OceanDeep
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Scorp has had it w/ Cancer man! (Page 3)
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I was confusing about u replying sayin i was too intense (pushing, demanding) vs. intense (put to much value on the connection, cuddling), and the perceived timeline in which those two different forms of the emotion were express.
Thank you for the breakdown.
So the conclusion for the next man is......Be aloof?
Tiki, do u personally have a way too read if a man can handle/wants cuddling or not? or when he should receive it?
Thank you for the breakdown.
So the conclusion for the next man is......Be aloof?
Tiki, do u personally have a way too read if a man can handle/wants cuddling or not? or when he should receive it?
Posted by OceanDeep
Okay, let's back up the bus here......beep, beep, beep.
Just a thought. Entertain me. Not with what you think, but with what you know. Facts baby, facts.
When was his last relationship? How did that end? Where is that woman? Speaking terms? Any children with her? Any children at all?
Also, his relationship with his family, you said strained? His Mom?
Life goals, where is he with them, including work.
OCEANDEEP thank u for not being so black and white! (not that im saying being black n white is harsh/wrong, we ocean babies think of things at all angles.....even if it is at a fault that we may give more than "deserved" or "perceived as not wanted" by our partner) baggage is a factor (imo) and i will get to u as soon as i can!
smooches!
Whew lawrd lol
Posted by rudescorpscorp
tiki33:
Well I don't appreciate her way nor her telling me to not mentally prepare myself for a situation and post. I'm not making her come in here. "
Well I don't apprecite your not cleaning your room and taking out the trash. Oh wait...I'm not your Mommy, right?
You've been given advice, experience, guidance...and reject it all because YOU WANT CONTROL. Well, you can't control someone who walked out of you months ago, just like you cannot control me from posting here. So, pantie up and quit your whining, little girl.
I come in here cus I CAN 😉
LOL Tiki....you've got a live one tonight, girl. Go eat some Wheaties, you will need your strength with this young philly.
I got faith you can do it and get the message through. You and Ocean Deep are help this girl understand.
Godspeed.
I got faith you can do it and get the message through. You and Ocean Deep are help this girl understand.
Godspeed.
Posted by tiki33
Whew lawrd lol
you can lead them to water, but can't make them drink... so might as well dunk em in and drown the fuckers!! 😛
HES BACK
We chatted briefly on the online site we initially met on. Chat along the lines of him saying hello and hoping all is good w/ me. I tell him all is well and I hope the same for him. Then I tell him of course him pushing away was obviously hard to deal w/ and ask him what was up w/ that and if he's clear where he stand w/ me me. He says he thinks I've said enough.
Me: So all those misunderstandings/assumptions/hurt feelings/fears....u are over that now?
Him: i guess time will tell ma....then informs me about his work, place of residence, him appreciating me showing that I cared, etc...and ask for us to buddy on the site we were chatting on and to stay in touch.
So we do that and Im so excited about getting back w/ my scrumptious Cancer boo!
My plan is to let him do all the initiating from now on....smart move?
When/if he ask me over to his place am I being too much by telling him I need to hear clarity about where he was mentally & emotionally when he began pushing me away? I read/hear Cancer men just need u to be there when they need u and also they feel as if u dont know why they act the way they do it cheapens the connection and they dont wanna say what they feel we already know.
Cancer men, would u think I'm too pushy/high maintence by asking that?
But never the less a Cancer man is still a man and appreciates a challenge....if he doesn't work for it does see me as easy and not so valuable and I should make him work for it some, right?
Or just take the fact that he reached out as he cares and just go w/ his flow?
Need a strategy guys, and how to deal w/ things and him pulling away better this time?!
And best way to get him to open up?
Thx in advance!
We chatted briefly on the online site we initially met on. Chat along the lines of him saying hello and hoping all is good w/ me. I tell him all is well and I hope the same for him. Then I tell him of course him pushing away was obviously hard to deal w/ and ask him what was up w/ that and if he's clear where he stand w/ me me. He says he thinks I've said enough.
Me: So all those misunderstandings/assumptions/hurt feelings/fears....u are over that now?
Him: i guess time will tell ma....then informs me about his work, place of residence, him appreciating me showing that I cared, etc...and ask for us to buddy on the site we were chatting on and to stay in touch.
So we do that and Im so excited about getting back w/ my scrumptious Cancer boo!
My plan is to let him do all the initiating from now on....smart move?
When/if he ask me over to his place am I being too much by telling him I need to hear clarity about where he was mentally & emotionally when he began pushing me away? I read/hear Cancer men just need u to be there when they need u and also they feel as if u dont know why they act the way they do it cheapens the connection and they dont wanna say what they feel we already know.
Cancer men, would u think I'm too pushy/high maintence by asking that?
But never the less a Cancer man is still a man and appreciates a challenge....if he doesn't work for it does see me as easy and not so valuable and I should make him work for it some, right?
Or just take the fact that he reached out as he cares and just go w/ his flow?
Need a strategy guys, and how to deal w/ things and him pulling away better this time?!
And best way to get him to open up?
Thx in advance!
And Oceans deep, i did send one last decent text like u suggested (which may or may not have been laced w/ a little guilt tripping 😉 lol....and based on our convo i feel it really made a difference/somewhat expediting us having civil conversation! muah muah muah!
I wouldn't go getting all excited just yet.
What I see in your conversation is a Cancer maintaining pleasantries.
Not a Cancer wanting to be "back with you"
You seem a little quick with the intensity button. Don't be surprised if he disappears again.
What I see in your conversation is a Cancer maintaining pleasantries.
Not a Cancer wanting to be "back with you"
You seem a little quick with the intensity button. Don't be surprised if he disappears again.
Posted by OceanDeep
Okay, let's back up the bus here......beep, beep, beep.
Just a thought. Entertain me. Not with what you think, but with what you know. Facts baby, facts.
When was his last relationship? How did that end? Where is that woman? Speaking terms? Any children with her? Any children at all?
Also, his relationship with his family, you said strained? His Mom?
Life goals, where is he with them, including work.
Loves his mom, says out of his mouth he family only does things for him only cuz they want from him, not neccesarily from the kindness of his heart. Heard from a birdie his girlfriend of 5 yrs left him when he had to take custody of his sisters kids for a little bit cuz she couldnt handle it and they are not on speaking terms....it hurt him too much.And that ended about 2 yrs ago
Hey lady. I told you he'd be back. just play,
It cool and allow him to initiate contact. Be a little aloof and end the conversations first. It'll peak his interest. don't act like you did before...intense, demanding, fussy, etc. even though he probably deserves it. Lol be the girl he fell for before everything went awry.
I haven't seen mine since December. As I stated we we're intimate and he was aloof for a few days aferward, so I pulled way back. He text,me often over the months asking/begging to see me and I didn't go because the,pulling away made me feel like shit. So last week out of the blue I get this long emotional text from him, pleading to see me, professing his love for me and an explanation of why he pulled.away. I never asked.for an explanation, just pulled back like he did. I think he finally fessed up because he probably feels he's totally losing me, so just take it easy with mr. cancer. Play your cards right and he'll be begging to see you
It cool and allow him to initiate contact. Be a little aloof and end the conversations first. It'll peak his interest. don't act like you did before...intense, demanding, fussy, etc. even though he probably deserves it. Lol be the girl he fell for before everything went awry.
I haven't seen mine since December. As I stated we we're intimate and he was aloof for a few days aferward, so I pulled way back. He text,me often over the months asking/begging to see me and I didn't go because the,pulling away made me feel like shit. So last week out of the blue I get this long emotional text from him, pleading to see me, professing his love for me and an explanation of why he pulled.away. I never asked.for an explanation, just pulled back like he did. I think he finally fessed up because he probably feels he's totally losing me, so just take it easy with mr. cancer. Play your cards right and he'll be begging to see you
Posted by Leo1970
Hey lady. I told you he'd be back. just play,
It cool and allow him to initiate contact. Be a little aloof and end the conversations first. It'll peak his interest. don't act like you did before...intense, demanding, fussy, etc. even though he probably deserves it. Lol be the girl he fell for before everything went awry.
I haven't seen mine since December. As I stated we we're intimate and he was aloof for a few days aferward, so I pulled way back. He text,me often over the months asking/begging to see me and I didn't go because the,pulling away made me feel like shit. So last week out of the blue I get this long emotional text from him, pleading to see me, professing his love for me and an explanation of why he pulled.away. I never asked.for an explanation, just pulled back like he did. I think he finally fessed up because he probably feels he's totally losing me, so just take it easy with mr. cancer. Play your cards right and he'll be begging to see you
Hey! Did just that(ending the conversation 1st) He asked to be friends on the site we met, did so, and told him im off the site as I would be seeing my family soon. Wished him a good day and kept it moving 🙂 Am sure I'll hear from him in no more than 2 weeks or so 🙂
And yeah, wanna cuss his ass out from head to toe and all the way back up again! lol, but have to just woozah!
Did u outright tell him u felt like butter is the reason u wouldnt see him when asked or just came up w/ reasons of being busy?
What affect has the process of him exposing his insecurity issues to u had on the dynamic of ur relationship?
I found in my experience a good ol fashion guilt trip on the naughty Cancer boy doesn't hurt as well 😉 lol
Wish u the best w/ ur Cancer guy 🙂
Posted by tiki33
Whew lawrd lol
🙂 lol
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Also, his relationship with his family, you said strained? His Mom?
Life goals, where is he with them, including work.