Capricorn ignoring me because I was a bit too emot

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hamptonslee
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Before my cap left to canada 2 days ago I was telling him how much I love him and i'd miss him and I'll be very sad while he'll be gone and it'll take a while for me to get over him not being near for a month and now he seems a bit distant.Like whenever I go online he logs off and I texted him and he still hasn't responded.Is he acting this way because I was too emotional—?If so,what should I do now?Does he hate me now—is our relationship over—It's not my fault that i'll miss him when he'l be gone and he shouldn't old that against me 😢Please help guys :/
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You are making matters worse by labeling what he's doing, he's not ignoring you--least not deliberately, he's being centered on himself and centered on what's in front of him and not dwelling on something he can't change, he can't have fun if he's brooding about how much you love him.

While he's gone he'll think about you and he'll contact you once he's back or maybe he'll contact you once he gets settled, so for now wish him well and get on with your life, hard to do but YOU CAN DO IT, don't make this complicated for yourself or you'll be miserable for a whole month and if he see you doing that to yourself he'll be turned off in a major way, try being more independent emotionally, find something to do that brings your energy up, makes you feel happy inside. He'll be back, he's not gone forever.

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Hang in there lovey. Caps can be very very tricky and complicated. At least that is my experience with them. And I know quite a few. Whenever there is something going on in their life, or even if you have done something they do not particularly like I noticed that they do the old disappearing act. When they are not speaking to you, it is pretty obvious and sometimes even asking those fools WHATS WRONG, wont get them to budge. They just don't like to talk about their feelings much with other people.
I have some of these qualities. I was born on the 21st of December so I am a cusp baby. I can go months without speaking to friends or family remembers but when we finally do get back in touch, its as if no time has passed. Well, for me at least. But, on the flip side, I have never done this with someone I am involved with. That's a little weird to me. i guess we have to remember one important factor, "he's a guy."
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hamptonslee
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Awww thanks for the advice guys!The problem is he's always hard to read and when I think i've done something wrong, turns out I didn't.This happens all the time.I always think i've done something wrong to make him act so distant and I go through everything in my head and try to think of all the things i've done and said and if i'm to blame.it's soo annoying and i'm sick of guessing.
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LMAO! Metoo just laid it all the way down, cracking me up!

But of course Metoo & Elle are 100% correct, go do something for yourself, buy something soft and pretty, get your hair done, nails did, pedicure, do something special for yourself so you can feel better.

You tried to buy the Caps affection, that was your first mistake, you can't buy love and affection, definitely can't keep pulling your wallet out to pay for more love, good thing he's gone, you need time to adjust to not carrying that 100+ pound adult baby around on your hip.
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Posted by hamptonslee
Awww thanks for the advice guys!The problem is he's always hard to read and when I think i've done something wrong, turns out I didn't.This happens all the time.I always think i've done something wrong to make him act so distant and I go through everything in my head and try to think of all the things i've done and said and if i'm to blame.it's soo annoying and i'm sick of guessing.



Why dont you end the relationship already. You are sick of guessing, and before you know it you will start to resent him for feeling that he makes you analyze everything. It doesnt seem the two of you are not compatible and absolutely nothing is wrong with that.
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Posted by hamptonslee
Awww thanks for the advice guys!The problem is he's always hard to read and when I think i've done something wrong, turns out I didn't.This happens all the time.I always think i've done something wrong to make him act so distant and I go through everything in my head and try to think of all the things i've done and said and if i'm to blame.it's soo annoying and i'm sick of guessing.



You're thinking too much. Stop analyzing. I'll admit, I'm guilty of this too. When Mr. Aqua gets aloof, I go over everything said and done in my head and quickly realize it's just him and not me. I don't ask him about it. He goes back to usual pretty quick. Caps are really similar. Just don't worry about it. STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. You'll make yourself crazy and he'll since the insecurity.
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Posted by hamptonslee
The thing is i've always done everything for him pay for him,pamper him and he doesn't really give me all the back in return.(



I'm afraid you're doing too much without getting anything in return. Hun, women give too much and men take us for granted. We create a situation in that men don't get a chance to feel that attraction and magnetic pull. Women tend to think if we do for them what makes us feel appreciated they will love us more (as we love men more who do this for us). But, its opposite, men feel appreciated and loved more when we let them do things for us. All we have to say is thank you and be receptive to what they do for us. Men need to feel as if they are taking care of us to be more attracted. They just want to make us happy - that's what men want. A woman they can make happy. Instead of a woman who goes out of their way for them - as we all tend to do occasionally.

Sweetie, I'm not fussing at you. Just pull back and let him worry about why you're not contacting him. Let him analyze things. Let him imagine what you're doing while he's gone, let him do the thinking and obsessing!! Like the others said, go find something to do!!!!!

Damn!! I need to read and follow my own advice sometimes! haha!
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Posted by tiki33
I think we all have dished out some different perspectives and solid advice and I think
it will land where it should. These situations are the saddest ones sometimes.
Not sure why it seems to happen to such nice girls, and how it would be so much easier if
he could be clear. Being a cap I know there are times when I am not clear too, but not intentionally.
Hang in there sweetie. Put yourself first, always!
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The only time I wasn't clear where I stood with a guy and disappeared or didn't text back immediately is when I wasn't into him. If he asked and ONLY if he asked, I would be vague and say I don't know just yet. That way I could take more time and decide whether I liked him, keep seeing other guys, and yet he would still be around and be an option. Its that I would like their personality, just wasn't as into them romantically. I know, not the right thing to do, but I think a lot of us have done this. I would eventually make the decision and end it, nine times out of ten. If he pushed it when he asked, I would just end it right then, abruptly and coldly, because I won't be pushed. Bad, I know, I know.

*thankful to have found Mr Aqua*

*praying Aqua sticks around*
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Posted by hamptonslee
The thing is i've always done everything for him pay for him,pamper him and he doesn't really give me all the back in return.(



I'm afraid you're doing too much without getting anything in return. Hun, women give too much and men take us for granted. We create a situation in that men don't get a chance to feel that attraction and magnetic pull. Women tend to think if we do for them what makes us feel appreciated they will love us more (as we love men more who do this for us). But, its opposite, men feel appreciated and loved more when we let them do things for us. All we have to say is thank you and be receptive to what they do for us. Men need to feel as if they are taking care of us to be more attracted. They just want to make us happy - that's what men want. A woman they can make happy. Instead of a woman who goes out of their way for them - as we all tend to do occasionally.

Sweetie, I'm not fussing at you. Just pull back and let him worry about why you're not contacting him. Let him analyze things. Let him imagine what you're doing while he's gone, let him do the thinking and obsessing!! Like the others said, go find something to do!!!!!

Damn!! I need to read and follow my own advice sometimes! haha!



LOL!!!
that is a really good advice there. I am going to copy and paste & everytime my computer turns on I want my calendar -email to pop up & has it as a daily remainder for me. hehe
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I read it in a book. Trying to apply it. It seems it does work! I've got to remember it myself. lol!
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Posted by hamptonslee
Awww thanks for the advice guys! . . . it's soo annoying and i'm sick of guessing.



You're thinking too much. Stop analyzing. I'll admit, I'm guilty of this too. When Mr. Aqua gets aloof, I go over everything said and done in my head and quickly realize it's just him and not me. I don't ask him about it. He goes back to usual pretty quick. Caps are really similar. Just don't worry about it. STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. You'll make yourself crazy and he'll since the insecurity.



truecap, i've really been struck lately by the commonalities between caps and aquas. we aquas are classically aloof as well, we both need lots of space, and we're both hyperanalytical and intellectual. if it weren't for our impulsiveness, i'd say that aquas are (one of) the best possible mates for caps.
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I think so too. If we can only get through the communication issues and learn to be more open with each other and not so cautious toward each other regarding feelings, etc. I read somewhere that once that takes place, Aqua/Cap are considered the super couple. Aqua has the ideas/Cap has the follow through to put those ideas into motion - especially on the career front.
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Thanks Pisces!

If we're talking about fatherly advice my dad always said "There's no winning with women, you lose either way."




SPOT ON MATE SPOT ON!!

Especially when there a whole bunch of different signs in the natal chart and easy for someone to randomly pick out a negative trait from the multiple combination then working on it ignoring everything else. The irony...OOO the irony...