Why would a Capricorn man ignore someone he loved

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Was with a Capricorn man for a year and a half. Best friends for the first six months. In a relationship for a year. Things went south due to both of us but after he was very mean to me on the phone he apologized later that night and even cried and talked about the good times. Even agreed to meet that Saturday to talk in person. But received a text from him but in short he would never contact me again. But he did 10 months later but I answered the phone in a manner in which now I regret. But if he truly ever cared about me and loved me how can he ignore me like he has? I'm talking no return of my texts, not even the one of me apologizing on how I answered the phone. Hasn't answered any phone calls, even though it's only been a couple of calls. But it has been 2 years since we last talked. Does he hate me that much?? I believed this man to be my best friend and he told me he would always be there for me and that he was going no where. If capricorns are so true to there word, why did he lie?
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When you answered the phone in the bad manner in which you alluded to, it probably confirmed to him that leaving you alone for all that time was the right decision. Which more than likely put out the last embers of the fire. Its a long way back from this point my dear. I wouldn't advise it unless you really want this man. If he hasn't responded in 2 years, I would imagine that he isn't likely to ever respond. Keep the good memories and go create some new ones with someone else.

Best of luck.
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Posted by Capri-sun
He didn't lie. Once a cap is done, they are done. He may have felt betrayed or disrespected in some way. How did you answer the phone? He cared for you otherwise you wouldn't have been in his life for that long of a period. How did things end between you two?
Well when he called 10 months after not hearing anything from him I said, " I believe you dialed the wrong number ". There was silence so I said hello twice and then I could hear his co workers talking, but he left the phone on for 13 mins before he hung it up right before he clocked out for work. But I didn't know how to answer the phone. After all we were supposed to meet and talk and then he sent the text that made my heart sink. And he lied about always being there for me when I needed him. I figured if I answered it with a hello like nothing ever happened that he would do what he did to me the last time.

He wronged me in a way that no woman woukd forgive but I did forgive him became thought he was sorry. But I do one little thing to make sure what he did to me that he didn't do it to anyone else, well when he found out he wasn't happy. But all I did was got on his phone and got a phone number and when I called this person I had my number blocked and just asked the question. This person answered in a way that he didn't do it to anyone else so I took this persons word and let it go. But that is one thing he couldn't do was let it go. He would constantly bring it up and then I would have to bring up as to why I did what I did because of what he did to me. But that isn't the reason things ended.

I think he finally got over me getting on his phone. Because I told him I would never donit again and my word is good. He said I know you havent, I said that is because I told you I wouldn't. He said no, I have the camera set to take a picture of anyone that is to pick up my phone and a lock on it now so I know you haven't been on it. I just told him what ever, I told you I would never get on it again and I don't lie.

I just wish I knew why he would do me that way. If he don't want nothing to do with me then that is ok, I just deserve to know who this man really is. Is he a man that just has some issues with being with someone he cares about or is he an evil man and I don't use the word evil lightly.

Just need to know which he is so I can put him in a category and put him behind me. But I can't say which he is because he has done good things for me and has been there for me but also has done bad things and said some weird and bad things to me that has me all f-ed up in my head. As an Aquarius our minds never stop and mines needs to ASAP......
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Posted by daron76
When you answered the phone in the bad manner in which you alluded to, it probably confirmed to him that leaving you alone for all that time was the right decision. Which more than likely put out the last embers of the fire. Its a long way back from this point my dear. I wouldn't advise it unless you really want this man. If he hasn't responded in 2 years, I would imagine that he isn't likely to ever respond. Keep the good memories and go create some new ones with someone else.

Best of luck.
Your right I messed up on how I answered the phone but it's because I really didn't know how to answer it after 10 months of him ignoring me especially after he told me he was going no where. But I said , " I believe you dialed the wrong number ". But what is wrong with me being upset? It was ok for him to be upset with me and yell at me and say things to me that I would never think that anyone would say to anyone regardless how mad you might be at them. But he texted me later early in the morning and said if I truly cared to call. And I did because I did still love him even after the stuff he said. You just don't quit loving someone and that is the problem I still due love him.

But if he wants nothing to do with me then I deserve at least closure for saying everything thst he said when we talked for 3 hours that early morning only to receive a text that made my heart drop. I just need to know where to put him at, like is he just a man that has issues and needs to work through them? Then he would be put in the space of not to bad of a person, maybe he did love me but he must have some problems he needs to deal with. And my heart can heal.

Or is he this evil person and I'm not using the word evil lightly. But that is why I'm so confused. I can't post things on hear about what he did or the things that he would tell me. But I excepted him for who he was but things got darker so if hes this evil person then that will be fine also. And my heart can heal. My situation is not a normal one that is why it is so freaking confusing for me. So so confusing......

But do I wish him to come back, yes. Because I mostly miss my best friend.... But of course I am an Aquarius.....
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He talked poorly to you. Leave him alone. Evil, not so bad, just pick one & put him there. If you're still upset after 10 months neither of you really had anything to talk about anyway.
The reason I answered that way is because I was reading up on relationship crap and it said not to be so eager and happy if they were to call, text or come back. Because if you did then they would see you as a doormat. I'm so tired of reading up on relationship crap because one site will say one thing and another will say something else. I my self hate games and hate playing games or games being played on me. Why is it so hard just to talk and actually say what you mean and mean what you say. If more people were like that then there would be less problems in people's lives because of not knowing what the other person truly think or wants from you.

I think what men don't understand is that if you tell a girl or a woman the truth, and if that truth is that you don't care about her and you two just don't have enough in common and sat there sorry they hurt you and be done with it. More women would respect men a lot more if they were just honest. Same prob goes with women towards men. Honesty is the only way to go and being when he was mad at me he said some pretty mean things to and about me but after he calmed down and talked to me later he apologized for everything he said and took full responsibility for everything and said that he only said that stuff to me because he wanted me to hurt as bad as I hurt him and feel as bad as I made him feel. But to me I believe when someone says the things like he did when he was mad, I believe that is truly how he feels. I think anger makes you tell the truth. But the entire time he was saying the mean things to me I not once said anything mean back.

I think that made him even angrier at me. He tried to say we hate each other but I told him that I didn't hate him multiple times then he said, well you make me think that you do.

I my self can forgive and forget but that is who I am. Yes one thing he said I didn't ever think I could forgive him for but with the help of God I was able to. He said " I'm glad your mother's dead ". Do people in general say things like that if you have hurt them just to hurt you back?

I my self could never say anything like that not even to someone who is on death row for killing someone I love. But maybe it's just me. Maybe people do stoop that low and don't care. Maybe because they think it's just words. But words hurt and once there said they will always be in your head and they eat away at you because you sit and think how can someone who supposedly loves and cares about you say something so , well I can't even thinl of oa word for it.

But yes I was able to forgive him for that and I just pray that he asked for forgiveness for even saying something like that. Sorry for rambling on but this is why I need closure, not because I still love him and it would be nice if he has grown in those 2 yrs and would like to become friends again. But because my heart and my head is so messed up because I don't knkw who or what he truly is and if he truly ever was my friend and if he ever loved and cared about me like he said he did. But that is why I have to have the courage to go to him and ask if he would be willing to talk. Not about getting back together, about certain things that I can't put on here so I can get the closure I deserve and be able to let my heart finally heal and let my brain finally rest and quit being a hamster on a wheel that never stops turing....... Then and only then will I be able to put him in the category where he belongs and finally get my life back.
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He talked poorly to you. Leave him alone. Evil, not so bad, just pick one & put him there. If you're still upset after 10 months neither of you really had anything to talk about anyway.
The reason I answered that way is because I was reading up on relationship crap and it said not to be so eager and happy if they were to call, text or come back. Because if you did then they would see you as a doormat. I'm so tired of reading up on relationship crap because one site will say one thing and another will say something else. I my self hate games and hate playing games or games being played on me. Why is it so hard just to talk and actually say what you mean and mean what you say. If more people were like that then there would be less problems in people's lives because of not knowing what the other person truly think or wants from you.

I think what men don't understand is that if you tell a girl or a woman the truth, and if that truth is that you don't care about her and you two just don't have enough in common and sat there sorry they hurt you and be done with it. More women would respect men a lot more if they were just honest. Same prob goes with women towards men. Honesty is the only way to go and being when he was mad at me he said some pretty mean things to and about me but after he calmed down and talked to me later he apologized for everything he said and took full responsibility for everything and said that he only said that stuff to me because he wanted me to hurt as bad as I hurt him and feel as bad as I made him feel. But to me I believe when someone says the things like he did when he was mad, I believe that is truly how he feels. I think anger makes you tell the truth. But the entire time he was saying the mean things to me I not once said anything mean back.

I think that made him even angrier at me. He tried to say we hate each other but I told him that I didn't hate him multiple times then he said, well you make me think that you do.

I my self can forgive and forget but that is who I am. Yes one thing he said I didn't ever think I could forgive him for but with the help of God I was able to. He said " I'm glad your mother's dead ". Do people in general say things like that if you have hurt them just to hurt you back?

I my self could never say anything like that not even to someone who is on death row for killing someone I love. But maybe it's just me. Maybe people do stoop that low and don't care. Maybe because they think it's just words. But words hurt and once there said they will always be in your head and they eat away at you because you sit and think how can someone who supposedly loves and cares about you say something so , well I can't even thinl of oa word for it.

But yes I was able to forgive him for that and I just pray that he asked for forgiveness for even saying something like that. Sorry for rambling on but this is why I need closure, not because I still love him and it would be nice if he has grown in those 2 yrs and would like to become friends again. But because my heart and my head is so messed up because I don't knkw who or what he truly is and if he truly ever was my friend and if he ever loved and cared about me like he said he did. But that is why I have to have the courage to go to him and ask if he would be willing to talk. Not about getting back together, about certain things that I can't put on here so I can get the closure I deserve and be able to let my heart finally heal and let my brain finally rest and quit being a hamster on a wheel that never stops turing....... Then and only then will I be able to put him in the category where he belongs and finally get my life back.
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You said if men were more honest women would do this or be that...

But you lied when you answered your phone.

You were not truthful about your feelings.

Why ? Because of what you read on a website.

I'm sorry...but you played yourself.

You want something (honesty) from someone and you're not honest yourself.

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What if he never gives you that closure you're looking for?
He don't have to talk to me to give me the closure I need. It will all have to do with how he treats me when I go to talk to him. If he is a decent person after 2 years and decides or not decide to talk to me but in his tone and the way he acts will give me the closure. If he hasn't grown as a person in 2 yrs and treats me like he did then I will know he is the evil person my gut has told me he is but my heart didn't want it to be. But that will give me the closure. And my self I dont see a big deal in seeing if he has grown enough to talk. It's just talking. It's not like I'm going over there to beg for him to come back or to have sex or anything else with him. Just talk and if his ex wife wants to join in the conversation then it's ok with me.
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He talked poorly to you. Leave him alone. Evil, not so bad, just pick one & put him there. If you're still upset after 10 months neither of you really had anything to talk about anyway.
The reason I answered that way is because I was reading up on relationship crap and it said not to be so eager and happy if they were to call, text or come back. Because if you did then they would see you as a doormat. I'm so tired of reading up on relationship crap because one site will say one thing and another will say something else. I my self hate games and hate playing games or games being played on me. Why is it so hard just to talk and actually say what you mean and mean what you say. If more people were like that then there would be less problems in people's lives because of not knowing what the other person truly think or wants from you.

I think what men don't understand is that if you tell a girl or a woman the truth, and if that truth is that you don't care about her and you two just don't have enough in common and sat there sorry they hurt you and be done with it. More women would respect men a lot more if they were just honest. Same prob goes with women towards men. Honesty is the only way to go and being when he was mad at me he said some pretty mean things to and about me but after he calmed down and talked to me later he apologized for everything he said and took full responsibility for everything and said that he only said that stuff to me because he wanted me to hurt as bad as I hurt him and feel as bad as I made him feel. But to me I believe when someone says the things like he did when he was mad, I believe that is truly how he feels. I think anger makes you tell the truth. But the entire time he was saying the mean things to me I not once said anything mean back.

I think that made him even angrier at me. He tried to say we hate each other but I told him that I didn't hate him multiple times then he said, well you make me think that you do.

I my self can forgive and forget but that is who I am. Yes one thing he said I didn't ever think I could forgive him for but with the help of God I was able to. He said " I'm glad your mother's dead ". Do people in general say things like that if you have hurt them just to hurt you back?

I my self could never say anything like that not even to someone who is on death row for killing someone I love. But maybe it's just me. Maybe people do stoop that low and don't care. Maybe because they think it's just words. But words hurt and once there said they will always be in your head and they eat away at you because you sit and think how can someone who supposedly loves and cares about you say something so , well I can't even thinl of oa word for it.

But yes I was able to forgive him for that and I just pray that he asked for forgiveness for even saying something like that. Sorry for rambling on but this is why I need closure, not because I still love him and it would be nice if he has grown in those 2 yrs and would like to become friends again. But because my heart and my head is so messed up because I don't knkw who or what he truly is and if he truly ever was my friend and if he ever loved and cared about me like he said he did. But that is why I have to have the courage to go to him and ask if he would be willing to talk. Not about getting back together, about certain things that I can't put on here so I can get the closure I deserve and be able to let my heart finally heal and let my brain finally rest and quit being a hamster on a wheel that never stops turing....... Then and only then will I be able to put him in the category where he belongs and finally get my life back.


You said if men were more honest women would do this or be that...

But you lied when you answered your phone.

You were not truthful about your feelings.

Why ? Because of what you read on a website.

I'm sorry...but you played yourself.

You want something (honesty) from someone and you're not honest yourself.

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Your right I did answer the phone wrong and I admit that. That is why I hate playing games. And that is the only advice these relationship coaches give is playing games. Maybe if I was me and not being someone I'm not then maybe just maybe he would at least just be my friend again. But I would be happy with closure and be able to move on.
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What if he never gives you that closure you're looking for?
He don't have to talk to me to give me the closure I need. It will all have to do with how he treats me when I go to talk to him. If he is a decent person after 2 years and decides or not decide to talk to me but in his tone and the way he acts will give me the closure. If he hasn't grown as a person in 2 yrs and treats me like he did then I will know he is the evil person my gut has told me he is but my heart didn't want it to be. But that will give me the closure. And my self I dont see a big deal in seeing if he has grown enough to talk. It's just talking. It's not like I'm going over there to beg for him to come back or to have sex or anything else with him. Just talk and if his ex wife wants to join in the conversation then it's ok with me.
What's your plan to reach out to him?
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If I do I probably will go to his house and knock on his door. He can either answer the door like an adult or not answer it or shut it in my face like a child. Then I will have my closure.

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That is the only way I know how to get a hold of him and for his reaction, well like I said if he acts like an adult then there is my closure. If he acts like he did the last time I was at his house or we he was so meant to me on the phone then there is my closure. If he hasnt grown in 2 years then he has some mental problems. Especially at the age of 54. Like i have said, there are a lot of good things he has done for me and there has been a lot of bad things he has done and have said to me. Most people would just say F him and never look back but I cant. I'm not wired that way. When I care and love someone I just can't walk away with out truly knowing who that person truly is. And with him showing both sides I can't just say he's one or the other but after 2 years if he hasn't grown as a person then I know exactly where he will be put.

And as for you saying I'm hoping for a different outcome, well it would be nice if he has grown and would be just a friend but that is not in no way my intentions of going to his house to get closure. And who knows, say I see him and think to my self, what in the heck did I see in him. Yes that could happen also. You just never know until you see the person. And we don't live in the same town so I can't just happen to see him at a store or walking the town so me going to him is the only way. But thank you for all your comments. God bless.
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Just seeing him will give me closure. Like I said who knows I might look at him and say WTF did I even see in him. That is with out him opening his mouth. Yes 54 and his ex wife is 59-60?

And what she did is ridiculous but I guess cray cray don't discriminate. I feel sorry for her but she chose what she did and will have to live with it till she dies. Yep that bad.....

It's like I was dealing with two 4 year olds and I was the youngest. 9 yrs younger then him and 15 yrs younger then cray cray.... lol
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That is the point. I have to see him. I can write a letter and send it in the mail and that would be no different then putting it on the door.

I actually need to see reaction or no reaction then I will have my closure.

But even if he is the evil person he will always have a place in my heart because of him helping me save my yorkie and I'm still paying him back for that and probably will be for quite a while. A MRI isn't cheap especially for a dog. But he was there for me regardless what his motives were behind helping me, whether it's because he did care or for what ever reason, I will always care and appreciate him for that no matter what was the real reason behind it was. But that is why it's so hard to see him for which person he truly is.

But when I do get the nerve up to go talk to him I will put down what happened. I just have to don't his for my health because the stress has effected my digestive system to where it's not working like it is supposed to and I know this this one of the biggest stresses that is causing it. And if I confront my fear then the stress will be released. I pray to God that it helps. Can't eat because when I do it just stays in my stomach and don't pass through and then causes extreme bloating to the point I was admitted to the hospital. So i know this is what in have to do to try and help my self. Not just mentally, emotionally but physically also.

So I will see what happens. But not doing nothing right now because I look 9 months pregnant.? and feel like I'm going to explode.

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I had an ex show up at my door and it was absolutely awful. It was uncomfortable in every way! I couldn't wait for him to leave.

So if you want to make matters worse for yourself, go ahead and show up at his house. I hope he doesn't call the cops!
It seems OP needs to see the Cap's reaction (or lack of) in person at his house ... for her health 😢 ...

I don't know what to think of that.

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She's just going to be heartbroken all over again... I don't get it either.
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Just because someone promises to always be with you doesn't mean they aren't allowed to change their minds, ESPECIALLY when you've helped them change their minds.

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Also, after having dated one myself, Aquas can sometimes be extremely annoying. They're obnoxious, sometimes oblivious to the consequences of their actions and stubborn as hell.

I wouldn't at all be surprised if you kept on throwing the past back in his face. That's one sure way for a Cap to throw in the towel (or, at least, do a disappearing act).



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See that is where you are wrong. He is the one that couldn't leave the past in the past where it belonged. We even talked about not bringing up what he did or what I did but he is the one that kept bringing it up. Not every person is like the person that kept annoying you.
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I had an ex show up at my door and it was absolutely awful. It was uncomfortable in every way! I couldn't wait for him to leave.

So if you want to make matters worse for yourself, go ahead and show up at his house. I hope he doesn't call the cops!
It won't make matters worse because nothing will happen. And if he can't wait for me to leave then no big deal. I probably won't be there for long anyhow. And as for him calling the cops, well I know that won't happen, trust me on that one.
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I had an ex show up at my door and it was absolutely awful. It was uncomfortable in every way! I couldn't wait for him to leave.

So if you want to make matters worse for yourself, go ahead and show up at his house. I hope he doesn't call the cops!
It seems OP needs to see the Cap's reaction (or lack of) in person at his house ... for her health 😢 ...

I don't know what to think of that.

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I can't put the entire story on here. If I could I would. It's not a reaction I'm looking for. But if he was to show the bad side of him then it would say a lot.



And no, I wouldn't get broken hearted all over again. Actually it will mend my heart.
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I had an ex show up at my door and it was absolutely awful. It was uncomfortable in every way! I couldn't wait for him to leave.

So if you want to make matters worse for yourself, go ahead and show up at his house. I hope he doesn't call the cops!
It seems OP needs to see the Cap's reaction (or lack of) in person at his house ... for her health 😢 ...

I don't know what to think of that.



I can't put the entire story on here. If I could I would. It's not a reaction I'm looking for. But if he was to show the bad side of him then it would say a lot.



And no, I wouldn't get broken hearted all over again. Actually it will mend my heart.

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Why would you do that to him? You're basically tempting him to show his bad side. Don't put him in that position. Don't make him be that person even if that's not your intention. If you truly love him, do what's best for him. Leave him alone. Let him stay happy and calm.
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A Cap's anger is most likely shown through silence. You would not often see a Cap lashing out in anger because it lacks both control and logic.

If you show up at his house OP, at best he might be polite upon first encounter. At worse, no ones answers the door. But I'm sure he won't speak to you after that. The approach will likely make you look very desperate and any respect he'd have left of you, would be gone after that point.

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And that would be fine. I wouldn't care if he does answer the door, or not answer the door or loose what respect he would have for me because it's about me getting closure and what ever he does even if it isn't anything is closure and that is all that matters.
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A Cap's anger is most likely shown through silence. You would not often see a Cap lashing out in anger because it lacks both control and logic.

If you show up at his house OP, at best he might be polite upon first encounter. At worse, no ones answers the door. But I'm sure he won't speak to you after that. The approach will likely make you look very desperate and any respect he'd have left of you, would be gone after that point.

IMO

And that would be fine. I wouldn't care if he does answer the door, or not answer the door or loose what respect he would have for me because it's about me getting closure and what ever he does even if it isn't anything is closure and that is all that matters.


Good luck to you. 🙂
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Thank you. But let me assure you that caps do get mad but I believe they hold it all in until they let it all out. I have seen this with my eyes wide open. I never thought in my life he would act like he did towards me and when he did it was scary. That I'm not going to lie. I just never seen anyone be like that before. Even the man I was with for 24yrs never acted or said things like this man did and we had many arguments in a 24 year period. But that is why I need closure from this cap man because I don't know which he truly is. He has been there for me when I needed him the most and has showed me a side of him that I had no clue that even existed. But when I do get up the nerve and go and see him, I will post what happened and how it helped me get my closure. Thanks again.
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Posted by Aquarius_confused
Posted by sakuraflowers
A Cap's anger is most likely shown through silence. You would not often see a Cap lashing out in anger because it lacks both control and logic.

If you show up at his house OP, at best he might be polite upon first encounter. At worse, no ones answers the door. But I'm sure he won't speak to you after that. The approach will likely make you look very desperate and any respect he'd have left of you, would be gone after that point.

IMO

And that would be fine. I wouldn't care if he does answer the door, or not answer the door or loose what respect he would have for me because it's about me getting closure and what ever he does even if it isn't anything is closure and that is all that matters.


Good luck to you. 🙂
Thank you. But let me assure you that caps do get mad but I believe they hold it all in until they let it all out. I have seen this with my eyes wide open. I never thought in my life he would act like he did towards me and when he did it was scary. That I'm not going to lie. I just never seen anyone be like that before. Even the man I was with for 24yrs never acted or said things like this man did and we had many arguments in a 24 year period. But that is why I need closure from this cap man because I don't know which he truly is. He has been there for me when I needed him the most and has showed me a side of him that I had no clue that even existed. But when I do get up the nerve and go and see him, I will post what happened and how it helped me get my closure. Thanks again.
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I think you should do it today. You got this girl. I hope it makes things better!
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We Aquas can be glutton for punishment. The more punishment doled out the more we approval seek and seek validation from the punisher. The dark side of Aquas refuse to accept rejection and move on, if the punisher throws a kernel of attention our way we will sit there for years trying to get more kernels of attention out of the situation which is down right weird and borderline creepy and that energy can compel a man to feel unsafe which leads to more rejection.

Although I'm married now this Aqua has been in your shoes but not to this extreme.

I suggest you tread carefully because he is not looking for you to pop back into his life and can take your behavior as being intrusive. Not sure why this phone situation mistake has dragged on for years but be super aware of the energy you're giving out, keep it short and keep it light.

Instead of bringing up the past try taking a more light hearted slow approach first. For example hey how you doing, I have been thinking about you lately and want to reconnect with you, how have you been kind of communication could open the line of communication back up.

But if you come in with a lot of uncomfortable past energy which includes displaying your pain and requiring closure he'll be running away from you again b/c one it is weird for a grown woman to seek closure after years of no contact. You're an adult move on. Also needing closure, seeking it, asking for it can come across as you being controlling and needy.

Tread carefully in how you deal with this. I been their with a Cap myself so I absolutely understand you b/c I'm an Aqua too.

I'm probably late on this but I love the new edit button!