self-centeredness

i'm a bit ashamed of myself tonight, me and the bf were supposed to hang out tonight but he canceled. we haven't seen much of each other lately due to the fact that we have completely different working schedules. anyway, with his new job he's been working 50 hours a week and understandably has been exhausted from it. not to mention, he's been really depressed about what he wants to do with his life (he's turning 25 in jan.) and a childhood friend of his is in a coma after an altercation with the cops. instead of being understanding about the fact that he's tired and probably just wants some time to himself considering all the things he's going through, i got upset with him. i got upset with him because i wasn't getting what i wanted, which was to see him. i had all these scenarios running through my head of why he didn't want to see me. when i FINALLY calmed down and thought about it i realized how self-centered i was being. i've since apologized to him for it and i hopefully he's not too disappointed from how i acted (like a 2 year old). anyway, have any of you had any experiences somewhat like this?

haha, definitely. the point is that u are aware of it and have owned up to ur behavior and actions. now, the hardest part is to recognize ur triggers and learn how to deal with ur reactions appropriately.

for example, i know that when i become very angry i have a tendency to fly off the handle. when i start to become irrational, and i'm feeling like i want to start swinging, i've learned to remove myself from the situation. i tell the person that i can't talk to them anymore or i just walk away and go take a walk or something. so next time u feel that anger start to rise u can catch urself. let them know that u are angry and u might say things u don't mean. then hang up or walk away. it takes practice but u will avoid having to clean up the mess later. u'd be surprised at how understanding the other person is about it and how much respect u'll receive in the end.

I've definitely flown off the handles in my past. The problem is the Cancer in me bottles it up, the Gem in me brushes it off and the Virgo in me, well...you know...can't stand it. So I HAD to learn to step back, breathe and evaluate.

Emotions are crazy. They make you think irrationally. They make you say things you don't mean. The best advice has been mentioned...when you feel like you're about to pop...breathe and talk about it when you've calmed down.

When no one is looking, break some plates and glasses. If that doesn't work, take a butcher knife to your pillows.

I guarantee you'll feel better after that 🙂

thanks guys! i wish it never happened but all i can do now is make sure i take the steps to not. he's going through a lot and the last thing either of us needs is me freaking out