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Posted by GiveMeAqua5 years? Ohkay! Impatient me can't wait for that long because I believe that the longer I hold on, the more painful it'd be when we break.
My Cappie ex and I lasted 5 years, granted it was an incredibly rocky 5 years. In the end he and I we're just too different for "the long run".
Dear Tiki33,
The problem is that I'd googled a lot. The passive aggressive, the hot and cold, the reasons they do all this, their underlying motives, etc.
I'd also googled a lot about 'Capricorn man in love'. They say that these guys do play hot and cold and take a loooooong time to commit, are workaholics, need a lot of private time and solitude, live in their own world, etc.
I couldn't believe how this astrology thing could so accurately say that about a Cap! Why don't they say such a thing about a Leo or some other sign. All the psychology stuff and this astrology (even if I don't believe it) seemed to apply to him.
But now enough Caps are telling me that this won't work out. I don't mind bending myself to a considerable extent for that one man, but not for anyone else. Thanks a lot for your replies. 🙂
The problem is that I'd googled a lot. The passive aggressive, the hot and cold, the reasons they do all this, their underlying motives, etc.
I'd also googled a lot about 'Capricorn man in love'. They say that these guys do play hot and cold and take a loooooong time to commit, are workaholics, need a lot of private time and solitude, live in their own world, etc.
I couldn't believe how this astrology thing could so accurately say that about a Cap! Why don't they say such a thing about a Leo or some other sign. All the psychology stuff and this astrology (even if I don't believe it) seemed to apply to him.
But now enough Caps are telling me that this won't work out. I don't mind bending myself to a considerable extent for that one man, but not for anyone else. Thanks a lot for your replies. 🙂
Hey there, Friends,
Pls do check this out! (My poem for that Mr. Cap)
https://www.unconventionaldawns.wordpress.com/2016/08/02/an-ode-to-the-smart-pretender/
And thank you, CapLock,
For tickling my funny bone, for giving me solid advice, and for provoking me with your two-liner! (Dedicating it to ya!)
Thanks! 🙂
Pls do check this out! (My poem for that Mr. Cap)
https://www.unconventionaldawns.wordpress.com/2016/08/02/an-ode-to-the-smart-pretender/
And thank you, CapLock,
For tickling my funny bone, for giving me solid advice, and for provoking me with your two-liner! (Dedicating it to ya!)
Thanks! 🙂
His Astrological sign plays a part but it's not the whole part, the moment he confessed to being commitmentphobic was your queue to exit out of this situation not because he's a jerk or a bad person but because you will be the one on the NO WIN side of the situation, you will constantly be undermined and passively dumped over and over again.
CP man are the biggest ACTORS of them all, they have skillfully perfected their skills in charming the pants off of the women they meet but they are also skillful experts at stalling and passively dumping a woman to remain single, they have this way of disappearing and reappearing which keeps the woman HOOKED, chasing a dream that some day he'll stop the shenanigans and settle down but that is just a CP dream, he will always be the ambivalent elusive man from the moment he understand she's caught, he's gone.
Women who place her connection above his commitment issues and remain in the situation will be dragged and headfucked for the entire duration of the situation and honestly if you truly want love then you won't find a lasting nurturing reciprocal relationship with a man that has commitment issues.
Fuck the connection and fuck him and I say this with my CP madness before I married so trust me dear I know exactly how you're feeling about this situation.
The moment you REJECT him and keep him on the begging end will be the moment he appears to be CURED of his CPism because he can only be in a situation that isn't reciprocal, he can remain free to love her and he can remain free to NOT BE BOUND by his love to her. The moment you turn around and stop the rejection he will BE GONE, running for his life, fighting you for his freedom again.
This is the madness you'll endure. Be careful. You're the one that will pay the cost for this kind of foolery if you choose to remain in it.
CP man are the biggest ACTORS of them all, they have skillfully perfected their skills in charming the pants off of the women they meet but they are also skillful experts at stalling and passively dumping a woman to remain single, they have this way of disappearing and reappearing which keeps the woman HOOKED, chasing a dream that some day he'll stop the shenanigans and settle down but that is just a CP dream, he will always be the ambivalent elusive man from the moment he understand she's caught, he's gone.
Women who place her connection above his commitment issues and remain in the situation will be dragged and headfucked for the entire duration of the situation and honestly if you truly want love then you won't find a lasting nurturing reciprocal relationship with a man that has commitment issues.
Fuck the connection and fuck him and I say this with my CP madness before I married so trust me dear I know exactly how you're feeling about this situation.
The moment you REJECT him and keep him on the begging end will be the moment he appears to be CURED of his CPism because he can only be in a situation that isn't reciprocal, he can remain free to love her and he can remain free to NOT BE BOUND by his love to her. The moment you turn around and stop the rejection he will BE GONE, running for his life, fighting you for his freedom again.
This is the madness you'll endure. Be careful. You're the one that will pay the cost for this kind of foolery if you choose to remain in it.
He will lure you with all the love gestures and poems and songs and blah blah blah but he will never stop being a commitmentphobe. Ignore this headf**kery mess or play at your own risk.
You have been forewarned.
You have been forewarned.
Tiki33,
"I say this with my CP madness before I married ..."
Well, what I wanted to ask you, you've told me. I understand what you mean. If it's the CP-ism and ONLY the CP-ism that's making him do all this, then I would NOT let this continue, dear. But if there's some other factor that's bothering him, something that can be resolved, then I guess I can't be rude on him. My aim is simple - I want happiness and peace for both of us. But if his happiness lies in crushing mine, then he's a stranger to me. 🙂
BTW what's your sun sign, if I may ask?
"I say this with my CP madness before I married ..."
Well, what I wanted to ask you, you've told me. I understand what you mean. If it's the CP-ism and ONLY the CP-ism that's making him do all this, then I would NOT let this continue, dear. But if there's some other factor that's bothering him, something that can be resolved, then I guess I can't be rude on him. My aim is simple - I want happiness and peace for both of us. But if his happiness lies in crushing mine, then he's a stranger to me. 🙂
BTW what's your sun sign, if I may ask?
Commitphobes only commit when they've done the leg work that is required to resolve
their issues.
A true commitmentphobe will not commit if he's still doing the same behaviors for example moving too fast and dumping even faster, seeking safety nets that he can slip out of for example LDR's because doing the LDR thing can allow them the space to date multiple women at the same time and slip out of a woman's life without consequence.
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/love-coach-nicole/how-red-flag-commitment-phobe-he-has-chance-leave-you
Don't make excuses for his in and out, hot and cold behavior, don't allow him off the hook by blaming the distance, blaming yourself, blaming the fight he started or the fight he baited out of you.
Don't get tangled up with trying to help him fix his issues because it's not your responsibility to fix him. If he's too emotionally lazy to do the work to get over his issues then that is all the more reason not to invest your time, energy and emotions.
Be careful not to get so focused on the drama he's causing with his poems filled with riddles and his vague answers that you have to dissect to understand.
Avoid allowing the lack of communication you're receiving to become your main focus because being focused on the drama can blind you to the fact that you're not actually developing a real connection/relationship but instead you're just spending your days focused on DISTRACTIONS that keep you tangled up with him mentally and emotionally so as to make you forget that he's still unable to commit and although you're receiving heavy doses of drama and BS you're still single, alone and caught up emotionally over a stalled situation.
That is what all the riddles and poems and in and out behavior is for, it's his way of keeping you involved in a way that makes him feel comfortable and it's his way of avoiding relationship talk because that makes him feel like running away. He enjoy the drama because the drama has absolutely nothing to do with love and relationships which is why you're now experiencing this behavior MORE than the behavior he used to display.
Why would he keep you around? You're a beautiful caring nurturing patient woman with a high tolerance for bulls**t, they have this way of picking us out and keeping the carrot dangled. Plus they don't like to lose a good thing, the love he receives keeps him feeling good about himself,
Who doesn't want a bunch of approval seeking love thirsty women feeding the fragile CP's ego, face it we make men like that feel good about themselves, they do afte rall have wounded egos and low self esteem, so having lots of women want him keeps his needy ego fed, he's receiving the love but the love isn't reciprocated.
Be very careful.
If you love yourself, truly love yourself you will think twice about trusting a man with commitment issues with your precious heart. You don't want to be in the CP Addict club, once you're in it's hell trying to get out.
their issues.
A true commitmentphobe will not commit if he's still doing the same behaviors for example moving too fast and dumping even faster, seeking safety nets that he can slip out of for example LDR's because doing the LDR thing can allow them the space to date multiple women at the same time and slip out of a woman's life without consequence.
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/love-coach-nicole/how-red-flag-commitment-phobe-he-has-chance-leave-you
Don't make excuses for his in and out, hot and cold behavior, don't allow him off the hook by blaming the distance, blaming yourself, blaming the fight he started or the fight he baited out of you.
Don't get tangled up with trying to help him fix his issues because it's not your responsibility to fix him. If he's too emotionally lazy to do the work to get over his issues then that is all the more reason not to invest your time, energy and emotions.
Be careful not to get so focused on the drama he's causing with his poems filled with riddles and his vague answers that you have to dissect to understand.
Avoid allowing the lack of communication you're receiving to become your main focus because being focused on the drama can blind you to the fact that you're not actually developing a real connection/relationship but instead you're just spending your days focused on DISTRACTIONS that keep you tangled up with him mentally and emotionally so as to make you forget that he's still unable to commit and although you're receiving heavy doses of drama and BS you're still single, alone and caught up emotionally over a stalled situation.
That is what all the riddles and poems and in and out behavior is for, it's his way of keeping you involved in a way that makes him feel comfortable and it's his way of avoiding relationship talk because that makes him feel like running away. He enjoy the drama because the drama has absolutely nothing to do with love and relationships which is why you're now experiencing this behavior MORE than the behavior he used to display.
Why would he keep you around? You're a beautiful caring nurturing patient woman with a high tolerance for bulls**t, they have this way of picking us out and keeping the carrot dangled. Plus they don't like to lose a good thing, the love he receives keeps him feeling good about himself,
Who doesn't want a bunch of approval seeking love thirsty women feeding the fragile CP's ego, face it we make men like that feel good about themselves, they do afte rall have wounded egos and low self esteem, so having lots of women want him keeps his needy ego fed, he's receiving the love but the love isn't reciprocated.
Be very careful.
If you love yourself, truly love yourself you will think twice about trusting a man with commitment issues with your precious heart. You don't want to be in the CP Addict club, once you're in it's hell trying to get out.
http://tigressluv.com/commitmentphobiaandyou.html#.V6Den46B534
Love her...She explains CP behavior brilliantly
The beginning of a relationship with a CP (commitment-phobic person) can be escalating (to say the least!) The CP chases you with such intense and total admiration that we begin to feel just so damned good about OURSELVES that we are actually floating on air! This euphoric stage sets the scene for the devastating 'crash' that is bound to happen.
Unfortunately, when we feel so euphoric by the actions of the CP in the 'pursuing stage' we tend to see the CP as Omni-important. The more power we give them, the harder we fall.
When we give the CP this power over us, we may react in two adverse ways when evidence of their commitmentphobia surfaces...
1. The CP pulls away or withdraws from us, making us 'CRASH': When the CP pulls away from us we become frantic, wondering what we did wrong. So, we try even harder to prove our worthiness in order to gain back their love and admiration.
2. We become the 'enabler': We make up excuses for the CP, live in denial, or take direct blame for their withdrawal from us. We do not hold the CP accountable for their actions, but instead we try to hide the reality of their actions from ourselves. We refuse to hear the CP when they tell us to 'go away', choosing, instead, to focus only on their 'come here' statements or actions. We make up excuses for the CPs behavior, absolving the CP from all responsibility!
We become addicted to our CPs. We are now CP Addicts.
The harder the CP Addict tries to recall, or recover, that 'euphoric rush' they experienced in the beginning stage of the relationship, the more likely they 'fail' and feel defeated. That's because the more you go 'after' the CP, the more you will be rejected.
What happens next is what I call the 'hook'; the CP does, from time to time, 'relinquish' (briefly) to us. The CP will let down their defenses and insinuate – either through words or actions – that they want to be with us. This, in turn, gives the CP Addict a 'fix' on their much sought after 'euphoric rush'. They get their high. They feel good. Satiated. They soon learn that their relentless pursuit to 'win back the CP' (their drug) pays off. But, too, they learn very quickly that it only pays off for a little while. They feel that euphoric feeling of hitting a 'mini jackpot' - and believe that - if they only keep it up - the big 'jackpot' is just around the corner!
"The CP has a unique way of making you feel that 'maybe', 'in the future', 'somewhere down the road' ... which keeps you 'hooked' to him by hope and trapped by the possibility ('maybe, if I'm just more patient, less demanding, a better woman, etc...')"
Love her...She explains CP behavior brilliantly
The beginning of a relationship with a CP (commitment-phobic person) can be escalating (to say the least!) The CP chases you with such intense and total admiration that we begin to feel just so damned good about OURSELVES that we are actually floating on air! This euphoric stage sets the scene for the devastating 'crash' that is bound to happen.
Unfortunately, when we feel so euphoric by the actions of the CP in the 'pursuing stage' we tend to see the CP as Omni-important. The more power we give them, the harder we fall.
When we give the CP this power over us, we may react in two adverse ways when evidence of their commitmentphobia surfaces...
1. The CP pulls away or withdraws from us, making us 'CRASH': When the CP pulls away from us we become frantic, wondering what we did wrong. So, we try even harder to prove our worthiness in order to gain back their love and admiration.
2. We become the 'enabler': We make up excuses for the CP, live in denial, or take direct blame for their withdrawal from us. We do not hold the CP accountable for their actions, but instead we try to hide the reality of their actions from ourselves. We refuse to hear the CP when they tell us to 'go away', choosing, instead, to focus only on their 'come here' statements or actions. We make up excuses for the CPs behavior, absolving the CP from all responsibility!
We become addicted to our CPs. We are now CP Addicts.
The harder the CP Addict tries to recall, or recover, that 'euphoric rush' they experienced in the beginning stage of the relationship, the more likely they 'fail' and feel defeated. That's because the more you go 'after' the CP, the more you will be rejected.
What happens next is what I call the 'hook'; the CP does, from time to time, 'relinquish' (briefly) to us. The CP will let down their defenses and insinuate – either through words or actions – that they want to be with us. This, in turn, gives the CP Addict a 'fix' on their much sought after 'euphoric rush'. They get their high. They feel good. Satiated. They soon learn that their relentless pursuit to 'win back the CP' (their drug) pays off. But, too, they learn very quickly that it only pays off for a little while. They feel that euphoric feeling of hitting a 'mini jackpot' - and believe that - if they only keep it up - the big 'jackpot' is just around the corner!
"The CP has a unique way of making you feel that 'maybe', 'in the future', 'somewhere down the road' ... which keeps you 'hooked' to him by hope and trapped by the possibility ('maybe, if I'm just more patient, less demanding, a better woman, etc...')"
Posted by CAPLOCKAries Moon, eh? That explains where a Cap gets all the 'hehehe' energy and time to use emoticons! 😛Posted by InLoveWithLifeYour welcome. Just thought id save you the heartache. I may need woman advice someday lol 😄
Hey there, Friends,
Pls do check this out! (My poem for that Mr. Cap)
https://www.unconventionaldawns.wordpress.com/2016/08/02/an-ode-to-the-smart-pretender/
And thank you, CapLock,
For tickling my funny bone, for giving me solid advice, and for provoking me with your two-liner! (Dedicating it to ya!)
Thanks! 🙂
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Sure, that day when I give you advice, I'll expect another poem from ya! 😄
Lol damn girl 10 pages. You trolling. Lol
Posted by ForeverlovemeCommitment phone thingy is something he told me in the 2nd or 3rd month. After that, he's been sweet many times and said, "love you" in words and actions. He runs away only when I bring the commitment stuff. So what does he mean? Love is a lie? I don't understand.
Commitment phobes will commit if they are serious about the person.
I am one. I still will commit through actions initially & words when I am sure that is the person I want
& can give the person an explanation of what emotions I'm feeling if asked.
It's not the CP in his case.
He feels he already answered her so he will always use that as his out..."I told you in the beginning" or "I already told you...."
BTW, dear, we've had no communication for 3-4 days in a row. I've deleted his contact details so that I won't disturb him even if I felt emotional. It is kinda painful; in the past, two times he's come back breaking the silence. Many times I went back. It is not easy to get over. I feel you're the one in here who'll understand what I mean. Hence I'm sharing it with you...
I can't help but open his blog and read his poems, especially the last sarcastic one he wrote for me. I bet he'll be missing me, too. I know him; he finds it so difficult to admit... Just feeling bad, sweetheart. Can't help but think if we will get back together; if there's any chance of that happening. Natural for any woman, right? 😢
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hahaha, dear! I'm a writer/poet. 10 pages isn't a big count! 😛
Lol damn girl 10 pages. You trolling. Lol
Plus I've found some cool friends in here - honestly, these guys and girls are helpful. I do owe them. (Owe what? More pages! 😉 )
Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hahaha, dear! I'm a writer/poet. 10 pages isn't a big count! 😛
Lol damn girl 10 pages. You trolling. Lol
Plus I've found some cool friends in here - honestly, these guys and girls are helpful. I do owe them. (Owe what? More pages! 😉 )click to expand
Haha sure.
Can I ask you what has happened since? And if someone is was in your shoes and needed advice what eould you say?
Posted by ForeverlovemeThank you, dear.Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by ForeverlovemeCommitment phone thingy is something he told me in the 2nd or 3rd month. After that, he's been sweet many times and said, "love you" in words and actions. He runs away only when I bring the commitment stuff. So what does he mean? Love is a lie? I don't understand.
Commitment phobes will commit if they are serious about the person.
I am one. I still will commit through actions initially & words when I am sure that is the person I want
& can give the person an explanation of what emotions I'm feeling if asked.
It's not the CP in his case.
He feels he already answered her so he will always use that as his out..."I told you in the beginning" or "I already told you...."
BTW, dear, we've had no communication for 3-4 days in a row. I've deleted his contact details so that I won't disturb him even if I felt emotional. It is kinda painful; in the past, two times he's come back breaking the silence. Many times I went back. It is not easy to get over. I feel you're the one in here who'll understand what I mean. Hence I'm sharing it with you...
I can't help but open his blog and read his poems, especially the last sarcastic one he wrote for me. I bet he'll be missing me, too. I know him; he finds it so difficult to admit... Just feeling bad, sweetheart. Can't help but think if we will get back together; if there's any chance of that happening. Natural for any woman, right? 😢
Nothing wrong with the way you feel.
Everything just depends where he's at mentally and emotionally.
Usually for me it is, I genuinely like the person as a person, I just don't see long-term potential. If I really don't like someone & am not interested, I won't make any attempt to reach out once things end.
I also won't say I love someone unless I mean it.
Yes commitment means expectations & being held accountable - some people will shy away from this due to the distance alone.
Idk even as a cap I don't like being pressured, it usually just makes me rebel & do the opposite of what you're pressuring me to do. I like to make my own decisions when I'm ready to.
It will get easier with each day. I hope you feel better soonclick to expand
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428After days of lengthy arguments, both of us were annoyed. I asked him what his final answers to some of my questions regarding commitment. After this, we had another argument. The questions still remain unanswered. In the meanwhile, he's posted a sarcastic 'welcome back' poem, which annoyed me further, and I posted another kinda powerful one (which I don't know if he's read; but if he's read, it would hurt him more). No contact for 3-4 days now. And you know how sensitive yet strong women would feel - "if he comes back willing to commit, it'd be nice; if not, I can and will move on".Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hahaha, dear! I'm a writer/poet. 10 pages isn't a big count! 😛
Lol damn girl 10 pages. You trolling. Lol
Plus I've found some cool friends in here - honestly, these guys and girls are helpful. I do owe them. (Owe what? More pages! 😉 )
Haha sure.
Can I ask you what has happened since? And if someone is was in your shoes and needed advice what eould you say?click to expand
And for someone in my place, I'd say, "don't get into any further chit-chat, sweet talk or argument even if you are tempted to know how he's doing; not a word till he says that he's willing to commit". Thank you, my dear Taurean. 🙂
You guys are really sweet.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeWhat I'm learning is to be who you are and bend only when you have to. Not just you but both and since you kinda just keep asking. I know people who are ready would be like okay let's see how it goes but he's not even doing that which makes me think it's pressured. That would freak me out alittle. I don't know what your stance is when someone isn't ready, do you leave it be as friends or do you hang around and see and peep out, almost like keep asking questions to see.Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428After days of lengthy arguments, both of us were annoyed. I asked him what his final answers to some of my questions regarding commitment. After this, we had another argument. The questions still remain unanswered. In the meanwhile, he's posted a sarcastic 'welcome back' poem, which annoyed me further, and I posted another kinda powerful one (which I don't know if he's read; but if he's read, it would hurt him more). No contact for 3-4 days now. And you know how sensitive yet strong women would feel - "if he comes back willing to commit, it'd be nice; if not, I can and will move on".Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hahaha, dear! I'm a writer/poet. 10 pages isn't a big count! 😛
Lol damn girl 10 pages. You trolling. Lol
Plus I've found some cool friends in here - honestly, these guys and girls are helpful. I do owe them. (Owe what? More pages! 😉 )
Haha sure.
Can I ask you what has happened since? And if someone is was in your shoes and needed advice what eould you say?
And for someone in my place, I'd say, "don't get into any further chit-chat, sweet talk or argument even if you are tempted to know how he's doing; not a word till he says that he's willing to commit". Thank you, my dear Taurean. 🙂
You guys are really sweet.click to expand
I've been in a situation where it isn't emotional enough and still hang but then I keep seeing if I don't show or at least say hi I feel it would evaporate and then I start feeling not as important as I thought.
Should a guy ask a woman out or should woman be more assertive. I have experienced both. I really believe it's timing, patience, and what type of friendship can pop off immediately and beginning the questioning. Not to test but to see for everyone sake.
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
These men are a handful... I'm starting to feel stressed too.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
Posted by pinkbird03I understand. Stressed, yes.
These men are a handful... I'm starting to feel stressed too.
Good luck though lady
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.click to expand
Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.click to expand
Call 1-800-CAPLOCK-ISAWESOME
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
Posted by pinkbird03#Pinkbird03, tell you what, sweetheart? I'm over the sickness! Yep. You know us Leos - no matter who you are, if you don't respect us, we'll delete you from our life eezily! 😄Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.click to expand
#CapLock has a hotline number— Why didn't ya share that number with me, CapLock— GRRR... !!!
Posted by CAPLOCKTell you what, dearie? All of us girls pray that you fall deeply in love with a long-distance Cappy! That day, there will more outgoing calls from the hotline number than incoming. Ain't I chweet? 😄Posted by pinkbird03Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
Call 1-800-CapLockisAwesome
Additional charges may apply for for long distance
LMAO ......il
Im feeling stressed too......and im not even in a relationship...These girls are a handful...I need a break -_-
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Posted by Jalent99Hahaha, Leos are even more confident and decisive. In fact he called me 'cocksure' once, and I took that as a compliment! Let him call me anything. I'm over the sickness. I'm now celebrating my freedom. Please do come over for a drink when you're free! 🙂
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
There's a saying sort of - "One thing that Leos can't tolerate - disrespect. They are the most self-respecting and self-loving individuals of all." 😛
True in my case. 😄
Posted by InLoveWithLifeI have a Leo rising, but not quite enough to give me that much confidence and move on with soo much ease. Good that U have decided! ??Posted by Jalent99Hahaha, Leos are even more confident and decisive. In fact he called me 'cocksure' once, and I took that as a compliment! Let him call me anything. I'm over the sickness. I'm now celebrating my freedom. Please do come over for a drink when you're free! 🙂
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....click to expand
Posted by ForeverlovemeI get it very well, dear. In fact, no other man has expressed his love for me in such a subtle way like this guy did. It was for his subtle way that I fell at the beginning. And his touches were just what I'd always dreamt of, so romantic. People may lift their eyebrows here thinking I mean sex, but no, I don't.
I suck at communication. Let me just feel & touch you
But his logic - "because I suck at communication, I'm gonna treat you like a stranger and maintain a distance when we are away from each other" - is sickening, unacceptable, esp for someone so open and expressive like me.
Posted by pinkbird03I'd rather call 1800-CapLockIsCute. Because I bet he'd always answer there! Right, CapLock? 😉
Call 1-800-CAPLOCK-ISAWESOME
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'm Lady Luck, dearie. All smiles now. Come over for some fun anytime! 🙂
Good luck though lady
Posted by CAPLOCKMe too! I hate sleeping alone. I wish I had a Capricorn cat. He would definitely fall in love with me quickly because I like to spoil the ones I love. LolPosted by InLoveWithLifeIm not going to lie, hell yeah I fall deeply. No such thing as a grey area for me.Posted by CAPLOCKTell you what, dearie? All of us girls pray that you fall deeply in love with a long-distance Cappy! That day, there will more outgoing calls from the hotline number than incoming. Ain't I chweet? 😄Posted by pinkbird03Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
Call 1-800-CapLockisAwesome
Additional charges may apply for for long distance
LMAO ......il
Im feeling stressed too......and im not even in a relationship...These girls are a handful...I need a break -_-
Long distance sounds so hard though. I hate sleeping alone 😢
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But seriously, you deserve a great girlfriend!! Go for it!
Posted by InLoveWithLifeI think they analyzed every little detail that's important to them. I asked my cap what was important to him and I could not believe how long his text was!! Im thinking it's too hard to live up to some of these men's expectations.Posted by pinkbird03#Pinkbird03, tell you what, sweetheart? I'm over the sickness! Yep. You know us Leos - no matter who you are, if you don't respect us, we'll delete you from our life eezily! 😄Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
#CapLock has a hotline number— Why didn't ya share that number with me, CapLock— GRRR... !!!click to expand
Posted by InLoveWithLifeSo what are your expectation seriously? What's your Venus? 7th house? And possibly 5th?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'm Lady Luck, dearie. All smiles now. Come over for some fun anytime! 🙂
Good luck though lady
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Posted by InLoveWithLifeBe right der. Lol..?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'm Lady Luck, dearie. All smiles now. Come over for some fun anytime! 🙂
Good luck though lady
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Posted by pinkbird03What's your expectations?Posted by InLoveWithLifeI think they analyzed every little detail that's important to them. I asked my cap what was important to him and I could not believe how long his text was!! Im thinking it's too hard to live up to some of these men's expectations.Posted by pinkbird03#Pinkbird03, tell you what, sweetheart? I'm over the sickness! Yep. You know us Leos - no matter who you are, if you don't respect us, we'll delete you from our life eezily! 😄Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
#CapLock has a hotline number— Why didn't ya share that number with me, CapLock— GRRR... !!!click to expand
@firstdecantaurianwomen0428
Loyalty, honesty, independence, confidence, reliable, disciplined, flexible, proactive, synergistic, and some common interests. For example, I probably will never date an outdoorsman because I hate camping, fishing, hunting, hiking, bugs, ect. It's just too big of a life style difference. Religion is important to me too.
Loyalty, honesty, independence, confidence, reliable, disciplined, flexible, proactive, synergistic, and some common interests. For example, I probably will never date an outdoorsman because I hate camping, fishing, hunting, hiking, bugs, ect. It's just too big of a life style difference. Religion is important to me too.
Phew! I agree, PinkBird03! For me, any day, personal life (family, friends, solitude and fun) come first. But I guess that fellow would simply be happy devoting all his life to work and achievements. How can we live with someone who'll hardly have any time for us?
Just in case you didn't check out 'signs he loves you' in Google (I used to do when I was bored and confused), the first thing that most psychologists and relationship experts say is that "he makes you a priority". They're right. But guys like this? There you'll start getting depressed, dear, and you might feel as though you're an option. That's how I used to feel some time in the middle!
Just in case you didn't check out 'signs he loves you' in Google (I used to do when I was bored and confused), the first thing that most psychologists and relationship experts say is that "he makes you a priority". They're right. But guys like this? There you'll start getting depressed, dear, and you might feel as though you're an option. That's how I used to feel some time in the middle!
Posted by CAPLOCKCapLock, is that for me? Gulp!Posted by Jalent99Not sure but i cant pm you. Regarding what you said.... He's not just fading but pulling back because of what you wrote to him 2 Fridays ago. He probably felt show down. It showed hesitation on your part when he was making time to see you already.
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
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Posted by CAPLOCKLol! If not for fun, I'd die, CapLock!Posted by InLoveWithLifePosted by pinkbird03I'd rather call 1800-CapLockIsCute. Because I bet he'd always answer there! Right, CapLock? 😉
Call 1-800-CAPLOCK-ISAWESOME
Ring Ring its Me 😄 lol You're funny.
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Ahem... BTW I dialled this special Hotline number just now and it was engaged... Care to tell me who she is before I find that out myself? Grrr... !!!
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I don't know about my astrology chart stuff, dear. I only know that my sun sign is awesome Leo 😉 and my moon sign is Scorpio. Don't know any details of his either except that he's a Cap Sun.Posted by InLoveWithLifeSo what are your expectation seriously? What's your Venus? 7th house? And possibly 5th?Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'm Lady Luck, dearie. All smiles now. Come over for some fun anytime! 🙂
Good luck though lady
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My expectation is simple - give me the time and effort, loyalty and honesty that I give you. I'm not asking for something that I'm not giving!
Also be more open, at least during really strenuous times or rough times, so that whatever the problem be, we can sort things out together.
Other than that, you be yourself and I'll be myself. We'll lead a happy life being each other's most trustworthy and reliable partner cum friend. Simple.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeNope. We are not priorities! But they don't want to let us go either. I tried to end things with mine the other day because I don't think he likes me as much as I like him. That's what I told him actually lol there was a million excuses, but he did say he liked me. So I told him I'll give it a little longer. I just don't know what's going to happen.
Phew! I agree, PinkBird03! For me, any day, personal life (family, friends, solitude and fun) come first. But I guess that fellow would simply be happy devoting all his life to work and achievements. How can we live with someone who'll hardly have any time for us?
Just in case you didn't check out 'signs he loves you' in Google (I used to do when I was bored and confused), the first thing that most psychologists and relationship experts say is that "he makes you a priority". They're right. But guys like this? There you'll start getting depressed, dear, and you might feel as though you're an option. That's how I used to feel some time in the middle!
I'm not so sure I'd date another cap ever again. I'd definitely be friends with one though!!
Posted by CAPLOCKThank u! Ok, trust u on this. What shd i do moving forward?Posted by Jalent99Not sure but i cant pm you. Regarding what you said.... He's not just fading but pulling back because of what you wrote to him 2 Fridays ago. He probably felt show down. It showed hesitation on your part when he was making time to see you already.
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
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Posted by CAPLOCKMy intention was NOT to hurt him, CapLock! Never! But how in the world am I supposed to take it lightly when he'd keep pulling back every now and then, and treat me like a stranger, not answering a single call and ignoring most of my messages, always saying 'busy' but never telling me even what keeps him busy! I felt bad, buddy, and I act impulsively, lose my cool easily and cannot hide my anger. So I yelled. Well, if not for all the gap in communication and the misunderstanding, I think we would've made a good couple.Posted by Jalent99Not sure but i cant pm you. Regarding what you said.... He's not just fading but pulling back because of what you wrote to him 2 Fridays ago. He probably felt show down. It showed hesitation on your part when he was making time to see you already.
Dunno about the guys but in such situations, but when the other party gives me negative emotions, it amplifies 10x....whatever good u have done will be erased for the moment. Keep it up at getting back at him and he will be done for good....
I think it might be a Cap thing, I dont rem any of the good in the days/weeks/mths that I am unhappy with what my partner has done. In the rare occasion I decide to retaliate and after a long time I regret. Regrets rarely happen, just once in my love life, cause Caps are generally confident of decisions they have made....
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Posted by pinkbird03I feel likewise, dear. They act as though we mean the world to them till we express our love for them. From then on, it's almost always like "I don't have time for you, but I won't let you go either; I'll come to you only when I need you, not when you need me". That's unacceptable!!!Posted by InLoveWithLifeNope. We are not priorities! But they don't want to let us go either. I tried to end things with mine the other day because I don't think he likes me as much as I like him. That's what I told him actually lol there was a million excuses, but he did say he liked me. So I told him I'll give it a little longer. I just don't know what's going to happen.
Phew! I agree, PinkBird03! For me, any day, personal life (family, friends, solitude and fun) come first. But I guess that fellow would simply be happy devoting all his life to work and achievements. How can we live with someone who'll hardly have any time for us?
Just in case you didn't check out 'signs he loves you' in Google (I used to do when I was bored and confused), the first thing that most psychologists and relationship experts say is that "he makes you a priority". They're right. But guys like this? There you'll start getting depressed, dear, and you might feel as though you're an option. That's how I used to feel some time in the middle!
I'm not so sure I'd date another cap ever again. I'd definitely be friends with one though!!
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Posted by CAPLOCKHaha, scared of ghosts? 😉 LolPosted by InLoveWithLifeIm not going to lie, hell yeah I fall deeply. No such thing as a grey area for me.Posted by CAPLOCKTell you what, dearie? All of us girls pray that you fall deeply in love with a long-distance Cappy! That day, there will more outgoing calls from the hotline number than incoming. Ain't I chweet? 😄Posted by pinkbird03Posted by InLoveWithLifeMy cap is the same way! @caplock gave me great advice and helped me make progress 🙂 he has a hotline number!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Communication seems to be the biggest problem, and that causes a lot of misunderstanding. Otherwise, when we meet personally he's really nice. That way, we're able to give each other what we want.Posted by InLoveWithLifeYeah it's alot to give someone who may not be ready for long term commitment and even though is there any other communication problems or bedroom problems and how long have you know him?
I kinda get what you mean. The problem on my side is simple: without commitment and on-and-off behaviour, I don't know how to react when we get close or intimate, both physically and emotionally. He has understood my problem (that's one reason why I like him), but he's unable to give me an answer. I don't intend to pressurize him, but if I don't get a clear answer, I can't accept it when we have to part in future, after getting really close... So I am not able to be myself b'coz I can and want to give my all to only one man, to my man.
Call 1-800-CapLockisAwesome
Additional charges may apply for for long distance
LMAO ......il
Im feeling stressed too......and im not even in a relationship...These girls are a handful...I need a break -_-
Long distance sounds so hard though. I hate sleeping alone 😢
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And don't tell me 'fall deeply'; that kinda makes me think about the few really good days he and I had. :/
Hey, PinkBird03,
Keeping aside all this astrology thing aside, Caps are always loyal and love deeply, etc., (let's forget for now that the guys who made us discuss all this are Cap), do you think this is really love?
How can you love someone and not make them your priority, not open up to them, and ignore them knowing that they will feel bad? Do you really think this is love? I'm just asking you. I'm confused.
Keeping aside all this astrology thing aside, Caps are always loyal and love deeply, etc., (let's forget for now that the guys who made us discuss all this are Cap), do you think this is really love?
How can you love someone and not make them your priority, not open up to them, and ignore them knowing that they will feel bad? Do you really think this is love? I'm just asking you. I'm confused.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeWell we haven't even said the L word! It's only now that we're both opening up with words. Maybe because I have had enough of the gray area. But... We still don't see each other much. I just moved a mile away from him on Sunday. Nothing's changed!Posted by pinkbird03I feel likewise, dear. They act as though we mean the world to them till we express our love for them. From then on, it's almost always like "I don't have time for you, but I won't let you go either; I'll come to you only when I need you, not when you need me". That's unacceptable!!!Posted by InLoveWithLifeNope. We are not priorities! But they don't want to let us go either. I tried to end things with mine the other day because I don't think he likes me as much as I like him. That's what I told him actually lol there was a million excuses, but he did say he liked me. So I told him I'll give it a little longer. I just don't know what's going to happen.
Phew! I agree, PinkBird03! For me, any day, personal life (family, friends, solitude and fun) come first. But I guess that fellow would simply be happy devoting all his life to work and achievements. How can we live with someone who'll hardly have any time for us?
Just in case you didn't check out 'signs he loves you' in Google (I used to do when I was bored and confused), the first thing that most psychologists and relationship experts say is that "he makes you a priority". They're right. But guys like this? There you'll start getting depressed, dear, and you might feel as though you're an option. That's how I used to feel some time in the middle!
I'm not so sure I'd date another cap ever again. I'd definitely be friends with one though!!
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