Adreamuponwaking
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Turn Off or On? Would you think it was cute? (Ladies opinions wanted)
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So, it's just an expensive m/hotel room hook up then 😉🤔
If I was sexually interested and open to the idea of having sex, I wouldn't be turned off.
I've been turned off by this type of proposal several times though, when someone tries to book a "weekend away" just so they can have sex with me.
The difference has to do with if the other person is ready to be intimate. The person can either use you for the scenery and great experience, without sex, or let you know ahead of time what their intentions were and if they are cool with being intimate.
How many women get flown out places with no intention of having sex and the person thinks because they paid for the trip, it's expected.
I think before you spend the money for this type of thing, ask the person what they think about the idea of a "romantic" weekend away
Or Have no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens, platonic or romantic.
I've been turned off by this type of proposal several times though, when someone tries to book a "weekend away" just so they can have sex with me.
The difference has to do with if the other person is ready to be intimate. The person can either use you for the scenery and great experience, without sex, or let you know ahead of time what their intentions were and if they are cool with being intimate.
How many women get flown out places with no intention of having sex and the person thinks because they paid for the trip, it's expected.
I think before you spend the money for this type of thing, ask the person what they think about the idea of a "romantic" weekend away
Or Have no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens, platonic or romantic.
Something about that energy is very weird.
Hard pass.
Hard pass.
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Posted by Doloris_Claiborne
Something about that energy is very weird.
Hard pass.
I agree, it comes off as being impatient and desperate for some ass, if the other party hasn't shown lots of interest in intimacy.
If interest has been shown, disregard my comment.
I'm easily triggered by this, since it's happened to me plenty of times 😆
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by saggurl88
If I was sexually interested and open to the idea of having sex, I wouldn't be turned off.
I've been turned off by this type of proposal several times though, when someone tries to book a "weekend away" just so they can have sex with me.
The difference has to do with if the other person is ready to be intimate. The person can either use you for the scenery and great experience, without sex, or let you know ahead of time what their intentions were and if they are cool with being intimate.
How many women get flown out places with no intention of having sex and the person thinks because they paid for the trip, it's expected.
I think before you spend the money for this type of thing, ask the person what they think about the idea of a "romantic" weekend away
Or Have no expectations and just enjoy whatever happens, platonic or romantic.
Surely many women get flown out places with no intention of having sex...
DO YOU believe in this BS— Same as she went for coffee to his appartment at 2am having NO idea he will have his hopes and dzeek UP? Lets stop BS right there...click to expand
Women know what is up but play dumb and won't have sex. I mean the man never mentioned it right? They just want to enjoy the scenery and their company 😇
Both sexes playing jokes on each other! A waste of everyone's time!
Posted by alexscaries
Rephrased: is it okay to have sex outside a committed relationship?
YES! When both people are single and willing.
What’s the problem? If it’s the first meeting no but we on a roll sure
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?click to expand
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
Posted by alexscaries
If someone sent me a text saying DTF? And they have a mattress on the floor in their parents basement. I'm on it.
If there were mice and rats there too, would you still be down or up for it?
🥴
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?click to expand
Sounds like the tinder swindler lol
No thanks. A man doing this for every first date? I’d be scared he had some terminal disease he was trying to spread while he had the money and was still alive to give it away.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...click to expand
Lol yes the chances are high for that.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?click to expand
At least in a hotel the breakfast is included and she wont be cooking it. Playing house and all.
Posted by MaxianPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
What if he booked it for someone else and that person cancelled or declined and OP is the next girl?🤔click to expand
Clever girl! 😁 Haha. You're absolutely right.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries
If someone sent me a text saying DTF? And they have a mattress on the floor in their parents basement. I'm on it.
If there were mice and rats there too, would you still be down or up for it?
🥴
Something to warm my feet on.click to expand
Niiiiiiice 😂🐀🐀 🐭
Posted by alexscariesPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
The opportunity to have a great time with someone she finds sexually attractive in clean, safe and beautiful surroundings. What's the real issue? That he didn't ask permission to book an Airbnb? Or that he asked too soon? He's showing initiative and balls. I'm not into chaps, but even I'm tempted to share the hot tub and go hiking with him. No brokeback mountain stuff, just two men having quiet cup of coffee and mansplaining how women keep missing out big time.click to expand
I'll make sure to pass the invite to you next time if I ever get an offer like that in the future. Fingers crossed. 🤞
Posted by alexscariesPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
The opportunity to have a great time with someone she finds sexually attractive in clean, safe and beautiful surroundings. What's the real issue? That he didn't ask permission to book an Airbnb? Or that he asked too soon? He's showing initiative and balls. I'm not into chaps, but even I'm tempted to share the hot tub and go hiking with him. No brokeback mountain stuff, just two men having quiet cup of coffee and mansplaining how women keep missing out big time.
I'll make sure to pass the invite to you next time if I ever get an offer like that in the future. Fingers crossed. 🤞
You're too smart to pass up an opportunity like that.click to expand
What can I say. I'm low maintenance.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries
If someone sent me a text saying DTF? And they have a mattress on the floor in their parents basement. I'm on it.
If there were mice and rats there too, would you still be down or up for it?
🥴
Something to warm my feet on.
Niiiiiiice 😂🐀🐀 🐭
Mice one, Alex.click to expand
Posted by alexscaries
If someone sent me a text saying DTF? And they have a mattress on the floor in their parents basement. I'm on it.
We know. It's part of your charm.
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
So, it's just an expensive m/hotel room hook up then 😉🤔
Pretty much but like better than you can imagine.
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Full disclosure
I booked it for myself as a reminder and inspiration of what I'm working towards. I had the thought if we DID hook up I wouldn't want to do it in her apartment but at the AirBnB...because it would make the experience better at least for me even as a casual hook up. (Pisces Sun Taurus Venus Libra Moon Cap Mars). Aesthetics and effort in the bedroom are very important to me.
The thought was to set the stage and just leave it up to her but honestly due to recent events I don't think that even if she's down I'm down for it anymore.
I've come to the conclusion that you can't offer Filet mignon (or Dry Aged Rib Eye) to someone who is just trying to order the country fried steak...because that's all she knows and she doesn't respect herself or her body enough to choose something better off of the menu.
Posted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.
Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO
if u say no u will regret it your whole life
EXACTLY!
that was my first thought
yolo.
Like if you were probably only going to have sex with this person one time because you said you didn't want to do long distance...wouldn't you want to hook up in one of the best possible places?
But now ...it's like pretty clear she doesn't deserve it/to have sex with me. haha
epic fail
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.click to expand
Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.
It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.
Posted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
The opportunity to have a great time with someone she finds sexually attractive in clean, safe and beautiful surroundings. What's the real issue? That he didn't ask permission to book an Airbnb? Or that he asked too soon? He's showing initiative and balls. I'm not into chaps, but even I'm tempted to share the hot tub and go hiking with him. No brokeback mountain stuff, just two men having quiet cup of coffee and mansplaining how women keep missing out big time.
I'll make sure to pass the invite to you next time if I ever get an offer like that in the future. Fingers crossed. 🤞
You're too smart to pass up an opportunity like that.
What can I say. I'm low maintenance.click to expand
is there really such a thing?
especially when it comes to romance and good sex ?
this is kind of like those women that lie to themselves and say I don't care if I orgasm and they only want to pleas their partner/ make sure he has a good time.
Posted by UndinePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.
Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.
It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.click to expand
I'm not trying to make her fall in love or have myself fall.
We had a clear conversation about what she wanted a little over a week ago ( which is not long distance).
I even tried to get her to friend zone me but she didn't/ so
I came to the conclusion that this visit was mainly going to be a physical exploration pending the vibe because she's emotionally unavailable and I guess I still am too unfortunately.
But it's been awhile and I thought she might be a good sex partner so I invited her.
Posted by TimonePosted by MaxianPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
What if he booked it for someone else and that person cancelled or declined and OP is the next girl?🤔
Clever girl! 😁 Haha. You're absolutely right.click to expand
OP is the one who booked haha.
And I am thinking of inviting other people to hang with even if she's still coming.
It is a 3 bedroom house. There's plenty of room!
Posted by UndinePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.
It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.click to expand
I also kind of disagree with this.
For me actions are EVERYTHING. I need actions ( effort in the relationship and out in the real world/workplace) not words to be able to invest and then fall in love.
I'm looking for an ambitious partner that is willing to work hard to achieve the same dream (the nice house with an ocean view , healthy retirement accounts , private school education for our kid and wants to travel the world with me.)
Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?click to expand
thank you alex
Have ya'll met in person before?
And you're on the same page or had a convo or a two..
I don't see as big of an issue as others. Go have fun, if it isn't for you then it isn't but how would you know unless ya try. Some people thrive on that homey-life even if it is more like, role-play than actual real life.
And you're on the same page or had a convo or a two..
I don't see as big of an issue as others. Go have fun, if it isn't for you then it isn't but how would you know unless ya try. Some people thrive on that homey-life even if it is more like, role-play than actual real life.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by UndinePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.
Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.
It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.
I'm not trying to make her fall in love or have myself fall.
We had a clear conversation about what she wanted a little over a week ago ( which is not long distance).
I even tried to get her to friend zone me but she didn't/ so
I came to the conclusion that this visit was mainly going to be a physical exploration pending the vibe because she's emotionally unavailable and I guess I still am too unfortunately.
But it's been awhile and I thought she might be a good sex partner so I invited her.click to expand
Be open about your intentions and if she wants it too, involve her in choosing the right place. Leave surprises and "it's my way or the highway" to control freaks....
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptune
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Full disclosure
I booked it for myself as a reminder and inspiration of what I'm working towards. I had the thought if we DID hook up I wouldn't want to do it in her apartment but at the AirBnB...because it would make the experience better at least for me even as a casual hook up. (Pisces Sun Taurus Venus Libra Moon Cap Mars). Aesthetics and effort in the bedroom are very important to me.
The thought was to set the stage and just leave it up to her but honestly due to recent events I don't think that even if she's down I'm down for it anymore.
I've come to the conclusion that you can't offer Filet mignon (or Dry Aged Rib Eye) to someone who is just trying to order the country fried steak...because that's all she knows and she doesn't respect herself or her body enough to choose something better off of the menu.click to expand
Good. Treat yoself. Its about you. And if she wants to partake then its all good. But with multiple bedrooms in the house it may not even be about a hookup but just hang and get full closure from this individual.
Posted by MaxianPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by TimonePosted by MaxianPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
What if he booked it for someone else and that person cancelled or declined and OP is the next girl?🤔
Clever girl! 😁 Haha. You're absolutely right.
OP is the one who booked haha.
And I am thinking of inviting other people to hang with even if she's still coming.
It is a 3 bedroom house. There's plenty of room!
You could have given more context haha.
If you booked already without discussing with her she was not part of the process., that's a bit weird.
Did you decide both it is going to be a casual affair or are just assuming based on her emotional unavailability?click to expand
I asked her and she said she wasn't sure if she could get the time off.
I booked anyway regardless because I wanted to visit this region of the country and stay at this AirBnB.
After telling her I booked one regardless and that I was not staying in her city with her the entire time she then said she'd figure it out and join me because she wants to "spend more time with me and make sure I enjoy it."
I assumed not so much an affair but an "event"..as in one night only maybe an encore during the same weekend...if we were both still willing. My flight is tomorrow evening so we will see but it's not looking likely at least on my part though.
She might try to double down with heavy flirting and touching as I withdraw (as I've already tried to do before when she's previously displayed immature manipulative behavior imho ) but I have to be strong this time .
I'm realizing my original hypothesis that she just likes the chase/hunt is true. It's gross.
Sad though because I thought she was really cute.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptune
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Full disclosure
I booked it for myself as a reminder and inspiration of what I'm working towards. I had the thought if we DID hook up I wouldn't want to do it in her apartment but at the AirBnB...because it would make the experience better at least for me even as a casual hook up. (Pisces Sun Taurus Venus Libra Moon Cap Mars). Aesthetics and effort in the bedroom are very important to me.
The thought was to set the stage and just leave it up to her but honestly due to recent events I don't think that even if she's down I'm down for it anymore.
I've come to the conclusion that you can't offer Filet mignon (or Dry Aged Rib Eye) to someone who is just trying to order the country fried steak...because that's all she knows and she doesn't respect herself or her body enough to choose something better off of the menu.
Good. Treat yoself. Its about you. And if she wants to partake then its all good. But with multiple bedrooms in the house it may not even be about a hookup but just hang and get full closure from this individual.click to expand
yeah I think I got that last night actually. I really was curious if the sex was going to be good but I'm thinking that it was all just smoke and mirrors.
Insecure girls can't be good in bed no?
I don't think they can be. They have to be confident and love themselves and their bodies.
Way hotter imho.
If you are quick enough, you still have time to think another 1001 "plausible" scenarios before the reality sets in 🙂
Posted by saggurl88Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Sounds like the tinder swindler lol
No thanks. A man doing this for every first date? I’d be scared he had some terminal disease he was trying to spread while he had the money and was still alive to give it away.click to expand
no terminal illness but people in my family tend to die at very young ages.
so yolo really does mean something to me...
which is why the splurge just for myself....I booked it without a guarantee she would come because at the end of the day it was something I wanted to experience regardless of company.
Sex with her would have been a bonus at least I thought.
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...click to expand
Oh I plan on getting off regardless hahaha. That's for sure.
I know I can guarantee my orgasm. I'm not sure even if she was down to hook up would she be able to deliver.
The vagina is very complicated and all lesbians are not experts as you would think.
Also a high number of sexual partners does not necessarily equate to skill or knowledge.
Posted by TimonePosted by MonaLisa26Posted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...
Lol yes the chances are high for that.click to expand
Looking forward to it actually 😉.
All the bedrooms and in front of the fireplace.
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
At least in a hotel the breakfast is included and she wont be cooking it. Playing house and all.click to expand
She doesn't really know how to cook.
I do.
She would have had to do the dishes though/ use the dishwasher hypothetically.
But not really it's an Air BnB w/ a $ 200 cleaning fee.
I totally plan on leaving dishes in the sink and or dishwasher without turning it on to get my moneys worth haha.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptune
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Full disclosure
I booked it for myself as a reminder and inspiration of what I'm working towards. I had the thought if we DID hook up I wouldn't want to do it in her apartment but at the AirBnB...because it would make the experience better at least for me even as a casual hook up. (Pisces Sun Taurus Venus Libra Moon Cap Mars). Aesthetics and effort in the bedroom are very important to me.
The thought was to set the stage and just leave it up to her but honestly due to recent events I don't think that even if she's down I'm down for it anymore.
I've come to the conclusion that you can't offer Filet mignon (or Dry Aged Rib Eye) to someone who is just trying to order the country fried steak...because that's all she knows and she doesn't respect herself or her body enough to choose something better off of the menu.
Good. Treat yoself. Its about you. And if she wants to partake then its all good. But with multiple bedrooms in the house it may not even be about a hookup but just hang and get full closure from this individual.
yeah I think I got that last night actually. I really was curious if the sex was going to be good but I'm thinking that it was all just smoke and mirrors.
Insecure girls can't be good in bed no?
I don't think they can be. They have to be confident and love themselves and their bodies.
Way hotter imho.click to expand
She could be confident just not your brand. Whose to say.
And good in bed prolly depends more on the vibe more than anything.
I wouldn't take it personally or blame her perceived insecurity. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Onward and upward to the next.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by saggurl88Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Sounds like the tinder swindler lol
No thanks. A man doing this for every first date? I’d be scared he had some terminal disease he was trying to spread while he had the money and was still alive to give it away.
no terminal illness but people in my family tend to die at very young ages.
so yolo really does mean something to me...
which is why the splurge just for myself....I booked it without a guarantee she would come because at the end of the day it was something I wanted to experience regardless of company.
Sex with her would have been a bonus at least I thought.click to expand
Woman and romance. Sometimes I wish I was romantic like this, dreamy ass Pisces!! 😝
I wonder if things are different among 2 women? Since women sometimes romanticize things more. Not so much about the sex, but the atmosphere, scents, and scenery.
Are you in a different city, away from home? This could contribute to it not being a big deal as well. If you’re only available for a limited time and carved out some private moments for someone.
Either way, I wish you luck and have fun!
Posted by MaxianPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by MaxianPosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by TimonePosted by MaxianPosted by TimonePosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?
What if he booked it for someone else and that person cancelled or declined and OP is the next girl?🤔
Clever girl! 😁 Haha. You're absolutely right.
OP is the one who booked haha.
And I am thinking of inviting other people to hang with even if she's still coming.
It is a 3 bedroom house. There's plenty of room!
You could have given more context haha.
If you booked already without discussing with her she was not part of the process., that's a bit weird.
Did you decide both it is going to be a casual affair or are just assuming based on her emotional unavailability?
I asked her and she said she wasn't sure if she could get the time off.
I booked anyway regardless because I wanted to visit this region of the country and stay at this AirBnB.
After telling her I booked one regardless and that I was not staying in her city with her the entire time she then said she'd figure it out and join me because she wants to "spend more time with me and make sure I enjoy it."
I assumed not so much an affair but an "event"..as in one night only maybe an encore during the same weekend...if we were both still willing. My flight is tomorrow evening so we will see but it's not looking likely at least on my part though.
She might try to double down with heavy flirting and touching as I withdraw (as I've already tried to do before when she's previously displayed immature manipulative behavior imho ) but I have to be strong this time .
I'm realizing my original hypothesis that she just likes the chase/hunt is true. It's gross.
Sad though because I thought she was really cute.
Ah ok, these details make more sense. Maybe better if you just don't waste time on people who play games? Makes life easier on you.
As for the weekend away. If this weekend is about YOU and you need some peace, quiet and relaxation, that lady doesn't really sound like the right candidate.click to expand
yeah I just realized that last night unfortunately...post invite and acceptance.
It will be okay /better if some more friends are able to join as sharing things always make me enjoy them a little more.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by LadyNeptune
Did they at least ask if you were free or did they just book it and assume.
Full disclosure
I booked it for myself as a reminder and inspiration of what I'm working towards. I had the thought if we DID hook up I wouldn't want to do it in her apartment but at the AirBnB...because it would make the experience better at least for me even as a casual hook up. (Pisces Sun Taurus Venus Libra Moon Cap Mars). Aesthetics and effort in the bedroom are very important to me.
The thought was to set the stage and just leave it up to her but honestly due to recent events I don't think that even if she's down I'm down for it anymore.
I've come to the conclusion that you can't offer Filet mignon (or Dry Aged Rib Eye) to someone who is just trying to order the country fried steak...because that's all she knows and she doesn't respect herself or her body enough to choose something better off of the menu.
Good. Treat yoself. Its about you. And if she wants to partake then its all good. But with multiple bedrooms in the house it may not even be about a hookup but just hang and get full closure from this individual.
yeah I think I got that last night actually. I really was curious if the sex was going to be good but I'm thinking that it was all just smoke and mirrors.
Insecure girls can't be good in bed no?
I don't think they can be. They have to be confident and love themselves and their bodies.
Way hotter imho.
She could be confident just not your brand. Whose to say.
And good in bed prolly depends more on the vibe more than anything.
I wouldn't take it personally or blame her perceived insecurity. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Onward and upward to the next.click to expand
Nah. Secure women don't play games. That's dating 101.
They like you or they don't. When you ask if they are interested they also give you a direct answer. They do not "breadcrumb" you because they don't want to cut off the attention you are giving as you put it try to move onward and upward to someone who won't waste their time and actually wants to have a genuine connection.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by saggurl88Posted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
Sounds like the tinder swindler lol
No thanks. A man doing this for every first date? I’d be scared he had some terminal disease he was trying to spread while he had the money and was still alive to give it away.
no terminal illness but people in my family tend to die at very young ages.
so yolo really does mean something to me...
which is why the splurge just for myself....I booked it without a guarantee she would come because at the end of the day it was something I wanted to experience regardless of company.
Sex with her would have been a bonus at least I thought.
Woman and romance. Sometimes I wish I was romantic like this, dreamy ass Pisces!! 😝
I wonder if things are different among 2 women? Since women sometimes romanticize things more. Not so much about the sex, but the atmosphere, scents, and scenery.
Are you in a different city, away from home? This could contribute to it not being a big deal as well. If you’re only available for a limited time and carved out some private moments for someone.
Either way, I wish you luck and have fun!click to expand
Yeah I'm visiting an island in British Columbia Canada and I'm from CA. It will be my first time in Vancouver / BC and really was trying to do exactly what you're saying "carve out some private moments for someone" after they let me know in numerous ways that is what they wanted / expected.
I had always wanted to check out Western Canada and had plans to visit Vancouver and visit friends before meeting her. When I proposed hanging out as a group of friends she acted annoyed and so I had the impression that she wanted to "hang hang".
I'm still hanging with buddies but I was also trying to accommodate her as well and see what happens after setting the stage.
And thanks for wishing me luck ! Still grateful and excited to have the chance to travel and hang out with my homies.
Posted by Undine
If you are quick enough, you still have time to think another 1001 "plausible" scenarios before the reality sets in 🙂
No entiendo.
The reality set in last night I think though when I realized she's still playing games .
Posted by UndinePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by UndinePosted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by Undine
Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!
Funny.
Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.
Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.
She doesn't deserve it/or me.
Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.
It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.
I'm not trying to make her fall in love or have myself fall.
We had a clear conversation about what she wanted a little over a week ago ( which is not long distance).
I even tried to get her to friend zone me but she didn't/ so
I came to the conclusion that this visit was mainly going to be a physical exploration pending the vibe because she's emotionally unavailable and I guess I still am too unfortunately.
But it's been awhile and I thought she might be a good sex partner so I invited her.
Be open about your intentions and if she wants it too, involve her in choosing the right place. Leave surprises and "it's my way or the highway" to control freaks....click to expand
I showed her options when she requested that she was interested in going but she was dragging her feet so I decided to do a solo trip regardless...at that time there was literally only 2 out of the 6 options left.
The cheaper option was literally a studio w/ a view of a harbor but by no means was it even close to the place I ultimately booked.
Many of the reviews say that the pictures don't do it justice / it is an unreal experience staying there.
I'm so excited and I am feeling really blessed to take advantage of this opportunity during low season.lol
During high season it is a 1 week minimum stay and average price is around $ 700 a night not including the airbnb service fee , cleaning fee and occupancy tax.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by alexscariesPosted by Timone
Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.
A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?
At least in a hotel the breakfast is included and she wont be cooking it. Playing house and all.
She doesn't really know how to cook.
I do.
She would have had to do the dishes though/ use the dishwasher hypothetically.
But not really it's an Air BnB w/ a $ 200 cleaning fee.
I totally plan on leaving dishes in the sink and or dishwasher without turning it on to get my moneys worth haha.click to expand
Lol. I got a vision of you pulling a "Ross" and making sure you take the complimentary bathroom products home with you as well.
Enjoy your time away and i hope you get to enjoy her too🥰
Keep us posted x
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