Cap disappearing act (Page 2)

Posted by tiki33
I don't recommend you contact him.

He's the one doing the disappearing so give him wants, let him disappear..

Pretending to not care when you do care will not work.

Reaching out to him when he chose to disappear will reek of desperation plus chasing a man for contact of any kind for any reason when he's consciously chosen to disappear never goes over well, it's like cornering an animal, fight or flight, give you excuses as to why he's been unavailable just to get out of that uncomfortable space which ends in him continuing the disappearing act and you feeling more rejected, it's not worth it.

Reaching out will not bring closure and will not stop the feelings of rejection. It's a lose lose situation for you.

It's important to not be controlling as in wanting closure/contact when he's chosen to disappear. Let him go if he wants to go.

Accepting the disappearing act is much easier than sitting around for weeks dwelling over something you have absolutely no control over.

The disappearing in itself is the closure. Now you have to decide to close the door not because you want to but because you have to.

This is about self preservation at this point. The more you dwell on something you can't control the situation will control you, it will control your time, control your energy, control your happiness and the only thing you can control is you, you can control how you're going to be going forward.

My suggestion would be go out and have fun, go out and notice men checking you out, get your feet wet a little, flirt a little, maybe even go out on several dates and make it a point to enjoy yourself, if that's not possible then get busy, get so busy that you're so exhausted at the end of the day he's no longer a factor in your daily life.

Write out a list of what you're going to do each day after work. Fill your hours with activities, if you find yourself drifting off mentally get up and walk backwards, if you're walking one way then turn and walk in the other direction, put a rubber band on your wrist and every time you drift off mentally snap the rubber band. This guy was a significant part of your life for so many months and because he suddenly pulled out your brain is having a hard time processing the break because it was so sudden.

It takes an active conscious effort to purge him out of your daily life, it's hard no doubt but it can

Posted by SunMoonStars
If he went from a lot of contact to zero contact, AND said that stuff about being "needy" then I think he's not that into you, I'm sorry.

If a Cap is into you, he will make time and not let things go too long without checking on you.
Words are cheap though and unless there's a commitment, he can change his mind as can you!