Cappi driving 53 hours on motorcycle to see me... (Page 2)

NooooOOOOoooo, venus in gem EVIL!!! lol F, NO WAY do I want a double life. I am f'ing hating this situation, and next time, I won't move in with a bf until I'm married so i never have to go through this EVER again!

Not going to sleep with capp until done with scorp if that's what I decide. It's also something I want cap to know, as I want to prove that I'm not one to sleep around when with someone. Yes, emotional affair, but it's not something I will carry on. It's a situation that will be dealt with either way.

Oh, and a reply to the earlier comment, yes, woman have become evil too! lol You made us that way. 😉

haha, yeah relationships are not what they used to be years ago. :S
My parents are still together after 40 years, I respect that so much.

Yep the best relationships last for like 5 seconds. Pump, pump, pump.

was my question overlooked or just simply ignored?

1) I beg your pardon...

Posted by euroar
I think you should jump in bed with him to see if you have deeper feelings... Sorry if I sound like a cheater/etc... but if you can't get him out of your mind you won't get him out of your mind if you haven't done anything with him. At least after it give you a better idea without your hormones interfering. Sorry guys for my very very out there response..

2) When I find the right one I will commit to her. What scares me is that I won't be able to trust her because deep down inside she might be someone like you.

3) I'm older than you.

Nice acronym I was just going to start saying Hou -.-

In the other thread you said you had plans of driving 6hrs(?)to go and see him if/when he moved closer so you could meet him face to face. It seems that now since he's coming to see you, things are switching and you don't seem as sure as before. Why are you prolonging the break-up from the Scorpio? Whether the Cap comes or not you've stated that your relationship is pretty much dead with him, so end it. It seems you are trying to play this in a way to where you don't lose and have someone to fall back on. If you really felt the Cap was your soulmate it doesn't seem like you'd be hesitant here. Also, like Pidelight said, if he's driving that far he's going to want a clear answer. All of that "I don't want to be pressured" can be said over the phone. If you need more time with the Scorpio tell the Cap. This is a sticky situation, but you might as well go for it because its the wrong two guys to be wedged between.

I'm thinking the Cap is doing this for him. Either answer(yes or no) will work for him, as it seem he just needs to hear something to either get it going or move on. Its all in your hands.

"It seems you are trying to play this in a way to where you don't lose and have someone to fall back on."

😢 ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I HATE THIS. Because I've always had Cap in my head, but love scorp. My selfishness and stress is making me look like a fool.

I have often thought that me & scorp were not forever. I just, ffffff, I'm a bull and I hate change so I stood by his side and loved him even though I wasn't always happy.

Now reality is thrown in my face, realty of someone that gets me, someone that loves me, that is willing to take a risk.

BUT, am I willing to? I gotta get my bull legs kicked out from under me to get up and be a true woman, dammit!

everevolvingepithet, you don't think i deserve to be with any man?? Isn't that cruel.

I've had three 3+ year relationships & have NEVER cheated. I stand by my man, until he leaves or until I do. We are all searching for what we want in life. Some people take 1 try, others take many more. As long as we're learning along the way, no? I've never been in this situation before. It really is not enjoyable, but it really is something I need to address, even without cappi in the equation.

aww, ok, cool. That's just the way I really have to address scorp, by being true to myself & him. Make it about US, whether WE are right for each other. If I do it that way, I will be able to look myself in the mirror at the end of the day.

Posted by ArticleL
Nice acronym I was just going to start saying Hou -.-

In my heyday, I was known around here at HP74, so nothing new to me. 🙂

Posted by taurusgoddess
"It seems you are trying to play this in a way to where you don't lose and have someone to fall back on."

😢 ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I HATE THIS. Because I've always had Cap in my head, but love scorp. My selfishness and stress is making me look like a fool.

Now reality is thrown in my face, realty of someone that gets me, someone that loves me, that is willing to take a risk.

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No not a fool...yet. What I am hoping is that you don't wind up playing yourself when all is said and done. So you found yourself unhappy with the Scorp. That can happen in any relationship. The bigger question is are you happy with you regardless of which of these men you decide to be with? If you can't answer that then the rest is a moot point.

Also, I don't see where the Cap is taking any risk here at all only you or is he in a committed relationship as well? If not, then until he actually rolls up to your front door or wherever the meeting is to take place thus proving that his words match his actions (regarding the 53 hour drive) all that "he gets you", "loves you" stuff is total BS. LOL Sorry but it is. This man hasn't proven anything other than that he can have you emotionally cheat on your boyfriend on words alone. It shouldn't be that easy for him or any man (or woman if the roles were reversed).

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Posted by ArticleL
Nice acronym I was just going to start saying Hou -.-

In my heyday, I was known around here at HP74, so nothing new to me. 🙂

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Ah I see 😛

OK, I see what your saying about being alone. My first 2 long terms were close together, so I was single for like 5 years , because I didn't want to be that girl that couldnt be alone. Built my own confidence, personality, etc.

"she's fickle and next week she may not even be interested in the cap, it might be an aqua.

but regardless, she'll keep the scorp til she can find someone who exceeds what he has to offer, even if he's annoying as treetrunk. she won't be alone.

i hope the caps not in a relationship already and she's screwing that one up too."

1. the two earlier long terms were aqua, so NEVER again! lol (although am still friends with the first one & love his gf)
2. I f'in hope NOT, my eyes are open now.
3. cap was with a cheating women, single for .75 year now

Did he really drive 53 hours or did he actually drive 53 minutes, who really knows were the dude came from, he could live around the corner for all you know, sure got you excited though so it worked.

TG, based on your tagline, the Cap should be there in 20 hours. Are you prepared?

He lives in Florida, I live in BC, we's waiting till end of Oct. when he's done his work contract. I am ready to see what happens. I'll deal with the scorp, things will be just fine. 🙂

Posted by euroar
2 years older for a man is still a baby. So you still don't understand much of relationships and time yet. Remember my words 😉 I'm trying to help the girl to not waste her time with someone that she said it herself " is not giving her as much affection, etc... "

Actually I'm 26. As far as maturity goes I've always been that kind of guy who hangs with chicks rather than other guys, simply because I've rarely been able to relate to any guy my age. The ones I can relate to are in their 40s and 50s.

Cheating is cheating, regardless if you do it because you feel you don't get enough attention or if you want to test a potential partner.

So yeah, I think your advice stinks. That is not maturity. You reason like a horny, spoiled 16-year-old who expects the world to be served at her feet. Pick up and leave when the shit hits the fan is your motto. OK, maybe too harsh but you get my point.

However, I don't think @taurusgoddess should stay with her Scorpio if his ambitions and goals in life don't match hers. People grow apart sometimes. Saying goodbye is mature. Jumping in bed with someone else to see if she has deeper feelings for him -- hm, that's just wrong on so many levels.

I am not perfect, I've been down that path many times. Emotional cheating is my middle name, but physical cheating... not so much.

We's?

Good God...buy a dictionary.

"he DOES have a venus in scorpio"

soooooo what does that mean? Do tell.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
euroar's advice fascinates me. It's very human. Base.

We're all animals and monogamy is against our nature. Doesn't mean it isn't something to strive for though. And saying you're "in a relationship" is a verbal contract. Monogamy is implied unless agreed otherwise.

But, yeah... still fascinated by such an honest response.

Wow you are easily impressed! A guys says something like that he's a pig and should be catsrated; a girl says it and she's original and honest. I just can't get over the simple-minded times we live in these days.

Oh, monogamy is against our nature, is it? I'll use that one when I cheat on a future wife or girlfriend. I'm sure that will put everything into perspective... biologically speaking.

"Fascinated by such a honest response", you say? Well you didn't have to come in here to read about it. You could have asked any douchebad on the street, he/she would have given you the same honest response: sure, cheat on your significant other to check if the grass indeed is greener on the other side!

How honest.

Posted by taurusgoddess
He lives in Florida, I live in BC, we's waiting till end of Oct. when he's done his work contract. I am ready to see what happens. I'll deal with the scorp, things will be just fine. 🙂

Sounds like you've come to a firm decision, therefore it would seem to end discussion on this particular subject however things turn out with either man as you are aware of the potential risks and/or benefits of your actions and are okay with the consequences. Can't ask for more than that. Good luck TG.

Well honesty seems only refreshing when it has a vagina attached to it... if a guy said the shit that some of you "ladies" have been saying it sure as hell wouldn't be called refreshing or honest.

And I'm not angry btw, I'm just passionate about the subject. Plus I'm a Leo... so everything tends to get overdramatized! 😉

this dude could live anywhere, if you can't confirm were he lives I wouldn't believe that 53 hours nonsense, I smell game and your going to be played, don't be so damn naive. You think you got something better than what you already have....Can't wait for the update on that lol

Women are not what they used to be. I'm gonna get myself a nice Fish and move to a deserted island. We will wear leaves and cocnuts for clothes and bang eachother senseless for the rest of our lives. 🙂

Posted by enfant_terrible
We will wear leaves and cocnuts for clothes and bang eachother senseless for the rest of our lives. 🙂

Well at least until superman shows up and she'll leave you for him LOL

Leo Man beats Superman any day of the week! 😉

I disagree I've seen plenty of "white knights" at the end of the day I say do whatever makes you happy. Rather that is leave your Scorp for something better because it's not working out for you. Or stay with him and try to make it better, alot of times it can be draining though. The grass is sometimes not greener on the other side it might be purple and you might just love it 😛 All in all what do you think you should do?

Thing is, as I told her on the Taurus board, I don't think Caps have that same view of "true loves" and "soulmates." That seems to be something she believes in, and for him, it could simply be him not getting her off of his mind.

Its definitely a risk to leave, but she needs to leave regardless if her situation is not making her happy. I just wouldn't put all my hope into the Capricorn for providing that happiness.

Posted by lnana04
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Its definitely a risk to leave, but she needs to leave regardless if her situation is not making her happy.

Agreed.

Whether you end up with a Cap, Scorp, a packet of ketup or a fucking teddy bear it's time to go.

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Posted by lnana04
Thing is, as I told her on the Taurus board, I don't think Caps have that same view of "true loves" and "soulmates." That seems to be something she believes in, and for him, it could simply be him not getting her off of his mind.

Its definitely a risk to leave, but she needs to leave regardless if her situation is not making her happy. I just wouldn't put all my hope into the Capricorn for providing that happiness.

But I also do know that the infatuation that surrounds the idea of Prince Charming FADES. What is left after the infatuation and idealism is two people trying to make it work.

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Agreed.

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Posted by lnana04
Thing is, as I told her on the Taurus board, I don't think Caps have that same view of "true loves" and "soulmates." That seems to be something she believes in, and for him, it could simply be him not getting her off of his mind.

Its definitely a risk to leave, but she needs to leave regardless if her situation is not making her happy. I just wouldn't put all my hope into the Capricorn for providing that happiness.

I have a Cap moon- perhaps that's where my feelings on this subject originate.

I feel like this thread is based on a romanticized view of a normal relationship between two normal people. And whenever you view life in this strange, over-inflated, emotional way, you don't see life for what it REALLY is- all the struggles it entails! Yes, love has it's triumphs but it also has it's stuggles! What couple do you know that has been together for 20+ years that has floated on a cloud the entire time?

I think there are good men out there, and many "White Knights". I happen to have the pleasure of dating a very good man. But I also do know that the infatuation that surrounds the idea of Prince Charming FADES. What is left after the infatuation and idealism is two people trying to make it work. So often people lust after this fairy tale, hopping out of a good relationship that is past its *fireworks stage* for an unknown and then regretting it.

I maintain my opinion that the thought of a "Prince Charming" or a "Soul Mate" is an over-romanticized, idealized mental illusion. Perhaps I'm in the minority in this view- but if more people appreciated what they actually HAVE, rather than going out and looking for something "BETTER", perhaps we'd see stonger, longer lasting, more committed relationships...?

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I agree with what you are saying. I personally don't get the Prince Charming fantasy kind of love thing. One thing about both Caps and Taurus though, they can both be a little greedy in always desiring something better. She's looking for someone better than her Scorpio, and this Cap can eventually look for someone better than her. This is for some Caps and Tauruses, not all, but it is something I've noticed and am familiar with. ALL of that cloud 9 ish eventually fades.

The Cap farts just like the Scorp...As Ali said we are all human and the grass might be greener on the other side but a dog still can shit on the lawn and stink it up, there is no such thing as perfect, the very things that seep into the old relationships will seep into the new ones with that being said as Ali pointed out TG may need to experience this for herself so she can learn her own human lessons for her own life, it's one of those things that most of us experience at some point in our lives.

OK, the soulmate thing, I was blown away when HE said it. He said, not Buddah, not God, nothing in the world could change his mind that we are soulmates. It's a f'in strong thing to say, but I do know one thing, our connection & understanding of each other is powerful, it can't be ignored. He was with someone for 3 years, and said he could not go on any longer, he loved me and no one else. We can seriously talk about anything, and really get & respect each other.

I know there will be challenges anywhere I go, but this is a guy that grows and learns, and yearns to be a better person. I'm with someone right now, who is exactly the same party boy that isn't growing up or learning and making the same mistakes over and over...it's painful to watch and stand by, it goes against what I believe in.

Bottom line, this can't be about picking a certain guy, it's about dealing with them separately, and making myself happy.

^ 😛 Go Girl!

Posted by taurusgoddess
OK, the soulmate thing, I was blown away when HE said it. He said, not Buddah, not God, nothing in the world could change his mind that we are soulmates. It's a f'in strong thing to say, but I do know one thing, our connection & understanding of each other is powerful, it can't be ignored. He was with someone for 3 years, and said he could not go on any longer, he loved me and no one else. We can seriously talk about anything, and really get & respect each other.

I know there will be challenges anywhere I go, but this is a guy that grows and learns, and yearns to be a better person. I'm with someone right now, who is exactly the same party boy that isn't growing up or learning and making the same mistakes over and over...it's painful to watch and stand by, it goes against what I believe in.

Bottom line, this can't be about picking a certain guy, it's about dealing with them separately, and making myself happy.

😛 Go Girl!

Double effect -Sits on the rooms roof and eats skittles-

TG wake up!! This guy is blowing smoke up your ass, you are not his soul mate and you are not the only woman he loves, I can't believe you believe the shit this guy is spilling out of his mouth, this guy is mind fucking you like crazy, you are gone over a stranger, you deserve whatever hardships you get from this guy and those hard times are going to come sooner rather than later, he's lulling you to sleep with his charm, cap men are very charming, they can disarm and grip your ass to sleep with charm, you seem sold on this bag of boo boo he's selling you. Get your head out of the clouds, come down to earth and then form your opinion because right now you seem like you are on love crack or something LOL

Yes, I need to deal with that soon!!!

Had a wicked talk with cap tonight. We are on the same page. Not wanting to start things stupid, or tainting. Take things slow. He said, "take your time with what you decide to do with your current situation. You know where I'm at, but do what makes you comfortable, I want to do things right"

I forgot I could find someone that could actually understand me, it feels so damn good. Doesn't even matter. None of your opinions matter on that either 😉 Anyone that has someone that understands them, understands that.

Sweeeeeet dreams

ps. Love your writeup on your profile tiki33!

Just being silly, thxbutnothx. I'm feeling good, but I have appreciated all the comments, good & bad. Just finally in a good head space.

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Posted by enfant_terrible
Women are not what they used to be.

When was your used to be?

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Before "Sex and the City" came into the equation.

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Posted by Nights22
I love threads like this since they show females emotionally and physically cheat just as much as males and the whole guys cheat more often comments are proven bullshit by all these threads.

Real Talk !

5 years in a relationship and not married, def there's something wrong. It's not called cheating but more like THINK before I FIND Better. I don't waste my time with Bulls... if one another loves each other they have children, etc.. if not feelings die. and it all goes down until the relationship doesn't work anymore. Family keeps things going and being together. But this is an European mentality, we move faster than in North America.

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Not sure if you got the memo but Canada is part of North America.