I'm just not sure how to love him anymore (Page 2)

Posted by StillWater
So in a sense they are both selfish in different ways:

1) Pisces become needy and want others to cater to their emotions, and their victim perspective. Pisces view themselves in relation to how others should sympathize with them. DEPENDENCE.

Of all the Pisces I know (and there are a lot.. omg, I'm a Pisces magnet!).. just the ONE is like this. Broken Fishie. Hope he evolves someday.

Speaking as a Fish and of the Fish I've known:
The rest of us bear our own emotions, we live in them since birth, dealing with emotions is not scary to us. We don't want others to cater to our emotions.. those that do will be deemed too weak and unworthy of swimming with us for long, and we'll jump stream.. we want those who are ALSO strong enough to be their own person, to stand WITH us, and yes, to put our stubborn asses in check if needed.. cuz in relationships, the average Pisces (barring addictions/mental illness or other serious afflictions) very much "runs shit".. even if they do it subtly and with a smile.

None of us want your sympathy, ever. WE CHOOSE how we live, whether you like it or approve.. not victims. We are not to be pitied, for no matter what happens, WE CHOOSE how much or how little importance to place on it, and what to do about it. We crave your acceptance, yes.. for you to love us as we are, without trying to change us to fit some ideal YOU have for us.. but what happens if you don't accept us? We disconnect, swim away, you become a ripple in the pond, a memory.. though every person's "line in the sand which can't be crossed" is different, very individual.

Pisces do not seek your approval. We don't need anyone's approval but our own. And your opinion of me? Unless you are my Beloved.. it means less than nothing to me. Raindrops affect me more than your words or opinions ever could. But I will not fight you on your options, nor knock myself out to prove you wrong.. it's a useless, pointless competition.. and I don't compete, I don't rise to the bait. Maybe that's why you think me meek and mild and sweet and gentle and easily walked all over, poor little Fishie.. until I've had enough (whatever that may be) and morph into Shark Mode and the blood in the tank will not be mine. *shrug*

Iunno.. I kind went off on a tangent there. Damned Pisces Merc. lol

Hey Koi,

I read your comment twice; I'm praying that I'm not misunderstanding what you're saying, but really I'm OK now, LOL - I took away a lot of insight from everyone - good or bad.

Now I think M and 3588 had a recent/new interchange today that they ended amicably, but I, myself, was OK with his statement - it made sense to me. I didn't take offense to M. He made a very valid point. I was just too new to the forum to know how things can get here sometimes.

And I didn't feel unwanted, I felt extremely misunderstood. I KNOW I'm not perfect, and I KNOW I am a lot of things, but I KNEW I wasn't what some of those people where trying to say I was.

I'm took a lot of insight from everything that happened as a whole - the good, the bad and the ugly. I am a nice chick, but if you push me WITH MALICE in your heart, you WILL get pushed back TWICE AS HARD. Sorry...it's the Aquarius in me! As long as I know your heart and your intentions are PURE - you can tell me just about anything you want and you'll still be alright with me!

So no worries Ladybug, All is well!

I want to thank you again for being so forthright, truthful and yet supportive. We need more people like you!

Yeeeeah, (scratching my head) I thought that might have had some 3588 involvement in it (lol) but I wasn't sure. I'm glad everything is cleared up. Keep your head up lady!!!

Posted by 3588PISCES
Thank you 🙂, and I sent you a private message. write what I wrote down because I will remove my user name, will be back when I have cleared my head and firgure out myself better. I react to insults and injustice with a little anger and that is not healthy for me.

Got it! Keep your head up!