@victoriagemini
10 Years
wtf is his problem?
Understanding Why He Likes Your Photos Now
His increased likes may indicate lingering feelings or a need for attention after his relationship change. It could also be a subconscious way of maintaining a connection. However, it doesn't necessarily mean he wants to rekindle things. Consider his actions and your feelings to interpret his intentions accurately.
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Hard saying. Were you ignoring him before? Maybe he's trying to get your attention?
Posted by thinktoomuch
Maybe he never saw this thing with you as anything romantic but just friendly, and he is just being one of your guy friends, who got a girlfriend and therefor was away for a while to get something started with her, and is just not back to his normal self being your friend?
Doesn't explain the fact we almost had sex...took me o. Dates?
Posted by cancertheropy
Hard saying. Were you ignoring him before? Maybe he's trying to get your attention?
I usually liked his photos but when I saw he's with another lady I stopped. So I don't know why he would want my attention?
Posted by thinktoomuch
is just *noW back to being his normal self and being your friend
He never acted like a friend before you know that's why its confusing..I can't be friends with him..I have feelings for him and we almost had sex. I don't get it..
Posted by thinktoomuch
Ha ha, no it sure don´t. Sorry, I couldn´t remember your story. Well, what can I say, he´s a little douchy.
Ya that's what I'm thinking too....
yeah he is douchey. Sounds like he had the same girlfriend when he was hoping to have sex with you. Imagine he picked you to be his girlfriend, he'd try to then have sex with her and possibly others too. You saved yourself another big heartbreak.
He probably didn't like your stuff before because he didn't want you to get the wrong idea, but now that you see he's with someone, he can be friendly with you now without worrying about you confusing his intentions.
Posted by Keres
He probably didn't like your stuff before because he didn't want you to get the wrong idea, but now that you see he's with someone, he can be friendly with you now without worrying about you confusing his intentions.
I mean he still liked my stuff just not every photo I posted. Now its like every photo. Wrong idea? He wanted to have sex...
Sounds to me like he's 'rubbing it in' block him or whatever you do on instgram, what an awful thing to do to someone you know really likes you ? He sounds immature, he probably felt you didn't chase after him enough or some silly nonsense like that, you sound like a sweet person, don't waste any time on idiots like him x
yes, he is def rubbing it in! But I think blocking him shows you care a lot and he wins. I would just avoid him and pretend he is nothing. Only respond hours or days later, never reach out.
@cocokat yeah I'm not blocking...just going to ignore
Posted by victoriagemini
@cocokat yeah I'm not blocking...just going to ignore
That's good, trust me, it'll REALLY get to him.. Make sure not to ever reach out or it defeats the purpose.
Bottom line, if it's bothering you you need to block him. If your profile isn't private, make it private.
It sounds to me like he trying to play games. Doesn't want you but wants your attention. Don't let him continue to hurt you, by keeping your mind and attention on him. you have control over it, and right now you're letting him get away with it.
Posted by Shellyd238
Bottom line, if it's bothering you you need to block him. If your profile isn't private, make it private.It sounds to me like he trying to play games. Doesn't want you but wants your attention. Don't let him continue to hurt you, by keeping your mind and attention on him. you have control over it, and right now you're letting him get away with it.
Posted by Keres
He probably didn't like your stuff before because he didn't want you to get the wrong idea, but now that you see he's with someone, he can be friendly with you now without worrying about you confusing his intentions.I mean he still liked my stuff just not every photo I posted. Now its like every photo. Wrong idea? He wanted to have sex...
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If you become intimate with someone and they "like" all of your shit, it'll seem like he digs you, don't you think?
Posted by Keres
He probably didn't like your stuff before because he didn't want you to get the wrong idea, but now that you see he's with someone, he can be friendly with you now without worrying about you confusing his intentions.I mean he still liked my stuff just not every photo I posted. Now its like every photo. Wrong idea? He wanted to have sex...
If you become intimate with someone and they "like" all of your shit, it'll seem like he digs you, don't you think?
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That's stupid and immature... So now that he likes every photo I'm suppose to think he likes me? Come on now
hes playing... he chose another girl to be his "girlfriend"
its obvious.
Posted by Shellyd238
Bottom line, if it's bothering you you need to block him. If your profile isn't private, make it private.It sounds to me like he trying to play games. Doesn't want you but wants your attention. Don't let him continue to hurt you, by keeping your mind and attention on him. you have control over it, and right now you're letting him get away with it.
Posted by FutureSeeker
Or "unfriend". People don't notice when that happens.
Erase him from your life. If his feelings are hurt- oh well. You don't owe him anything.
ThisThis is on Instagram.
Are crab men like this—
Posted by Keres
He probably didn't like your stuff before because he didn't want you to get the wrong idea, but now that you see he's with someone, he can be friendly with you now without worrying about you confusing his intentions.I mean he still liked my stuff just not every photo I posted. Now its like every photo. Wrong idea? He wanted to have sex...
If you become intimate with someone and they "like" all of your shit, it'll seem like he digs you, don't you think?
That's stupid and immature... So now that he likes every photo I'm suppose to think he likes me? Come on now
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That would be stupid, I agree, but that isn't what I was suggesting. A possibility that occurred to me is that someone who just wants to keep things casual won't go overboard with interacting on social media because it could be confused for interest, however when that person enters a relationship, he can then be as active on social media as he likes without creating confusion. Again, that was just one possibility I thought of.
I don't know why he's behaving the way that he is, honestly, but I can imagine it being pretty frustrating. Would you consider asking him outright and seeing what he says? (Sorry if someone already suggested that. Obviously I haven't read through the other comments.)
Posted by victoriagemini
@cocokat yeah I'm not blocking...just going to ignore
This isn't working for you, thus, the reason for this thread.
Use the block feature as the Pisces instructed.
Of course I'm hurt! But I'm not going to block him. He wants to follow me still and like photos then fine whatever...I just wanted some input as to why he's doing it still..
Posted by piscespoppy
Sounds to me like he's 'rubbing it in' block him or whatever you do on instgram, what an awful thing to do to someone you know really likes you ? He sounds immature, he probably felt you didn't chase after him enough or some silly nonsense like that, you sound like a sweet person, don't waste any time on idiots like him x
I've meet another cancer before that's similar to this. A real immature player he was. Dated someone just for the sex and broke up with her almost a year later and about a week or two later she caught him with another girl already. Then tried contacting her again.
Posted by victoriagemini
@cocokat yeah I'm not blocking...just going to ignoreThat's good, trust me, it'll REALLY get to him.. Make sure not to ever reach out or it defeats the purpose.
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It'll only get to him if he really cares. If he doesn't care that much about you then ignoring him isn't going to do much.
Posted by victoriagemini
Are crab men like this—
It pretty much shows that you're on his mind. Ignoring could make it worse as he would try to contact you even more. Just my opinion.
Posted by victoriagemini
Of course I'm hurt! But I'm not going to block him. He wants to follow me still and like photos then fine whatever...I just wanted some input as to why he's doing it still..
it doesn't matter why he's doing it, just block him or unfollow him and privatise your profile (if it hasn't put you off completely).
that's my best advice.
just no to the max.
who cares if there's a chance?
it is disrespectful to both her and his girlfriend, so based on this principle he is not a catch.
nice and simple tra la la. 🙂
Posted by thinktoomuch
Oh yeah yeah, we´re all good at saying these things on paper. I´m sure victoria would have some swift advice for her girlfriends, if they came to her with a situation like this! But what we do ourselves and what advice we take is a whole other story.Def. he does not seem like a catch to us. But I´m sure victoria feels totally different!
I know.
just trust me love, it will not be worth it. go back, while you still can. ..
She has to turn those emotions into herself, tbh, I would be angry if I was in her situation, but I would also be thinking the same as her, why is he liking my photos when he is seeing someone else...?
Sounds to me like he sees her as a back up plan, that would make me feel insulted in all honesty, which is why no matter how it hurt I would block him from my life completely and totally ignore him, it would also give him the chance to evaluate what he really wants, I mean he must be liking her pics for a reason, if blocking him out doesn't make him panic and try to get in contact, at least she knows where she stands and she can move on.
That's why my initial advice was to block him, cancer men like rock like women who don't beat about the bush, generally that's why I think us water signs feel generally safer and more comfortable with earth signs, my hubbys got Capricorn mercury and a mars in Taurus, opposed to my Pisces mercury and airies Venus, so we do have trouble communicating, he tells me how it is, how its gonna be, then I just flit off and do what I like, but not in disrespectful or nasty way, that's just me, Sagittarius mars, he is cancer in Venus btw, but with those 2 earth placements he has it helps me feel safe and secure. But if I ever have had enough of his moods or whatever I just cut him off, go to my mums yes we row cause hes also possessive, not perfect like anyone, but he is on the phone crying wanting me to come home ect within 48 hours, that's why I said, just block him, let him feel YOU know your worth,
Sorry if that's long winded x
Simply wants to prove he still got you even he has a gf..
I donno if you call it male ego or what, but immature guys do that
Posted by victoriagemini
Are crab men like this—It pretty much shows that you're on his mind. Ignoring could make it worse as he would try to contact you even more. Just my opinion.
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Maybe a stupid question....but why am I on his mind do you think?
Posted by thinktoomuch
When did you go on dates though? And nearly had sex? And how was it afterwards?´Cause maybe h just assumed, that you weren´t interested in him like that and he pulled back? Or maybe he realized, that you didn´t want sex with him, and he wanted sex in his life, so he pulled back, and now got somebody else?
Hi babe...well we only had 2 dates cuz of distance. I live on the east coast he on the west. Basically on second date we almost had sex..yes I know it was very early to get naked together but I really was attracted to him genuinely and hormones and boom it happened BUT when he wanted to get condoms I stopped him. So we did foreplay only. After that he told me he felt hurt and contacted me less although he still liked my photos from time to time. Then I texted him and he was like hey Luva, how u been and I might visit you soon and hcalled.me sweet and how he liked that. So I was trying to show him I didn't reject him per say And I was still interested just was too early for sex for me. He seemed OK and a month after that convo boom he's seeing another girl.
So I don't know if he just saw me as a girl I'm not going to get serious with because of the distance? Because almost everyone tells me if he was very into me that one time shouldn't make him pull back. And now he girlfriends someone else
Posted by thinktoomuch
Oh yeah yeah, we´re all good at saying these things on paper. I´m sure victoria would have some swift advice for her girlfriends, if they came to her with a situation like this! But what we do ourselves and what advice we take is a whole other story.Def. he does not seem like a catch to us. But I´m sure victoria feels totally different!
So true! People tell me all the time that the cancer man I'm hung up on isn't a good catch and that I need to let him go etc. etc. But for some reason I can't even though if I were my friend I'd give myself the same damn advice. I've even agreed to a fwb with him (my idea) just to keep him around. How pathetic is that? We do some pretty crazy things when we are really into someone. smh
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Girrrl I feel you! I want to let him go I do...I'm not contacting him I'm respecting his relationship... But he's not letting me go so I'm just like damn maybe there will be hope he will want me? I don't know...this is still fresh and my feelings for him are still deep. I'm foolish ya maybe but I can't help myself
Posted by piscespoppy
She has to turn those emotions into herself, tbh, I would be angry if I was in her situation, but I would also be thinking the same as her, why is he liking my photos when he is seeing someone else...?
Sounds to me like he sees her as a back up plan, that would make me feel insulted in all honesty, which is why no matter how it hurt I would block him from my life completely and totally ignore him, it would also give him the chance to evaluate what he really wants, I mean he must be liking her pics for a reason, if blocking him out doesn't make him panic and try to get in contact, at least she knows where she stands and she can move on.
That's why my initial advice was to block him, cancer men like rock like women who don't beat about the bush, generally that's why I think us water signs feel generally safer and more comfortable with earth signs, my hubbys got Capricorn mercury and a mars in Taurus, opposed to my Pisces mercury and airies Venus, so we do have trouble communicating, he tells me how it is, how its gonna be, then I just flit off and do what I like, but not in disrespectful or nasty way, that's just me, Sagittarius mars, he is cancer in Venus btw, but with those 2 earth placements he has it helps me feel safe and secure. But if I ever have had enough of his moods or whatever I just cut him off, go to my mums yes we row cause hes also possessive, not perfect like anyone, but he is on the phone crying wanting me to come home ect within 48 hours, that's why I said, just block him, let him feel YOU know your worth,
Sorry if that's long winded x
I understand what you mean..He's also cancer Venus and Taurus moon. I'm airies Venus and Leo moon. So I get attached pretty hard when I like someone because it takes a long ass time to really like a man haha so detachment for me is hard too but yeah of course I don't want to be disrespected like that. I don't want to play games and I dont want to be someones back up plan either..plus if he wants to be JUST friends he should communicate differently. But I can't be just friends with him anyway.
Posted by maomao
Simply wants to prove he still got you even he has a gf..
I donno if you call it male ego or what, but immature guys do that
He's going to be 37 this year so I can't believe he's still that immature.
Posted by Goldigold
Sounds like he is feeling guilty. And like he is really immature and doesn't know what he wants. He obviously had something going on with someone else, while you were falling for him. And when you didn't want sex, to him he was rejected he over reacted and fled to someone else. To let you know he is desired by other girls. Now he is feeling guilty. But playing major games now and he doesn't realize it.What should you do? Figure out what you want...let him go for a bit. Blocking him would make this easier. I think he thinks he made a mistake, you have to ask yourself if you want this kind of man in your life.
I am ignoring him. I used to like his photos here and there and now I ignored like 11 of them and it seems like he's playing a game because now he's blowing up my Instagram with all these likes. Its like he thinks I don't know he's with another girl officially and wants to rub in to me which is a stupid game, maybe he wants a reaction text message from me as well, and like you said he might be feeling guilty because we spoke a month before he offically girlfriend's someone else and he told me I'm sweet...miss you...might come to see you how have you been luva..so stupid me was excited about him and boom I see this on Facebook that his status changed. Ugh
Posted by dominoes
What a bunch of losers.
loserishness is in the eye of the beholder
and eyes are the windows to the soul 👀
Posted by victoriagemini
@cocokat yeah I'm not blocking...just going to ignoreThat's good, trust me, it'll REALLY get to him.. Make sure not to ever reach out or it defeats the purpose.
It'll only get to him if he really cares. If he doesn't care that much about you then ignoring him isn't going to do much.
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No hes keeping her on a string for an ego feed. She shows shes the bigger person if she doesn't care. Hes convinced "hes got her,"
Posted by Goldigold
Sounds like he is feeling guilty. And like he is really immature and doesn't know what he wants. He obviously had something going on with someone else, while you were falling for him. And when you didn't want sex, to him he was rejected he over reacted and fled to someone else. To let you know he is desired by other girls. Now he is feeling guilty. But playing major games now and he doesn't realize it.What should you do? Figure out what you want...let him go for a bit. Blocking him would make this easier. I think he thinks he made a mistake, you have to ask yourself if you want this kind of man in your life.
I am ignoring him. I used to like his photos here and there and now I ignored like 11 of them and it seems like he's playing a game because now he's blowing up my Instagram with all these likes. Its like he thinks I don't know he's with another girl officially and wants to rub in to me which is a stupid game, maybe he wants a reaction text message from me as well, and like you said he might be feeling guilty because we spoke a month before he offically girlfriend's someone else and he told me I'm sweet...miss you...might come to see you how have you been luva..so stupid me was excited about him and boom I see this on Facebook that his status changed. Ugh
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Good, you doing no contact is getting to him! that's why hes blowing up your Instagram. If he had gotten a "reaction" text from you that would be you handing over your power to him and feeding his ego. It will be similar if you block him.. Now your adding to your own power and soon you just will not care where he will go ballistic trying to seek you out.
We did have great synastry...Venus opp Pluto with him Pluto..I think this is the problem too. Also we had moon in 12 house synastry double whammy
You're both on opposites coasts of the US, and just went on 2 dates...right?
Is he with another girl..really??
You have triggered his chase reaction by ignoring him, so I would just carry on ignoring him till the truth comes out, be strong x
If your exclusive with someone its not very nice to hover constantly over someone's instagram, I mean when does he spend any time with her if this is what hes doing? Just saying, is she real?
Posted by piscespoppy
Is he with another girl..really??
You have triggered his chase reaction by ignoring him, so I would just carry on ignoring him till the truth comes out, be strong x
If your exclusive with someone its not very nice to hover constantly over someone's instagram, I mean when does he spend any time with her if this is what hes doing? Just saying, is she real?
Yes she's very real. They went on a trip together and he posts photos of her and them together.
Posted by iPootMagic
You're both on opposites coasts of the US, and just went on 2 dates...right?
Yes
Posted by iPootMagic
You're both on opposites coasts of the US, and just went on 2 dates...right?Yes
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Ok, I dont know your back story so forgive me if its been explained, ...
Did you meet online or something? Trying to make sense of the 2 dates and distance part
Posted by iPootMagic
You're both on opposites coasts of the US, and just went on 2 dates...right?Yes
Ok, I dont know your back story so forgive me if its been explained, ...
Did you meet online or something? Trying to make sense of the 2 dates and distance part
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We met through mutual friends and connected online yes
You've got a serious problem. Find a live human being who likes to actually talk to you or spend time with you.
Stop with wasting your life wondering about likes on FB and Instagram.
You're too old to be this simple.
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So crab boy made it official with that other lady that they are a couple. 😢 Anyway I'm happy for him I'm really trying to be BUT thing is he's attacking me with likes on Instagram like never before! Every damn photo he likes now. I'm not reacting...I'm ignoring him as much as I can. What's his problem? Innocent likes?,but then he never did that before when we where seeing each other..ugh