Y'all have a six sense.

I am not sure if it is that you are tapping into the cancer side or what but you have a six sense and you always know when moods change.

"My Cap" came in this afternoon and said something is up with you some things on your mind and I said "I'm fine" and he's there laughing and said "yeah just like I'm fine" because I always tell him not to say That he is fine. He says "you can't hide from me I see you I know when you have something on your mind" and it really sucked because I really really really tried my damnedest to cover my feelings today!

I want to know how he does it! He then says fine I will leave you alone and I said bye. I guess he didn't like the way I said bye because he said "no I don't like that what's going on " and I said "nothing I'm fine."

How could I tell him, the person who I used to tell almost everything too that just being around him hurts me not being able to touch him the way I want or that I love him more than he suspected. That I have to get away from him and that I don't want to be friends until I get control of myself because it hurts me but I can't stay away either. I wonder if he senses that.

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I am not sure if it is that you are tapping into the cancer side or what but you have a six sense and you always know when moods change.

"My Cap" came in this afternoon and said something is up with you some things on your mind and I said "I'm fine" and he's there laughing and said "yeah just like I'm fine" because I always tell him not to say That he is fine. He says "you can't hide from me I see you I know when you have something on your mind" and it really sucked because I really really really tried my damnedest to cover my feelings today!

I want to know how he does it! He then says fine I will leave you alone and I said bye. I guess he didn't like the way I said bye because he said "no I don't like that what's going on " and I said "nothing I'm fine."

How could I tell him, the person who I used to tell almost everything too that just being around him hurts me not being able to touch him the way I want or that I love him more than he suspected. That I have to get away from him and that I don't want to be friends until I get control of myself because it hurts me but I can't stay away either. I wonder if he senses that.

Wait, why can't u touch him the way you want to? What happened?

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We work together. Although today he did play with my hair but that was because I had a new hair style . We have had several occasions where we could have kissed or otherwise but nothing happened. He said he's very good at controlling himself.

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I am not sure if it is that you are tapping into the cancer side or what but you have a six sense and you always know when moods change.

"My Cap" came in this afternoon and said something is up with you some things on your mind and I said "I'm fine" and he's there laughing and said "yeah just like I'm fine" because I always tell him not to say That he is fine. He says "you can't hide from me I see you I know when you have something on your mind" and it really sucked because I really really really tried my damnedest to cover my feelings today!

I want to know how he does it! He then says fine I will leave you alone and I said bye. I guess he didn't like the way I said bye because he said "no I don't like that what's going on " and I said "nothing I'm fine."

How could I tell him, the person who I used to tell almost everything too that just being around him hurts me not being able to touch him the way I want or that I love him more than he suspected. That I have to get away from him and that I don't want to be friends until I get control of myself because it hurts me but I can't stay away either. I wonder if he senses that.

Wait, why can't u touch him the way you want to? What happened?

We work together. Although today he did play with my hair but that was because I had a new hair style . We have had several occasions where we could have kissed or otherwise but nothing happened. He said he's very good at controlling himself.

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What I don't understand is why is he controlling himself? what is holding him back from.being with you because as I can see, you want to be with him as his girlfriend and it has been a long time too.

Has he mentioned why? I remembered he opened up and said he had feelings for you, has anything else happened?

Me thinks he senses you detaching and doesn't like it.

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kind of apply to my cap sister I'm not sure whether its her 6 sense or know it all nature though haha

I find it weird capricorns dig deep into people motives way more than scorpio and not in unassuming nature or out of curiosity sometimes I think they enjoy jumping to the ugly conclusion and are more thrilled when proven right LOL

There may be some truth in your statement

the cappies in my life make me feel naïve.

mind you, I'm good at reading people,I just don't care much about details. if I think someone is good then I expect them to be bad in some area too therefor don't care much about their shortcomings bc I choose to have them in my life

with cappies, I think once you let someone in you start focusing on everything they say and do. what they meant when they said this and that, does it have to do with fear of betrayal? or is it a pride thing? or both?

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For me, kinda like Capri said,it is an effort to take in as much information as possible to make the most rational choices I can. Also it is an effort to find the real "you". There are always layers of BS before you get down to the raw material. The little things about a person, the subtle stuff they think you won't see, those are the bread crumbs to the inside.

And yes, like scorpios, we are VERY observant.

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Me thinks he senses you detaching and doesn't like it.

I thought this too but what am I supposed to do I can't keep hanging on.

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I am not sure if it is that you are tapping into the cancer side or what but you have a six sense and you always know when moods change.

"My Cap" came in this afternoon and said something is up with you some things on your mind and I said "I'm fine" and he's there laughing and said "yeah just like I'm fine" because I always tell him not to say That he is fine. He says "you can't hide from me I see you I know when you have something on your mind" and it really sucked because I really really really tried my damnedest to cover my feelings today!

I want to know how he does it! He then says fine I will leave you alone and I said bye. I guess he didn't like the way I said bye because he said "no I don't like that what's going on " and I said "nothing I'm fine."

How could I tell him, the person who I used to tell almost everything too that just being around him hurts me not being able to touch him the way I want or that I love him more than he suspected. That I have to get away from him and that I don't want to be friends until I get control of myself because it hurts me but I can't stay away either. I wonder if he senses that.

Wait, why can't u touch him the way you want to? What happened?

We work together. Although today he did play with my hair but that was because I had a new hair style . We have had several occasions where we could have kissed or otherwise but nothing happened. He said he's very good at controlling himself.

What I don't understand is why is he controlling himself? what is holding him back from.being with you because as I can see, you want to be with him as his girlfriend and it has been a long time too.

Has he mentioned why? I remembered he opened up and said he had feelings for you, has anything else happened?

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When we met up and talked he said he had feeling for me but as far as being together there were things to consider. 1. We work together and he just doesn't feel comfortable doing that and doesn't want to feel like everyone would be in our business. 2. I have a kid and it is not like he has a problem dating someone with a kid he is open to it he just has never done it before so he is not sure how it works and what they dynamic would be like with my son's father. 3. He said I am still trying to figure you out I'm not sure if I can handle you, you have got a lot going on you are smart, beautiful, strong you go get the things out life I live a pretty boring life is that something you could handle. 4. He said he used to go out and be very social and date people but he has had his heart broken pretty badly and kind of shut himself away he just kind of sticks to his daily life but he also knows that even though he is content he is miserable and he know in order for a relationship to work he would have to open up more and he is not sure he would be able to do that and he wouldn't want to disappoint me.

So what it boils down to is we can't be together because of his fears.

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Posted by Andalusia
Me thinks he senses you detaching and doesn't like it.

I thought this too but what am I supposed to do I can't keep hanging on.

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Exactly.

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I am not sure if it is that you are tapping into the cancer side or what but you have a six sense and you always know when moods change.

"My Cap" came in this afternoon and said something is up with you some things on your mind and I said "I'm fine" and he's there laughing and said "yeah just like I'm fine" because I always tell him not to say That he is fine. He says "you can't hide from me I see you I know when you have something on your mind" and it really sucked because I really really really tried my damnedest to cover my feelings today!

I want to know how he does it! He then says fine I will leave you alone and I said bye. I guess he didn't like the way I said bye because he said "no I don't like that what's going on " and I said "nothing I'm fine."

How could I tell him, the person who I used to tell almost everything too that just being around him hurts me not being able to touch him the way I want or that I love him more than he suspected. That I have to get away from him and that I don't want to be friends until I get control of myself because it hurts me but I can't stay away either. I wonder if he senses that.

Wait, why can't u touch him the way you want to? What happened?

We work together. Although today he did play with my hair but that was because I had a new hair style . We have had several occasions where we could have kissed or otherwise but nothing happened. He said he's very good at controlling himself.

What I don't understand is why is he controlling himself? what is holding him back from.being with you because as I can see, you want to be with him as his girlfriend and it has been a long time too.

Has he mentioned why? I remembered he opened up and said he had feelings for you, has anything else happened?

When we met up and talked he said he had feeling for me but as far as being together there were things to consider. 1. We work together and he just doesn't feel comfortable doing that and doesn't want to feel like everyone would be in our business. 2. I have a kid and it is not like he has a problem dating someone with a kid he is open to it he just has never done it before so he is not sure how it works and what they dynamic would be like with my son's father. 3. He said I am still trying to figure you out I'm not sure if I can handle you, you have got a lot going on you are smart, beautiful, strong you go get the things out life I live a pretty boring life is that something you could handle. 4. He said he used to go out and be very social and date people but he has had his heart broken pretty badly and kind of shut himself away he just kind of sticks to his daily life but he also knows that even though he is content he is miserable and he know in order for a relationship to work he would have to open up more and he is not sure he would be able to do that and he wouldn't want to disappoint me.

So what it boils down to is we can't be together because of his fears.

Live your life. Either he's ready & willing to work through these things or he isn't. If you explained any of the scenarios to him from your perspective (for example, the kid & father dynamic) & he hasn't said, yes I can handle that or we'll work through it....then who cares....find a man who is ready to take the steps & date you.

I mean it's one thing to say he's uncertain or has concerns and it's another thing for him to expect you to wait around forever until he grows some balls...I understand his concerns, fears, & feelings. If he truly wants something, I believe he will put all those things to the side & work towards it.

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I totally agree thanks Capri

I see, it seems complicated for you to approach him because he might feel attacked and hide in his shell ?

Yes I feel the same way and I'm an aqua, I am usually very closed and I find it hard to open up to people, is easier for me to do it through a conversation rather than asking questions and answering.

My suggestion to you to make everything a little easier is to try to spend more time with him outside the office, if he's willing to do that you can talk to him about it.

Depending on how close you two are you can always take your kid to a park and let him know to join you and introduce him as your friend because he is your friend anyway.

if he has these doubts I'd ask him if he would still be willing to give it a try because you have to either move forward or move on.

Ugh he just asked me to lunch I feel an interrogation coming.