemme know if you have any questions. 🙂
Posted by KoniuchaaThat did cross my mind. I remember shortly after we started sleeping together he made a comment like "wow, you are so horny" but it wasn't in a good way. I've just never run into this with a man. I definitely want more from him than sex, but sex is important and intimate.
Perhaps he is being standoffish because he might think all you are interested is in sex.
Posted by LibrasettingPosted by confusedlibra78Posted by ReincarnationHmmm, I might just suggest that. He also smokes weed and drinks. Maybe that's killing the drive?Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
Have his testosterone and prolactin levels tested. It's a cheap test.click to expand
Lol no this dude's weird..
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? You get where I'm coming from, right?
Posted by bricklemarkYikes!! Has it always been like that?
I'm really missing out on life.....l have sex like every 3 months with my wife...
Cancers love cuddling more than sex.
Are you a Cancer? He definitely loves to cuddle and that's one of the things I love about him BUT this woman has needs
Posted by KoniuchaaI finally got away from him. I was addicted to him and he was addicted to sex.
If a guy was wanting that much sex, I'd personally stay away from them. I'd feel like that is all they cared about.
Honestly, 10 times a day sounds like an addiction.
Posted by confusedlibra78Yes....we love breasts to cuddle up against, and stories, and day dreaming for hours....you need to find a non-cancer guy asap....Posted by bricklemarkYikes!! Has it always been like that?
I'm really missing out on life.....l have sex like every 3 months with my wife...
Cancers love cuddling more than sex.
Are you a Cancer? He definitely loves to cuddle and that's one of the things I love about him BUT this woman has needsclick to expand
It's been like this for quite a while...kinda. It's a catastrophe. I consider my life over anyway.
Posted by AndalusiaHe definitely likes to be admired. Unfortunately, I'm not that girl. I give compliments where and when they're due. Maybe I'll figure out a way to gently ask him what he likes.Posted by KoniuchaaOr perhaps he's expecting her to initiate and/or be more 'awed' by him? The Cancer I dated briefly was like that. But that was the only one I have had personal intimate experience with.
Perhaps he is being standoffish because he might think all you are interested is in sex.click to expand
Posted by bricklemarkMaybe that's the problem. I don't have big boobs. My ass is where it's at. Sounds like he needs to find a girl with big ones and I need to find a guy with a sex drive..Posted by confusedlibra78Yes....we love breasts to cuddle up against, and stories, and day dreaming for hours....you need to find a non-cancer guy asap....Posted by bricklemarkYikes!! Has it always been like that?
I'm really missing out on life.....l have sex like every 3 months with my wife...
Cancers love cuddling more than sex.
Are you a Cancer? He definitely loves to cuddle and that's one of the things I love about him BUT this woman has needs
It's been like this for quite a while...kinda. It's a catastrophe. I consider my life over anyway.click to expand
I'm really sorry to hear that. Why do you feel like your life is over?
Posted by KoniuchaaThe Scorpio I was with on and off for 18 mos. The one I had sex with constantly.Posted by confusedlibra78Got away from who?Posted by KoniuchaaI finally got away from him. I was addicted to him and he was addicted to sex.
If a guy was wanting that much sex, I'd personally stay away from them. I'd feel like that is all they cared about.
Honestly, 10 times a day sounds like an addiction.click to expand
My cancer ex was the same way. My drive was higher than his. He would be all moody or stressed about shit, money, work, someone irritated him and not be in the mood. Most people have sex as a stress reliever. Nope not him. He was the type of man you had to set the mood for him like a damn woman. I dealt with it for a few years because sex wasn't the most important thing to me. But it ssuucckkkeddd. Definitely couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone who doesn't match my drive.
Posted by CrabraSame guy. I just don't get him, thus all the questions. Plus, I'm a Libra and I over analyze things to death.Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
I haven't really been around the last few months, and it sounds like this is same committed-to-his-bar-job Cancerian man I remember you talking about last time? I wonder, how many threads have you started about this man in that time?
Clashes with different sex drives can and will kill a relationship if a compromise cannot be met. In your case, you need to require it less, which you have done; and he needs to give it more, which sounds like he hasn't. It also sounds like sex is really important to you, and makes me believe you have a lot of activity in your 8th house.
Any and all advice I have has to do with him, and not you. You are already doing your part by requiring less, and being patient. I can tell you to dress sexy, give him massages, cook for him, wear an enticing fragrance and many other things to try to get him hornier, but HE has to be receptive to it.
The other option I can mention that is a bit unorthodox, but it is actually schedule a day to have sex. I only recommend this when it just isn't happening. Sex should never feel like a choir, and it's better when it's spontaneous, but it has actually proven to have success with getting partners to desire each other more, and having sex more often. When it comes to sex, it is totally true that if you don't use it, you lose it. The best way to get your body to want to get off, is to get off.
Lemme know if you have any questions. 🙂
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My 8th house is in Sag, his in Taurus. What does that mean?
I massage him, dress sexy and always smell good. He's the cook, though. He doesn't compliment me and although that may seem bad, it's a nice change from the constant barrage of compliments (real and fake) that I get from most men.
I get it. When I don't have sex, my desire lessens, but when I do get it, I want more. If we were years into this or married, scheduling sex would be fine, but 5 months in, we should still be in the sex zone. He even told me a month or so ago that he wakes up every day thinking about fucking me but his actions don't match that. It makes me wonder if he's just not that attracted to me.
Posted by KoniuchaaI was totally addicted to the Scorpio. It was so good. I've come down from that and am fine with 1-2 times a day but zero times is not working for me.Posted by confusedlibra78Oh ok. Well, now you sound a bit addictedPosted by KoniuchaaThe Scorpio I was with on and off for 18 mos. The one I had sex with constantly.Posted by confusedlibra78Got away from who?Posted by KoniuchaaI finally got away from him. I was addicted to him and he was addicted to sex.
If a guy was wanting that much sex, I'd personally stay away from them. I'd feel like that is all they cared about.
Honestly, 10 times a day sounds like an addiction.
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Posted by ExplicitI do that. Gave him a bj the other day that made his entire body shake and I was fine with that and not getting anything in return. I like making him feel good. But today, he was hard so I went to go down on him and he wasn't as into it which made me stop
Don't be afraid to initiate. If you feel he's hard, grab his dick firmly. Then go under the covers and blow him! Get him stiff until you can ride him.
Posted by ragingfireloveLike a damn woman ??
My cancer ex was the same way. My drive was higher than his. He would be all moody or stressed about shit, money, work, someone irritated him and not be in the mood. Most people have sex as a stress reliever. Nope not him. He was the type of man you had to set the mood for him like a damn woman. I dealt with it for a few years because sex wasn't the most important thing to me. But it ssuucckkkeddd. Definitely couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone who doesn't match my drive.
Yeah, we never just come home and go at it. It's always go back to his place after he's worked 14 hours, watch TV, he cooks for me, we fall asleep on the couch, then go to bed, then make out for awhile or I scratch his back or massage him and then we might have sex. Argggh. Sometimes I just want to do it, no foreplay, no getting in bed.
How did you break it off with him and how did he take it?
Posted by KoniuchaaHow did you deal with that? Do you think he was just too insecure to back up his words or just didn't actually know what he was doing?Posted by confusedlibra78The last guy I was with was like that. Would tell me all the stuff he wanted to do to me, but when it came down to it, everything was so awkward.Posted by CrabraSame guy. I just don't get him, thus all the questions. Plus, I'm a Libra and I over analyze things to death.Posted by confusedlibra78
I've been with a Cancer man for almost 5 months. We see each other about 4 days and nights a week. Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day. I'm lucky if I get once a day with him. We actually haven't had sex the last 2 times we've been together. However, I was just with him and we spent 2 hours cuddling with him holding me very tight and giving me kisses. He was hard at various points but he didn't do anything about it.
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
I haven't really been around the last few months, and it sounds like this is same committed-to-his-bar-job Cancerian man I remember you talking about last time? I wonder, how many threads have you started about this man in that time?
Clashes with different sex drives can and will kill a relationship if a compromise cannot be met. In your case, you need to require it less, which you have done; and he needs to give it more, which sounds like he hasn't. It also sounds like sex is really important to you, and makes me believe you have a lot of activity in your 8th house.
Any and all advice I have has to do with him, and not you. You are already doing your part by requiring less, and being patient. I can tell you to dress sexy, give him massages, cook for him, wear an enticing fragrance and many other things to try to get him hornier, but HE has to be receptive to it.
The other option I can mention that is a bit unorthodox, but it is actually schedule a day to have sex. I only recommend this when it just isn't happening. Sex should never feel like a choir, and it's better when it's spontaneous, but it has actually proven to have success with getting partners to desire each other more, and having sex more often. When it comes to sex, it is totally true that if you don't use it, you lose it. The best way to get your body to want to get off, is to get off.
Lemme know if you have any questions. 🙂
My 8th house is in Sag, his in Taurus. What does that mean?
I massage him, dress sexy and always smell good. He's the cook, though. He doesn't compliment me and although that may seem bad, it's a nice change from the constant barrage of compliments (real and fake) that I get from most men.
I get it. When I don't have sex, my desire lessens, but when I do get it, I want more. If we were years into this or married, scheduling sex would be fine, but 5 months in, we should still be in the sex zone. He even told me a month or so ago that he wakes up every day thinking about fucking me but his actions don't match that. It makes me wonder if he's just not that attracted to me.click to expand
Posted by confusedlibra78Mmm. I know all too well how much energy a Leeb can put into analyzing things. Not just relationships, but everything; down to the last detail. This energy can do a lot for you if channeled correctly is what I have learned about it (I'm a leeb asc.)
Same guy. I just don't get him, thus all the questions. Plus, I'm a Libra and I over analyze things to death.
My 8th house is in Sag, his in Taurus. What does that mean?
I massage him, dress sexy and always smell good. He's the cook, though. He doesn't compliment me and although that may seem bad, it's a nice change from the constant barrage of compliments (real and fake) that I get from most men.
I get it. When I don't have sex, my desire lessens, but when I do get it, I want more. If we were years into this or married, scheduling sex would be fine, but 5 months in, we should still be in the sex zone. He even told me a month or so ago that he wakes up every day thinking about fucking me but his actions don't match that. It makes me wonder if he's just not that attracted to me.
It's not necessarily which sign rules your 8th house, but rather how much activity you have going on there. My interpretations of charts have me believe houses with a lot of activity has the person place a great deal of importance on those particular areas.
It's not you I'm talking about though, love. In his absence you simply have to keep things going on your own. Whether it's porn, erotica, your own imagination etc. still take care of yourself. For a drive as high as yours, this is important. His drive will increase by having more sex with you is where I am getting at. This remains true whether you're 10-weeks in, or 10-years.
At the end of the day, you know that actions mean more than words. I know how you feel. I dated a Sag for three years, and I questioned her attraction to me more times than I care to count, and it started to make question my own attractiveness completely. It's not easy to recover from that. Not at all.
Posted by blackphaseLol, yes!! Though only for sex. They are hard to keep around. Or a Scorpio...best sex EVER hands down.Posted by confusedlibra78Hey girl, I'm on the same page as you! 😛Posted by blackphaseTo me the beginning of the relationship should last for years as far as sex is concerned. My Sag ex husband and I had lots of sex for 7 years before it started to slow down.
Once a day is still better than most.. In the beginning of a relationship seems to be the only time I get it multiple times a day.. it slowly fades once the novelty wears off.. But I am like you.. I don't ever tire of it 😛
So you're telling me I need to find a Sag then.. 😉click to expand
I dealt with it because I really liked him. I actually have never been so attracted to anyone before. Funny because I'm five years older than him too.
As to why he acted that way, I don't really know. I sort of got the impression that he wasn't very experienced, which is fine. I'm pretty awkward myself.
That's why I'm dealing with this guy, too. How long were you together?
I feel awkward with him, which isn't usually how I am. Maybe he wants someone more bold in bed. I am but only when I'm given the green light and know the guy is into me.
As to why he acted that way, I don't really know. I sort of got the impression that he wasn't very experienced, which is fine. I'm pretty awkward myself.
That's why I'm dealing with this guy, too. How long were you together?
I feel awkward with him, which isn't usually how I am. Maybe he wants someone more bold in bed. I am but only when I'm given the green light and know the guy is into me.
Mmm. I know all too well how much energy a Leeb can put into analyzing things. Not just relationships, but everything; down to the last detail. This energy can do a lot for you if channeled correctly is what I have learned about it (I'm a leeb asc.)
It's not necessarily which sign rules your 8th house, but rather how much activity you have going on there. My interpretations of charts have me believe houses with a lot of activity has the person place a great deal of importance on those particular areas.
It's not you I'm talking about though, love. In his absence you simply have to keep things going on your own. Whether it's porn, erotica, your own imagination etc. still take care of yourself. For a drive as high as yours, this is important. His drive will increase by having more sex with you is where I am getting at. This remains true whether you're 10-weeks in, or 10-years.
At the end of the day, you know that actions mean more than words. I know how you feel. I dated a Sag for three years, and I questioned her attraction to me more times than I care to count, and it started to make question my own attractiveness completely. It's not easy to recover from that. Not at all.
Ha! Yes, I look at everything that's said and try to figure out the hidden meaning. It's annoying. How have you learned to channel it in a more productive way?
How do I figure out how much activity is going on in the 8th house?
I do take care of myself, believe me, lol. But I crave intimacy with him, too. Snuggling is a form of that and I love that about him, that he can just hold me for hours and it just be that. But I need something more, too, and like you said, I have accommodated him by not expecting it as much. How exactly do I talk to him about this? He's so sensitive. For example, the other day he texted and asked if I would be around later. I asked to meet up or to talk? He said - ? To meet?? Why? Do we need to talk? And I said no, I have my son tonight so I thought you just wanted to talk and he said - Good, I thought I was in trouble. He's never been "in trouble" with me and I don't play those games that some women do, but it makes me realize he's not approachable to issues, even though he told me he's the kind of guy that if I have issues, he'll fix them..
Not feeling attractive is a terrible feeling. Did she always make you feel that way? Maybe I'm not complimenting him enough. Maybe he doesn't get how into him I am.
Posted by clayI'll get them checked, but it's not like I go around seeking sex every day, 5 times a day. I'm saying I CAN go that much and he seems content with 1 time or not at all. And I don't want to be the man in the relationship, because I'm super feminine but I think it's abnormal for a young man to have such a low drive. He even said to me once when I attempted sex again that he's not a young man. He's 33!Posted by confusedlibra78
Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day.
jfc Your sex drive is WAY higher than anybody's.
Get your T levels tested ffs, you're the one that should be fixed.click to expand
Posted by confusedlibra78Be honest, is this really about your sex drive or about your ego/ being insecure?
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?
Posted by clayLol!! But how do I tell him that. He's so sensitive to criticism and never goes to the doctor.Posted by confusedlibra78lol then you could lend him some of yours. Seriously though, he may have an abnormal hormonal profile and that's probably just the tip of the iceberg you're seeing right now. It's important that he consults a professional as soon as possible.Posted by clayI'll get them checked, but it's not like I go around seeking sex every day, 5 times a day. I'm saying I CAN go that much and he seems content with 1 time or not at all. And I don't want to be the man in the relationship, because I'm super feminine but I think it's abnormal for a young man to have such a low drive. He even said to me once when I attempted sex again that he's not a young man. He's 33!Posted by confusedlibra78
Problem is my sex drive is WAY higher than his. I'm 5 years older and can go 5-10 times a day.
jfc Your sex drive is WAY higher than anybody's.
Get your T levels tested ffs, you're the one that should be fixed.click to expand
Posted by enfant_terribleI don't get any ego pleasure out of sex. I actually just really enjoy it and it makes me feel closer to him when we habe it. No sex = feeling distant. I know he's into big boobs, which I don't have, and the low sex drive makes me wonder if it's me he's not attracted to. He NEVER says anything to me about how he feels about me or how I look or what he likes about me.Posted by confusedlibra78Be honest, is this really about your sex drive or about your ego/ being insecure?
Every other guy I've been with wouldn't stop trying to fuck me. It was almost annoying because I couldn't move without it being sexual but it was ok because my drive is high. My Cancer is very slow and doesn't just jump me and seems content to just cuddle at times but it's making me insecure. At least I know I'm not just a booty call ?? but I'm getting frustrated. Any advice?click to expand
Never been with a Scorp!!! I know that would be an intense time for me with all the Scorp influence I have. I have never even dated a Scorp guy.. I don't know where they all fkn hide.. LOL
Yeah, I've only encountered 3. One was an amazing one night stand many years ago, one was a recent FWB that lasted 18 mos, and one is 10 years younger than me but I've stayed away because I'm looking for more than sex. Just be warned, it's intense and it's addictive but they are even harder to lock down than a Sag.
Posted by Se7enNope. I'm just dealing with it but it's not making me happy.Posted by KoniuchaaShe's not! She's not even asking for a lot.Posted by confusedlibra78Oh ok. Well, now you sound a bit addictedPosted by KoniuchaaThe Scorpio I was with on and off for 18 mos. The one I had sex with constantly.Posted by confusedlibra78Got away from who?Posted by KoniuchaaI finally got away from him. I was addicted to him and he was addicted to sex.
If a guy was wanting that much sex, I'd personally stay away from them. I'd feel like that is all they cared about.
Honestly, 10 times a day sounds like an addiction.
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