Posted by Canbullrius
Sounds like confidence issues, if the guy truly likes you he will go out of his way for you.
You are talking with a Cancer sun so it's not like i don't know either.
If a Cancer sun is uncomfortable, stuff like this can happen, but for me i tell you how it is but sugar coat it a bit and tell you that you are still an amazing person, as everyone has good qualities even if they are not relationship material. like an Aries lady i know, we are attracted to each other hugely, but early on the stress due to our differences was apparent, but i spoke about it as did she, and left it like grown ups and are best of friends.
Posted by Canbullrius
Sounds like confidence issues, if the guy truly likes you he will go out of his way for you.
You are talking with a Cancer sun so it's not like i don't know either.
If a Cancer sun is uncomfortable, stuff like this can happen, but for me i tell you how it is but sugar coat it a bit and tell you that you are still an amazing person, as everyone has good qualities even if they are not relationship material. like an Aries lady i know, we are attracted to each other hugely, but early on the stress due to our differences was apparent, but i spoke about it as did she, and left it like grown ups and are best of friends.
Posted by CanbullriusI do! I try to make convos i get nothing lolz. He just sucks st texting mePosted by leo16I have a close Leo female friend who wants me, but i don't want her because she is too reliant on me soooo i dunno, i guess you are a Leo judging by your username?Posted by Canbullrius
Sounds like confidence issues, if the guy truly likes you he will go out of his way for you.
You are talking with a Cancer sun so it's not like i don't know either.
If a Cancer sun is uncomfortable, stuff like this can happen, but for me i tell you how it is but sugar coat it a bit and tell you that you are still an amazing person, as everyone has good qualities even if they are not relationship material. like an Aries lady i know, we are attracted to each other hugely, but early on the stress due to our differences was apparent, but i spoke about it as did she, and left it like grown ups and are best of friends.
So what should I do? I haven't talked to him since Saturday I changed my number but he could still get ahold of him should I let him come to me? I haven't texted him I haven't messaged him nothing. Should I leave it be? For some reason lately a lot of cancers have been coming to me lol
Cancer men typically will be waiting for you to give the first moves, maybe try that?
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Posted by Arielle83Posted by CanbullriusDon't have to say sorry to me. I'm not trying to grab textual attention.Posted by Arielle83He sounds like a complete tosser to be honest. Sorry for my frank attitude.
He texts when he FEELS like it.
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Posted by firefis1996So you just cut him off?
I've played this game with a cancer for years. its not worth it. the longer you'll let them play the longer they will actually play. theres no turning point unless one of you initiates it. your best bet (if you're that interested) is to ask him. It does wonders
Posted by Shellyd238
ehhh, he sounds exactly like one of my past cancers. He thinks you are low value, so he treats you like you are low value. If you're always available to him, why should he put in any effort?
It's not that he sucks at texting, you are making that excuse for him.
Move on.
Posted by ariessungoddess
leave that loser alone. Not worth it at all! I've dated one. bad in bed, borderline people with social skills of a retarded monkey. look at this thread, relevant to your issue,
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/i-refuse-to-initiate-conversation--7176799/
who would want this? best bet, become their friend and keep them at a distance.
Posted by leo16lol exactly how it would go with us too! really sometimes leaves me wondering if he even understands what I text! sends the most irrelevant answers to simple questions.Posted by ariessungoddess
leave that loser alone. Not worth it at all! I've dated one. bad in bed, borderline people with social skills of a retarded monkey. look at this thread, relevant to your issue,
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/i-refuse-to-initiate-conversation--7176799/
who would want this? best bet, become their friend and keep them at a distance.
Omg right? He's so slow to get things! He would respond in the most inappropriate way to a text like wtf? I wasn't even talking about that so wtf are you talking about lol
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Posted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Posted by Stinger408scorpPosted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?click to expand
Posted by leo16It's because he has a lot of options and the one he's got his eyes on is prolly not paying attention to him so he's playing around wasting you and most likely other ones time as well.Posted by Stinger408scorpPosted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Why does he do that?! Why do they do this? -.- What is the reasoning of wasting people's time? Why do you guys come back? He got mad because I didn't text him back the last time we talked
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Posted by Stinger408scorpYou're right! It makes my will to ignore him even stronger!! Lol fuckkkkkk him! I hope he doesn't come my wayPosted by leo16It's because he has a lot of options and the one he's got his eyes on is prolly not paying attention to him so he's playing around wasting you and most likely other ones time as well.Posted by Stinger408scorpPosted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Why does he do that?! Why do they do this? -.- What is the reasoning of wasting people's time? Why do you guys come back? He got mad because I didn't text him back the last time we talked
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Posted by leo16Lol respond with one word response every time he text that's it.Posted by Stinger408scorpYou're right! It makes my will to ignore him even stronger!! Lol fuckkkkkk him! I hope he doesn't come my wayPosted by leo16It's because he has a lot of options and the one he's got his eyes on is prolly not paying attention to him so he's playing around wasting you and most likely other ones time as well.Posted by Stinger408scorpPosted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Why does he do that?! Why do they do this? -.- What is the reasoning of wasting people's time? Why do you guys come back? He got mad because I didn't text him back the last time we talked
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Posted by leo16I'm guilty of playing this stupid games but now I always stop myself cause I hate hurting females feelings.Posted by Stinger408scorpYou're right! It makes my will to ignore him even stronger!! Lol fuckkkkkk him! I hope he doesn't come my wayPosted by leo16It's because he has a lot of options and the one he's got his eyes on is prolly not paying attention to him so he's playing around wasting you and most likely other ones time as well.Posted by Stinger408scorpPosted by leo16I'm not a cancer and I do shit like this I'd say he's not that into you so I would ignore his ass.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Why does he do that?! Why do they do this? -.- What is the reasoning of wasting people's time? Why do you guys come back? He got mad because I didn't text him back the last time we talked
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Posted by leo16Posted by Shellyd238
ehhh, he sounds exactly like one of my past cancers. He thinks you are low value, so he treats you like you are low value. If you're always available to him, why should he put in any effort?
It's not that he sucks at texting, you are making that excuse for him.
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True I have his loss! Why do they always come back though?
Posted by leo16He comes and goes because YOU allow it. He knows he can put in virtually no effort, ignore your communication, EVEN stand you up not once but TWICE!!! And you still come back for more abuse.
He kind of comes and goes? He'll talk to me for a little then stop and then Intiate contact then stop texting then initiate contact again! He also suckkkks at texting and keeping a conversation, he always says he wants to see me but has stood me up twice! This is the second time we have stopped talking , if he initiates contact again should I leave him alone and ignore him? Will he come again do you think?
Posted by Aurora8LunaHe's stood her up twice, what more do we need to know? That clearly falls in the asshole category.
Why don't you talk to him about this? You need to tell him what you don't like so he has a chance to fix it. Put your pride aside. He could be an asshole, he could be waiting for you to show you care, he could be testing your boundaries, he could be indecisive and confused about you, he could he stressed, he could be overthinking, he could be like this with everyone, it could be a number of things. We dont know whats up with him and you wont either until you ask him. Don't listen to people on here that barely know your situation that are telling you to leave him. Only you make that choice.
If he doesn't take it seriously, accept how he's made you feel and change his behaviour then by all means go silent on him. Going silent before you have communicated the problem with him is giving up and you'll never get any answers. It's a pretty sad way to end something.
Posted by Aurora8LunaHe'd be worth the effort if they were in a relationship. Sounds like they haven't even met yet... there's nothing between them and he doesn't deserve anymore of her time. He doesn't even deserve an angry response from her.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt is and so why can't she tell him that. I just think back on the times I wished I had gotten things off my chest rather than staying silent. For my own benefit, not always to work things out but to get answers... and even if they were bullshit answers at least I made them squirm.Posted by Aurora8LunaHe's stood her up twice, what more do we need to know? That clearly falls in the asshole category.
Why don't you talk to him about this? You need to tell him what you don't like so he has a chance to fix it. Put your pride aside. He could be an asshole, he could be waiting for you to show you care, he could be testing your boundaries, he could be indecisive and confused about you, he could he stressed, he could be overthinking, he could be like this with everyone, it could be a number of things. We dont know whats up with him and you wont either until you ask him. Don't listen to people on here that barely know your situation that are telling you to leave him. Only you make that choice.
If he doesn't take it seriously, accept how he's made you feel and change his behaviour then by all means go silent on him. Going silent before you have communicated the problem with him is giving up and you'll never get any answers. It's a pretty sad way to end something.
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Posted by aquarius09So it seems as though the way she can get his attention is to be a jerk to him?
You know guys like this have psychological issues. They respond better to disrespectful behaviour than respectful behaviour. How you identify if someone has unresolved childhood issues that is now negatively affecting their adult behaviour is:
Treat them with disrespect, and if they stick around and tolerate it as well as show the wrongdoer respect, you got yourself a person with mommy and daddy issues.
There are no exceptions to this rule. The reason you have men and women willing to chase and settle for people who disrespect them is because they themselvessuffer from daddy or mommy issues.
Posted by AnOdeToNoOneI'm advising her to not be with a person like that. However if she wishes to be with lousy damaged person, then that also speaks volumes to me. Like attracts like, ya know?Posted by aquarius09So it seems as though the way she can get his attention is to be a jerk to him?
You know guys like this have psychological issues. They respond better to disrespectful behaviour than respectful behaviour. How you identify if someone has unresolved childhood issues that is now negatively affecting their adult behaviour is:
Treat them with disrespect, and if they stick around and tolerate it as well as show the wrongdoer respect, you got yourself a person with mommy and daddy issues.
There are no exceptions to this rule. The reason you have men and women willing to chase and settle for people who disrespect them is because they themselvessuffer from daddy or mommy issues.
Why would she, as a seemingly healthy person, need to be the exact opposite of healthy and normal in order to be with this douche?
If one wants to be with a fucked up person like this cancer dude, then one needs to understand that the Jerry Springer Show has plenty of potential to become your life.
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Posted by AnOdeToNoOneCancers do this to alot of people because more likely than not as most people want someone they don't think wants them. A Cancer is able to feel an element of control by doing this as it allows the relationship to go at a pace where they can slowly let out who they are,yet they have to act like an asshole/bitch like they don't need anyone and that your going to be attracted to that more than the needy/co-dependent side early on.Posted by aquarius09So it seems as though the way she can get his attention is to be a jerk to him?
You know guys like this have psychological issues. They respond better to disrespectful behaviour than respectful behaviour. How you identify if someone has unresolved childhood issues that is now negatively affecting their adult behaviour is:
Treat them with disrespect, and if they stick around and tolerate it as well as show the wrongdoer respect, you got yourself a person with mommy and daddy issues.
There are no exceptions to this rule. The reason you have men and women willing to chase and settle for people who disrespect them is because they themselvessuffer from daddy or mommy issues.
Why would she, as a seemingly healthy person, need to be the exact opposite of healthy and normal in order to be with this douche?
If one wants to be with a fucked up person like this cancer dude, then one needs to understand that the Jerry Springer Show has plenty of potential to become your life.
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Posted by DivaCanLeoAre you a male?Posted by Shellyd238is this true crab boys do you think others have low value...i don't know as a cancer, i don't think that about people, if anything if i think they're low value i would never even initiate let alone bother with
ehhh, he sounds exactly like one of my past cancers. He thinks you are low value, so he treats you like you are low value. If you're always available to him, why should he put in any effort?
It's not that he sucks at texting, you are making that excuse for him.
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Posted by CanbullriusPosted by Shellyd238Female, i mentioned before that Cancer female and male are hard to tell apart without knowing the details or them directly spitting it out.Posted by DivaCanLeoAre you a male?Posted by Shellyd238is this true crab boys do you think others have low value...i don't know as a cancer, i don't think that about people, if anything if i think they're low value i would never even initiate let alone bother with
ehhh, he sounds exactly like one of my past cancers. He thinks you are low value, so he treats you like you are low value. If you're always available to him, why should he put in any effort?
It's not that he sucks at texting, you are making that excuse for him.
Move on.
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Posted by DivaCanLeoBeg is what I don't do. I haven't texted him messaged him. I don't care. He's just not that into me and it is what it is. I BARELY even know him I was just curious as to why he brought his ass back a second time. What happened was he sent me a text, I feel asleep and four hours had passed by, then I got a second message that said, lmao. After I didn't respond. I asked what was so funny and never received a response. My life doesn't revolve around him nor do I feel any sort of validity from him.
i associate with crab men alot, they exactly like crab women. I could not see a Crab man playing hide and seek just for the game if they're not into the person or just being friendly.
women make up lots of things in their head though. If a guy is responding it means he atleast respects you, but maybe isn't INTO YOU. Doesn't entail he doesn't value you as a person. CRABS don't deal with people who they don't VALUE.
don't take kindness as a weakness and stop bothering him if he's not showing signs he's into you
Posted by DivaCanLeoNo, I will not be quiet.Posted by AnOdeToNoOnestfu with that bs
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