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Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by StarChild63Posted by mzPosted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that
having strong feelings is one thing, while being emotional is another...
dealing with your own emotions in an elegant, classy way takes a strong personality, simply letting yourself a prey to them and dragging, or at least trying to, others into that it's not fair or so...that's why i say "let cancers be with people of their own kind"...it's a matter of compatibility, after all
they are not necessarily confusing...it's just tiring for some people...
Biggest problem to get over for Cancers is to stop reacting as start responding.
I'm so lazy today for a meme, but this sentence deserve an standing ovation...although they dont give a fuck what we think... 😢
its harder on us than it is on you, our feels are intense....
"Is just a thought, and thoughts can be changed"...
you think is harder for you, but you don't ever know for sure... because you cancer put a facade like nothing is affecting you... and the other person does too after trying to hard... and that is how for a relationship goes to the toilet... pride just fucking pride.click to expand
I totally agree with this. I am very hurt and closed off now. I was really vulnerable to this person and let him see how much I liked him. He treated me like shit because I liked him? That is awful.
Posted by happytaurus2312Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by StarChild63Posted by mzPosted by StarChild63
Cupcake it's not really about learning how to less emotional it's learning how to be MORE enotional. Most people don't have the courage to be emotional and it takes a strong person to take on their own emotions and at the same time be the "rock" for lots if people. When u can get why they have mood swings then you can learn how to help deal with them without being confrontational until they learn to open up with U and they won't be so confusing after that
having strong feelings is one thing, while being emotional is another...
dealing with your own emotions in an elegant, classy way takes a strong personality, simply letting yourself a prey to them and dragging, or at least trying to, others into that it's not fair or so...that's why i say "let cancers be with people of their own kind"...it's a matter of compatibility, after all
they are not necessarily confusing...it's just tiring for some people...
Biggest problem to get over for Cancers is to stop reacting as start responding.
I'm so lazy today for a meme, but this sentence deserve an standing ovation...although they dont give a fuck what we think... 😢
its harder on us than it is on you, our feels are intense....
"Is just a thought, and thoughts can be changed"...
you think is harder for you, but you don't ever know for sure... because you cancer put a facade like nothing is affecting you... and the other person does too after trying to hard... and that is how for a relationship goes to the toilet... pride just fucking pride.click to expand
I totally agree with this. I am very hurt and closed off now. I was really vulnerable to this person and let him see how much I liked him. He treated me like shit because I l
Posted by happytaurus2312
Who am I fighting for him, him? He knows how I feel. I think he actually hates/punishes me for liking him!
Sorry, there is only so much abuse I can take. I get along really well with Saggs who are direct to the point of bluntness. I will stick with that.
Cupcake-- he's missing bc he's hurt and dealing with a death and he doesn't feel supported so he withdraws to find the strength from within. To do that he has to withdraw it has nothing to do with you. When u go through a death u don't give 2 fucks about anybody else cuz the pain is too much. And he knows that u care but that u just can't handle him in his times of emotional explosion. So he backs up to rebalance himself and also so he won't keep hurting you while he's all fucked up cuz he knows he's fucked up.
Taurus---try a new approach read my thread about love letters
Good post! Although what everyone said here is true, but it's problematic because it's contradictory. For example, fight for them but if you go
overboard, you're going to suffocate them or scare them off. There are a lot of fine lines to follow.
The simplest route to a cancer man's heart is to be his best friend who embodies every trait that he himself
is not. One trait you must possess is understanding humans. The only person who will be successful is someone who has a natural knack for bringing people's defence mechanism down.
I personally feel that astrology is absolutely wrong in what it says about what cancer man seeks in a woman. Astrology claims that cancers want someone caring and loving, nurturing blah blah blah. That's not true! From my personal observation and also that I had two cancer men go crazy after me, this is a masochistic sign. They love to be dominated and abused. It's like they enjoy being punked off. Why else do you think they stay in abusive relationships or end up dating an abuser? Because they love deeply? Nope! They get off on it. Another proof is that they almost always end up with signs not good with them like: Virgo, Capricorn, Scorpio. All these three signs are either users or abusers. They have nothing in common with cancerians! Especially not their communication style. Virgo almost always ends up abusing the poor cancer and they stick around because they like being spanked and told off by those micro managers. Lol. Capricorn are straight up and end up hurting their fragile sentiments half the time. Scorpios are known to be brutally truthful or straight up. They slice and dice cancerians emotions the best, yet cancerians stick around. Again they love being smacked around. Masochism at its finest.
If you want a cancerian, don't approach them as you are interested in them romantically. Approach them as friends so they are unsuspecting and bring their guard down and open up to you. By ex BFF was obsessed with me because I am everything he wasn't. When he finall confessed his feelings to me, he admitted what attracted him to me was: 1) my aloofness (cancers are very emotional and they wish they could be more aloof or detached to avoid suffering their emotions); 2) my bluntness/honesty (cancers don't like hurting others so they tell you things you want to hear whereas he liked the opposite aspect that I don't care who I hurt as long as I was honest); 3) how unemotional I was (he loved how insults didn't get to me wh
overboard, you're going to suffocate them or scare them off. There are a lot of fine lines to follow.
The simplest route to a cancer man's heart is to be his best friend who embodies every trait that he himself
is not. One trait you must possess is understanding humans. The only person who will be successful is someone who has a natural knack for bringing people's defence mechanism down.
I personally feel that astrology is absolutely wrong in what it says about what cancer man seeks in a woman. Astrology claims that cancers want someone caring and loving, nurturing blah blah blah. That's not true! From my personal observation and also that I had two cancer men go crazy after me, this is a masochistic sign. They love to be dominated and abused. It's like they enjoy being punked off. Why else do you think they stay in abusive relationships or end up dating an abuser? Because they love deeply? Nope! They get off on it. Another proof is that they almost always end up with signs not good with them like: Virgo, Capricorn, Scorpio. All these three signs are either users or abusers. They have nothing in common with cancerians! Especially not their communication style. Virgo almost always ends up abusing the poor cancer and they stick around because they like being spanked and told off by those micro managers. Lol. Capricorn are straight up and end up hurting their fragile sentiments half the time. Scorpios are known to be brutally truthful or straight up. They slice and dice cancerians emotions the best, yet cancerians stick around. Again they love being smacked around. Masochism at its finest.
If you want a cancerian, don't approach them as you are interested in them romantically. Approach them as friends so they are unsuspecting and bring their guard down and open up to you. By ex BFF was obsessed with me because I am everything he wasn't. When he finall confessed his feelings to me, he admitted what attracted him to me was: 1) my aloofness (cancers are very emotional and they wish they could be more aloof or detached to avoid suffering their emotions); 2) my bluntness/honesty (cancers don't like hurting others so they tell you things you want to hear whereas he liked the opposite aspect that I don't care who I hurt as long as I was honest); 3) how unemotional I was (he loved how insults didn't get to me wh
whereas every lil joke hurt his feelings; 4) my confidence (he was shy and socially inept/introverted so he liked how I was able to talk to whoever I wanted to talk to and could make conversation); 5) consistent mood (I'm always happy and even if I'm sad, I didn't show it, but as a cancer, he liked that I was always happy)
There were lots of times where my bluntness hurt his feelings but he kept coming back for more. I even asked why he remained my friend if my words hurt him and he said it was because he liked the bluntness eve though it hurted him. Masochism again. Just be their friend and get them attached to you and you'll have a cancer pining for you for life!
There were lots of times where my bluntness hurt his feelings but he kept coming back for more. I even asked why he remained my friend if my words hurt him and he said it was because he liked the bluntness eve though it hurted him. Masochism again. Just be their friend and get them attached to you and you'll have a cancer pining for you for life!
What is this witchcraft!!?? almost all cancer I know have scorpio siblings... and they get along awesomely (bit jealous)... why did I ended up stuck with aqua sister??...
Posted by CluelessCancer
My scorpio brother is the best person i know. He has an Aqua moon. He never belittles me or is a masochist towards me. He in fact respects me and deals with my crazy appropriately.
i can't ever see him treating anybody unkindly or unfairly..
Keyword being brother. We are talking romantically. BTW, nobody really sets out to hurt the other in romantic relationships, but things just happen.
Even in friendships, nobody sets out to other someone but shit happens due to people's flaws that end up hurting others. For example, virgos like to criticize and that ends up hurting cancers. I don't think they do it on purpose, but it just so happens that their trait of being critical doesn't go well with cancerian's sensitive sentiments.
Or I wasn't trying to be mean when I spoke the truth to my cancer friend, but it hurt him.
Or I wasn't trying to be mean when I spoke the truth to my cancer friend, but it hurt him.
Posted by capnipPosted by StarChild63
Capnip that's why they need someone who is direct and upfront and knows how to communicate the right way
That is what confuses me..what is the right way? I am direct and upfront and I guess too blunt for a cancer male. It always feels like I'm supposed to set my hurt feelings aside (caused by him) in order to keep us going.click to expand
Don't put your feelings aside. If you already takes about it just leave it alone. If he knows how u feel honest truth and you told him exactly what you want and expect and you know exactly how he feels and what he wants and you both have a solid commitment he still gives you shit then leave him
Or think of it this way: cancerians aren't trying to hurt anyone with their mood fluctuations, but it just so happens that the inconsistency that emerges from the moodiness hurts others, no?
Posted by CluelessCancer
Aquarius09 i disagree with your assessment. Wholeheartedly
I honestly disagree with everything she wrote myself....she should not be talking about cancers because she is not one....I get along with Scorps VERY well.....though love me
Virgos are always chasing me down and I get along with them splendidly...no fights no nothing. .
Caps I fight with all the time but I love their loyalty to me...they are my ride or die...so Aquarius09 please stop writing.
Posted by fullwaterpisces
What is this witchcraft!!?? almost all cancer I know have scorpio siblings... and they get along awesomely (bit jealous)... why did I ended up stuck with aqua sister??...
Lmao off yes I have 2 Scorpio sisters and a granny plus tons of Scorp friends....I love them muah, muah, muah...
This thread is everything!! Been observing this board for forever, had to create a profile!
Posted by crabRiotPosted by CluelessCancer
Aquarius09 i disagree with your assessment. Wholeheartedly
I honestly disagree with everything she wrote myself....she should not be talking about cancers because she is not one....I get along with Scorps VERY well.....though love me
Virgos are always chasing me down and I get along with them splendidly...no fights no nothing. .
Caps I fight with all the time but I love their loyalty to me...they are my ride or die...so Aquarius09 please stop writing.click to expand
I wasn't talking as a cancerian. I'm talking from the perspective of a woman who had cancer men go crazy after her, as in obsession. I'm saying how I was with them or what it was about me that made them that way so that I didn't face their crap. What is being sought here is advice on what to do to avoid their moody nonsense. As I said before, the thing being discussed here is romance, not friendship. Any sign can get along with another on friends level. Romantic compatibility is a different ball game.
I like this thread but i will definetly remove the word men from the topic
I just love all the feedback that has been left on the thread so far. I do agree from personal expirence that I notice when cancers fall into a poor me, no one understands me kind of way, they become selfish and stubborn and don't even realize that they are hurting another person! I don't know about all cancer guys out there, but I know when mine gets upset at me, he is never the one to come back and apologize even when there is zero reason he should be upset.In fact, he had done no wrong in his eyes! Little things might set him off depending on the day.
I also notice some are argumentative? I don't know..
I am so blessed to have my cancer man in my life, but boy are they a handful!! They take you for a ride, I tell you. Yes, many are full of wonderful qualities but the emotional flip flops are super unpredictable and unexpected most of the time. My cancer jokes that I am probably the only one who can out up with him. That may be true I don't know. Love tolerates I guess haha.
What I do know that it's so awesome how relatable the responses have been. I know crabs tell us not to over complicate them, but sometimes... they can be complicated! Lol
I also notice some are argumentative? I don't know..
I am so blessed to have my cancer man in my life, but boy are they a handful!! They take you for a ride, I tell you. Yes, many are full of wonderful qualities but the emotional flip flops are super unpredictable and unexpected most of the time. My cancer jokes that I am probably the only one who can out up with him. That may be true I don't know. Love tolerates I guess haha.
What I do know that it's so awesome how relatable the responses have been. I know crabs tell us not to over complicate them, but sometimes... they can be complicated! Lol
Posted by fullwaterpisces
What is this witchcraft!!?? almost all cancer I know have scorpio siblings... and they get along awesomely (bit jealous)... why did I ended up stuck with aqua sister??...
I don't have any scorp siblings aha. But I do have a Gemini and a Cancer-Leo cusper
I'm about to necro my account just to post on this topic.
Cancer men want the world - we're willing to give it, and feel like we deserve it in return. We want, no, NEED our partners to know exactly what to say and how to say it. Our partners need to know when and where to touch us and when/where to back away.
This sounds ridiculous; it sounds like we need some magnanimously perfect partner, that we'll never find. Some woman who is not only flawless in her physical beauty, but has intellect to match the most brilliant of minds and a personality that is radiant. Sound about right cancer males?
Let me explain why this is, women. This is because we, as Cancer males, will give you ALL OF THIS. We will know EXACTLY what to say to you to make you feel better. We will know EXACTLY how to touch you to change your mood or get you to the point of ecstasy. We will know EXACTLY how to comfort you, and we will do so freely. We'll do it like it's our sole mission in life - to give you everything that you could ever possibly need from another human being. Every action, word and touch will be handcrafted deliberately with the sole intention of meeting and exceeding any dream you could have possibly fathomed.
This is just who we are. We are lovers. When we love you, we love ENTIRELY. It's a consuming, swallowing love, devoid of absence and pure to the last touch. Concordantly, when we hate, we HATE entirely. It's dark and vengeful; absolute and wrathful. This is just how we are. We don't really know any middle ground. To restrain our emotions would be to contradict our greatest strength (I realize it's also our greatest weakness). We are the one. We are the end. No other person could possibly fathom the depth of our soul - not even you Scorpios.
I say this because, in the end, we expect this back from you. We would never even so much as stumble over a word when consoling or entertaining you. For you to misinterpret us or misjudge a situation and not give us exactly, SPECIFICALLY, what we need, is not only an indication that you couldn't possibly love us in the same way that we love you, but that you might not have ever loved us to begin with. How, if I (the cancer male) know exactly how to touch you - the lightest touch or strongest grasp - and I know exactly what to say to you, every word manifested from the depth of my soul, could you POSSIBLY not understand me back enough to know exactly what I need from you?
These are unrealistic expectations. The abso
Cancer men want the world - we're willing to give it, and feel like we deserve it in return. We want, no, NEED our partners to know exactly what to say and how to say it. Our partners need to know when and where to touch us and when/where to back away.
This sounds ridiculous; it sounds like we need some magnanimously perfect partner, that we'll never find. Some woman who is not only flawless in her physical beauty, but has intellect to match the most brilliant of minds and a personality that is radiant. Sound about right cancer males?
Let me explain why this is, women. This is because we, as Cancer males, will give you ALL OF THIS. We will know EXACTLY what to say to you to make you feel better. We will know EXACTLY how to touch you to change your mood or get you to the point of ecstasy. We will know EXACTLY how to comfort you, and we will do so freely. We'll do it like it's our sole mission in life - to give you everything that you could ever possibly need from another human being. Every action, word and touch will be handcrafted deliberately with the sole intention of meeting and exceeding any dream you could have possibly fathomed.
This is just who we are. We are lovers. When we love you, we love ENTIRELY. It's a consuming, swallowing love, devoid of absence and pure to the last touch. Concordantly, when we hate, we HATE entirely. It's dark and vengeful; absolute and wrathful. This is just how we are. We don't really know any middle ground. To restrain our emotions would be to contradict our greatest strength (I realize it's also our greatest weakness). We are the one. We are the end. No other person could possibly fathom the depth of our soul - not even you Scorpios.
I say this because, in the end, we expect this back from you. We would never even so much as stumble over a word when consoling or entertaining you. For you to misinterpret us or misjudge a situation and not give us exactly, SPECIFICALLY, what we need, is not only an indication that you couldn't possibly love us in the same way that we love you, but that you might not have ever loved us to begin with. How, if I (the cancer male) know exactly how to touch you - the lightest touch or strongest grasp - and I know exactly what to say to you, every word manifested from the depth of my soul, could you POSSIBLY not understand me back enough to know exactly what I need from you?
These are unrealistic expectations. The abso
Uh...so I got cut off. LOL - I'm out of my zone now, but basically; we understand these expectations are unrealistic, but it's who we are.
Posted by zosopage17
Uh...so I got cut off. LOL - I'm out of my zone now, but basically; we understand these expectations are unrealistic, but it's who we are.
SPOT ON!
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by zosopage17
Uh...so I got cut off. LOL - I'm out of my zone now, but basically; we understand these expectations are unrealistic, but it's who we are.
I'm tired just from reading that. Blank stare. Don't ya niggahs have moms??click to expand
We're trying to make mommies out of your wives bro 😛
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by zosopage17Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by zosopage17
Uh...so I got cut off. LOL - I'm out of my zone now, but basically; we understand these expectations are unrealistic, but it's who we are.
I'm tired just from reading that. Blank stare. Don't ya niggahs have moms??
We're trying to make mommies out of your wives bro 😛
I like how ppl think I'm a man. Anyways dude aint nobody got time for that. Get a therapistclick to expand
Salt and Jelly don't make a very tasty sandwich 😢
Cancers are heartbreakers of everybody. The drive dudes insane and in good ways and bad ways but funny thing they will be sweet to you through all good and bad. They are motherly so they teach lessons thro tough love and crazy love AND deep deep love that make u think witchcraft is on you. And it doesn't help that ther personality is bright and full of energy ad exciting and interesting. That's why cancers test so badly like you said because they need to know you are durable enough to roll with them for life. They date to marry. The fuck for love first and nympho kinky shit second. People always say their manipulative and play games because they're just mad bcuz they cancer touched their sensitive spots that no one else can touch AND they did it within 5 minutes after meeting you for the first time. Makes people feel like they are calculating or manipulating. It feels like meeting if u met a ghost and fell in love with it. Having a relationship with them needs a new approach and a new point of view on life and love.
Posted by CluelessCancer
No I mean I thought everything you said was cute like aww than I thought about it dude that's a lot of work for another person to be responsible for your emotional well being.
Thank you for posting that I just realized I'm very hard work and have way too many expectations as a crab
Yeah, that's why my Tl;DR is on point 😄
They teach you until you are ready for graduation---a long lasting relationship for life full of real love and making each other better and being unpredictable together on adventures and taking on the world. If you don't pass they will eventually start giving you ultimatums until they cut you. I now think because you kept failing their tests ad then they added up all the tests to get your average rating and once they see the rating that's when they decide. If they ain't into you they won't even let you in class they will say you can't be on school grounds. If they like you they will give you a seat in the class and test you. If you fail more then 3 tests you get expelled. But if your the teachers pet because of the crazy deep connection you made with the cancer. They will keep testing you after 3 and the more you fail the more they test you and the tests get harder and more complicated everytine. If they see you are not teachable and you keep failing with Fs then they gave no choice but to expel you. If you were failing bad and they gave more tests and you didn't fail you got a C they will start to give you good progress reports and test u less until she's confident that you know the homework good enough to not have to be popped quizzed. Then when you proved your teachable and you learned you come out smarter and stronger then she won't test at all. She knows she sees a warrior so she won't hesitate to graduate you to marriage and will turn around and let you teach her and she will give you everything in your wildest dreams. You will feel like you won the lottery everyday. She will take care of any and every need and want you have and will be loyal and love to show u the feminine side she was hiding when she had to be tough. She will Beg you to give her your seed and she will happily do it over and over an gain and raise your kids to be amazing and she will build a empire. She will always want to serve you at all times even when you think she's been too busy or fatigued and she will do it with a smile. She will dress you and pick out your clothes--nice stylish ones-and feed you and wash you and you will never be normal again after that. She will reach through your eyes and pull your soul out and protect it and lock it down in her heart
I like your analogy - good job!
I ACTUALLY picked up key sentences/paragraphs that really describe the "crab men" experience for me:
"They're attracted to strong people."
"The most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with.." - due to (from my personal oppinion) OVER THINKING EVERYTHING.
"they have such trust issues" - hence the never-ending tests
"they HATE being vulnerable"
"We sometimes tend to hurt those the closest to us and expect them to be there....after sheet hits the fan."
"Our feelings never turn on or off, they're always on, or they're permanently off."
"Hell ya, if you're not willing to fight for him, we like to be fought for, like the notebook. i know i do, i'll do all types of tests..." - I'm hella annoyed whenever I have to bend over my head and come after you guys to make everything ok again, like STRAIGHTEN UP (from a leo perspective)
"With Cancers you have to have a looooooonnggggg breath. " - PREACH!
"It's actually almost a compliment if they play 'games' with you. They will find you interesting enough to put you through their tests. If they hate you, they love you. Really. If they are upset with you, you really mean something to them. He will punish you for liking him for months even years. They will ignore you, get mad at you, neglect your feelings, and so on. They will consistently put you through their punishment to see if you will really stick around. Of course they know you won't and when you quit, they'll think, you see...I already knew it." - Can confirm from the actual relationship where he played the role of the victim and me being the *cough* bad guy. They will test you in every way there is.
"The simplest route to a cancer man's heart is to be his best friend."
"cancer sometimes are too busy feeling like victims" - this sometimes make me mad because I sometimes feel like I don't even have the right to get angry at them because you guys turn the situation 180 degrees and you play with words and suddenly I'm the jerk.
"That's why cancers test so badly like you said because they need to know you are durable enough to roll with them for life. They date to marry. "
My own:
- they are fricking human lie/feeling detectors. Whenever you're feeling off or you may have done something, they feel right away so there's no point in hiding it anyways.
- They LOVE sensual and pasionate sex
"They're attracted to strong people."
"The most self sabotaging sign i have crossed paths with.." - due to (from my personal oppinion) OVER THINKING EVERYTHING.
"they have such trust issues" - hence the never-ending tests
"they HATE being vulnerable"
"We sometimes tend to hurt those the closest to us and expect them to be there....after sheet hits the fan."
"Our feelings never turn on or off, they're always on, or they're permanently off."
"Hell ya, if you're not willing to fight for him, we like to be fought for, like the notebook. i know i do, i'll do all types of tests..." - I'm hella annoyed whenever I have to bend over my head and come after you guys to make everything ok again, like STRAIGHTEN UP (from a leo perspective)
"With Cancers you have to have a looooooonnggggg breath. " - PREACH!
"It's actually almost a compliment if they play 'games' with you. They will find you interesting enough to put you through their tests. If they hate you, they love you. Really. If they are upset with you, you really mean something to them. He will punish you for liking him for months even years. They will ignore you, get mad at you, neglect your feelings, and so on. They will consistently put you through their punishment to see if you will really stick around. Of course they know you won't and when you quit, they'll think, you see...I already knew it." - Can confirm from the actual relationship where he played the role of the victim and me being the *cough* bad guy. They will test you in every way there is.
"The simplest route to a cancer man's heart is to be his best friend."
"cancer sometimes are too busy feeling like victims" - this sometimes make me mad because I sometimes feel like I don't even have the right to get angry at them because you guys turn the situation 180 degrees and you play with words and suddenly I'm the jerk.
"That's why cancers test so badly like you said because they need to know you are durable enough to roll with them for life. They date to marry. "
My own:
- they are fricking human lie/feeling detectors. Whenever you're feeling off or you may have done something, they feel right away so there's no point in hiding it anyways.
- They LOVE sensual and pasionate sex
Bottom line for me (leo chick): I sometimes have my hard times with my cancer man but honestly all these issues that they have with overthinking everything and putting you through tests and whatnot make the reward even more valuable. Yes cancer guys piss me off and I sometimes wish I could set them on fire while watching, but honestly I have never seen such deep love, emotional support in my entire life.
Posted by bloobaz
Bottom line for me (leo chick): I sometimes have my hard times with my cancer man but honestly all these issues that they have with overthinking everything and putting you through tests and whatnot make the reward even more valuable. Yes cancer guys piss me off and I sometimes wish I could set them on fire while watching, but honestly I have never seen such deep love, emotional support in my entire life.
That's the point 🙂
posted by zosopage17
We want, no, NEED our partners to know exactly what to say and how to say it. Our partners need to know when and where to touch us and when/where to back away.
Cancer men kind of have this expectation. The expectation of expecting us to know what they want without them having to vocalize it or communicate it. They feel like they shouldn't have to explain things and we should just KNOW what to do. At least even mine, he hates repeating himself.
That's a tall order sometimes! I have to basically gauge my cancer's moods and reactions to know if he wants space or he wants me to be close. Am I mean for saying that sometimes it feels all too BIPOLAR? lol. I guess sometimes it feels very "high maintenance." But you know, I am a picky person myself who just happens to be with another picky person and the good thing is, it's not like it isn't rewarding to be with him.
Posted by zosopage17
No other person could possibly fathom the depth of our soul - not even you Scorpios.
I'm definitely not going to argue that. I think being a water sign myself helps me be patient with another I will add though. When he gets in his moods, I understand some part of it. Why? Because I understand emotions. Can't say that this never annoys the heck out of me sometimes. I feel Scorpios and Cancers are both very deep , emotional signs- but in very different ways actually! I guess it works! For some at least.
posted by zosopage17
These are unrealistic expectations.click to expand
Sometimes lol. Cancers please give us at F+ for eFFort please.
Having read all of this, they really are for someone else. I wish you guys the best of luck with them.
Posted by StarChild63
That's why cancers test so badly like you said because they need to know you are durable enough to roll with them for life. They date to marry.
Testy or something else! I read this over and over again, "Cancers will test you!" Why, because they sure know that they are treetrunking hard to deal with probably, lol.
Although I will say Star, I don't think mine is very testy. Probably because he is surprised I have stuck him out. He totally appreciates it. Things like that don't go unnoticed! Or maybe, he is testy but he's just very subtle about it.
It's only when I feel I am beginning to be taken for granted that I step my foot down and say, "this won't fly" lol.
Posted by StarChild63
Having a relationship with them needs a new approach and a new point of view on life and love.click to expand
LOL, YES! I didn't realize this until I stopped and thought to myself, "Oh my goodness...why weren't any other of my relationships like this...ever?! I hardly even fought with my exes" Shamefully, I played the COMPARE game with him- and boy did he hate that!I've learned my lesson. I don't anymore.
"Well, I DON'T CHEAT ON YOU, DO I?! How did those relationships turn out?!"
1) my aloofness (cancers are very emotional and they wish they could be more aloof or detached to avoid suffering their emotions); 2) my bluntness/honesty (cancers don't like hurting others so they tell you things you want to hear whereas he liked the opposite aspect that I don't care who I hurt as long as I was honest); 3) how unemotional I was (he loved how insults didn't get to me whereas every lil joke hurt his feelings; 4) my confidence (he was shy and socially inept/introverted so he liked how I was able to talk to whoever I wanted to talk to and could make conversation); 5) consistent mood (I'm always happy and even if I'm sad, I didn't show it, but as a cancer, he liked that I was always happy)
You know what, my guy is an Aries moon and he is sometimes too honest. Even though it adds a whole different dynamic, I'm sure glad he has that fire in there to ground him a bit. He doesn't like hurting people, but if he is ever in the mood well...he will just say what he thinks, lol.
yes, he is emotional but he is actually VERY VERRRRYYYY good at hiding it. Sometimes I see the change and shift, and then maybe he will vocalize it. Mostly it's just very passive aggressive. It's just the whole "hard shell/ Alpha male" thing going on.
Posted by DearCupcake1) my aloofness (cancers are very emotional and they wish they could be more aloof or detached to avoid suffering their emotions); 2) my bluntness/honesty (cancers don't like hurting others so they tell you things you want to hear whereas he liked the opposite aspect that I don't care who I hurt as long as I was honest); 3) how unemotional I was (he loved how insults didn't get to me whereas every lil joke hurt his feelings; 4) my confidence (he was shy and socially inept/introverted so he liked how I was able to talk to whoever I wanted to talk to and could make conversation); 5) consistent mood (I'm always happy and even if I'm sad, I didn't show it, but as a cancer, he liked that I was always happy)
You know what, my guy is an Aries moon and he is sometimes too honest. Even though it adds a whole different dynamic, I'm sure glad he has that fire in there to ground him a bit. He doesn't like hurting people, but if he is ever in the mood well...he will just say what he thinks, lol.
yes, he is emotional but he is actually VERY VERRRRYYYY good at hiding it. Sometimes I see the change and shift, and then maybe he will vocalize it. Mostly it's just very passive aggressive. It's just the whole "hard shell/ Alpha male" thing going on.click to expand
Hahaha the cancer I always refer to is also Aries moon, very volatile!! but good at hiding her feelings and proud and stubborn as a MOFO... and definitely passive aggressive
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Hahaha the cancer I always refer to is also Aries moon, very volatile!! but good at hiding her feelings and proud and stubborn as a MOFO... and definitely passive aggressive
My goodness, well you understand more than anyone then!
S-T-U-B-B-O-R-N = Oh, YES.
I read about cancer people in general as a whole and there is certainly a difference with the ones that have fire moons. I love meeting people who have an experience in this- since it's totally applicable to my situation =)
I don't know, but as I said before, maybe a fire moon is not so bad because they are a bit more grounded. I might be totally wrong though. They are very stubborn for sure though.
Also, I wonder if cancers with fire signs despise the sappiness and affection that most cancers crave from their partners?
Or maybe they are just good at hiding the fact that want it- but they don't want appear "soft"
Who knows!
Or maybe they are just good at hiding the fact that want it- but they don't want appear "soft"
Who knows!
I like this thread 😛
Cancer's with Taurus moon's are stubborn as well I don't give in too easy.
Posted by DearCupcake
Also, I wonder if cancers with fire signs despise the sappiness and affection that most cancers crave from their partners?
Or maybe they are just good at hiding the fact that want it- but they don't want appear "soft"
Who knows!
What I've read about cancer sun with aries moons is they are in constantly struggles with between "wants and needs"... as aries they are easily to be angered, impulsive, but as fast as easy they move one a soon as they release they anger... stubborn mofos...
Cancer/Aries
The combination of your Sun and Moon signs gives you a quick mind and a remarkable memory. You are a person with much self-respect and determination. Yet this never seems to make you at all self-centered or insensitive to others. In fact, you are very sensitive to everyone, and you live by the code "Do unto others as you would. . ." There is no great complexity about your emotions. They are just near the surface, and as a rule, do become easily aroused. If offended, you often reply with a quick and ever so intense emotional reaction. But there is not much depth to this temper, and you become quickly cooled and back to normal. Emotions are quick and changeable. Sometimes you say things before thinking that you later regret. This is unfortunate, because your intentions are usually sterling. Although you mean the best and you'll go into battles for your friends, you're not so good at respecting their ideas. You may dismiss such ideas and principles before really giving them any thought. You are anything but a naive person, and about the only way you can be fooled is by playing to your emotions. Your nature is a little on the suspicious side. You seem to succeed much more readily working in some humanistic profession or artistic endeavor, rather than in a business. People and ideas appeal more than money.
Posted by Stihl46
Cancer's with Taurus moon's are stubborn as well I don't give in too easy.
holly shit, yeah thats a scary one. :S
Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by DearCupcake
Also, I wonder if cancers with fire signs despise the sappiness and affection that most cancers crave from their partners?
Or maybe they are just good at hiding the fact that want it- but they don't want appear "soft"
Who knows!
What I've read about cancer sun with aries moons is they are in constantly struggles with between "wants and needs"... as aries they are easily to be angered, impulsive, but as fast as easy they move one a soon as they release they anger... stubborn mofos...
Cancer/Aries
The combination of your Sun and Moon signs gives you a quick mind and a remarkable memory. You are a person with much self-respect and determination. Yet this never seems to make you at all self-centered or insensitive to others. In fact, you are very sensitive to everyone, and you live by the code "Do unto others as you would. . ." There is no great complexity about your emotions. They are just near the surface, and as a rule, do become easily aroused. If offended, you often reply with a quick and ever so intense emotional reaction. But there is not much depth to this temper, and you become quickly cooled and back to normal. Emotions are quick and changeable. Sometimes you say things before thinking that you later regret. This is unfortunate, because your intentions are usually sterling. Although you mean the best and you'll go into battles for your friends, you're not so good at respecting their ideas. You may dismiss such ideas and principles before really giving them any thought. You are anything but a naive person, and about the only way you can be fooled is by playing to your emotions. Your nature is a little on the suspicious side. You seem to succeed much more readily working in some humanistic profession or artistic endeavor, rather than in a business. People and ideas appeal more than money.click to expand
Yes, yes, and YES.
Posted by Stihl46
Cancer's with Taurus moon's are stubborn as well I don't give in too easy.
I can totally see that. I do know that my man's Mars is right in the middle/cusp of Taurus and Aries. That's real interesting.
Posted by fullwaterpiscesPosted by Stihl46
Cancer's with Taurus moon's are stubborn as well I don't give in too easy.
holly shit, yeah thats a scary one. :Sclick to expand
I butt heads with my Aries friend I don't know what her moon sign is, my Aries buddy he has a Cancer moon he is a little more sensitive to feelings.
I dont know why i feel like aries sun/ cancer moon is equal to cancer sun/aries moon
Anything has to be better than my Cancer Sun / Virgo Moon
I try to analyze feelings /cry
I try to analyze feelings /cry
Posted by fullwaterpisces
I dont know why i feel like aries sun/ cancer moon is equal to cancer sun/aries moon
Why do you say that?
Cancer men are no more difficult to love than any other kind of man. Damned near impossible, in other words. 🙂 And yes, that's a joke except for the fact nobody's perfect and relationships are damned hard work. Besides, how many women really want "easy men." How many of you just gotta have a man because he's difficult to get. Nice guys finish last because we're too busy chasing after the prick. Choose wisely and the degree of difficulty plummets.
Posted by Este8
Cancer men are no more difficult to love than any other kind of man. Damned near impossible, in other words. 🙂 And yes, that's a joke except for the fact nobody's perfect and relationships are damned hard work. Besides, how many women really want "easy men." How many of you just gotta have a man because he's difficult to get. Nice guys finish last because we're too busy chasing after the prick. Choose wisely and the degree of difficulty plummets.
Nice.
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