A question for all caps

Do you caps get angry if your partner,in my case,a wife,can't find a job,and all the finance depends on you??I really am trying hard,but can't find nothing...in the meantime,we are trying to have a baby..so I'm sometimes worried that he is going to reject me because I'm not making money..I'm trying to spend as less as posible..please tell me your opinion

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Posted by merima
Do you caps get angry if your partner,in my case,a wife,can't find a job,and all the finance depends on you??I really am trying hard,but can't find nothing...in the meantime,we are trying to have a baby..so I'm sometimes worried that he is going to reject me because I'm not making money..I'm trying to spend as less as posible..please tell me your opinion

Try to put off having a baby until you're more financially stable.

Posted by merima
Do you caps get angry if your partner,in my case,a wife,can't find a job,and all the finance depends on you??I really am trying hard,but can't find nothing...in the meantime,we are trying to have a baby..so I'm sometimes worried that he is going to reject me because I'm not making money..I'm trying to spend as less as posible..please tell me your opinion

Talk to him about your concerns. It's the right thing to do.

My boyfriend doesn't like to see me lazing about too much without working on something during the time when I'm not at work. He is so busy creatively, that he fans my creative flames. Jammy and Snuggles Day On the Couch is different but not every day. Not Working does not mean being idle and not being productive. Fill your time with productivity, and you will feel great! 😄 If your man is anything like my saggicorn/cap (saggicorn), he'll even consider art and music as being productive.

thank u...I asked him,and his answer was:"but u are productive,u are cooking,cleaning,going to store,etc...be patient,we will find a job for u"...I was working when we got married,but quit cause my boss wanted to replace me with his cousin who needed a job...😢( so,I feel like shit...

Posted by merima
thank u...I asked him,and his answer was:"but u are productive,u are cooking,cleaning,going to store,etc...be patient,we will find a job for u"...I was working when we got married,but quit cause my boss wanted to replace me with his cousin who needed a job...😢( so,I feel like shit...

relax 🙂

As truecap says, I would wait having a baby until financially stable. I don't know if you already are with his income, ofc, but...yeah.

I would be very irritated if I felt my partner didn't try to get a job and/or didn't do any work at home, not otherwise. Seems you are really trying, so as long as it's not forever, which I'm sure it won't be, I would be fine.

guys,thanks a lot :-))) really,really,thank u :-))

Posted by merima
guys,thanks a lot :-))) really,really,thank u :-))

the real question is HOW MUCH YA CAP EARNING ?


$ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $

I don't think he's as worried about it as you are.

But I'm sure he appreciated your concern for him about it.

Oh ...they are grumpy :p

Always want to see you doing something useful or productive... can be anything but, it should look like you are *investing* time in something worthy.

My dad never had problem. It was my mom who always went to take courses or study, but dad would be like "dude, you need not work.. won't you miss napping for 3 hours every afternoon?" xD

My brother-in-law too. My cousin was working until marriage, then, she had to move to a different city and while settling down there and all, she got pregnant. But he too does not insist on her working, or anything.

Did he say anytime? That he wants you to work? You are looking for job right =)

@merima
I don't mind if you don't get a Job outside.
The house is your job and the Baby will be too.
I'll be glad reaching home and everything clean and sharp, and the Baby cared by you.

Posted by RumiL
Oh ...they are grumpy :p

Always want to see you doing something useful or productive... can be anything but, it should look like you are *investing* time in something worthy.

My dad never had problem. It was my mom who always went to take courses or study, but dad would be like "dude, you need not work.. won't you miss napping for 3 hours every afternoon?" xD

My brother-in-law too. My cousin was working until marriage, then, she had to move to a different city and while settling down there and all, she got pregnant. But he too does not insist on her working, or anything.

Did he say anytime? That he wants you to work? You are looking for job right =)

no,he never forced me to work or talked about that.I asked him today,he said:"That is your desicion,money is always needed.."but he said that so gently and calmed,I guess he realizes hiw much I am worried about that..

Posted by merima

Posted by RumiL
Oh ...they are grumpy :p

Always want to see you doing something useful or productive... can be anything but, it should look like you are *investing* time in something worthy.

My dad never had problem. It was my mom who always went to take courses or study, but dad would be like "dude, you need not work.. won't you miss napping for 3 hours every afternoon?" xD

My brother-in-law too. My cousin was working until marriage, then, she had to move to a different city and while settling down there and all, she got pregnant. But he too does not insist on her working, or anything.

Did he say anytime? That he wants you to work? You are looking for job right =)

no,he never forced me to work or talked about that.I asked him today,he said:"That is your desicion,money is always needed.."but he said that so gently and calmed,I guess he realizes hiw much I am worried about that..

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Dont worry then! 🙂

He too realises that you could get pregnant before finding a job.. I mean... Yeah, but he isn't saying anything so.. Maybe whatever happens first, he has no issues!(pregnancy or job)

A cap will think 10 years ahead...they have like a road map... So, dont worry ‚ atleast in big things like pregnancy etc he will make it clear to you what he wants! 🙂

Posted by merima
thank u...I asked him,and his answer was:"but u are productive,u are cooking,cleaning,going to store,etc...be patient,we will find a job for u"...I was working when we got married,but quit cause my boss wanted to replace me with his cousin who needed a job...😢( so,I feel like shit...

Cooking everything from scratch saves a LOT of money.

Posted by merima
thank u...I asked him,and his answer was:"but u are productive,u are cooking,cleaning,going to store,etc...be patient,we will find a job for u"...I was working when we got married,but quit cause my boss wanted to replace me with his cousin who needed a job...😢( so,I feel like shit...

Cooking everything from scratch saves a LOT of money.

I am trying my best to cook good,cause he likes food very much!!! :-))

i personally enjoy cooking and loves good food. maybe you can time it so perfectly so as soon as he walks in from a long day at work, an appetizer with a refreshing beverage welcome him! and dinner soon after!

i'm sure he will see a value of having you at home 😉

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Posted by merima
thank u...I asked him,and his answer was:"but u are productive,u are cooking,cleaning,going to store,etc...be patient,we will find a job for u"...I was working when we got married,but quit cause my boss wanted to replace me with his cousin who needed a job...😢( so,I feel like shit...

Cooking everything from scratch saves a LOT of money.

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Really?

My sister's best friend is a Cap and her husband hasn't been able to find a steady job for about 6+yrs now. She finally broke down last week and ended up in the hospital. They have a daughter and EVERYTHING has been on the Cap for years now.

My Cap friend is married and his wife doesn't work. His ex wife didn't either, but it seems he stressed it more with his ex wife. I think since his current wife is in school, to him, it feels she's being productive.

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Posted by merima
guys,thanks a lot :-))) really,really,thank u :-))

the real question is HOW MUCH YA CAP EARNING ?


$ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $ $

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this is the big question.


OP, if your man is struggling you NEED to help him financially. and having children should be out of the picture because if you can't afford it, then most people go to welfare, or social services to get extra $ $ $ help from the government.