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Double standards
Understanding Double Standards in Dating
Double standards in dating often mean men and women are judged differently for similar behaviors. Men may expect patience, while women are criticized for needing space. Recognizing these biases can help you navigate relationships more confidently and fairly. Consistency and clear communication are key to addressing double standards and building healthier connections.
Sounds like a nut to begin with
This just confuses me.
Why?
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Ummm but when I chase as most of the ladies do around here we are told to sit there fuck down and be patient. Yet if I don’t chase im a player—
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Love the young lady young man x typical sag, my ex. Great qualities for a leeb lady
It’s just two different guys preferences. It’s not a rule.
Do your own style and find someone that doesn’t care about that shit or matches your style .
I understand you, but feel like shit because I’ve upset someone... the libra in me :/
Yeah that's pretty much been my experience. Just went thru something similar this week and I'm just done. I didnt get told I was a player like that but when I asked I was turned down, then a few days later my phone blows up cause he wants to see me that night... but work has been crazy this week and I haven't slept well so I said no... Last night I ask his schedule for the weekend and I get " why what's up" like wtf....
Im to old for games.
I think he’s used to attention validation, but you showed him you’ve got stuff going on.
He assumes women are one dimensional and seek or need men that badly, and put them as a priority when dating.
Because you are less available than expected, he assumes another man took your sought out attention.
You’re a player because you didn’t put him on a pedestal. It’s all about his ego validation, so it’s a double standard with him because you need to value him giving you his time.
If you were available and chased him, he’d discard you or make you jump through hoops to prove your loyalty.
He’s a bum
Tbh, he is a nice guy just not my guy and I didn’t feel it. But in saying that after meeting twice and him only texting me twice, I didn’t feel he should blow up like that at me. I mean if it was the women blowing up after a very short time they would be told they are psycho and chill out
I think he’s used to attention validation, but you showed him you’ve got stuff going on.
He assumes women are one dimensional and seek or need men that badly, and put them as a priority when dating.
Because you are less available than expected, he assumes another man took your sought out attention.
You’re a player because you didn’t put him on a pedestal. It’s all about his ego validation, so it’s a double standard with him because you need to value him giving you his time.
If you were available and chased him, he’d discard you or make you jump through hoops to prove your loyalty.
He’s a bum
Tbh, he is a nice guy just not my guy and I didn’t feel it. But in saying that after meeting twice and him only texting me twice, I didn’t feel he should blow up like that at me. I mean if it was the women blowing up after a very short time they would be told they are psycho and chill out
I’m sure he’s a psycho control freak just as well.
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Yes possibly, I got put off by a few things he said. I felt like he belittled my nationality and me a couple times and it didn’t sit right and if that is from 2 meetings.. imagine if I feel for him!
Anyone that comes on strong with demanding time/attention/money is not a sane person.
The problem is women put a man’s interest as the golden key to some sort of esteem issue in society.
She will give her time and attention, and her money, “if it’s promised to be retuned”, to a relatively attractive man that love bombs her or makes her feel special.
Once she grows independent and self sufficient, she can spot the bulls hi because se doesn’t need the validation attention.
Your date is insecure and needs the ego validation. He is most likely controlling to keep it.
Respect 🙂
On a side note, my girl visited and it went well, no issues we talked about m 🙂
You dodged a bullet
So the guy I met and went out with last weekend, saw him on Sunday he texted me Tuesday night and I replied Wednesday, then he texted me tonight saying I was quiet (Friday) and I said I’ve had a lot going on but was at a rugby game tonight, then he lost his shit and pretty much told me I was a player lmao wtf??
On the other foot, if I did that to a guy, I’m told to chill the fuck out and be patient they need space. Don’t be too needy.
Is that Not double standards— So ok for a guy to be all needy and expect a lady to throw themselves at them but as a women... wait until we want you!
Is he an Aries?
Just wondering..
It’s just two different guys preferences. It’s not a rule.
Do your own style and find someone that doesn’t care about that shit or matches your style .
I understand you, but feel like shit because I’ve upset someone... the libra in me :/
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Nope he is upsetting himself. What happened on your end was mature and more then reasonable. You communicated very well. This isn't on you.
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Ummm but when I chase as most of the ladies do around here we are told to sit there fuck down and be patient. Yet if I don’t chase im a player—
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Judging by a comment you made later, you don't care much about him anyway. What does it matter whether he calls you a player? I guess he likes you more than you like him and he is upset. I am sure if you liked him, you would have texted him.^^
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Exactly! 😂😂😂
How are you so...normal? 🤔
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That's not a good thing, huh?
It's because of my pisces moon, it keeps me grounded and sane.
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Exactly! 😂😂😂
How are you so...normal? 🤔
That's not a good thing, huh?
It's because of my pisces moon, it keeps me grounded and sane.
And single? 🤔
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I am a Sag honey, technically I am always single.
but I can score 🙂
Ewww, I met a guy like that before except he couldn’t handle the fact I was texting him back a FEW HOURS later at a time instead of back to back. Auto next! You should be grateful guys like them make it easy for us steer clear from the get-go.
So the guy I met and went out with last weekend, saw him on Sunday he texted me Tuesday night and I replied Wednesday, then he texted me tonight saying I was quiet (Friday) and I said I’ve had a lot going on but was at a rugby game tonight, then he lost his shit and pretty much told me I was a player lmao wtf??
On the other foot, if I did that to a guy, I’m told to chill the fuck out and be patient they need space. Don’t be too needy.
Is that Not double standards— So ok for a guy to be all needy and expect a lady to throw themselves at them but as a women... wait until we want you!
Is he an Aries?
Just wondering..
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Yes
Is this the pisces guy you were talking about earlier?
No, he’s the one that I want but even I didn’t go psycho when he wasn’t communicating. I met this Aries last week in person when I was out.
Is this the "dream" guy?
You almost lost me after Sunday tbh
Well young lady you have to learn that we men are the big alpha prize that keeps the world going and every woman has to chase us 24/7 otherwise we don't feel validated. You don't have to believe or care, just act as if you do. We're very sensitive, you know? 😢
I'm going walking around the block now, good luck!
Ummm but when I chase as most of the ladies do around here we are told to sit there fuck down and be patient. Yet if I don’t chase im a player—
Judging by a comment you made later, you don't care much about him anyway. What does it matter whether he calls you a player? I guess he likes you more than you like him and he is upset. I am sure if you liked him, you would have texted him.^^
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No I don’t care much but I still feel like shit for it. Recently been in his shoes and it still cuts. Is it a man woman thing, I hurt his pride but the Pisces stabbed my heart? I should think like a man here 😉
Is this the "dream" guy?
No, the dream guy was the Pisces.
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So the guy I met and went out with last weekend, saw him on Sunday he texted me Tuesday night and I replied Wednesday, then he texted me tonight saying I was quiet (Friday) and I said I’ve had a lot going on but was at a rugby game tonight, then he lost his shit and pretty much told me I was a player lmao wtf??
On the other foot, if I did that to a guy, I’m told to chill the fuck out and be patient they need space. Don’t be too needy.
Is that Not double standards— So ok for a guy to be all needy and expect a lady to throw themselves at them but as a women... wait until we want you!