what to do when cancer woman is being bitchy, demanding and a drama queen

when you cancer women become bitchy, demanding and do drama (because you don't get what you want) what do you want your partner to do? what should i do when you guys are like that?

this is where i am at right now: i don't take her drama seriously because it can change after 5 minutes (sometimes even faster), so what i do is i allow her to do it and i just wait until she's okay and then i continue where we left off before the drama. am i doing it right?

Posted by scorpio04
when you cancer women become bitchy, demanding and do drama (because you don't get what you want) what do you want your partner to do? what should i do when you guys are like that?

this is where i am at right now: i don't take her drama seriously because it can change after 5 minutes (sometimes even faster), so what i do is i allow her to do it and i just wait until she's okay and then i continue where we left off before the drama. am i doing it right?

You smack Dat Azz.

Well you need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior isn't cool and won't be tolerated. Tell her that she needs to respect you the same way you respect her. You don't have to be rude when you do this, but you do have to be firm and stand up for yourself.

That being said, I followed your other post and can see why your girlfriend is acting out.

Are you annoyed with the behavior? If you can handle the push and pull emotions, then you seem do be doing it right.

Get really emotional break down and cry....she will be puddy in your hands. (Trust me) Then tell her with a cracked voice how her behavior is "hurtful". If she's a real cancer and not a sociopath telling the cancer that they hurt you is " the worst thing in the world to them."

Posted by Chuckcem
Well you need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior isn't cool and won't be tolerated. Tell her that she needs to respect you the same way you respect her. You don't have to be rude when you do this, but you do have to be firm and stand up for yourself.

That being said, I followed your other post and can see why your girlfriend is acting out.

thanks for the advice. it's actually about something different from my other post. that's why i started a new topic. sometimes i feel like she puts on drama to test me -- what i do and how i handle it and it's obvious to me via my intuition that she is doing that. Sometimes (like in my other post) i am not able to catch on (what is REALLY going on with her and what she REALLY wants --- the reason why she is putting the drama in the first place...) and her drama gets too intense and i get confused (that's why i asked help here). other times i know that it's just the influence of the moon or her over sensitivity to me (i know that it's shallow and that it's quick) so i wait it out a couple of minutes, she gets quiet right after it and then she comes back to normal.

i guess this is what i'm saying. i just wanted to know if i'm doing it right because i've never met a person like her in my entire life and she's the first person that i have a relationship with. being a scorpio, i want to understand her at a very deep level.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Well you need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior isn't cool and won't be tolerated. Tell her that she needs to respect you the same way you respect her. You don't have to be rude when you do this, but you do have to be firm and stand up for yourself.

That being said, I followed your other post and can see why your girlfriend is acting out.

thanks for the advice. it's actually about something different from my other post. that's why i started a new topic. sometimes i feel like she puts on drama to test me -- what i do and how i handle it and it's obvious to me via my intuition that she is doing that. Sometimes (like in my other post) i am not able to catch on (what is REALLY going on with her and what she REALLY wants --- the reason why she is putting the drama in the first place...) and her drama gets too intense and i get confused (that's why i asked help here). other times i know that it's just the influence of the moon or her over sensitivity to me (i know that it's shallow and that it's quick) so i wait it out a couple of minutes, she gets quiet right after it and then she comes back to normal.

i guess this is what i'm saying. i just wanted to know if i'm doing it right because i've never met a person like her in my entire life and she's the first person that i have a relationship with. being a scorpio, i want to understand her at a very deep level.

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Well then I should ask, how is she being demanding and a drama queen?

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Posted by Chuckcem
Well you need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior isn't cool and won't be tolerated. Tell her that she needs to respect you the same way you respect her. You don't have to be rude when you do this, but you do have to be firm and stand up for yourself.

That being said, I followed your other post and can see why your girlfriend is acting out.

thanks for the advice. it's actually about something different from my other post. that's why i started a new topic. sometimes i feel like she puts on drama to test me -- what i do and how i handle it and it's obvious to me via my intuition that she is doing that. Sometimes (like in my other post) i am not able to catch on (what is REALLY going on with her and what she REALLY wants --- the reason why she is putting the drama in the first place...) and her drama gets too intense and i get confused (that's why i asked help here). other times i know that it's just the influence of the moon or her over sensitivity to me (i know that it's shallow and that it's quick) so i wait it out a couple of minutes, she gets quiet right after it and then she comes back to normal.

i guess this is what i'm saying. i just wanted to know if i'm doing it right because i've never met a person like her in my entire life and she's the first person that i have a relationship with. being a scorpio, i want to understand her at a very deep level.

Well then I should ask, how is she being demanding and a drama queen?

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she's the kind of cancer that when you say something that you will do with her and then she wants it too and then you don't do it during the instant that she wants it, she changes her mind about it and not want it anymore and afterwards she would do something that makes me feel like she's punishing me for it. -- something like this.



her birthday is coming up (july 20) and then i expressed that i will ask her mom to help me make her birthday gift. at first she was okay and then she started saying unrelated negative things (she have this way of knowing what negative thing to say about me when she is like that..it's like she can't control her tongue --- for the reasons that i sent above: it's either she's trying to test me or that it's just the moon) while talking about the subject.

to me as a scorpio, i just want to be in control --- in control of the conversation, in control of what i do...

i still want to do it (my birthday gift for her) she's not the kind of person that does things on her own and initiates things, so i realized last year the hard way that i'm supposed to be the one to lead and do the work for things. and sometimes i don't take what she says seriously because i have read in the past that cancers are like that --- they can't control their tongue and i've seen her like that a couple of times...

i also realized a couple of weeks ago that when she does something negative to me like what she did last february, i want to do something positive every time. it's like i don't want to give back the same negative energy from her. i want to do something positive.

I thought this was Gemitati on an alt yapping on about her sexual frustration over Seraph.

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Posted by Chuckcem
Well you need to stand up to her and tell her that her behavior isn't cool and won't be tolerated. Tell her that she needs to respect you the same way you respect her. You don't have to be rude when you do this, but you do have to be firm and stand up for yourself.

That being said, I followed your other post and can see why your girlfriend is acting out.

thanks for the advice. it's actually about something different from my other post. that's why i started a new topic. sometimes i feel like she puts on drama to test me -- what i do and how i handle it and it's obvious to me via my intuition that she is doing that. Sometimes (like in my other post) i am not able to catch on (what is REALLY going on with her and what she REALLY wants --- the reason why she is putting the drama in the first place...) and her drama gets too intense and i get confused (that's why i asked help here). other times i know that it's just the influence of the moon or her over sensitivity to me (i know that it's shallow and that it's quick) so i wait it out a couple of minutes, she gets quiet right after it and then she comes back to normal.

i guess this is what i'm saying. i just wanted to know if i'm doing it right because i've never met a person like her in my entire life and she's the first person that i have a relationship with. being a scorpio, i want to understand her at a very deep level.

Well then I should ask, how is she being demanding and a drama queen?

she's the kind of cancer that when you say something that you will do with her and then she wants it too and then you don't do it during the instant that she wants it, she changes her mind about it and not want it anymore and afterwards she would do something that makes me feel like she's punishing me for it. -- something like this.



her birthday is coming up (july 20) and then i expressed that i will ask her mom to help me make her birthday gift. at first she was okay and then she started saying unrelated negative things (she have this way of knowing what negative thing to say about me when she is like that..it's like she can't control her tongue --- for the reasons that i sent above: it's either she's trying to test me or that it's just the moon) while talking about the subject.

to me as a scorpio, i just want to be in control --- in control of the conversation, in control of what i do...

i still want to do it (my birthday gift for her) she's not the kind of person that does things on her own and initiates things, so i realized last year the hard way that i'm supposed to be the one to lead and do the work for things. and sometimes i don't take what she says seriously because i have read in the past that cancers are like that --- they can't control their tongue and i've seen her like that a couple of times...

i also realized a couple of weeks ago that when she does something negative to me like what she did last february, i want to do something positive every time. it's like i don't want to give back the same negative energy from her. i want to do something positive.

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It sounds like you're blowing her reactions out of proportion. She sounds like a normal, albeit somewhat passive aggressive, woman. Yes as a guy you need to be the one initiating things, but also you need to be emotionally stable enough to not be troubled by her random moods. She's a Cancer sure, but sometimes women can get moody. It's happens. Some more than other, but your response should be the same.

"to me as a scorpio, i just want to be in control --- in control of the conversation, in control of what i do..."

Stop all of that immediately. You can't control everything. Once you come to terms with that, your relationship will be a lot easier. Scorpio or not, you're going to have to come to terms with this. Cancers can also sense when someone is trying to control them. Instead of retaliating they will become VERY stubborn or passive aggressive back. I'm going to guess your girlfriend has picked up your need for control and she is acting out as a result. When her actions stop bothering you, so will her attitude.

"they can't control their tongue and i've seen her like that a couple of times..."

It's not that they can't control their tongue, it's that when they are in one of their moods, they can speak emotionally. Likewise if they themselves feel hurt, they will become defensive. You need to not take this personally, since you already know these moods can come and go. If she becomes insulting, call her out on it and tell her to not do that.

"i also realized a couple of weeks ago that when she does something negative to me like what she did last february, i want to do something positive every time. it's like i don't want to give back the same negative energy from her. i want to do something positive"

Also know that Cancers will react a lot better if you're sweet to them. Even when they're moody, a positive response will go a long way. It will help them readjust and get out of their moods. So this is good that you take a positive approach whenever she's being negative.