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I don't think it's much of an issue. Would you be ok introducing toys just in case? Maybe the combination of toys and play with blind fold and other kinks could be enough for her not to worry about it too much.
I don't think the conversation needs to be had before sex. But maybe let her know after, once you've blown her mind and she sees it's not a big deal.
Plenty of guys with naturally small ones, and quite honestly most "forever single" men are in this category.
If a women likes you a lot, they usually overlook this until they don't like you anymore and then it becomes an issue.
Just be yourself and make it a great night for the both of you.
And congratulations on surviving all of that! It was very scary to read, I couldn't imagine the courage it took to get through it.
Yes I agree with Saggurl that it won't be too much of an issue. Definitely learn how to use toys and have a very strong oral game.
Are you an Aquarius?
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
I am so! scared and glad you have survived.
And here is a story for you.
I have a friend - gorgeous woman who was married, divorced and dated and she fell for our friend to whom she is married now for 25 years.
Mind you - she was and is gorgeous. She had suitors and would never be alone…
But when she actually had sex with him - she came to my house in shock and smoked a lot and shook and cried and told us that he has nothing there. Like nothing! She said it is only good for bj!
So years later when they are still together I understood one thing. Man is a strong and confident and nothing! can bring MAN down!!!
It is very important that woman happened to fall for him dead! And what is carrying this union is his wit, humor, masculinity and pride.
I have another story when our friend died from OD because of the same issue. He wasn’t strong enough. He was hurt by his love and looked for her until his passing…
You seem like a strong man. You’ve survived.
Don’t let your win go to waste! If she wins understand - Next! She has rights to choose as you do. Don’t blame everything on the penis size.
And best wishes. Stay calm. It’ll be alright. ❤️
Personally I feel like being honest and genuine goes a long way.
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
I don’t think I could go for it myself, but no one knows 100% unless they are in that exact predicament.
Hopefully she will say yes. Good luck.
Should I run the kink scenario first with her and then if it its a no, have a "confessional" even though it may feel to her like Im taking her seriously too soon? I feel like Im stuck and I just dont know what to do at this point.
Handcuffs and blindfolds require trust for some and may need more than 3 dates. I mean unless that is a personal fantasy of her's, to have sex with someone for the first time without seeing them may creep/freak some out and it's borderline deceitful tbh. You may need to pull some other "tricks" out of the hat that allow you to slide easily into a sexual relationship, while providing stimulation and pleasure. Tricking her into falling for your peen isn't it though.
I mean do you even know what turns her on, or are you taking the lead here based on your own anxiety? Does she enjoy the type of sexual play you described? Does she like to be dominated or dominate, or share in the role? Does she get turned on by giving head or need that to get wet? Some women do...There are a lot of assumptions about what she may or may not be down for and this is all being led by your insecurity.
You may be jumping the gun by both telling her this sex scenario and your situation, so my suggestion would be see where the third dat even takes you. If it's sex, let the sex unfold organically. If she is taken aback by your peen, then you can explain your situation then if you feel comfortable and see if she's down for other kink play before proceeding to sex.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Um........... 😬 If everything is new to you, including the toy/ blindfold play stuff, this is going to be a little hard for you to pull off. Imagination is way better then the logistics of doing this smoothly lol
So Good luck to you. Try watching amateur stuff and not porn.
Porn is only for watching, not really for copying. It's geared to please a man, mostly.
... It doesn't matter if she orgasms or not. It's more important if she is comfortable and enjoys herself.
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@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
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Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
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You’ve got to be kidding! Shibari is an art and there are few and between people who knows how to rope. It can’t be advised SPECIALY when he has so many things that he is still dealing with…
...Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
... It doesn't matter if she orgasms or not. It's more important if she is comfortable and enjoys herself.
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I am actually planning on asking about it.
It’s a whole can of worms to be open! I had never heard man nor woman said that…🤔
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
You’ve got to be kidding! Shibari is an art and there are few and between people who knows how to rope. It can’t be advised SPECIALY when he has so many things that he is still dealing with…
I've met two, not as rare as you may think. Just depends what circles you move in. Something I should really get on.
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Have you met somebody whom you trust enough to rope you?
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
You had me until you said she was a Scorp...
If this is all true, just go with the flow. Anything short of that (e.g. planned bondage, toys ect) will not really fly and may be perceived as deceptive. You don't need to discuss your situation, and she will probably be fine with taking it slow as you explore each other's bodies.
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
You’ve got to be kidding! Shibari is an art and there are few and between people who knows how to rope. It can’t be advised SPECIALY when he has so many things that he is still dealing with…
I've met two, not as rare as you may think. Just depends what circles you move in. Something I should really get on.
Have you met somebody whom you trust enough to rope you?
Yep. Been tied to a bed and blind folded, clamped, Wattenberg wheels, verbal abuse. It was hot. Would do it again.
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Fire ass! I can’t imagine verbal abuse though…unless it’s by somebody you aren’t with for a long haul…
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
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I actually was believing it until I read that part LMAO- Even the basics seem pretty self explanatory and easy to do.
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
I learnt by watching a St Bernard eat an apple pie.
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I am sure there is more but you aren’t telling 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
You’ve got to be kidding! Shibari is an art and there are few and between people who knows how to rope. It can’t be advised SPECIALY when he has so many things that he is still dealing with…
I've met two, not as rare as you may think. Just depends what circles you move in. Something I should really get on.
Have you met somebody whom you trust enough to rope you?
Yep. Been tied to a bed and blind folded, clamped, Wattenberg wheels, verbal abuse. It was hot. Would do it again.
Fire ass! I can’t imagine verbal abuse though…unless it’s by somebody you aren’t with for a long haul…
It was hilarious.
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Exactly my reaction when Ram is going off on me but strangely he doesn’t get upset when I am laughing my ass OFF! He just gets it ALL OUT! I don’t think he even sees me laughing. ENRAGED! BLINDED WITH ANGER! For 5min…😂😂😂
I personally apricate your story as it is and would want to here it before sex, when ever that is the natural timing for that to happen after you feel comfortable.
Your story shows a lot of strength and character, a person who doesn't give up will always find another way, and put the extra effort into things. Which can be a highly desired quality and often rare.
I've been with one person who wasn't average, and the biggest issue about that was his insecurity and inability to connect with me because he was so up in his head about it and disconnect from his own sexuality.
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
I actually was believing it until I read that part LMAO- Even the basics seem pretty self explanatory and easy to do.
Soooo…are we ‘Team Doubts’ with subteam WTF?
Just to address people who said she might get freaked out by the handcuffs. That is why I would run it by her first. And that the cuffs wouldnt be metal. They would be I guess the soft cushy ones. I would really convey that my priority is her feeling safe and that any point she can stop it if she doesn't That the whole point is to do something different than shes done before potentially and to have fun.
Years before my accident, I would do kinky stuff with my ex way before mya ccident. I tried to do as much out of the box stuff as I could to keep her interested. But that was years ago and when you dont have sex for a long a-- period of time, everything gets foggy.
If she has a small vagina, it will be a gift from the heavens as I wont have as much anxiety about her reaction to my size. Im going to attempt to lead with oral and fingering first if shes down, then see if I can postpone the actual sex to the next date so I am more prepped.
Ive learned the positions to have sex in when you are smaller like me so the woman can really feel it if her vagina is bigger. I just need the chance to show what I can do really.
Just to address people who said she might get freaked out by the handcuffs. That is why I would run it by her first. And that the cuffs wouldnt be metal. They would be I guess the soft cushy ones. I would really convey that my priority is her feeling safe and that any point she can stop it if she doesn't That the whole point is to do something different than shes done before potentially and to have fun.
Years before my accident, I would do kinky stuff with my ex way before mya ccident. I tried to do as much out of the box stuff as I could to keep her interested. But that was years ago and when you dont have sex for a long a-- period of time, everything gets foggy.
If she has a small vagina, it will be a gift from the heavens as I wont have as much anxiety about her reaction to my size. Im going to attempt to lead with oral and fingering first if shes down, then see if I can postpone the actual sex to the next date so I am more prepped.
Ive learned the positions to have sex in when you are smaller like me so the woman can really feel it if her vagina is bigger. I just need the chance to show what I can do really.
But you never had oral with an ex? 🤔
I like the rope idea better for a first time with a new guy. Less intimidating. However, now that you mention she's a Scorpio I would just tell her about your penis and what caused it before you have sex. I think she will be accepting and handle it for you or may show you something you hadn't even thought of. Trust her and tell her.
Just to address people who said she might get freaked out by the handcuffs. That is why I would run it by her first. And that the cuffs wouldnt be metal. They would be I guess the soft cushy ones. I would really convey that my priority is her feeling safe and that any point she can stop it if she doesn't That the whole point is to do something different than shes done before potentially and to have fun.
Years before my accident, I would do kinky stuff with my ex way before mya ccident. I tried to do as much out of the box stuff as I could to keep her interested. But that was years ago and when you dont have sex for a long a-- period of time, everything gets foggy.
If she has a small vagina, it will be a gift from the heavens as I wont have as much anxiety about her reaction to my size. Im going to attempt to lead with oral and fingering first if shes down, then see if I can postpone the actual sex to the next date so I am more prepped.
Ive learned the positions to have sex in when you are smaller like me so the woman can really feel it if her vagina is bigger. I just need the chance to show what I can do really.
Do not postpone sex if she's ready. You need to talk to her.
I wouldn’t jump straight into the kinky stuff too soon. You can still give her mind blowing orgasms without using your penis. For me that’s one of the
most enjoyable parts of sex.
She’s a Scorpio.....what’s your sign op? Any Aqua in your chart?
Most of the men I slept with were small, as am I....
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
I actually was believing it until I read that part LMAO- Even the basics seem pretty self explanatory and easy to do.
Soooo…are we ‘Team Doubts’ with subteam WTF?
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I think so, as OP says~
This Is Awkward...
Uhm, so this is like... your 1st post on an "astrology forum" and you even know how to tag people. 🤨 Something's off about you... 🤔
@Reincarnation4
Thanks man I appreciate it. He advised taking Zinc Powder daily as well as small does of Progest-E,and Pregnalone, DHEA powder in coconut oil As well as an aspirin cocktail which helps purge estrogen so the testosterone in supplements can have a stronger effect for better erection function.
@Saggurl88 - Thank you. I'm just scared she is not going to go for the kink thing off the bat. (Due to fear of potential rape due to the handcuffs and blindfold) I feel an extreme amount of pressure since I potentially could be having sex for the first time since my accident. Im also afraid of sucking since she is a Scorpio and afraid Im going to get nexted for something that was out of my control. Although Im slowly starting to get it back under control.
Ive been studying how to oral sex videos but its a lot to asorb and commit to memory. The timing of this whole thing is nightmarish. I wasnt trying to date till I had my penis situation fully in a better place as well as having oral sex down at least passibly. Now its a girl I like and this is just the absolute worst timing.
Handcuffs may be too much for the first time, but I don't think a blind fold is. It depends on how suspicious she is lol Depends on how comfortable she is and if you talk a good game and make it fun, I would think.
Most water signs are understanding of this type of thing. There's a good reason and you're actually trying. You never know what can happen, don't count yourself out just yet. 🙂
Problem with handcuffs is people by the $ 2 ones. Actually dangerous as people tend to pull on them and they get tighter and cut into wrists. Something double locking and solid, had a look on Amazon Smith and Wesson ones look good. I can't do shibari, but rope is the way forward and a lot cheaper, but more time consuming.
Handcuffs are over rated lol It's metal and they aren't comfortable. And you have to be careful with a woman who has her hands tied behind her back because she can't "catch herself" while she's being tossed around on the bed or wherever, and a guy who isn't used to doing this type of thing doesn't account for that lol
He should get this 😛
I am very surprised with learning oral by watching videos. Is this even good idea to have sex as of yet? 🤔
I actually was believing it until I read that part LMAO- Even the basics seem pretty self explanatory and easy to do.
Soooo…are we ‘Team Doubts’ with subteam WTF?
I think so, as OP says~
This Is Awkward...
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Playing bondages with an ex and not knowing an oral…I am dying to know what’s going on…🙄
People focusing on kinks, bondage etc and not realizing this sometimes this can be a smokescreen for intimacy.
Uhm, so this is like... your 1st post on an "astrology forum" and you even know how to tag people. 🤨 Something's off about you... 🤔
And quote lol Usually they don't figure that out right away either lol
I'm surprised there wasn't a "Please don't judge my writing, English is not my first language" 😆
Uhm, so this is like... your 1st post on an "astrology forum" and you even know how to tag people. 🤨 Something's off about you... 🤔
And quote lol Usually they don't figure that out right away either lol
I'm surprised there wasn't a "Please don't judge my writing, English is not my first language" 😆
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Some things never change on DXP - clowns be clowning around as usual 🤡
I get why people think this is fake and nothing I am go to say or do is going to prove them wrong otherwise.
I know im not fake, looking at the large scar on my right arm, the scar on the left side of my belly button, the scars on both my legs. The rods in my legs that feel like I am walking on stilts. Or the plate in my right arm which makes it feel robotic when moving it,
This is not something Im happily announcing to the world "Hey Im a cripple with a pencil dick that may not do the trick!" Its pretty embarrassing but since is a forum where no one knows who I am in person I dont mind asking for help.
As far as why I need help with oral, when I had an ex, I said it has been years since I dated my ex before my accident. Oral is intricate and Im not gonna remember every little nook and cranny when its been years without doing it. Im watching those videos, which arent porn BTW but how to ones taught by female instructors so i can refresh my memory.
I had to relearn how to kiss properly by watching videos since it has been a long time. I guess I didnt completely suck at the kissing since she decided to go on another date with me. Its nice having physical affection again after a long time without it. Im trying not to get attached because i could get ditched at any moment. But its not easy to say the least.
Can you really learn how to kiss by watching videos? They didn’t have those when I needed to learn the most lol
Yes if you have done it before, but need to refresh. It reminded me of what to do and what not to do. I dont think it made me better, just passable at least.
BTW You know people can just read on those forums before actually registering and posting right? I've been reading this site for the past month so i have a hang of how people communicate. People can be skeptical all they want. You do you.
Im gonna take a break from this. Just watched a video where a female dating coach complaining about a guy who was small. And more than likely didnt research the positions to have sex in when you have a small penis dealing with a larger vag. But it still gave me anxiety and got me slightly depressed.
I am very tempted to break it off with her and just focus on getting my penis recovered. Where I can get the inches I lost from the medication back as well as keep repair my penile health so I have really strong erections. This is getting to be too stressful and the last thing I need to see from a woman right now is an internal eye roll when I tell her my size. I should have not let it get this far with this girl.
But its on me. First time Ive had interest from someone who didnt play games in a while and I jumped right in a pile of hot mess. Why do dating opportunities ever come when you have your life somewhat together? Just one time at least? Im 90% certain Im gonna break it off. Rejection or her internal cringing is not worth dealing with.
Stimulate her clit with your fingers lips and tongue. That’s it. That’s how she gets off. Penetration is fun but if the angle sucks or she isn’t turned on enough then no O. Doesn’t matter if the dick is massive or small, same result.
The G spot is a myth. When the clit becomes inflamed/engorged the peen can rub against the internal wings of the clit through the walls of the vagina during intercourse and result in her orgasm. But you can replicate this successfully, I’d argue more successfully, with direct stimulation with toys, tongue, or fingers. Order a pocket vibe ASAP.
Thank you for cumming to my Ted talk.
Stimulate her clit with your fingers lips and tongue. That’s it. That’s how she gets off. Penetration is fun but if the angle sucks or she isn’t turned on enough then no O. Doesn’t matter if the dick is massive or small, same result.
The G spot is a myth. When the clit becomes inflamed/engorged the peen can rub against the internal wings of the clit through the walls of the vagina during intercourse and result in her orgasm. But you can replicate this successfully, I’d argue more successfully, with direct stimulation with toys, tongue, or fingers. Order a pocket vibe ASAP.
Thank you for cumming to my Ted talk.
So Gem isn’t well endowed? Huh? 🤔
I get why people think this is fake and nothing I am go to say or do is going to prove them wrong otherwise.
I know im not fake, looking at the large scar on my right arm, the scar on the left side of my belly button, the scars on both my legs. The rods in my legs that feel like I am walking on stilts. Or the plate in my right arm which makes it feel robotic when moving it,
This is not something Im happily announcing to the world "Hey Im a cripple with a pencil dick that may not do the trick!" Its pretty embarrassing but since is a forum where no one knows who I am in person I dont mind asking for help.
As far as why I need help with oral, when I had an ex, I said it has been years since I dated my ex before my accident. Oral is intricate and Im not gonna remember every little nook and cranny when its been years without doing it. Im watching those videos, which arent porn BTW but how to ones taught by female instructors so i can refresh my memory.
I had to relearn how to kiss properly by watching videos since it has been a long time. I guess I didnt completely suck at the kissing since she decided to go on another date with me. Its nice having physical affection again after a long time without it. Im trying not to get attached because i could get ditched at any moment. But its not easy to say the least.
Clit is a clit! It doesn’t move!!!
Can you really learn how to kiss by watching videos? They didn’t have those when I needed to learn the most lol
Those lips are tricky…😂😂😂
When you’re both starting to feel like taking the next step you’ll know… then be honest and upfront with your story like you have been here.
Don’t surprise her with no surprise
Stimulate her clit with your fingers lips and tongue. That’s it. That’s how she gets off. Penetration is fun but if the angle sucks or she isn’t turned on enough then no O. Doesn’t matter if the dick is massive or small, same result.
The G spot is a myth. When the clit becomes inflamed/engorged the peen can rub against the internal wings of the clit through the walls of the vagina during intercourse and result in her orgasm. But you can replicate this successfully, I’d argue more successfully, with direct stimulation with toys, tongue, or fingers. Order a pocket vibe ASAP.
Thank you for cumming to my Ted talk.
So Gem isn’t well endowed? Huh? 🤔
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Well endowed lol what a phrase
Stimulate her clit with your fingers lips and tongue. That’s it. That’s how she gets off. Penetration is fun but if the angle sucks or she isn’t turned on enough then no O. Doesn’t matter if the dick is massive or small, same result.
The G spot is a myth. When the clit becomes inflamed/engorged the peen can rub against the internal wings of the clit through the walls of the vagina during intercourse and result in her orgasm. But you can replicate this successfully, I’d argue more successfully, with direct stimulation with toys, tongue, or fingers. Order a pocket vibe ASAP.
Thank you for cumming to my Ted talk.
So Gem isn’t well endowed? Huh? 🤔
Well endowed lol what a phrase
Not as good as flagpole.
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Both are a mouthful
Don’t give up yet
At least give things a chance
Stimulate her clit with your fingers lips and tongue. That’s it. That’s how she gets off. Penetration is fun but if the angle sucks or she isn’t turned on enough then no O. Doesn’t matter if the dick is massive or small, same result.
The G spot is a myth. When the clit becomes inflamed/engorged the peen can rub against the internal wings of the clit through the walls of the vagina during intercourse and result in her orgasm. But you can replicate this successfully, I’d argue more successfully, with direct stimulation with toys, tongue, or fingers. Order a pocket vibe ASAP.
Thank you for cumming to my Ted talk.
So Gem isn’t well endowed? Huh? 🤔
Well endowed lol what a phrase
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Keep on avoiding uncomfortable questions?
It a phrase all right! Too bad you can’t use it🤷♀️
Honestly I’d not care to much? The size of the penis isn’t the be all end all yknow? However not all woman share that sentiment but I feel like for your sake you should tell her before. I know some woman who are really mean and I’d hate for you to go through that. Best to tell her whilst you’re not naked and so vulnerable yknow.
Honestly I’d not care to much? The size of the penis isn’t the be all end all yknow? However not all woman share that sentiment but I feel like for your sake you should tell her before. I know some woman who are really mean and I’d hate for you to go through that. Best to tell her whilst you’re not naked and so vulnerable yknow.
Yes they’re the ones with the big flapping vaginas🥴. Maybe if men shamed them more, they’d think twice before being so cruel
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So... I have a little problem in terms of a girl Im starting to date. We've been on 2 dates already. Things have gone really well, we have kissed and gone a little further (not sex though) and are working out plans for a third date as we speak.
Here's the actual issue - This is a long story but I will try my best to condense it as much as possible. Years ago, I got ran over by a car head on while walking across the street. I shattered an arm and both legs. They put plates and rods in my arms and legs but I got a serious infection. It got to the point where they were about to cut off both my arm and leg due to infection.
I got offered a new antibiotic medication (at the time) but it was combined antibiotic and steroid. They laid out the major side effects which were temporary loss of taste, as well as skin receding in the penile and testicular area. They said if I didnt do it they may be forced to amputate because the infection was really awful. I obviously took it but I did get the side effects which include some of my penis receding back into my skin. TRANSLATION - I lost a few inches on the flagpole so to speak.
My penis was barely average prior and now had been pretty much been put near micropenis territory. For a while I got depressed and gave up on dating since I figured no girl would give me a chance. Also the medication effected me having consistant erections meaning it takes a few minutes to get hard in between an orgasm. I thought dating was over for me until I got placed on a supplement oriented plan. (I realize this sounds like a damn ad, so apologies in advance)
The supplement plan is starting to pay off, they recommended me using DHEA to help the penis come out of the skin it receded back into. Anyway, I was only starting the program when I met this girl and we hit it off. My concern is having to having a discussion about my penis situation when we obviously arent serious yet. I entertained running a kink scenario by her first where she is blind folded and cuffed. And I have sex with her without her seeing my penis. (FYI I had to learn sex positions for when someone is smaller)
I figured if I can prove to her I can make her orgasm with my size, she would be open to future encounters. But I realize also, that may be a little out there too soon for a sex encounter. Im scared that if I explain my situation and how it is starting to, and eventually going to get better, she will think Im putting pressure for a relationship or that I see it that way too soon.
Should I run the kink scenario first with her and then if it its a no, have a "confessional" even though it may feel to her like Im taking her seriously too soon? I feel like Im stuck and I just dont know what to do at this point.