Turn Off or On? Would you think it was cute? (Ladies opinions wanted) (Page 2)

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

The opportunity to have a great time with someone she finds sexually attractive in clean, safe and beautiful surroundings. What's the real issue? That he didn't ask permission to book an Airbnb? Or that he asked too soon? He's showing initiative and balls. I'm not into chaps, but even I'm tempted to share the hot tub and go hiking with him. No brokeback mountain stuff, just two men having quiet cup of coffee and mansplaining how women keep missing out big time.

I'll make sure to pass the invite to you next time if I ever get an offer like that in the future. Fingers crossed. 🤞

You're too smart to pass up an opportunity like that.

What can I say. I'm low maintenance.

is there really such a thing?

especially when it comes to romance and good sex ?

this is kind of like those women that lie to themselves and say I don't care if I orgasm and they only want to pleas their partner/ make sure he has a good time.

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I'm referring to do something fancy during first dates. I prefer just to meet and go for a walk to feel if we vibe or not.

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...

Lol yes the chances are high for that.

Looking forward to it actually 😉.

All the bedrooms and in front of the fireplace.

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Enjoy! I'm sure you will have a great time either way. ☺️

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Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!

Funny.

Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.

Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.

She doesn't deserve it/or me.

Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.

It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.

I'm not trying to make her fall in love or have myself fall.

We had a clear conversation about what she wanted a little over a week ago ( which is not long distance).

I even tried to get her to friend zone me but she didn't/ so

I came to the conclusion that this visit was mainly going to be a physical exploration pending the vibe because she's emotionally unavailable and I guess I still am too unfortunately.

But it's been awhile and I thought she might be a good sex partner so I invited her.

Be open about your intentions and if she wants it too, involve her in choosing the right place. Leave surprises and "it's my way or the highway" to control freaks....

I showed her options when she requested that she was interested in going but she was dragging her feet so I decided to do a solo trip regardless...at that time there was literally only 2 out of the 6 options left.

The cheaper option was literally a studio w/ a view of a harbor but by no means was it even close to the place I ultimately booked.

Many of the reviews say that the pictures don't do it justice / it is an unreal experience staying there.

I'm so excited and I am feeling really blessed to take advantage of this opportunity during low season.lol

During high season it is a 1 week minimum stay and average price is around $ 700 a night not including the airbnb service fee , cleaning fee and occupancy tax.

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Just what a Pisces wants! 😎

Enjoy your stay and don’t be too disheartened if you can’t share it with her (or in the more likely scenario that she’s coming, but her behaviour fails short of your expectations).

Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

The opportunity to have a great time with someone she finds sexually attractive in clean, safe and beautiful surroundings. What's the real issue? That he didn't ask permission to book an Airbnb? Or that he asked too soon? He's showing initiative and balls. I'm not into chaps, but even I'm tempted to share the hot tub and go hiking with him. No brokeback mountain stuff, just two men having quiet cup of coffee and mansplaining how women keep missing out big time.

I'll make sure to pass the invite to you next time if I ever get an offer like that in the future. Fingers crossed. 🤞

You're too smart to pass up an opportunity like that.

What can I say. I'm low maintenance.

is there really such a thing?

especially when it comes to romance and good sex ?

this is kind of like those women that lie to themselves and say I don't care if I orgasm and they only want to pleas their partner/ make sure he has a good time.

I'm referring to do something fancy during first dates. I prefer just to meet and go for a walk to feel if we vibe or not.

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There's been and will be a little of that.

We are hanging out and watching halloween movies at her place tonight.

Friday we are hanging out most of the day including a sunset walk at this location that overlooks the waterways in her city.

It's going to be interesting that's for sure.

First time we hung out at this festival there were no vibes at least on my end. It was a chill experience and I enjoyed talking with her but upon leaving she was a little feisty which intrigued me.

The last two days of the festival we were all hanging out in a group but she was heavily flirting with me pretty consistently and giving me looks on the dance floor etc and the vibes were off of the chart. I was so turned on by her / the way she was conveying interest.

This is what motivated me to finally buy my ticket to finally visit friends ( which I was already planning) and her as well.

The last time we hung out the vibes were definitely there in the beginning

but then I got turned off by her talking about dating / who should pay and then her flirtng with other people ( namely one person ) was my last straw. I had a feeling that she might do this but needed to see if she was indeed going to be flirting and hooking up with other people before my trip so I would know if I wanted to still hook up with her. Even as a casual thing I still like women who are a little more discerning. Not slut shaming at all don't get me wrong but am I really trying to be 12th in line that week? Kind of gross.imho

Some mutual friends who also were there at this other festival excused this behavior because it is more common to hook up w/ as many people as possible for a lot of people because the nature of the event ( think lesbian spring break). This was also similarly true for the festival in which we met.

I still thought it was gross though and chose to withdraw and hang with other people. The minute I started withdrawing and hanging with others is when she would come and try to snuggle up with me and get touchy feely.

I'm not into games. So even though we've been texting or video calling or DMing 3-4 times a week since then ( most of the time it's been her intiating) especially post telling her I I like her and to get her to be honest about her intentions.

I was trying to get friend zoned / an answer but instead.....breadcrumbs.

She cited the long distance thing being the main reason but is still consistently trying to engage me ( breadcrumbs) and more game playing.

So ultimately not looking hopeful.

I'm still excited to hang with other people and the airBnB. I will make the most of my trip no matter what.

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Turned off and needing to escape such a trap and the person attempting it asap!

Funny.

Yeah well I'm trying to invite friends but everyone seems to be busy.

Part of me will be relieved if she flakes.

She doesn't deserve it/or me.

Try a short (er) and inexpensive first date instead. If she likes you, she will mainly have eyes for you, and the surroundings will be largely irrelevant.

It's not the things we are doing for others that make them fall in love with us. If anything, the more you invest in someone, the more YOU will fall for them.

I'm not trying to make her fall in love or have myself fall.

We had a clear conversation about what she wanted a little over a week ago ( which is not long distance).

I even tried to get her to friend zone me but she didn't/ so

I came to the conclusion that this visit was mainly going to be a physical exploration pending the vibe because she's emotionally unavailable and I guess I still am too unfortunately.

But it's been awhile and I thought she might be a good sex partner so I invited her.

Be open about your intentions and if she wants it too, involve her in choosing the right place. Leave surprises and "it's my way or the highway" to control freaks....

I showed her options when she requested that she was interested in going but she was dragging her feet so I decided to do a solo trip regardless...at that time there was literally only 2 out of the 6 options left.

The cheaper option was literally a studio w/ a view of a harbor but by no means was it even close to the place I ultimately booked.

Many of the reviews say that the pictures don't do it justice / it is an unreal experience staying there.

I'm so excited and I am feeling really blessed to take advantage of this opportunity during low season.lol

During high season it is a 1 week minimum stay and average price is around $ 700 a night not including the airbnb service fee , cleaning fee and occupancy tax.

Just what a Pisces wants! 😎

Enjoy your stay and don’t be too disheartened if you can’t share it with her (or in the more likely scenario that she’s coming, but her behaviour fails short of your expectations).

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Thanks undine.

It already has been as we've discussed . But thanks for your input. It's helping me be a little bit more grounded and manage my expectations.

I'm grateful for the learning experience as at the very least I'm learning what I don't want in a future partner.lol

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

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Sorry didn't realize it was a girlfriend. I still think it shows initiative.

Not my gf just a girl I am talking to and was contemplating hooking up with and thanks alex!!!

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...

Lol yes the chances are high for that.

Looking forward to it actually 😉.

All the bedrooms and in front of the fireplace.

Enjoy! I'm sure you will have a great time either way. ☺️

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Thanks! I think I will too.

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

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Perfect for a Cancer Venus

🏡😃

Maybe not for a Scorpio Venus 😈

Just sounds a bit childish to me?

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Perfect for a Cancer Venus

🏡😃

Maybe not for a Scorpio Venus 😈

Just sounds a bit childish to me?

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I think it's totally hot

Full disclosure

some adult programming I watch include the words wife or married in title lol.

Your reply has got me reflecting though as to why the marriage fantasy turns me on so much..astrology aside.

I think because there is definitely an overlap between fear and arousal that it would makes sense that something like marriage would turn me on as someone who is deeply afraid of commitment ( but trying to work towards trust / being vulnerable) because it is a dream of mine ultimately that I would like to realize someday.

I still need to a do a lot of work emotionally though before getting there and of course I still have to find my person who I hope is / will be doing the same thing in terms of the " self work" needed to be able to show up for yourself and ultimately your partner , family, friends , community etc.

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Perfect for a Cancer Venus

🏡😃

Maybe not for a Scorpio Venus 😈

Just sounds a bit childish to me?

I think it's totally hot

Full disclosure

some adult programming I watch include the words wife or married in title lol.

Your reply has got me reflecting though as to why the marriage fantasy turns me on so much..astrology aside.

I think because there is definitely an overlap between fear and arousal that it would makes sense that something like marriage would turn me on as someone who is deeply afraid of commitment ( but trying to work towards trust / being vulnerable) because it is a dream of mine ultimately that I would like to realize someday.

I still need to a do a lot of work emotionally though before getting there and of course I still have to find my person who I hope is / will be doing the same thing in terms of the " self work" needed to be able to show up for yourself and ultimately your partner , family, friends , community etc.

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Reflection is good

And it is ♏️ season 😃

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

What if he booked it for someone else and that person cancelled or declined and OP is the next girl?🤔

Clever girl! 😁 Haha. You're absolutely right.

OP is the one who booked haha.

And I am thinking of inviting other people to hang with even if she's still coming.

It is a 3 bedroom house. There's plenty of room!

You could have given more context haha.

If you booked already without discussing with her she was not part of the process., that's a bit weird.

Did you decide both it is going to be a casual affair or are just assuming based on her emotional unavailability?

I asked her and she said she wasn't sure if she could get the time off.

I booked anyway regardless because I wanted to visit this region of the country and stay at this AirBnB.

After telling her I booked one regardless and that I was not staying in her city with her the entire time she then said she'd figure it out and join me because she wants to "spend more time with me and make sure I enjoy it."

I assumed not so much an affair but an "event"..as in one night only maybe an encore during the same weekend...if we were both still willing. My flight is tomorrow evening so we will see but it's not looking likely at least on my part though.

She might try to double down with heavy flirting and touching as I withdraw (as I've already tried to do before when she's previously displayed immature manipulative behavior imho ) but I have to be strong this time .

I'm realizing my original hypothesis that she just likes the chase/hunt is true. It's gross.

Sad though because I thought she was really cute.

Ah ok, these details make more sense. Maybe better if you just don't waste time on people who play games? Makes life easier on you.

As for the weekend away. If this weekend is about YOU and you need some peace, quiet and relaxation, that lady doesn't really sound like the right candidate.

yeah I just realized that last night unfortunately...post invite and acceptance.

It will be okay /better if some more friends are able to join as sharing things always make me enjoy them a little more.

Thats ok. Hope some good company is able to join you on the trip. If not, enjoy the weekend regardless. =)

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Thanks Maxian! will hopefully post pics on this thread post stay.

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Perfect for a Cancer Venus

🏡😃

Maybe not for a Scorpio Venus 😈

Just sounds a bit childish to me?

I think it's totally hot

Full disclosure

some adult programming I watch include the words wife or married in title lol.

Your reply has got me reflecting though as to why the marriage fantasy turns me on so much..astrology aside.

I think because there is definitely an overlap between fear and arousal that it would makes sense that something like marriage would turn me on as someone who is deeply afraid of commitment ( but trying to work towards trust / being vulnerable) because it is a dream of mine ultimately that I would like to realize someday.

I still need to a do a lot of work emotionally though before getting there and of course I still have to find my person who I hope is / will be doing the same thing in terms of the " self work" needed to be able to show up for yourself and ultimately your partner , family, friends , community etc.

Reflection is good

And it is ♏️ season 😃

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It is and it's one of my favorite times of year 😉.

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...

Oh I plan on getting off regardless hahaha. That's for sure.

I know I can guarantee my orgasm. I'm not sure even if she was down to hook up would she be able to deliver.

The vagina is very complicated and all lesbians are not experts as you would think.

Also a high number of sexual partners does not necessarily equate to skill or knowledge.

Are you going?

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Yeah the booking is non refundable.lol

Like I told her it's happening with or without her regardless.

Super stoked. I will post pics post stay.

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Perfect for a Cancer Venus

🏡😃

Maybe not for a Scorpio Venus 😈

Just sounds a bit childish to me?

I think it's totally hot

Full disclosure

some adult programming I watch include the words wife or married in title lol.

Your reply has got me reflecting though as to why the marriage fantasy turns me on so much..astrology aside.

I think because there is definitely an overlap between fear and arousal that it would makes sense that something like marriage would turn me on as someone who is deeply afraid of commitment ( but trying to work towards trust / being vulnerable) because it is a dream of mine ultimately that I would like to realize someday.

I still need to a do a lot of work emotionally though before getting there and of course I still have to find my person who I hope is / will be doing the same thing in terms of the " self work" needed to be able to show up for yourself and ultimately your partner , family, friends , community etc.

Reflection is good

And it is ♏️ season 😃

It is and it's one of my favorite times of year 😉.

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Oh mine too....magical and powerful!

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Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Nevermind 'holier than you'...they are inadequate...

I havent realized it was you the booker and she is a girl.

Question!

I always though in same sex relationships specially women - it is much easier to get along and be spontaneous like 'lets go away for vacation' because 2 women hardly ever a physical threat to each other in terms that 2 women danger to harm each other is low...and I can be totally wrong but I am looking at it as easy peasy 'lets go' decision maker.

Apparently...not? Still dont get why.

Do I have to rethink having a gf? 🤣🤣😂😂

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hmmm....

Speaking really from recent events with other women I've crashed at over the past month who have conveyed ( sexual interest ...when they did things to try to escalate the situation and turn things physical I was still uncomfortable albeit less than I was when I was hanging around a guy . In general cisgendered women are socialized to be less aggressive than cis men.

It really depends on the girl. Some women are more openly aggressive and will straddle you or hover over your face in their bed and others will do things like adjust their towel a few times to give you glance of their body.

It may help a little that I am boyish looking so I think women are expecting me to make a move as if I was "a guy "after they showed they were interested in doing something physical via the interactions I just mentioned.

They end up frustrated with me / the situation though because in the 99.99 percent of the cases I am not interested.

I felt pressure and weird about it though because I don't like turning people down and fear I will be treated differently / they wouldn't want to be friends with me anymore.



I will also say in my credit two of the cases I mentioned which happened this past month previously ( face hoverer and the flasher lol ) I told them I was demi/ace and have only been sexually attracted to 3 women in my life including the one this post is about. I was 28 with the first girl. This last girl I met when I was 34.

They both know about this girl and I think I became more desirable in their eyes and a bit of a challenge..hence the interest expressed by them.

Kind of annoying but yeah.

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Turn off if that's a first date. And he already booked it without even asking lol. No thanks.

A hot tub, a view overlooking the mountains and a forest. Better than going to dirty student flats with bottles everywhere, rough council estates or hotels with nosey reception staff at midnight. Anyone with any sense would snatch his hand off at the opportunity, it shows he's willing to put in the effort. He can always stick up a message on Craigslist or wherever and get lots of offers. He chose her, that's a beautiful thing right there or is it a case of no connection without 200 dinner dates, who has time to waste like that?

Yes what a golden opportunity. Bless the lucky girl and pity the girl that miss this beautiful chance. Then you know what to do for your next first date. 😉 He already booked it without asking. So what is he going to do if she says no. Ask the next girl?

Exactly my thought. He must had asked a few. Another thought he can cancel or he never booked or he will go himself and jerk off in a tub watching the skies...

Oh I plan on getting off regardless hahaha. That's for sure.

I know I can guarantee my orgasm. I'm not sure even if she was down to hook up would she be able to deliver.

The vagina is very complicated and all lesbians are not experts as you would think.

Also a high number of sexual partners does not necessarily equate to skill or knowledge.

Are you going?

Yeah the booking is non refundable.lol

Like I told her it's happening with or without her regardless.

Super stoked. I will post pics post stay.

I dont understand why would she be not just going...

Is this complicated for her on some level? Sorry if you explained already. I just woke up

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No she's going at least as of now. She could change her mind / flake as the weekend progresses.

The point of this post was to just get other people's opinion about something I said regarding our upcoming trip last night.lol

She looked a little annoyed/gave me a squint when I said it her.

Full context was that she had previously said we should take her van and camp on this island

and that she was trying to save money/ wanted to contribute if we did get an AirBnB.

I told her that it was going to be cold as hell in the van and if she wanted to contribute if we got and AirBnB I respected her wishes but it wasn't necessary ( especially as I knew it was a splurge and it's not in her budget right now as she is taking an unpaid leave from work soon).

But yeah I was trying to convey I would have been happy with her in the van ( something she smiled at )

but I wanted/thought it would be fun to play house with her for the weekend.

And again as stated before her reaction wasn't what I had anticipated.lol

I was trying to be cute though.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Anyone that said *play house* to me would turn me off

lol why?

I thought it was cute/ would be a possible turn on for a venus in cancer person cap moon.

As a taurus venus I'm definitely into it haha

Nevermind 'holier than you'...they are inadequate...

I havent realized it was you the booker and she is a girl.

Question!

I always though in same sex relationships specially women - it is much easier to get along and be spontaneous like 'lets go away for vacation' because 2 women hardly ever a physical threat to each other in terms that 2 women danger to harm each other is low...and I can be totally wrong but I am looking at it as easy peasy 'lets go' decision maker.

Apparently...not? Still dont get why.

Do I have to rethink having a gf? 🤣🤣😂😂

hmmm....

Speaking really from recent events with other women I've crashed at over the past month who have conveyed ( sexual interest ...when they did things to try to escalate the situation and turn things physical I was still uncomfortable albeit less than I was when I was hanging around a guy . In general cisgendered women are socialized to be less aggressive than cis men.

It really depends on the girl. Some women are more openly aggressive and will straddle you or hover over your face in their bed and others will do things like adjust their towel a few times to give you glance of their body.

It may help a little that I am boyish looking so I think women are expecting me to make a move as if I was "a guy "after they showed they were interested in doing something physical via the interactions I just mentioned.

They end up frustrated with me / the situation though because in the 99.99 percent of the cases I am not interested.

I felt pressure and weird about it though because I don't like turning people down and fear I will be treated differently / they wouldn't want to be friends with me anymore.



I will also say in my credit two of the cases I mentioned which happened this past month previously ( face hoverer and the flasher lol ) I told them I was demi/ace and have only been sexually attracted to 3 women in my life including the one this post is about. I was 28 with the first girl. This last girl I met when I was 34.

They both know about this girl and I think I became more desirable in their eyes and a bit of a challenge..hence the interest expressed by them.

Kind of annoying but yeah.

Thanks for letting me into details. I am wondering if there is no such thing as girl like girl and hit it off and just do whatever good for both and no games?

It seems women are so finiky from what you saying and I am still questioning WHY?

I hate all this complications in rships so I say right away that I dont need to be fed unless its room service AFTER sex...and it always works or if its not (had not happened yet but I am thinking out loud) - then no time wasted, no hard done - he is a pussy man - NEXT!

WHat you saying she gives you a glimpse at her body - like every one is having a body to look at and die? What if she is fat or just not too much to look at?

And boyish looks - women past that. Women approaching men and between 2 women...are they more 'old fashion' when men did chasing?

awhhh...so complicated...isnt it?

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no I don't think this is true

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I have a friend who is femme and is now in a committed relationship with another femme.

There were no games.

The challenge I think a lot of times with two women is passivity/ the chance of nothing happening because no one will make the first move.

I have been encouraged by others to make moves ( and have been ) and even though it's not in my nature.

In summary I enjoyed my stay.

Perhaps it was the right house with the wrong girl.

Though to be honest about 14 percent of me still believes it was the right house with the right girl at the wrong time.

However it's mostly likely the wrong girl and I am just really enamored with some of the potential I still see. I sincerely hope I can find some of the unique qualities I saw in her in a future partner ( less all of the hurdles , barriers , and concerning behavior of why we aren't and most likely could never be).

Mark my words...I am buying this house one day. I don't care if it takes me decades. I will own this home!