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Posted by GypsyInChains
Posted by Capri-sun
Yes opposites attract, does not mean they last.
You have to work on it, as if any relationship or any aspect. Conjunctions and Trines don't guarantee happily ever after. But this common sense.
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Yes agreed. It takes two to work on it!! I'm in, but he is not right now. Maybe space will help him realize he needs to put a little effort in for me. Maybe not! These conversations are certainly helping me figure myself out
The last time I spoke to him was Tuesday. This is hard. I don't want to cave, but I might! 😢 I think because it's the weekend I am sad. Tonight no plans, but Saturday I'm going day drinking for Octoberfest then dinner. Then Sunday funday football ? breakups are hard to do!!!
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Posted by pinkbird03This is how he's been since the very beginning. Always enjoyed his space. He's never disappeared on me. I've given him what he's wanted. He never said he would give me what I wanted. He never said he wouldn't either. I don't know what his moon is because he doesn't know his birth time. I want to continue to talk to him because it's harder to resist right now. But I think space is the best option. What do you think?
Maybe the moon didn't change that day...when is his date of birth?
Or when you pull his chart set the time for 12:01am then set it for 11:59pm to see if the moon changed signs on that day
December 31, 1979
Gem moon which adds to the detachment lol
@Shadowcat
Air moon + Venus wow @.@. I envy those with compatible natal charts
So yeah he's trying to be rational about this, but detachment doesn't mean that he doesn't care. If he didn't, well he probably wouldn't have offered friendship. He probably is hurt by the breakup, and is trying to find the reasonable solution to this issue. He doesn't want to lose you, but isn't keen on invading your boundaries either. Still he does have emotions, and is still probably trying to process what happened.
Am I compatible??
Thanks for helping me understand things better!! It really helps me see things from his perspective. He's just so totally different. I kinda like it in someways. I am giving him space right now and keeping very busy! Only time will tell what happens next!
In my experience, yes, once a line of communication has been established. But that depends on the individual, and the compromises that happen. I'm an outsider in this situation, so I can't give a concrete answer. I think it's good that you two have spoken since the breakup
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Yes we talked a bit today again. I'm still totally confused.
Every relationship I'm in, I learn something new. My lesson this time was to be open and honest. I had a good long conversation with him. I told him I'm going to stop pursuing him because it is his choice to not put effort in. I told him it's his loss. He says:
Yes, it is my loss. But if you want to be friends, I'll answer! If not, still my loss. ?
My response: ok
This guy doesn't make any sense to me...
Posted by Capri-sun
Posted by pinkbird03
Every relationship I'm in, I learn something new. My lesson this time was to be open and honest. I had a good long conversation with him. I told him I'm going to stop pursuing him because it is his choice to not put effort in. I told him it's his loss. He says:Yes, it is my loss. But if you want to be friends, I'll answer! If not, still my loss. ?
My response: ok
This guy doesn't make any sense to me...
Glad you're taking a lesson out of it. That's the important thing
My interpretation of his words, he knows you're a good person, only wants friendship. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the person & everything to do with the situation and compatibility. He's man enough to set you free 🙂
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Yea I think you're right. Its time to move on. It's just very hard to do!!
I can't get over people in this topic telling you it's an Aqua Venus thing.
Seeing you for 2 days a month? This is not a relationship.
Damn, the cashiers to all nearby stores see you more than 2 times a month.
Posted by Damnata
I can't get over people in this topic telling you it's an Aqua Venus thing.Seeing you for 2 days a month? This is not a relationship.
Damn, the cashiers to all nearby stores see you more than 2 times a month.
I don't disagree with you there!! That's why I ended it. But I still miss him. I got attached!! I'm talking to someone new now so hopefully that will be better!
With this mindset of you and other people do these things in LDR situation. It's good for those who like LDR or aren't commitment types.
I've been super confused lately. I've changed my mind about being friends with him at least half a dozen times. I'm surprised I haven't drove him crazy. We are meeting on Monday to hang out as friends. I know I've been feeling emotional. I feel like something is wrong with me. I don't know what I'd do without everyone's help. Thanks to all!!
Posted by Capri-sun
Posted by pinkbird03
I've been super confused lately. I've changed my mind about being friends with him at least half a dozen times. I'm surprised I haven't drove him crazy. We are meeting on Monday to hang out as friends. I know I've been feeling emotional. I feel like something is wrong with me. I don't know what I'd do without everyone's help. Thanks to all!!
Enjoy yourself
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Absolutely.
Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
Posted by pinkbird03
I've been super confused lately. I've changed my mind about being friends with him at least half a dozen times. I'm surprised I haven't drove him crazy. We are meeting on Monday to hang out as friends. I know I've been feeling emotional. I feel like something is wrong with me. I don't know what I'd do without everyone's help. Thanks to all!!
ive changed my mind like the wind blows several time in the last week...dont feel bad.
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Glad to know I'm not the only one!! I really hate dating too! It's hard to find someone you like and then have them like you back. I haven't given up on dating yet, but I'm definitely tired of going through this process
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
With this mindset of you and other people do these things in LDR situation. It's good for those who like LDR or aren't commitment types.
Yeah I'm a commitmentphobe and have no problem admitting it.
I'll be committed in action, to verbalize it is another story because then it makes me feel obligated to meet another person's expectations. I don't like opening up, being vulnerable, the risk of hurting myself...
I'm picky. There are maybe 3-4 guys I've ever been genuinely interested in. My schedule is hectic, and part of me longs to live alone one day.
Some days I wonder if a relationship would even fit in my life at the moment so I've put it on the back burner somewhat.
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Yeah I get it. I'm about action to and I may even initiate it too. I show you I'm there and listen and support, may spell out the let's hang out thing, and take it from there. In the meantime I do ask my questions not like testing or judging so I know how you are and was in the past, and if will match well in the future. Im simple. I either can just have fun or take things super slow depending on my own life as well. If I make time I would hope they would too. Like I believe I do mirror or treat others how you want to be treated. I put everything on the table if asked.
Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
Posted by Capri-sun
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
With this mindset of you and other people do these things in LDR situation. It's good for those who like LDR or aren't commitment types.
Yeah I'm a commitmentphobe and have no problem admitting it.
I'll be committed in action, to verbalize it is another story because then it makes me feel obligated to meet another person's expectations. I don't like opening up, being vulnerable, the risk of hurting myself...
I'm picky. There are maybe 3-4 guys I've ever been genuinely interested in. My schedule is hectic, and part of me longs to live alone one day.
Some days I wonder if a relationship would even fit in my life at the moment so I've put it on the back burner somewhat.
Im picky also but the last few i picked turned out to be so saddening to me. Im staying single for the rest of my life..or become and escort. I dont know which one yet. At least being an escort Ill get paid for being used and I kniw there is no involving feeling on my end for sure so no lost feelings.
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Bring me my cheddar. Lol.
Posted by Capri-sun
Posted by OmniVirgoFlirt
It appears also a lot of females want to be a secret person in my life...not no more..
Maybe it's the way you're meeting them. They say start the way you want to finish...
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What do you mean secret person?
Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by pinkbird03
Every relationship I'm in, I learn something new. My lesson this time was to be open and honest. I had a good long conversation with him. I told him I'm going to stop pursuing him because it is his choice to not put effort in. I told him it's his loss. He says:Yes, it is my loss. But if you want to be friends, I'll answer! If not, still my loss. ?
My response: ok
This guy doesn't make any sense to me...
Sort of sounds like he wants you to keep chasing him.
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I agree 100% . After that convo I said we could be friends then I changed my mind and said no. I deleted him off Facebook and he said something like I'll always be here if you want to talk or hangout. So then I changed my mind and told him to pick a day this week and we will hang out. He picked Monday. I don't understand why he wants me to chase him. Maybe because it's been a long time since we last hung out. I don't know ? Any ideas?
Posted by Koniuchaa
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Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by pinkbird03
Every relationship I'm in, I learn something new. My lesson this time was to be open and honest. I had a good long conversation with him. I told him I'm going to stop pursuing him because it is his choice to not put effort in. I told him it's his loss. He says:Yes, it is my loss. But if you want to be friends, I'll answer! If not, still my loss. ?
My response: ok
This guy doesn't make any sense to me...
Sort of sounds like he wants you to keep chasing him.
I agree 100% . After that convo I said we could be friends then I changed my mind and said no. I deleted him off Facebook and he said something like I'll always be here if you want to talk or hangout. So then I changed my mind and told him to pick a day this week and we will hang out. He picked Monday. I don't understand why he wants me to chase him. Maybe because it's been a long time since we last hung out. I don't know ? Any ideas?
Because people like attention from others. It's nice to know that there's someone out there that's into you in that way, whether you're into them or not
if I were you I would take a long break from him and see how you feel after
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Yea. I think that's what I need to do for myself. I move at a slow pace though. Baby steps. I deleted him from fb which is a big deal to me. It's just not easy to completely distance myself because I do miss him. I think it's also odd he wants to hangout a week after a breakup. That's not normal. I guess I just want to see how this goes. I don't have any expectations.
Posted by Capri-sun
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Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by pinkbird03
Every relationship I'm in, I learn something new. My lesson this time was to be open and honest. I had a good long conversation with him. I told him I'm going to stop pursuing him because it is his choice to not put effort in. I told him it's his loss. He says:Yes, it is my loss. But if you want to be friends, I'll answer! If not, still my loss. ?
My response: ok
This guy doesn't make any sense to me...
Sort of sounds like he wants you to keep chasing him.
I agree 100% . After that convo I said we could be friends then I changed my mind and said no. I deleted him off Facebook and he said something like I'll always be here if you want to talk or hangout. So then I changed my mind and told him to pick a day this week and we will hang out. He picked Monday. I don't understand why he wants me to chase him. Maybe because it's been a long time since we last hung out. I don't know ? Any ideas?
He doesn't want you to chase him. That's how we are as people. Once we let you in our inner circle you'll always have a place there unless we feel betrayed.
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That could be part of it. My gut tells me he still cares and he's holding on a little bit.
We finally hung out and he drove about a half hour to see me because I am watching animals at my parents house right now. We went out to dinner because he didn't eat and I ordered one drink. He paid. We went to the movies and he told the guy two tickets. I told him id pay for my own and did. We had an hour before the movie began so we played a few video games. He gave me a dollar of his own money to play with. He asked me if I wanted him to win me some prizes. He won me two. One was a beaded necklace and he jokingly said I had to show him something for those. He then bought a bottled water and we shared it. Every time he took some, he'd ask me if I wanted some. We watched the movie. No hand holding or anything. He walked me to my car and initiated a hug. It's all about the little things and he was just very sweet tonight.
It was strange being friends with him. It obviously didn't feel like a couple anymore but it didn't feel like just friends either. It makes me feel a little confused. But he always confused me so I'm just going to go with the flow. Have no expectations.
@capri-sun I enjoy reading your interpretation 🙂!
Posted by Capri-sun
Posted by pinkbird03
@capri-sun I enjoy reading your interpretation 🙂!Aw Thanks! 🙂
I enjoy reading all the stories and helping out if I can.
The sharing of minds is a beautiful thing!
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Thank you!! I shared something recently. Can you tell me what to make of it? Is he just being a good friend or is it something a little more?
Posted by Capri-sun
The good news is he's somewhat invited you into his inner circle, otherwise he wouldn't spend the money & time with you.I'm confused on this one myself. Hopefully the guys will chime in.
Thanks I made a new thread because this one is getting too long! But yes I totally agree with you. It just felt like a date, sharing the drink especially. But I don't want to have high hopes. I still don't even know what I want. I'm not sure about any girls. I don't want to ask.
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Lol your relationship sounds interesting! And complicated! The only thing I can relate to is the openness in the friendship. We kinda just started doing that and I think I felt good for both of us. Or at least me. Maybe it's a good sign. Maybe I'll just be friends with him forever, which may be better than our romantic relationship.