Are cappies a bit misers ?

Just out of curiosity are you people a bit misers ? this may not be a bad thing but I have noticed this with all the cappies I know

What?

my cap lover is really good about his money.He will give me an allowance and got me a really nice laptop but he tells me that he won't go out to places without me and makes sure he spends money on things he needs

my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Posted by fugu2
my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

Same here lol. How is he when it comes to spending on you ? And what are his other placements ?

Posted by sugarplumeow
my cap lover is really good about his money.He will give me an allowance and got me a really nice laptop but he tells me that he won't go out to places without me and makes sure he spends money on things he needs

Wow you are lucky 🙂

May I ask His other placements ?

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I'm careful with money in some areas so I can splurge in others. It's all about balance.

When it comes to spending money on other people, it depends. I make sure my kids have everything they need and a lot of what they want, but I don't wanna spoil them to the point they start to expect the unreasonable or the unrealistic from people. They need to know the value of a dollar.

And I love being in a position where I can help people. I'm charitable with time and money, but I'll not give blindly to something that can't show me results.

Just like any resource, money should be used wisely.

That sounds good. You aren't anywhere near miser. You are just careful I like that

I find Caps complain about EVERYTHING. Drives me nuts, they not happy unless they are complaining about something! Those that do spend like to brag about how much they spend imho

My cap spends a lot of money on himself. He also buys me dinner and drinks a lot. I always either ask or tell him it's my turn to pay. He doesn't let me pay often, but he has a few times for drinks. He usually always buys me the very next drink. I think that has something to do with his ego, like wanting to be the supporter. However I do think he appreciates that I offer because it shows I'm not looking for someone to support me financially. It shows I'm independent.

So offer to buy him something. See what he does.

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Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Does he have it to spend? I have those placements & I spoil unintentionally

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Yes he have. He saves his money in his bank account. He told me about that. Recently he purchased a very expensive android phone and other accessories

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Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Does he have it to spend? I have those placements & I spoil unintentionally

Yes he have. He saves his money in his bank account. He told me about that. Recently he purchased a very expensive android phone and other accessories

I think he stopped because of the initial conversation

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Yeah maybe. I said No just because I didn't want him to think that I am with him for such things because I have seen many girls using there guys for there money so I didn't want him to think about me that way. I wanted to show him the independent girl I am. But now when we are committed and all I just want him to do such little things for me to make me feel special. I am not at all a gold digger and its not about money I have my own money and I can buy any thing I want but I just want him to be a bit thoughtful But I cannot ask him directly to buy me things It should come from his heart

Posted by Foreverloveme
Tip of the day:

When a man wants to spend on you, the appropriate thing to say is "thank you" 🙂

That's it. Don't argue with him or insist for him not to do it.

Lol yeah. Learned it the hard way 😛

Depends but am very generous to partners family and close friends.....

The cap i m dating pays for 90% of our dates, but we r both practical soo nothing too fancy

the caps around me are generous

being miser is probably due to some other placements. scorp with virgo moon + rising is a bit of a miser to himself. he is not as into pretty things as some cap is lol. his nice outfits are all from me. he pays for BIG items without being prompted though that is cool and manly lol

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Posted by fugu2
my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

Same here lol. How is he when it comes to spending on you ? And what are his other placements ?

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He's always very generous with me. Not that I take advantage, esp because I'm pretty good with money too, even though I'm not thrifty to HIS extreme. 😛

he's a Scorpio sun/saturn/pluto, moon in Libra, rising in Taurus.

Hell naw, we're not misers at all. We're thrifty with our money, but not cheap.

For example, I'm going on a picnic this weekend. I offered to bring the food, and he's going to bring the wine. I'm making the food, instead of buying it to save on money, for other things/dates.

I don't know, imo making and bringing the food is fun and more intimate, and I'll find out if he likes my cooking. *shrugs*

@Scorpmoon sure. He is a Capricorn ,Capricorn rising with an Aqua moon a Leo Mars, A pisces mercery ,a Jupiter Virgo, A venus Scorpio and A Scorpio midheaven

Wow All the other Capricorns are generous towards the one they love. Its just me who doesn't deserve anything 😢

Any suggestions on how to approach him since I said no in the beginning ?

Posted by Foreverloveme
Direct, straight forward & ask.

When you're out, ask him to purchase what it is you want. All he'll do is say yes or no

He won't say 'no' infact he will never say no I know that. Its just that I don't want to compel him and I don't want to be that direct either. Any other subtle way ?

Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm still trying to figure out what it is you want him to spend his money on exactly? Especially if you're talking walks in the park, etc...

I just want him to get me little things that shows he cares about me. something as simple as a popcorn or icecream or a chocolate. last time when we met I was thirsty and I didn't even had a breakfast that day we spend almost 5 hours together but I came back home thirsty and hungry. He didn't even ask me. Sometimes I cook for him and we eat together If I don't cook I come back home with the same dry mouth

There are shops and bakeries nearby but he doesn't bother

Posted by iCloud9
the caps around me are generous

being miser is probably due to some other placements. scorp with virgo moon + rising is a bit of a miser to himself. he is not as into pretty things as some cap is lol. his nice outfits are all from me. he pays for BIG items without being prompted though that is cool and manly lol

Yes He has some scorpio in his chart but I thought its because he is a cappy sun and venus because they are very practical

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Posted by fugu2
my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

Same here lol. How is he when it comes to spending on you ? And what are his other placements ?

He's always very generous with me. Not that I take advantage, esp because I'm pretty good with money too, even though I'm not thrifty to HIS extreme. 😛

he's a Scorpio sun/saturn/pluto, moon in Libra, rising in Taurus.

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He spends on you that's what matters the most 🙂

Posted by Greentea
Hell naw, we're not misers at all. We're thrifty with our money, but not cheap.

For example, I'm going on a picnic this weekend. I offered to bring the food, and he's going to bring the wine. I'm making the food, instead of buying it to save on money, for other things/dates.

I don't know, imo making and bringing the food is fun and more intimate, and I'll find out if he likes my cooking. *shrugs*

You are making food instead of buying that is still very thoughtful of you. I myself don't spend frivolously Its just small things that shows care

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Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm still trying to figure out what it is you want him to spend his money on exactly? Especially if you're talking walks in the park, etc...

I just want him to get me little things that shows he cares about me. something as simple as a popcorn or icecream or a chocolate. last time when we met I was thirsty and I didn't even had a breakfast that day we spend almost 5 hours together but I came back home thirsty and hungry. He didn't even ask me. Sometimes I cook for him and we eat together If I don't cook I come back home with the same dry mouth

-_- at both of you lol

I can be single minded sometimes. For example people will ask if I want something to drink more often than I ask them because it doesn't register to me unless I'm getting something for myself. I'm too caught up in just staying in the moment & enjoying the other person's company

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Lol yeah maybe he is too indulged in the moment that he forget to buy anything Maybe its a good thing. I really wanna stay positive

Posted by pinkbird03
My cap spends a lot of money on himself. He also buys me dinner and drinks a lot. I always either ask or tell him it's my turn to pay. He doesn't let me pay often, but he has a few times for drinks. He usually always buys me the very next drink. I think that has something to do with his ego, like wanting to be the supporter. However I do think he appreciates that I offer because it shows I'm not looking for someone to support me financially. It shows I'm independent.

So offer to buy him something. See what he does.

That's a good idea. Next time when we will go out I will ask him if wants me to get him something to eat

My cappy is a miser in some ways like we went on a bar and he ordered 2 pints of beer for him and 1 for me and a pound of chicken wings. The chicken wings is so good I want more and he said okey we will get one again when the waitress comes by but the she passed us several times already and he did not say anything so I just let it go and makes me laugh coz everytime we go out he is like that. Of course I pay sometimes when we go out.

But when it comes to giving gifts to me, I can say he is not a miser at all, he gave me an apple 6, with all the accesories, Iwatch, ipod and an hermes bracelet.

Frugal.

I save and don't spend unless I have to. However, I believe in quality and will spend a lot on certain items.

Posted by sugarplumeow
my cap lover is really good about his money.He will give me an allowance and got me a really nice laptop but he tells me that he won't go out to places without me and makes sure he spends money on things he needs

An allowance?

Is he your boyfriend or your sugar daddy?

Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Sounds like you get good quality time. That's more important than material things.

Posted by pinkbird03
My cap spends a lot of money on himself. He also buys me dinner and drinks a lot. I always either ask or tell him it's my turn to pay. He doesn't let me pay often, but he has a few times for drinks. He usually always buys me the very next drink. I think that has something to do with his ego, like wanting to be the supporter. However I do think he appreciates that I offer because it shows I'm not looking for someone to support me financially. It shows I'm independent.

So offer to buy him something. See what he does.

This.

I'm not spending on anyone who isn't willing to spend on me as well.

Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme

Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Does he have it to spend? I have those placements & I spoil unintentionally

Yes he have. He saves his money in his bank account. He told me about that. Recently he purchased a very expensive android phone and other accessories

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A man with a savings account....my kind of man! 😉

Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme

Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme

Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Does he have it to spend? I have those placements & I spoil unintentionally

Yes he have. He saves his money in his bank account. He told me about that. Recently he purchased a very expensive android phone and other accessories

I think he stopped because of the initial conversation

Yeah maybe. I said No just because I didn't want him to think that I am with him for such things because I have seen many girls using there guys for there money so I didn't want him to think about me that way. I wanted to show him the independent girl I am. But now when we are committed and all I just want him to do such little things for me to make me feel special. I am not at all a gold digger and its not about money I have my own money and I can buy any thing I want but I just want him to be a bit thoughtful But I cannot ask him directly to buy me things It should come from his heart

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When I'm with my man, I don't ask or expect him to buy me stuff. If I see something I want, I just buy it myself.

Posted by scorpmoon
Wow All the other Capricorns are generous towards the one they love. Its just me who doesn't deserve anything 😢

Any suggestions on how to approach him since I said no in the beginning ?

Don't.

It sounds whiney and materialistic.

Appreciate what he does do for you. Stop focusing on what he doesn't do.

Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme
Direct, straight forward & ask.

When you're out, ask him to purchase what it is you want. All he'll do is say yes or no

He won't say 'no' infact he will never say no I know that. Its just that I don't want to compel him and I don't want to be that direct either. Any other subtle way ?

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Men don't pick up on subtlety. Be direct or don't say anything.

Posted by scorpmoon

Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm still trying to figure out what it is you want him to spend his money on exactly? Especially if you're talking walks in the park, etc...

I just want him to get me little things that shows he cares about me. something as simple as a popcorn or icecream or a chocolate. last time when we met I was thirsty and I didn't even had a breakfast that day we spend almost 5 hours together but I came back home thirsty and hungry. He didn't even ask me. Sometimes I cook for him and we eat together If I don't cook I come back home with the same dry mouth

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Smdh.

That's your fault for not speaking up.

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Posted by fugu2
my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

Same here lol. How is he when it comes to spending on you ? And what are his other placements ?

He's always very generous with me. Not that I take advantage, esp because I'm pretty good with money too, even though I'm not thrifty to HIS extreme. 😛

he's a Scorpio sun/saturn/pluto, moon in Libra, rising in Taurus.

He spends on you that's what matters the most 🙂

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Seriously—

Your cap spends time with you. THAT'S what matters the most.

Would you rather have someone who buys you things but doesn't spend any quality time with you?

@Truecap Ya caught me he's my daddy

A woman who puts the worth of a relationship on the amount of money their partner spends on them, isn't worth having a relationship with.

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Posted by pinkbird03
My cap spends a lot of money on himself. He also buys me dinner and drinks a lot. I always either ask or tell him it's my turn to pay. He doesn't let me pay often, but he has a few times for drinks. He usually always buys me the very next drink. I think that has something to do with his ego, like wanting to be the supporter. However I do think he appreciates that I offer because it shows I'm not looking for someone to support me financially. It shows I'm independent.

So offer to buy him something. See what he does.

This.

I'm not spending on anyone who isn't willing to spend on me as well.

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I have and I will spend on him. I usually cook for him.

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Posted by Foreverloveme

Posted by scorpmoon
All replies are different. I am confused lol. I am dating a Capricorn guy and he is very miser when it comes to spending on me. Whenever we go out on dates (Walks or in parks because we don't like crowded restaurants) He never buys anything for us. During the initial stages when he asked to buy something for us, I (In courtesy) said no and now he doesn't buy any thing I cook for him sometimes but he doesn't spend his money on us 😢

He is Sun and Venus both in Capricorn

Does he have it to spend? I have those placements & I spoil unintentionally

Yes he have. He saves his money in his bank account. He told me about that. Recently he purchased a very expensive android phone and other accessories

A man with a savings account....my kind of man! 😉

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Lol yeah he is good in all the other things and has a good taste but no one is perfect so I have accepted him for who he is I was just looking for a bit advice

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Posted by fugu2
my hub is a cap venus, and oh my god yes.

we were at an arcade a few weeks ago, and one machine ate his quarter.

that fool insisted on waiting in a long line for customer service for 45 minutes. for a god damn quarter.

another time, he dug around in a dumpster for a $ 0.50 discount coupon for a quiznos sandwich he accidentally threw out. smh

i tease him a lot for things like that lol..

but he didn't grow up with money, and grew up in Russia.

Same here lol. How is he when it comes to spending on you ? And what are his other placements ?

He's always very generous with me. Not that I take advantage, esp because I'm pretty good with money too, even though I'm not thrifty to HIS extreme. 😛

he's a Scorpio sun/saturn/pluto, moon in Libra, rising in Taurus.

He spends on you that's what matters the most 🙂

Seriously—

Your cap spends time with you. THAT'S what matters the most.

Would you rather have someone who buys you things but doesn't spend any quality time with you?

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Oh no, You got me wrong fugu2 was saying that her cap is also very miser but he does spends on her. That's why I said "doesn't matter if he is a miser if he is generous with you"

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm still trying to figure out what it is you want him to spend his money on exactly? Especially if you're talking walks in the park, etc...

I just want him to get me little things that shows he cares about me. something as simple as a popcorn or icecream or a chocolate. last time when we met I was thirsty and I didn't even had a breakfast that day we spend almost 5 hours together but I came back home thirsty and hungry. He didn't even ask me. Sometimes I cook for him and we eat together If I don't cook I come back home with the same dry mouth

You had no breakfast and you were thirsty and hungry

for 5 hours, so why didn't you speak up and say something like:



I'm really thirsty (or hungry), do you want to get something to drink/eat ?

Then if he offers to pay, graciously accept. If he doesn't offer, pay for yourself.

I'm baffled that you go home thirsty and hungry.



If you see a treat you want point it out and say something like:

Ooh that looks divine, I want one!

A gentleman will pay and

if he doesn't, then pay for it yourself.

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Yeah that was my mistake i didn't speak up because I thought if will say something like I am hungry or thirsty he will think that I want HIM to buy something for me. Thanks for the advice Next time I will buy something myself.

Posted by truecap


A woman who puts the worth of a relationship on the amount of money their partner spends on them, isn't worth having a relationship with.

I never said that I have put the worth of my relationship on money I believe in traditional roles of men and women so I was expecting him to SOMETIMES pay for me like a gentleman. And Its not even about money I have enough of my own and I can buy whatever I want its about showing care and being thoughtful like I put forth effort to cook for him to show him that I care for him. Its these little things that makes a relationship more beautiful. Money is nothing for me its just being thoughtful and making me feel special. Even something as simple as plucking a rose and giving it to me would win my heart. Please don't misunderstand me its not about money

Posted by Skye


When you cook,

who is paying for the groceries?

Me of course. I plan dishes as a surprise for him

Posted by Caplove
It sounds like the way he shows his love is not the way you do, thus the disatisfaction. He likes quality time and you like gifts. You remind me of one of my sisters, she loves little tokens of affection.. They don't have to be big but they do have to be a gift/token like you describe (popcorn, soda, homemade card, etc). If she doesn't get that she's not happy. How long have you been together?

Quality time is the biggest thing for me as well its on the top of the list but yes I do appreciate small gestures. btw you hit the nail on its head on "homemade cards". That's where my weakness lies I want him to put some thought and effort for me like I do for him. I even gave him a homemade card on his last birthday.

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Posted by truecap


A woman who puts the worth of a relationship on the amount of money their partner spends on them, isn't worth having a relationship with.

I never said that I have put the worth of my relationship on money I believe in traditional roles of men and women so I was expecting him to SOMETIMES pay for me like a gentleman. And Its not even about money I have enough of my own and I can buy whatever I want its about showing care and being thoughtful like I put forth effort to cook for him to show him that I care for him. Its these little things that makes a relationship more beautiful. Money is nothing for me its just being thoughtful and making me feel special. Even something as simple as plucking a rose and giving it to me would win my heart. Please don't misunderstand me its not about money

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Did he even bring wine /chocolates/flowers when he came over for dinner?

Because if he didn't then he's certainly a tight wad indeed and that would be a huge turn off for me that someone didn't appreciate the fact that I've gone to some efforts to cook him a meal and he turned up empty handed??..

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Posted by truecap


A woman who puts the worth of a relationship on the amount of money their partner spends on them, isn't worth having a relationship with.

I never said that I have put the worth of my relationship on money I believe in traditional roles of men and women so I was expecting him to SOMETIMES pay for me like a gentleman. And Its not even about money I have enough of my own and I can buy whatever I want its about showing care and being thoughtful like I put forth effort to cook for him to show him that I care for him. Its these little things that makes a relationship more beautiful. Money is nothing for me its just being thoughtful and making me feel special. Even something as simple as plucking a rose and giving it to me would win my heart. Please don't misunderstand me its not about money

Did he even bring wine /chocolates/flowers when he came over for dinner?

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No just once in the beginning of the relationship he bought chocolate for me and that was it 😢