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Posted by elllesque
The fuq out of here.....you would be pissed. Especially if there was zero explanation.You don't realise what that does to someone. It's left very open ended with no answers. I am sorry, but that is just not right.
You also leave it open ended so if the opportunity fits you, you'll try to walk thru that door again.
If someone does not meet your qualifications.....sit their ass down and tell them. At least have the balls to do that. It's called respect.
Missing my points..
Numero uno duh I would be mad in your hypothetical situation...
But I wasn't qualified to begin with...THEY LIED
OP from what we know isn't qualified from what we know ( SHE WAS PROMISED NOTHING)
Contract=Promise
She expected...
Expectations can get u f'd over...
Happens to everyone
The social contract is what every decent human being including myself believes in.
He " should communicate more" but does he have to?
Some people do read the signs...
Women avoid mfs too
Humans let you down...
Posted by frostey91 Are all relationships supposed to last forever?
Realistically? No.
But you goats don't even let them unfold naturally.
You have some stop watch timer that goes off telling you...."Time is up!"
What are you afraid of? That you might actually have a successful relationship.....and you won't be able to bitch and moan the rest of your life?
You pessimistic miserly old men! 😛
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Haha
Not one bit
If you got burned by the other person was it meant to be successful?
You are describing Tiger Woods not me...
Virgo makes me picky too but everything is situational
Posted by frostey91
But I wasn't qualified to begin with...THEY LIEDbingo!
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You think Cap man lied to her ?
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.
God yes
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.
God yes
....they will always pick at something.
Seems more Virgo than Cap, to me ...
Posted by elllesque
They are control freaks....worse then scorpios.How so?
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Explain please... Because it's not worse it's different.
....they will always pick at something.
Seems more Virgo than Cap, to me ...
Posted by elllesque
They are control freaks....worse then scorpios.How so?
virgos pick for the greater god...LOL....they think they are helping you. bless them. I can handle a virgo criticism session all day, every day.
😛caps pick.....because cap......god forbid if your 'image' isn't on queue with theirs or they will straight up disown you to others. lol
control freaks as in......you WILL do it THEIR way or you are just being a brat and unruly.
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Laughs at the Capricorn part because that is an evil side.
And true Capricorn is a rule maker ( run from these Caps)
I used to be like that-- expecting people to behave a certain way and give a certain way
Will do...unruly she's not lying.
Caps will sit alone in that mountain if they have to.
My evil side has come out since it became Capricorn season is that strange?
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.God yes
then don't deal with them at all.....not even a 'little' bit.
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You have to find out first before you unleash Saturn's limitations saying this ends now.
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.God yes
then don't deal with them at all.....not even a 'little' bit.
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How do we find out if we can't deal with the bs if we don't get to know you though. It's impossible. You have to get to know someone to find out because a lot of people like to put up a facade at first.
....they will always pick at something.
Seems more Virgo than Cap, to me ...
Posted by elllesque
They are control freaks....worse then scorpios.How so?
virgos pick for the greater god...LOL....they think they are helping you. bless them. I can handle a virgo criticism session all day, every day.
😛caps pick.....because cap......god forbid if your 'image' isn't on queue with theirs or they will straight up disown you to others. lol
control freaks as in......you WILL do it THEIR way or you are just being a brat and unruly.
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We just want the best for you, like we want for ourselves, you're a part of me of course I want best for that person. some see that as.controlling, I can see that, but that's not the intent.
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.
Posted by elllesque
simply date until you are ready to make it exclusive or stay the friends route until you are ready to get past that hurdle.don't pretend you care when you really don't. that crap hurts people.
most people who make it to the point of being exclusive....have some natural REALISTIC expectations.
They do not expect to have the carpet pulled from under them because they ended up not being 'qualified'.
I agree with that. The ones I left in the dust are people I had no past or friendship with before dating them.
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.God yes
then don't deal with them at all.....not even a 'little' bit.
How do we find out if we can't deal with the bs if we don't get to know you though. It's impossible. You have to get to know someone to find out because a lot of people like to put up a facade at first.
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God yes once more
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.
Insert quespionage mark. Colour me confused.
Posted by Greentea
Cause some people aren't worth the bullshit that come along with them.God yes
then don't deal with them at all.....not even a 'little' bit.
You have to find out first before you unleash Saturn's limitations saying this ends now.
smh.
I need cap repellent then.
you guys should start manufacturing it. I don't even want a single eyeball from a capricorn to even LOOK in my general direction.
can you make that happen? I'll take three cases......and re-occuring monthly ones after that. 😄
I have to be safe!
LOL, good business deal there 😛
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Someone needs to make a business contract with her 😛
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.Insert quespionage mark. Colour me confused.
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What are you confused about?
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.Insert quespionage mark. Colour me confused.
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I meant question mark, not quespionage mark. But I somehow feel both are accurate.
I am going to have to revisit the last two or so pages of this thread tomorrow when I am thinking clearer.
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.
What about those who aren't " qualified" enough for us to love them?
@Iamarollin.
Now I'm trolling
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.What about those who aren't " qualified" enough for us to love them?
@Iamarollin.
Now I'm trolling
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Is this for me to answer or lmarollin?
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.What about those who aren't " qualified" enough for us to love them?
@Iamarollin.
Now I'm trolling
Is this for me to answer or lmarollin?
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U... Imarollin was mentioned for alternative reasons...
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.What about those who aren't " qualified" enough for us to love them?
@Iamarollin.
Now I'm trolling
Is this for me to answer or lmarollin?
U... Imarollin was mentioned for alternative reasons...
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It depends....
I will still treat them with respect, on a friend level. I won't give them the same as I would someone that I actually love though. No way.
Posted by Greentea
We just want what is best for people we love and care for.What about those who aren't " qualified" enough for us to love them?
@Iamarollin.
Now I'm trolling
Is this for me to answer or lmarollin?
U... Imarollin was mentioned for alternative reasons...
It depends....
I will still treat them with respect, on a friend level. I won't give them the same as I would someone that I actually love though. No way.click to expand
What people need to look at is the Aquapiscescusp's post about how Cap's love.
what would cause use to suddenly stop speaking to you probably isnt so sudden in our eyes. Long story short you pissed us of one too many times. We are very picky and sensitive towards those we have relations with. The ignoring is the end of a friendship for now... leave them alone for at least a month or until ur handle yr chet
And TBH, any of the given possible explanations could absolutely be correct.. Just because I don't see things a certain way doesn't mean he doesnt. From my point of view, there was no conversation or explanation given for his current silence. But conversely, he could feel like it was brought up numerous times and this current state of affairs is/was a last resort.
Or he could be completely oblivious and unbothered.
I guess regardless of the reasoning (or lack thereof), the larger lesson I need to take from this is our obvious discrepancy in the area of communication.
Can't promise I'll quit posting about him. But hopefully I'll at least continue to grow and learn my lessons and post about different aspects; not the same ones 🙂.
And he just wished me Merry Christmas..
Oh bother.
Posted by Andalusia
And he just wished me Merry Christmas..Oh bother.
Did you reply? They come back around to see how the land lies and if you will reply or not
Posted by Andalusia
And he just wished me Merry Christmas..Oh bother.
Did you reply? They come back around to see how the land lies and if you will reply or not
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I said "Merry Christmas!" as well, yes.
Posted by gvccihvcci
what would cause use to suddenly stop speaking to you probably isnt so sudden in our eyes. Long story short you pissed us of one too many times. We are very picky and sensitive towards those we have relations with. The ignoring is the end of a friendship for now... leave them alone for at least a month or until ur handle yr chet
It's such a Cap thing.
It's like when you get fired and they say we just don't think you are a good fit for us.
You thought you were doing alright but you didn't meet there expectations.
Cap energy decides it internally--the other person might not always know. Especially early on this behavior is more likely.
In this situation the relationship never progressed anyway enough to feel one way or the other.
I find it interesting that the majority times he has contacted me lately, said contact has coincided with holidays... and full moons.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
It reminds me of some hang n bangs I've had. Chemistry was there, affectionate in public, birthday/holiday texts... but at their discretion. It's not that we didn't hit it off. It's that we did. Otherwise, I'd have never heard from them again. But they didn't want a serious relationship. They didn't want a girlfriend. They wanted a girlfriend replacement. You can have many girlfriend replacements to fill your sexual and emotional needs and never get tied down or bored. I clarified it and allowed it because, at the time, a boyfriend replacement was all I wanted... so it worked.But you said you're not currently having sex and made it clear you intended to keep it that way, so I'm baffled.
You and me both.
It's like he can sense me detaching. And feels it's "safe again" once I reach a certain point.
Posted by Andalusia
And TBH, any of the given possible explanations could absolutely be correct.. Just because I don't see things a certain way doesn't mean he doesnt. From my point of view, there was no conversation or explanation given for his current silence. But conversely, he could feel like it was brought up numerous times and this current state of affairs is/was a last resort.Or he could be completely oblivious and unbothered.
I guess regardless of the reasoning (or lack thereof), the larger lesson I need to take from this is our obvious discrepancy in the area of communication.
Can't promise I'll quit posting about him. But hopefully I'll at least continue to grow and learn my lessons and post about different aspects; not the same ones 🙂.
Or even more likely he is acting this way based on one of his last relationships ended.
Something about this cautions him of not long term likely for that reason.
Dissapointment is something Caps avoid religiously.
Sounds likes things are improving.
That is good
Posted by Andalusia
And TBH, any of the given possible explanations could absolutely be correct.. Just because I don't see things a certain way doesn't mean he doesnt. From my point of view, there was no conversation or explanation given for his current silence. But conversely, he could feel like it was brought up numerous times and this current state of affairs is/was a last resort.Or he could be completely oblivious and unbothered.
I guess regardless of the reasoning (or lack thereof), the larger lesson I need to take from this is our obvious discrepancy in the area of communication.
Can't promise I'll quit posting about him. But hopefully I'll at least continue to grow and learn my lessons and post about different aspects; not the same ones 🙂.
Or even more likely he is acting this way based on one of his last relationships ended.
Something about this cautions him of not long term likely for that reason.
Dissapointment is something Caps avoid religiously.
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Ugh. I hope not. I'm so sick of that shit. The whole "I'm treating you this way now because of how things were back then with someone else."
Take the lessons forward. Leave the bullshit behind.
Posted by Andalusia
And TBH, any of the given possible explanations could absolutely be correct.. Just because I don't see things a certain way doesn't mean he doesnt. From my point of view, there was no conversation or explanation given for his current silence. But conversely, he could feel like it was brought up numerous times and this current state of affairs is/was a last resort.Or he could be completely oblivious and unbothered.
I guess regardless of the reasoning (or lack thereof), the larger lesson I need to take from this is our obvious discrepancy in the area of communication.
Can't promise I'll quit posting about him. But hopefully I'll at least continue to grow and learn my lessons and post about different aspects; not the same ones 🙂.
Or even more likely he is acting this way based on one of his last relationships ended.
Something about this cautions him of not long term likely for that reason.
Dissapointment is something Caps avoid religiously.
Ugh. I hope not. I'm so sick of that shit. The whole "I'm treating you this way now because of how things were back then with someone else."
Take the lessons forward. Leave the bullshit behind.
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I agree w u. It's not even a Cap thing although a Cap moon did that exact thing to me so maybe...
I would ask him about past relationships you guys make it past New Year's a little bit.
He's mentioned one before (a couple years ago when we first started hanging out).
From what I remember/gather, they were together for awhile during high school.. I think he even lived with her/her family at one point. They did drugs recreationally together and with friends, but she maybe got into worse than he did. She might have stripped for a minute after graduating.. I honestly can't remember and he didn't talk about it in great detail.
I do remember him saying he and his friends saw her at a concert or festival after they broke up and his friends being like "Oh hey, there's so-and-so! We should go say hi!" And him being like ".... no." Because he didn't want to see or speak to her or for her to know he was there and start asking about him again.
Ugh.. I am so tempted to block his number, cut him off and be done with it.
I hate liking people. Romantically speaking.
I'm all over the place. I know.
Hey it's just a phase give it a few days and it will get better hugs xxx
Posted by SamCancerGirl
Hey it's just a phase give it a few days and it will get better hugs xxx
It's a pattern.. it's been.going on long enough to call it that, me thinks.
This current full moon is Cancer and that is interesting considering he is a Capricorn.
Posted by Andalusia
And he just wished me Merry Christmas..Oh bother.
If it didn't have your name it was just a message sent out to lots of peeps.
Listen this thing is over. That's a fact. You can waste a lot of time wondering why and I can sense you are going to. But it's over.
I think you are better off to be frank. He is not for you. He didn't have what you require.
Don't go wishing you were different or someone else etc. He didn't want to be with you or be friends with you that's why he stopped talking.
HIS LOSS.
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Yeah, I agree with all of the above.
And I didn't think about it being a group text until after I posted.
Fuck it. I just downloaded an app and blocked his number. Hopefully it works. Both ways.
I'm too fucking old for this shit. His AND mine.
Is there an app that'll block him out of your head?
(You can run, but you can't hide from yourself...)
I will but up with someone for so long ,but once the straw gas broken the camels back. That's it!
Posted by Andalusia
And TBH, any of the given possible explanations could absolutely be correct.. Just because I don't see things a certain way doesn't mean he doesnt. From my point of view, there was no conversation or explanation given for his current silence. But conversely, he could feel like it was brought up numerous times and this current state of affairs is/was a last resort.Or he could be completely oblivious and unbothered.
I guess regardless of the reasoning (or lack thereof), the larger lesson I need to take from this is our obvious discrepancy in the area of communication.
Can't promise I'll quit posting about him. But hopefully I'll at least continue to grow and learn my lessons and post about different aspects; not the same ones 🙂.
Or even more likely he is acting this way based on one of his last relationships ended.
Something about this cautions him of not long term likely for that reason.
Dissapointment is something Caps avoid religiously.
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He could just be respectful of the relationship on a friend level, so he reaches out when it's safe to do so...like holidays.
So the Cappie lives with a mutual friend/acquaintance and her boyfriend. Said mutual friend/acquaintance texted me earlier and invited me to go see a movie with her.
I get there and it's the mutual friend, her boyfriend, another acquaintance, HER boyfriend, me..... and the Cap. Wtf.
The Cap, the friend, and the BF (the housemates) all rode together, so I know there's no way he didn't know I was coming. And the friend wouldn't have invited me just randomly out of the blue.. we're friends, but not *that* good of friends..
Idk what to think.. should I just not think anything about it?
Some things have come to light, and the more I think about it, the more I think the Cappie chap is just really super fucking awkward with women..
Is that a Cap guy thing? Being awkward around the opposite sex?
Posted by Andalusia
Some things have come to light, and the more I think about it, the more I think the Cappie chap is just really super fucking awkward with women..Is that a Cap guy thing? Being awkward around the opposite sex?
How was the movie?
What did you all go watch?
Maybe he knew you were coming and this was his way of moving forwards and not be awkward
Plus could be triple date and get to know you more
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Hehe I thoroughly enjoyed it.
Your a Cancer right?