I don’t know how to play hard to get with a man. Is this important in the beginning phase of dating? (Page 2)

Hi,

Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙

I’m not too available.

Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫🫢 ooopppsss

I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”

Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.

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Hi,

Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙

I’m not too available.

Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫🫢 ooopppsss

I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”

Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.

Send it as a PM.

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I second this.

Then if nothing comes out of it, you can just delete, block and ignore. Hopefully, you never run into them at the grocery store or whatever. Lol!

I am too lazy to read everything.

Do we have a consensus? What’s the best way to play with guys?

@Rainbow87

I don’t watch these videos (I can’t do anything scripted, I live in the moment and do things on a whim) but my friend loves this guy.

Idk if she found anyone yet, we had a falling out but she had many guys crazy about her.

So for what it’s worth, try.

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Leo moon tells me it's not being straight forward that's the issue its probably too much too soon....

I was thinking the same....that and coming on a lot stronger than she thinks she actually is.

Only if we truly like the guy.

Lol! Leo Moon please. Especially Crab babies. It's a very passionate combo.

I'm curious, what does it look like when you truly like someone vs just like someone?

I don’t know about other Leo moons. But when I just like someone for fun I am flirty, outgoing and playful.

However, when I truly truly like someone, I shut down and become a bit shy even. I definitely wait for them to take the lead!

Hmph. So basically you confuse the hell out of your intended lol.

I'm gonna guess you have a Water Venus BNB?

I have a Cancer venus. Leo mars though paired with Gemini sun. Can I be a bigger paradox? A walking contradiction.

Well I am sure your partners are never bored.

I'd try to strangle you after 2 months, but I wouldn't be bored. My first love has many of your specs, but he has a Bull Merc.

Your Mars makes you quite passionate and playful...well at least from my experience with Leo Mars.

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I am sure some of them eventually get bored. Too much of a “good” thing is…well too much sometimes, lol.

It honestly is me who becomes bored first.

Why would you strangle me though? I heard that one before.

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Hi,

Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙

I’m not too available.

Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫🫢 ooopppsss

I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”

Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.

Send it as a PM.

I second this.

Then if nothing comes out of it, you can just delete, block and ignore. Hopefully, you never run into them at the grocery store or whatever. Lol!

It's a no lose gamble, saying happy birthday is innocuous. A risk would be asking someone out, saying they are fit etc.

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I’m pretty sure someone would get there after all the innocence of opening acts i.e. so how’s your day and such.

No risk=no gain.

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Hi,

Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙

I’m not too available.

Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫🫢 ooopppsss

I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”

Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.

Send it as a PM.

I second this.

Then if nothing comes out of it, you can just delete, block and ignore. Hopefully, you never run into them at the grocery store or whatever. Lol!

It's a no lose gamble, saying happy birthday is innocuous. A risk would be asking someone out, saying they are fit etc.

I’m pretty sure someone would get there after all the innocence of opening acts i.e. so how’s your day and such.

No risk=no gain.

I wouldn't

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Wouldn’t what? So what would be the purpose of the exchange?

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@Rainbow87

I don’t watch these videos (I can’t do anything scripted, I live in the moment and do things on a whim) but my friend loves this guy.

Idk if she found anyone yet, we had a falling out but she had many guys crazy about her.

So for what it’s worth, try.

I know of this guy. Saw him being interviewed on This Morning (popular early morning chat show in the UK) was absolutely donkeys ago. Maybe 10 years ago.

Agree with most of what he is saying. I think people will match energy though. More enthusiastic you are more excitable the other person becomes.

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My (former) best friend who is a conservative Capricorn girl with a Leo moon, lovesssss this guy!

I don’t have the attention span to truly listen to what he is saying, but I might have to listen.

It’s true. Lukewarm energy gets you nowhere. I would also add that attraction always has 2 be mutual. I don’t think you can persuade someone. Do you?

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Hi,

Sorry I took a while to respond. As you can see, I DO have a life and I’m busy! Hahaha 😙

I’m not too available.

Anyway, say that I write “Happy Birthday” to a guy on his Facebook wall but I’m the ONLY person that writes that. The thing is he has his birthday hidden so people don’t get notified when his birthday is. That’s why no one will write to him. I know his birthday because I kind of stalked his profile 🤫🫢 ooopppsss

I wanted to wish him a Happy Birthday because he always wished me a Happy Birthday and I’ve never done it for him. It’s a way of showing him that he matters to me. But I’m scared he might already assume I like him and think: “well, why put any effort? She’s so into me already. She even knows my birthday!”

Is this a bad idea? Will I seem desperate or too straightforward? At the same time, I will try to not be too available. Like, after the birthday wish, I will not be clingy but keep busy and do my own thing.

Send it as a PM.

I second this.

Then if nothing comes out of it, you can just delete, block and ignore. Hopefully, you never run into them at the grocery store or whatever. Lol!

It's a no lose gamble, saying happy birthday is innocuous. A risk would be asking someone out, saying they are fit etc.

I’m pretty sure someone would get there after all the innocence of opening acts i.e. so how’s your day and such.

No risk=no gain.

I wouldn't

Wouldn’t what? So what would be the purpose of the exchange?

Wouldn't ask someone out off the back of nice messages. It's my issue, but I either need it spelling out to me or clear signs like somebody spending a lot of time with me, don't really follow up eye contact, laughing at jokes or stuff like that. As I say nothing is guaranteed, until it's guaranteed.

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But could it be they only know each other via social media? Do people even interact anymore elsewhere? lol

I agree about the eye contact, great convos, etc.

I personally enjoy that part the most. Getting to know each other and that first high. It’s never as good as the first time. It should be enjoyed a lot more.

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@Rainbow87

I don’t watch these videos (I can’t do anything scripted, I live in the moment and do things on a whim) but my friend loves this guy.

Idk if she found anyone yet, we had a falling out but she had many guys crazy about her.

So for what it’s worth, try.

I know of this guy. Saw him being interviewed on This Morning (popular early morning chat show in the UK) was absolutely donkeys ago. Maybe 10 years ago.

Agree with most of what he is saying. I think people will match energy though. More enthusiastic you are more excitable the other person becomes.

My (former) best friend who is a conservative Capricorn girl with a Leo moon, lovesssss this guy!

I don’t have the attention span to truly listen to what he is saying, but I might have to listen.

It’s true. Lukewarm energy gets you nowhere. I would also add that attraction always has 2 be mutual. I don’t think you can persuade someone. Do you?

I think attraction is instant most of the time. Obviously people who are good at flirting, chatting etc can create attraction more easily as can people who are good looking. I think someone can become attracted to someone over time if they aren't necessarily their type such as in an arranged marriage or childhood friends when they become adults.

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Hmmm…this is interesting. Usually I go off my instinct like wow sparks fly or I am intrigued enough.

But my relationships don’t last either.

I should try the arranged marriage route if I ever mean to settle down. Billions of people around the world can’t be wrong, right?!

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@Rainbow87

I don’t watch these videos (I can’t do anything scripted, I live in the moment and do things on a whim) but my friend loves this guy.

Idk if she found anyone yet, we had a falling out but she had many guys crazy about her.

So for what it’s worth, try.

I know of this guy. Saw him being interviewed on This Morning (popular early morning chat show in the UK) was absolutely donkeys ago. Maybe 10 years ago.

Agree with most of what he is saying. I think people will match energy though. More enthusiastic you are more excitable the other person becomes.

My (former) best friend who is a conservative Capricorn girl with a Leo moon, lovesssss this guy!

I don’t have the attention span to truly listen to what he is saying, but I might have to listen.

It’s true. Lukewarm energy gets you nowhere. I would also add that attraction always has 2 be mutual. I don’t think you can persuade someone. Do you?

I think attraction is instant most of the time. Obviously people who are good at flirting, chatting etc can create attraction more easily as can people who are good looking. I think someone can become attracted to someone over time if they aren't necessarily their type such as in an arranged marriage or childhood friends when they become adults.

Hmmm…this is interesting. Usually I go off my instinct like wow sparks fly or I am intrigued enough.

But my relationships don’t last either.

I should try the arranged marriage route if I ever mean to settle down. Billions of people around the world can’t be wrong, right?!

Billions of women cooking samosas fantasising about other men while their husband is at work.

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Desperate housewives of New Delhi. Coming to Netflix soon.

Lol, thanks for the morning laugh Alex!

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It’s always wild to me when women are scared to call the guy. His dick has been inside you…multiple times! But speaking on the phone is too scary? So backwards 🤣

Different levels. I personally would be more nervous going on a formal dinner date with someone than being naked in front of a stranger.

But why?

Tell me about whats nerve racking about a dinner.

I don't like dressing up, I'm only neat and tidy and own suits, but don't really wear "going out" clothes. Not big on idle chatter. Out of practise with it as well.

Would rather do things in reverse.

Well that just goes back to the 'be yourself' bit. If formal dinners are not your vibe then let it be known.

I don't believe in putting on a front to impress the other person or cater to what you think they want. Just be yourself. If they can't accept that you like a more casual vibe then its probably not a fit and you both can go your separate ways without wasting any more time.

I once went out with a guy, first date, casual bar hopping and dinner. He kept commenting on the way I was dressed saying I would look better in a sundress. It was winter here so 60 degrees and ocean breeze... I was in jeans and a leather jacket. There was no 2nd date. Like imma be comfy and warm, fuck your sundresses... there is no sun out.

Ummmm...ok maybe it's because of some dirty minded people I hang around but...guys have a thing about sundresses and doing the deed lol.

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Nothing puts you in the mood like being told how to dress 🥴