Worried accidentally offended cancer guy

Been dating this guy for a little over a month. We text a lot during the week and tonight we were texting and joking around. He mentioned me coming over if I wanted to and I replied that I don't respond to booty texts or calls and I'm not that kind of girl, as a joke. Unfortunately, he took me seriously and said that isn't why he asked me over and if I really tho't that way we had a problem. Of course, I was joking and said no I was really joking. Unfortunately, in text you can't tell the intonation and we joke a lot in text so I didn't think he'd take it seriously. Then I said I could come over to convince him it was a joke then he said I could if I wanted to but he was working and had to get up early. So I said that I didn't want to get in the way and he said it was probably better if I didn't come over. Now I am all freaked out b/c of what I've read about these guys personalities. He isn't totally like what I've read, but my heart has dropped to my feet and I'm scared. His last relationship had a lot of drama and I don't want him thinking I"m stirring up drama. I told him I really was sorry about the text and he said he deserved a nice dinner for that bad joke. Am I freaking out for nothing?? I think the world of him and would never think he was just using me. I am so scared right now. This is the best time I've had with anyone in a long time and I am afraid I messed it up bigtime. 😢

40, I'm late 30s. I am too afraid to try and contact him now. I def plan to let him contact me first.

Afraid.........of? He will hit you? End the relationship?

What kind of shoes do you wear when you walk on these egg shells? For goodness sake, if he is going to be THAT sensitive NOW..in early stages, imagine whats ahead for you?

I have to say I did this too recently. Lived in a lot of fear to say my truth for fear of irritating him or worse, he would leave me. I regret that immensely.

I just don't want him to think I think badly of him, that's all.
It is one of my faults, caring much about what others think and trying to keep the peace unless someone def deserves it.

Thanks, Maddy. We tend to joke a lot even in person so I was taken back by his response. Going forward I will make sure in texts that I don't say anything offensive or at least make sure it's known upfront that I was joking. I can take joking too far sometimes and not everyone understands that.

It's not that, it's that in emails/texts, tone can be misconstrued. That's all. Sometimes I've wondered about things he's texted but I wait to see what comes next b/c I figure I can't tell the context necessarily.
It's much easier in person. We crack on each other a lot, but we can see we're laughing about it.

When he said he deserved a nice dinner for the bad joke is when he "got over it". He was obviously back to joking around and it wasn't a big deal.

I suggest you stop recalling what you read about his sign and just see him for what he is. It's getting to your head too much. Astrology is just a basic guideline and not the end-all-be-all.

I'm with a cancer guy, and while he is quite cancer-y, there have been many times that he's not acted typical. It sounds like things are going good so just go with it and don't voice every analysis you have on the relationship.

So just an update . . . he texted me today and called me a troublemaker (one of the things he likes to call me affectionately) and said I'll get my punishment for last night (joking). He even admitted he'd wished he'd let me come over after all. It's all good. I'm now qualifying iffy texts since we can really have a battle of wits back and forth, in person and electronically.
Lesson learned for both of us.