Moodz2468
@Moodz2468
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Why are we cancers the least fave zodiac sign?
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I'm pretty sure you have yourselves confused with gemini (though my least fave is sag, their opposite). If you browse these boards, gems are truly the zodiacal "scum". Maybe scorpio? Nah, i think it's gemini ftw.
Posted by Moodz2468
I have come to the conclusion that we cancers don't like dealing with bullsh@it that most other zodiac signs put up with.
I feel like we are the most realistic sign above all others.
nobody ever gives us a chance because they don't like a challenge.. they call us moody and crabby but hmmmm i wonder why... some people just don't get it
ahmen...
i've been told numerous times that i "play" hard to get. No, i am hard to get because if you're coming with BS it's just not going to happen.
I think Cancers have the potential to be the most honest about their emotions. We are moody, emotional and we are not afraid to show that. Time, place and intensity are the things we need to learn. And yes, we can hide and dodge expressing those emotions if we do not feel safe but when we tell you how it is... it is the honest truth. People are not used to this. They have adverse reactions to it.
In a society now geared to getting what you want, when you want it just because you want it... challenges are few and far between. Nope, I don't think men/women are used to working hard for something and this cancer trait is appreciated by few. But we put in what we get out.
I think Air signs run the world right now and there is so much lost at the soul level. Light, easy, effortless and logical. How utterly boring...
I'm pretty sure you have yourselves confused with gemini (though my least fave is sag, their opposite). If you browse these boards, gems are truly the zodiacal "scum". Maybe scorpio? Nah, i think it's gemini ftw.
I have not browsed the other boards yet, but I will later on. I have a cousin (gemini) and she can be bit shady if you know what I mean.. I don't have that much experience with them, she is the only Gemini I know so I can't say they are the most hated.
Aurora to answer your question: yes he is still trying to be in my life but he wants things to stay the same but I was not happy with the way things were going with us so I let him go completely. deleted his number and everything he still calls and text me... I just ignore him. He is not ready or worthy of what I have to offer him.
But in general people don't understand me and its the same with some of my family members too. when I call them out on certain things they get mad at me. I have an issue with candy coating the truth. Some people think its harsh being blunt but I see no other way. To be honest I really don't care what they think of me. It would be nice of them to see my point of view and not get all bent put of shape just because they don't like what they hear.. but ohh well too bad
Aurora to answer your question: yes he is still trying to be in my life but he wants things to stay the same but I was not happy with the way things were going with us so I let him go completely. deleted his number and everything he still calls and text me... I just ignore him. He is not ready or worthy of what I have to offer him.
But in general people don't understand me and its the same with some of my family members too. when I call them out on certain things they get mad at me. I have an issue with candy coating the truth. Some people think its harsh being blunt but I see no other way. To be honest I really don't care what they think of me. It would be nice of them to see my point of view and not get all bent put of shape just because they don't like what they hear.. but ohh well too bad
Cancer gets a bad reputation because there are some really bad crabs out there.
However, I also realize that there are some really great Cancers out there, and that is why they are still my favorite sign.
Next to Pisces, anyway.
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However, I also realize that there are some really great Cancers out there, and that is why they are still my favorite sign.
Next to Pisces, anyway.
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I don't think cancer's have a bad reputation at all.
No matter how you see it, their is another sign that is much worst than us. We are not the least friendly, we are not the least intelligent, not the least attractive, not the least caring.. we're not the least anything.
It's just cause we are very difficult in relationships, we get the impression that we are not wanted/on demand.
Sort's of explains why so many astrology websites think cancer man/ cancer woman is the best combination for each other.
No matter how you see it, their is another sign that is much worst than us. We are not the least friendly, we are not the least intelligent, not the least attractive, not the least caring.. we're not the least anything.
It's just cause we are very difficult in relationships, we get the impression that we are not wanted/on demand.
Sort's of explains why so many astrology websites think cancer man/ cancer woman is the best combination for each other.
lol
Posted by Moodz2468
I expressed to a taurus man that I been dealing with for the past 5 months that .... I feel we are both at different stages in our lives and that I know what I want and he doesn't.
I nicely told him that I wish the best for him and that its unfortunate that we could not grow to be something more because there was potential ......
Sounded great, perfect .. then you had to throw in a "but" after that very mature speech which shows just how self-centered and immature you really are.
Posted by Moodz2468
but I had a feeling like he was messing around and he wasn't giving me the attention and the love I needed.
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Why with crazy shit? Why not end it with .... we are at different stages of our lives?
No, no .... you couldn't do that, could you .. you had to get a dig in there for purposes of making him feel guilty .. when in reality, if you had actually meant it, then you would have allowed him to be at a different stage in his life than you.
But you couldn't handle that, could you? Because that might be too mature.
The Crab would be cool if they stopped that shit. But, they're too insecure to be able to handle it, so they have to put a dig in there with intentions of trying to make the other person guilty for their insecure feelings, and this is a perfect example.
He doesn't have to love you, he doesn't have to like you ... he is allowed to be at a different place in his life without having any responsibility in making you feel loved, and a mature person would have said that and walked away without sticking that guilt-trip in
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Posted by P-Angel
The Crab would be cool if they stopped that shit. But, they're too insecure to be able to handle it, so they have to put a dig in there with intentions of trying to make the other person guilty for their insecure feelings, and this is a perfect example.
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true, true, lol! Always with an emotional dig...
lol
Ok so I can see your point and understand where your coming from miss P-Angel
I have told him on 3 occasions just that "we are at different stages in our lives"... I never expressed to him in person that I felt like he was messing around. I kept that to myself and of course I posted it on this board. You just don't know the WHOLE story. You just have to read carefully. Sorry if my english grammar is not up to par. I am currently enrolling in an english course so that its much more clearer for you. To prove my point, he confessed that he was seeing somebody behind my back. I didn't even have to ask him that it was a random text he sent TODAY. I didn't even curse the Mo Fo out. your right he didn't have to love me thats why I threw in my towel and ended things before I got in too deep. Why do I have to bow down to his ways. I have compromised enough to his needs and to show him that relationships are a 2 way street. I see no point in settling for less than what I want, what I deserve, or what is best for me. Nobody should do that.
you can call me insecure, self centered, immature etc.. frankly I could give a flying Fu&ck. So you can go plunk your two cents somewhere else
I know the person I am and I know what I want. I don't need to justify that to anybody.
I have told him on 3 occasions just that "we are at different stages in our lives"... I never expressed to him in person that I felt like he was messing around. I kept that to myself and of course I posted it on this board. You just don't know the WHOLE story. You just have to read carefully. Sorry if my english grammar is not up to par. I am currently enrolling in an english course so that its much more clearer for you. To prove my point, he confessed that he was seeing somebody behind my back. I didn't even have to ask him that it was a random text he sent TODAY. I didn't even curse the Mo Fo out. your right he didn't have to love me thats why I threw in my towel and ended things before I got in too deep. Why do I have to bow down to his ways. I have compromised enough to his needs and to show him that relationships are a 2 way street. I see no point in settling for less than what I want, what I deserve, or what is best for me. Nobody should do that.
you can call me insecure, self centered, immature etc.. frankly I could give a flying Fu&ck. So you can go plunk your two cents somewhere else
I know the person I am and I know what I want. I don't need to justify that to anybody.
Posted by Moodz2468
he confessed that he was seeing somebody behind my back. I didn't even have to ask him that it was a random text he sent TODAY.
TODAY? your spider senses knew what was up, huh?
that speech was very mature indeed, but you only meant it a little bit cause the main issue was him creeping on you.... right 🙂
Posted by Moodz2468
I don't need to justify that to anybody.
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then why are you?
emotions balanced with ego... isn't that what the Cancer symbol means? it's a hard one. go forth Jedi! many opportunities ahead to master your craft... 🙂
Posted by Moodz2468
nobody ever gives us a chance because they don't like a challenge.. they call us moody and crabby but hmmmm i wonder why... some people just don't get it
People don't get what?
That it was all a game of you challenging them, and not really sincere feelings?
Did you start this thread off by saying you can right through people's bullshit?
Can you see through your own bullshit?
So, when you said he wasn't giving you enough to feel wanted, what you really meant was .. he isn't playing your game right and isn't up for the challenge of having to score you?
So, when you say people don't get it ..... you are meaning that Cancers are game players?
Posted by Moodz2468
.... and he wasn't giving me the attention and the love I needed.
nobody ever gives us a chance because they don't like a challenge..
So, you were gaming him .... you presented yourself to him as a challenge? Rather than going to him with honest and sincere endearment ... you attempted to keep yourself at arms length to see if he as up for the challenge of getting you?
So, let's get back to the first sentence ... can you detect your own bullshit here?
@Moodz
I don't believe you are the most disliked sign. I guess it really comes down to the individuals themselves. Honestly I will tell you right now as a Gemini I would have never, ever tried to be around your sign knowing what I know. However, my sister is one, a few ex boyfriends, and my BFF is one. I am glad that I have Cancers around. I like them (females). Males on the other hand holy mother of god. I can't deal with them. That's why most of the guys I have dated that are Cancers are exes.
@MoonBunny
That's all nice and good reasoning... until someone finally figures out we Cancers are the victims of our own, self-imposed, of course, guilt trips just as you are. There's a popular saying, treat unto others the way you want others to treat unto you. We don't think others deserve a better break than we got. - This is so so so true.
I don't believe you are the most disliked sign. I guess it really comes down to the individuals themselves. Honestly I will tell you right now as a Gemini I would have never, ever tried to be around your sign knowing what I know. However, my sister is one, a few ex boyfriends, and my BFF is one. I am glad that I have Cancers around. I like them (females). Males on the other hand holy mother of god. I can't deal with them. That's why most of the guys I have dated that are Cancers are exes.
@MoonBunny
That's all nice and good reasoning... until someone finally figures out we Cancers are the victims of our own, self-imposed, of course, guilt trips just as you are. There's a popular saying, treat unto others the way you want others to treat unto you. We don't think others deserve a better break than we got. - This is so so so true.
I Think us cancers are pretty good people if you ask me. We can be a little bit crazy at times but who isn't.
@ P-angel give the girl a break... the guy was cheating on her so IMO I think she did the right thing. she just didnt want to be taken advantage of.
@ P-angel give the girl a break... the guy was cheating on her so IMO I think she did the right thing. she just didnt want to be taken advantage of.
I do not think we are the least favorite. I hear time and time again how much other signs like Cancers.
The people who dislike Cancers are the people who want to manipulate them, and not in the best way. They can not have the control over Cancer so they disapprove.
The people who dislike Cancers are the people who want to manipulate them, and not in the best way. They can not have the control over Cancer so they disapprove.
Since when? Where is your sources on this knowledge? OR Maybe your having a woe is me moment.. Whats wrong dear cancer?
Posted by SensualCancerChika
@ P-angel give the girl a break... the guy was cheating on her so IMO I think she did the right thing. she just didnt want to be taken advantage of.
You can't use the cheating card ... since she didn't even know about that until after-the-fact.
Bottom Line: She wants to be a Princess, and he wasn't looking for a superiour, and she couldn't handle it
I'm sorry but her story sounds like she wasn't trying to be superior. From what I'm getting it seems like she was compromising to his needs and he wasn't comprimising to her. We won't know for sure if she was being sincere about her feelings because we weren't in the relationship. Who are you or any of us to say she didn't put her all in the relationship. Who are we to judge how she really felt about him or what he did or didn't do. That is between them Her gut feeling was telling her that something was going on. She left him because she wasn't comfortable wioth the feeling and look it turned out she was right. My question is how does that make her a failure and how does that make her selfish. What's wrong with her wanting to feel special by her man. She was not getting what she wanted out of the relationship so she decided to move on. There is nothing wrong with that. To be honest isn't this thread about how cancers are misunderstood.
One more thing I want to add... She seems like she is confident in what she wants. If anything it was him who couldn't handle her... IMO
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Moodz2468
I expressed to a taurus man that I been dealing with for the past 5 months that .... I feel we are both at different stages in our lives and that I know what I want and he doesn't.
I nicely told him that I wish the best for him and that its unfortunate that we could not grow to be something more because there was potential ......
Sounded great, perfect .. then you had to throw in a "but" after that very mature speech which shows just how self-centered and immature you really are.
Posted by Moodz2468
but I had a feeling like he was messing around and he wasn't giving me the attention and the love I needed.
Why with crazy shit? Why not end it with .... we are at different stages of our lives?
No, no .... you couldn't do that, could you .. you had to get a dig in there for purposes of making him feel guilty .. when in reality, if you had actually meant it, then you would have allowed him to be at a different stage in his life than you.
But you couldn't handle that, could you? Because that might be too mature.
The Crab would be cool if they stopped that shit. But, they're too insecure to be able to handle it, so they have to put a dig in there with intentions of trying to make the other person guilty for their insecure feelings, and this is a perfect example.
He doesn't have to love you, he doesn't have to like you ... he is allowed to be at a different place in his life without having any responsibility in making you feel loved, and a mature person would have said that and walked away without sticking that guilt-trip in
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Amen to this and to pretty much everything else P-Angel wrote....
the woe is me victim stuff
the "im being sooo protective of my heart" or "want to be a challenge" is soooooo wrong when someone does it to y'all but for some reason there is NOTHING wrong with y'all being narcissistic game players...
guilt tripping or pouting in the corner when y'all cant get y'all way....
Basically to ask why Cancers get such a bad rep is to ask why spoiled brat children get a bad rep.....this behavior should have been out the window eons ago.....drop that and it would be all cool.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Moodz2468
I expressed to a taurus man that I been dealing with for the past 5 months that .... I feel we are both at different stages in our lives and that I know what I want and he doesn't.
I nicely told him that I wish the best for him and that its unfortunate that we could not grow to be something more because there was potential ......
Sounded great, perfect .. then you had to throw in a "but" after that very mature speech which shows just how self-centered and immature you really are.
Posted by Moodz2468
but I had a feeling like he was messing around and he wasn't giving me the attention and the love I needed.
The Crab would be cool if they stopped that shit. But, they're too insecure to be able to handle it, so they have to put a dig in there with intentions of trying to make the other person guilty for their insecure feelings, and this is a perfect example.
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Yup, exactly.
I won't goes as far to say all Cancers are like that, but that has been my experience with every Cancer I have met.
Cancers are not the least favorite. That honor goes to Gemini with Pisces following close behind! 😛
So your saying that this guy's cheating is ok and that she should shut up and just take whatever misstreatment this person is giving her?
The cheating card can't be used in any justification because it wasn't found out until after the fact.
This thread is funny. Back on about cancers being misunderstood, in my pass I couldn't never really get along with people because I can see thru people very quickly . And like the main poster said I had the ability to read people bs or find truth into a sistuation. Also in the pass people seen that I was very intutive or just easy to read them off so they stayed clear away from me, or they turn shit around to cover up there selves. Someone said this already that this can be bad for a cancer, and pass I had to accept and learn how to deal with others behavior. I no that alien feeling. I also no wat she mean about dishonest shit and people get upset when u are upfront with current sistuation.
Cancers are not hated, but they are underestimated. However, that can work to the Cancer's advantage. I've seen it happen. I've observed Cancers in the workplace and befriended many, they fly under the radar and before you know it they've gone from the mail room to the board room, so to speak.
Posted by SensualCancerChika
So your saying that this guy's cheating is ok and that she should shut up and just take whatever misstreatment this person is giving her?
Not at all. Just don't come on here making it seem like you were the mature one taking the higher ground then throw an emotional dig for good measure. You stated your reason for breaking up (which I will also address) and be on your way.
Now for her "reason" She states:
"I nicely told him that I wish the best for him and that its unfortunate that we could not grow to be something more because there was potential but I had a feeling like he was messing around and he wasn't giving me the attention and the love I needed.... I wasn't going to force him into anything he didn't want"
Well did you end it because you thought he was cheating on you (with no evidence at the time mind you) or because he wasn't giving you the love you needed? If this was just about cheating then okay. State,"*I* don't feel secure in this relationship because *I* feel your actions indicate you are cheating. Goodbye" or even "*I* am not happy in this relationship because *I* am not getting the love and affection *I* need when I am in a relationship" in either case take ownership for the fact that this is about what you're feeling. However, she didn't leave it there. It became more of a "I think we should go our separate ways and I need to let you know just how much you ruined this relationship". And as it was pointed out by P: the "cheating" was found out after the fact. So try again....
This post is titled strangely. You took an instance of YOU being disliked and decided well then all cancers must be disliked. I believe, generally, cancers are pretty much loved. You come off so childish and defensive, that it's hard to trust your objectivity.
Posted by RoseTheTaurus
This post is titled strangely. You took an instance of YOU being disliked and decided well then all cancers must be disliked. I believe, generally, cancers are pretty much loved. You come off so childish and defensive, that it's hard to trust your objectivity.
What she said.
Dam I'm confuse,when did she tell the guy she thought he was cheating. And her saying he wasn't giving her the attention and love she need isn't that because he was cheating. When u are in a relationship u don't suppose to tell your partner how u feel.
@ MoonBunny I am a Scorpio and I am not quite sure what that has to do with anything. I was simply respond--to someone's question--which seem to be taken way into left field. No one was saying she should "ignore her feelings". The statement was basically "applaud to you for ending it, but why did you have to do the typical Cancer thing and throw in an emotional dig", which may be one of the reasons people have some difficulties with Cancers. Nothing more. But true to form you are getting defensive. SHE put the question and the context out there and it was answered.
And this:
"And if I dare say it, you're disappointed someone else got lucky because you yourself didn't, so you play the blame-the-victim game. Unless you have a better explanation for deliberately giving bad advice (ie ignore the red flags). So throw us a new argument so we can at least take you seriously" I'm not going to even dignify that BS because, like I said you're taking this so far left, and clearly personal. I never once said she should ignore any red flag. Why don't you read and re-read--oh and re-read it again. Come again sweet heart, because you tried it, but f*ckin' failed.
And this:
"And if I dare say it, you're disappointed someone else got lucky because you yourself didn't, so you play the blame-the-victim game. Unless you have a better explanation for deliberately giving bad advice (ie ignore the red flags). So throw us a new argument so we can at least take you seriously" I'm not going to even dignify that BS because, like I said you're taking this so far left, and clearly personal. I never once said she should ignore any red flag. Why don't you read and re-read--oh and re-read it again. Come again sweet heart, because you tried it, but f*ckin' failed.
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and PS. What. The. Hell does any of:
"I've seen a guy cheat on his Scorp GF. GF didn't find out till after 5 YEARS. He was cheating on her with his ex all along. He didn't even spend time with his GF on his birthday. GF felt abused and lacked attention from him, yet she refused to trust her instincts and stick it out. Guess who gets hurt in the end -- Not the guy. Guess who IS hurting, even before the cheating was found out. Pills, knives, cuttings, blood, sitting on the parapet prepared to kill herself in the mornings. The cheating need not even come to light for the damage to be seen. Really messy."
Have ANYTHING to do with what I actually posted? It would be one thing if you simply responded to what I actually posted, but "dare I say it" you had to throw in some unrelated story to make us think "oh wow...if that could happen to a completely unrelated person, she was soooo right to end it---we're such mean Scorpios. MoonBunny was so right"
What the f*ck ever.
and PS. What. The. Hell does any of:
"I've seen a guy cheat on his Scorp GF. GF didn't find out till after 5 YEARS. He was cheating on her with his ex all along. He didn't even spend time with his GF on his birthday. GF felt abused and lacked attention from him, yet she refused to trust her instincts and stick it out. Guess who gets hurt in the end -- Not the guy. Guess who IS hurting, even before the cheating was found out. Pills, knives, cuttings, blood, sitting on the parapet prepared to kill herself in the mornings. The cheating need not even come to light for the damage to be seen. Really messy."
Have ANYTHING to do with what I actually posted? It would be one thing if you simply responded to what I actually posted, but "dare I say it" you had to throw in some unrelated story to make us think "oh wow...if that could happen to a completely unrelated person, she was soooo right to end it---we're such mean Scorpios. MoonBunny was so right"
What the f*ck ever.
Clearly this has gone too far and I'm sorry for even starting this thread. I failed in a lot of ways but what it comes down to is that I was looking out for myself... Didn't want to get hurt, didn't want to get played, and didn't want to push something that didn't feel right. I gave him the benefit of doubt and tried my best to work things out and I didn't think I pulled the guilt trip. I'm gpoing to say this again.. I never said to him in person, by text, by phone call..NEVER said to him I felt like he was messing around it was a hunch a gut feeling and I went with it. I know when I mess up and I can call myself out on my own BS but In this matter the only game player was him..
Sorry for all this
Sorry for all this
Posted by Moodz2468
Clearly this has gone too far and I'm sorry for even starting this thread. I failed in a lot of ways but what it comes down to is that I was looking out for myself... Didn't want to get hurt, didn't want to get played, and didn't want to push something that didn't feel right. I gave him the benefit of doubt and tried my best to work things out and I didn't think I pulled the guilt trip. I'm gpoing to say this again.. I never said to him in person, by text, by phone call..NEVER said to him I felt like he was messing around it was a hunch a gut feeling and I went with it. I know when I mess up and I can call myself out on my own BS but In this matter the only game player was him..
Sorry for all this
honey I dnt no why u saying sorry. I actually believe that u kind of put it out there on y people have a problem with cancer.I said it in my last comment on how u never told the guy u thought he was cheating. If u did say it to him how it be a problem, I thought in a relationship u are allow to be open in real and honest.y should anyone hold shit in of what they feel ,in your case u had alrite to tell him that this shit isn't working. I think people have more problem with the emotion behind our intention then the actual intention. Forexample if u would have came on here saying my taurus is a cheater and I left his ass and fuck him and told us that u told his ass off and left him people would have been like go girl. U told his ass . But because u was soft spoken and end it and a mature way but left him feel bad and probably stupid cause u didn't react harsh on a man that was cheating that cause some to feel piss. I think some people just don't like the fact that cancers can make u feel bad about thereselves about the shit others do wronge. We have away of showing people there flaws cause we can detect emotions and when something isn't rite. What funny is other tell u that u shouldnt have express the way u felt about this sistuation u should have delt with a cheater or don't asume shit about a guy who wasn't giving u wat u need. Or u shouldn't even came on this board telling us how u felt .I also believe when a cancer complain because the way we complain sound like winin to others so they don't take it serous.example I can say and a soft and hurt voice that I can't believe he did this to me, I'm really hurt by that,I can go on talking about how wronge he is and
When i commented on this thread i was talking about how Cancers operate... nothing to do with Moodz situation with this Taurus. I don't/didn't know the history and personally who cares because I thought the thread was about Cancers... maybe I missed something.
The 'emotional dig' from a Cancer does not have to be spoken. It often is unconscious. It can be subtle, indirect or can manifest in the form of a look. The fact is we 'trigger' an emotional response in people. They usually are unaware of why they are feeling this way and that is why they can respond in such a defensive manner.
Example: I can be speaking to a group of 3 people. I can be telling person #1 about how i caught my boss cheating his employees and how I called him out and threatened to sue him if he doesn't cut it out. What will happen? Person #2 (who doesn't know my boss) will get all mad and start talking about how maybe my boss thinks this, or is having a tough time or is on serious meds that make him forget how to act like a decent human. Why is person #2 reacting like this? Because I've touched a nerve over a completely unrelating event in their life and they are feeling guilty about it.
We can dig emotions out of people.... no need for a shovel.
The 'emotional dig' from a Cancer does not have to be spoken. It often is unconscious. It can be subtle, indirect or can manifest in the form of a look. The fact is we 'trigger' an emotional response in people. They usually are unaware of why they are feeling this way and that is why they can respond in such a defensive manner.
Example: I can be speaking to a group of 3 people. I can be telling person #1 about how i caught my boss cheating his employees and how I called him out and threatened to sue him if he doesn't cut it out. What will happen? Person #2 (who doesn't know my boss) will get all mad and start talking about how maybe my boss thinks this, or is having a tough time or is on serious meds that make him forget how to act like a decent human. Why is person #2 reacting like this? Because I've touched a nerve over a completely unrelating event in their life and they are feeling guilty about it.
We can dig emotions out of people.... no need for a shovel.
@ shellshocker I agree with your example. Soooo many times I had just met someone and may have said six words out my mouth or said nothing act all and there was a dislike towards me. I think when we feel that someone is bullshit or feel anything about another person we have a way of projecting It out. I haven't mastered y .I did see this in other cancers ,not much with my self that ,wen we think someone is bullshit,we can have this look on our face that tell the other person that we don't be leave them. face may look stone looking and lack of interrest. I new this one cancer she was my homegirl mom. She was a fun outspoken person.she would crack jokes alway laughing like a kid. My taurus homegirl was fond of me and her mom because our intuition was very keen. But her mom had away of touching a person core. She was always diging people truth. Sometimes she would go to far.I seen her make people cry and also make people feel very stupid. As I think about it I mostly hated how she fuck with some people that didn't need to be check. And some cases I enjoy how she read people cause I seen my self. But in other ways I found her very evil the way she went about it on the wronge folks , she was the only cancer I seen that use there intuition and abilities in a bad way.
Posted by Moodz2468
Clearly this has gone too far and I'm sorry for even starting this thread. I failed in a lot of ways but what it comes down to is that I was looking out for myself... Didn't want to get hurt, didn't want to get played, and didn't want to push something that didn't feel right. I gave him the benefit of doubt and tried my best to work things out and I didn't think I pulled the guilt trip. I'm gpoing to say this again.. I never said to him in person, by text, by phone call..NEVER said to him I felt like he was messing around it was a hunch a gut feeling and I went with it. I know when I mess up and I can call myself out on my own BS but In this matter the only game player was him..
Sorry for all this
I actually don't like these kinds of threads. Reeks of insecurities and why would you want people to know that. Who cares what people think!
@moonbunny , hard headed toward ourselves. I think we hope for the world to be something that its not. I no with me I get frustrated when people are not respectful or have loyality. Or just not honest. U see people who are honest about a person appearance or just with insulting things ,but they are not honest about being a cheater,they are not honest and friendships. I person would say how ugly u r,or how bad u do something.but will not tell u that they not happy in a relationship or whatever.
On the backstabbing that u mention, yes we have this everywhere. A chick can be in your face with smiles then act your back disgrading u,I can read that, I no for me I dnt only read what u say or what u want me to see , I read your body lauguage ,the tone and your voice ,the facial expression,the way u react to things,it not only wat we project it wat other project too. Forexample I had a coworker who is a straight up hater,she comes in my area stares at my hair then say ecent you have curls in your hair mmmmhum ,she stares again and then finally say that's cute with her month twisted around,then she saids it agiain mmmm yea that real cute with that hating ass laugh afterwards. My damm sense kick in and said to my self daaamm this is a hate ass bitch. Wat the fuck was aww that shit for.when I bought it to my homegirls attention or was around they didn't even notice it or took it the same way.
On the backstabbing that u mention, yes we have this everywhere. A chick can be in your face with smiles then act your back disgrading u,I can read that, I no for me I dnt only read what u say or what u want me to see , I read your body lauguage ,the tone and your voice ,the facial expression,the way u react to things,it not only wat we project it wat other project too. Forexample I had a coworker who is a straight up hater,she comes in my area stares at my hair then say ecent you have curls in your hair mmmmhum ,she stares again and then finally say that's cute with her month twisted around,then she saids it agiain mmmm yea that real cute with that hating ass laugh afterwards. My damm sense kick in and said to my self daaamm this is a hate ass bitch. Wat the fuck was aww that shit for.when I bought it to my homegirls attention or was around they didn't even notice it or took it the same way.
Posted by LunarMaidenPosted by Moodz2468
Clearly this has gone too far and I'm sorry for even starting this thread. I failed in a lot of ways but what it comes down to is that I was looking out for myself... Didn't want to get hurt, didn't want to get played, and didn't want to push something that didn't feel right. I gave him the benefit of doubt and tried my best to work things out and I didn't think I pulled the guilt trip. I'm gpoing to say this again.. I never said to him in person, by text, by phone call..NEVER said to him I felt like he was messing around it was a hunch a gut feeling and I went with it. I know when I mess up and I can call myself out on my own BS but In this matter the only game player was him..
Sorry for all this
I actually don't like these kinds of threads. Reeks of insecurities and why would you want people to know that. Who cares what people think!click to expand
I don't think the main poster was being insecure. The most she did was showing honesty and how to aproach a situation like this.this wine up being a debate.I had got into many debate where people kept on telling me I handle something wronge when I no I done the rite thing. And seen many times when the table has turn over the have aproach the situation the same way I did but now they are right. People dig into things to find a insecure when they no the person is rite. Stay sure and confident and say fuck wat u think.she had every right to put this shit out here that's why this is a blog, for many topics
Cancer is not my least favourite sign by any means: in fact it is my favourite sign for women, and I also had a long best-friendship for many years with a Cancer male. My mother was and my sister and niece are all Cancerians so I suppose it is an energy that I am used to and therefore feel comfortable with.
As a capricorn, with cancer ascendant, I dated a cancer guy and we had a beautiful connection. But after a while, it was as if he could find bad with anything I did. Whatever I said, he directed it to himself and he felt like I was putting him down, being mean, and all that. And then he began acting distant. I had a close cancer friend of mine but we agreed it would be best not to be friends due to complications that occured between us. I have a cancer friend, she's one of my closest friends...and at times I catch her behaving in such a way that I almost understand her, but then she does something after that and I am left clueless as to what just happened. She's the type of person who will meet someone today, and she'll start getting really close to the guy, always calling him and meeting up and all that. BUT here's the part I do not understand. After about two weeks of seeing this guy non-stop, she suddenly stops seeing him. No phone calls, no explanation. Nothing. And a lot of times, the guys are left confused! I generally don't understand her behaviour, but its almost as if she sees people as disposable, when she doesn't need them, they serve no purpose for her. Another cancer friend of mine, we where really close in high school, always had long talks and had a lot in common...and then he began saying things that did not make sense, like I would tell him a joke, and he would look at me and say 'you really think I'm that dumb huh?' And he was being serious. Cancer is great. Most times I they are people you can generally get along with. But here is where they fail. Cancer wants to be loved, they want attention like crazy, and if you do not give it to them, you are scratched off the list. The one thing I don't get. You guys are honest no doubt. That's great. But to a certain point, its almost as if you love and hate people in one go. Your mind betrays you cancer. A lot of times. You need to know that not everyone is out to hurt you. I don't know why, but I feel as though cancer can have love and hate for someone in a heartbeat,and it annoys a person.
You let your own mind run away with you a lot of times, thinking about backstabbers and manipulators. Most of the time,you wrap yourselves around your own crazy manipulation illusions. Not everyone is out to get you.
You let your own mind run away with you a lot of times, thinking about backstabbers and manipulators. Most of the time,you wrap yourselves around your own crazy manipulation illusions. Not everyone is out to get you.
If a guy is into you, then he has to break through defence barrier after barrier, go to crazy lengths to prove his love, because to you,the smallest thing can make you feel so insecure. You almost feast on insecurity. People getting close to you? The cancers I know will get to know a person properly, and then one day just decide that they are being manipulated or are not being valued as friends. In the same heartbeat,you love a person and can hate them. In the same way, you have open hearts and try to be kind to people,many of you have idealistic values and ideals, but most times you are busy preparing in advance for the time a person does you wrong or dislikes you. Cancer, you are always the victim. It's always about you. How you are not being appreciated, how people don't like you,how people must show their worth to you,how you must be treated,how you are so honest and people cannot appreciate you, how you are always the one with good intentions and how people often try to manipulate you. Cancer. The world will give you what you seek. And most times, you do not see what is really going on because you are so caught up in yourself. If you expect to see red everywhere you go, you will definitely see red everywhere. If you concentrate on a particular object, that's all you will see and notice all day. IF YOU APPROACH A NEW SITUATION ALL THE TIME WITH A GOOD HEART WHILE EXPECTING THE WORST,GUESS WHAT YOU WILL GET IN THE END? I bet after this a lot of you will feel like you're being attacked...but the truth is, once you get outta yourself a little, you will not feel the need to always project things onto yourself. They say we see other people the same way we see ourselves. What you notice in others, you hold within youself* cancer.
@lielaxxlovez I agree to a point. I believe that a lot of wat u said is true. A lot of the thing u said was very different from wat I am but I do relate to a lot of what u said also. U talk about how cancers close up at a certain point of noing someone that have a lot to do with a cancer don't want to be hurt so they go into there shells. On to the cancers retrieving in shell, most of the times many cancers have been hurt in there life more then onces and will do anything to try to stay away frm that pain. I do agree with projection and positive thinking and if sometimes u go into sistuation thinking bad ,bad will happen,but that's changing how u think or going at the sistuation it doenst change wats there. I do agree with watching your thoughts and how they are affecting u. But doing this doesn't hange some of the truth we see but it change how we react to it, which this is one of my things I had taught my self because my intuition cause me to be frustrated and disapointed of the things I have seen. Cancer have to watch there react towards our intuition.what I mean is to get frustrates ,piss, sad , mad to the point it get us down. That's why we train ourselves to in the shell and come out with something new. I do add what sometimes take people a weeks to years too see,we can sometimes see it in a feww hours. Like someone said this shit can be such a curse sometimes.
U talk about how your friend date someone then drop them. I'm a victim of that. If I see any red signs I would be the one to leave so quick, and my homegirls use to get on me saying that I'm never going to be happy and so on. Yes with me a man or a friend have to do a lot to make me gain any trust frm them ,y because I believe there boundaries that u shouldn't cross . There's a trust u should have with people that u keep close and act any moment u do something that's against that then u prove that u are not that type of person. Cancers don't forget we always listen and observing even when we not trying to. The intuition part of us do not stop. A lot u have said was true
U talk about how your friend date someone then drop them. I'm a victim of that. If I see any red signs I would be the one to leave so quick, and my homegirls use to get on me saying that I'm never going to be happy and so on. Yes with me a man or a friend have to do a lot to make me gain any trust frm them ,y because I believe there boundaries that u shouldn't cross . There's a trust u should have with people that u keep close and act any moment u do something that's against that then u prove that u are not that type of person. Cancers don't forget we always listen and observing even when we not trying to. The intuition part of us do not stop. A lot u have said was true
@intriguedscorp I don't no its something he is reading off of u. Some cancers are sooo bad with this,the ones that are ,I believe had a hurt pass. U keep doing wat u doing if its the right thing then a cancer would see. If they don't see then move on there's nothing u can do. I been in plenty relationship being a cancer myself and people told me that I can't be convince I'm too hard on them. And they moved on .some character I just can't take and some people are who they are but its hard to see thru intention sometimes. Just be yourself and maybe cancer will come a long.
Intriguedscorp , yea that make a lot of sense,glad u said that u can't mold yourself to make someone trust u. If u do that evenually u would slowly go back to yourself leaving the crab feeling fooled and mislead. So that's something I need to think about. But good luck on your sistuation
Ummmm....George Bush was a cancer....look at the chaos and destruction he created...then he just walked away and left others to clean up his mess....my father is a cancer and my mother a Capricorn has had to clean up after him literally and metaphorically for 45 years...and my father tends to trust the wrong people...it's like a warped outlook or something...
@acrabbycrab12. I no that's right boo get them lol
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