KyleM3
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Gemini Help
you guys must be super serious if she already wants to meet your folks? Just remember that you're not an emotional punching bag. If you're anything like me and a few other Scorpios I know, we tend to blame ourselves for others pain.
I also kept attracting Gemini's a few months back..probably because I liked the idea of detatchement even though the ones I kept running into weren't detatched at all. Actually..pretty emotional but there's a mismatch of style here. In my experience, gems will be upset with something then get over it but if they're reminded of that hurt it brings it all back because I believe a lot of them don't know how to heal.
I also kept attracting Gemini's a few months back..probably because I liked the idea of detatchement even though the ones I kept running into weren't detatched at all. Actually..pretty emotional but there's a mismatch of style here. In my experience, gems will be upset with something then get over it but if they're reminded of that hurt it brings it all back because I believe a lot of them don't know how to heal.
Why didn't you introduce her?
Rude.
I wouldn't take you seriously from that point on
Rude.
I wouldn't take you seriously from that point on
She's expressed a concern, that you appear to be ashamed of her because you haven't introduced her to anyone in your life. A very valid concern. Don't sweep it under the rug. Take her to dinner and introduce her to friends, co-workers, etc. Show her that you are listening to her concerns and complaints and making an effort. She will continue to open up.
I'm with a Gemini and as a water sign I've found that the place we struggle the most is communication.
I'm with a Gemini and as a water sign I've found that the place we struggle the most is communication.
I would agree that communication is the issue. I'm told that I evade questions. I'm told that I don't listen.
It's somewhat unpredictable as the relationship swings like a pendulum.
I will say I tend to clam up when she appears to be in a foul frame of mind.
Problem is: she swings back quickly and I don't know how to read her.
It's somewhat unpredictable as the relationship swings like a pendulum.
I will say I tend to clam up when she appears to be in a foul frame of mind.
Problem is: she swings back quickly and I don't know how to read her.
Posted by NotSoInstantPosted by KyleM3
Hello there,
I (Scorpio) started dating a Gemini woman about two months ago. Let me start by saying that I know we are not the most compatible of signs.
That being said, she is a breath of spontaneous fresh air and I'm crazy about her.
I have started to see a few problems creep in and I don't know quite how to handle it as I really, really like her.
I am a man and, as such, have certain behaviors that offend her without knowing I did anything wrong.
She doesn't tell me that she's offended or that she would prefer a different type of behavior at the time. She continues on as though we are the greatest of friends and waits one day, two days, or a week to tell me her feelings are hurt.
1) I never mean to hurt her feelings.
2) I don't understand why she waits to tell me about it.
Yesterday, she told me that she feels I'm embarrassed of her and she feels like a POS as I've not introduced her to anyone yet. She was visiting my business and my business partner showed up. We started talking business and I got wrapped up in the matter at hand completely forgetting to introduce her as he had to leave abruptly. I haven't introduced her to my parents yet as they are controlling and get involved in matters they shouldn't thereby adding strain to a new relationship.
We had a fantastic day yesterday ending before bed with her telling me that she never thought we would have these issues and that I had hurt her terribly which has carried on through today.
I have been upfront and honest with this girl this entire time. I told her that my family is controlling and I wanted to put off their meeting as it strains the relationship. I told her that I got wrapped up in business and honestly forgot to introduce her to my partner.
She is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop in this relationship.
I honestly don't know what to do to ensure this stops happening. I constantly write her notes, letters, and shower her with thoughtful small and thoughtful not so small gifts. I know this isn't a display of love by itself but I would think that it would stand for something.
Please educate me on ways to convince her of my integrity and honesty. She has been hurt terribly in the past and, as such, I have no intention of hurting her but only showing her the best life I can give her.
She focuses on the negative and somewhat allows one small, innocent discrepancy to spiral downward.
Please help...
Words of affirmation should help... We forgive easily and we don't hold grudges... You could invite her for a group dinner or something.. has she met your friends?
Scorpio- Gemini is one of the most difficult pairings, takes time to build trust and security. Don't take it personally if she seems unsure about the relationship. Be there and show her how consistent you can be...click to expand
Couldn't have said it better myself.
And the OP's situation sounds EXACTLY (unfortunately) like the relationship I had with my Scorpio. We were young (23/25) and very in love, trying desperately to make it work. I blame my insecurity/immaturity at the time and not him (though he tended to drink too much and emotions would come pouring out).
Words of affirmation will absolutely help, but don't feel like it's you...it definitely sounds like her own insecurities and unfortunately that will only ever be healed by her.
Update: I'm not really sure what's going on anymore.
She has indicated on more than one occasion that she suspects I'm entertaining more than one woman despite the fact that she always has my undivided attention and my entertaining more than one woman couldn't be further from my mind.
She tells me that everything is always about me despite the fact that when we talk, it's difficult to get a word in edgewise. I'm constantly told that I don't let her finish a thought and I've resorted to saying: "May I finish?" to complete a thought myself as she talks over me.
I'm told that I haven't taken the time to get to know her despite the fact that she does most of the talking. I ask questions that she doesn't or won't answer. I don't know how to address this issue.
She called my cell repeatedly today while I was with a client. She knew I was with a client and resorted to calling the store to ask why I wouldn't answer my phone. She then challenged the amount of time spent with the client (2 hours) and asked why it took so long?
Being that I'm a Scorpio and a business owner I'm very career driven and she knew this up front.
It is implied that I'm always up to something. She is constantly rehashing past events. I'm constantly interviewed and re-interviewed to be sure my story matches. I'm told that I "assume" things. I'm told to stop "assuming" anything. However, the behavior is somewhat all over the map.
I was to see her last night, booked and paid for a room, and then due to the fact that I had a flat tire, she put me off and told me to come tomorrow instead. I know Gems fly by the seat of their pants but this is a little bizarre.
So far, I've paid for a cabin at her request we didn't visit and didn't get a refund due to policy, I bought and paid for a tour that we booked and didn't attend at her request, and yesterday, the hotel room.
At her request, I bought chocolates from a local gourmet candy store yesterday as well. While there, I bought a few pieces for my new employee. She flipped out telling me to go ahead and keep the candy as I obviously wasn't thinking of her due to the fact that I bought candy for another woman while I was there.
Is this normal for a Gem? She told me that I clearly don't want to spend money on her despite the fact that it's all I seem to do.
Are there any additional thoughts or guidance out there? Is this type of personality synonymous with a Gemini?
She has indicated on more than one occasion that she suspects I'm entertaining more than one woman despite the fact that she always has my undivided attention and my entertaining more than one woman couldn't be further from my mind.
She tells me that everything is always about me despite the fact that when we talk, it's difficult to get a word in edgewise. I'm constantly told that I don't let her finish a thought and I've resorted to saying: "May I finish?" to complete a thought myself as she talks over me.
I'm told that I haven't taken the time to get to know her despite the fact that she does most of the talking. I ask questions that she doesn't or won't answer. I don't know how to address this issue.
She called my cell repeatedly today while I was with a client. She knew I was with a client and resorted to calling the store to ask why I wouldn't answer my phone. She then challenged the amount of time spent with the client (2 hours) and asked why it took so long?
Being that I'm a Scorpio and a business owner I'm very career driven and she knew this up front.
It is implied that I'm always up to something. She is constantly rehashing past events. I'm constantly interviewed and re-interviewed to be sure my story matches. I'm told that I "assume" things. I'm told to stop "assuming" anything. However, the behavior is somewhat all over the map.
I was to see her last night, booked and paid for a room, and then due to the fact that I had a flat tire, she put me off and told me to come tomorrow instead. I know Gems fly by the seat of their pants but this is a little bizarre.
So far, I've paid for a cabin at her request we didn't visit and didn't get a refund due to policy, I bought and paid for a tour that we booked and didn't attend at her request, and yesterday, the hotel room.
At her request, I bought chocolates from a local gourmet candy store yesterday as well. While there, I bought a few pieces for my new employee. She flipped out telling me to go ahead and keep the candy as I obviously wasn't thinking of her due to the fact that I bought candy for another woman while I was there.
Is this normal for a Gem? She told me that I clearly don't want to spend money on her despite the fact that it's all I seem to do.
Are there any additional thoughts or guidance out there? Is this type of personality synonymous with a Gemini?
1) I have overshared at her request. She asked very intimate questions and I answered open and honestly which isn't exactly in my nature. I have NEVER messed around on anyone. I have been cheated on myself and, as such, abhor the behavior. This is not a secret and has been explained.
2) She does have a past. I know that it was abusive and that he walked out on her a their children. She has entertained a few suitors since and they all had addiction issues.
I'm relatively normal all things considered.
2) She does have a past. I know that it was abusive and that he walked out on her a their children. She has entertained a few suitors since and they all had addiction issues.
I'm relatively normal all things considered.
She sounds like my Gemini-dominated, Taurus mum. A nightmare for everyone involved. Selfish, entitled bully.
Why would a man keep entertaining something like her is beyond my comprehension. Probably because you are a fixed sun, like my father. Smells the shit, but cannot get his feet out of it.
Why would a man keep entertaining something like her is beyond my comprehension. Probably because you are a fixed sun, like my father. Smells the shit, but cannot get his feet out of it.
Posted by KyleM3She reminds me of my Gemini sister...
Update: I'm not really sure what's going on anymore.
She has indicated on more than one occasion that she suspects I'm entertaining more than one woman despite the fact that she always has my undivided attention and my entertaining more than one woman couldn't be further from my mind.
She tells me that everything is always about me despite the fact that when we talk, it's difficult to get a word in edgewise. I'm constantly told that I don't let her finish a thought and I've resorted to saying: "May I finish?" to complete a thought myself as she talks over me.
I'm told that I haven't taken the time to get to know her despite the fact that she does most of the talking. I ask questions that she doesn't or won't answer. I don't know how to address this issue.
She called my cell repeatedly today while I was with a client. She knew I was with a client and resorted to calling the store to ask why I wouldn't answer my phone. She then challenged the amount of time spent with the client (2 hours) and asked why it took so long?
Being that I'm a Scorpio and a business owner I'm very career driven and she knew this up front.
It is implied that I'm always up to something. She is constantly rehashing past events. I'm constantly interviewed and re-interviewed to be sure my story matches. I'm told that I "assume" things. I'm told to stop "assuming" anything. However, the behavior is somewhat all over the map.
I was to see her last night, booked and paid for a room, and then due to the fact that I had a flat tire, she put me off and told me to come tomorrow instead. I know Gems fly by the seat of their pants but this is a little bizarre.
So far, I've paid for a cabin at her request we didn't visit and didn't get a refund due to policy, I bought and paid for a tour that we booked and didn't attend at her request, and yesterday, the hotel room.
At her request, I bought chocolates from a local gourmet candy store yesterday as well. While there, I bought a few pieces for my new employee. She flipped out telling me to go ahead and keep the candy as I obviously wasn't thinking of her due to the fact that I bought candy for another woman while I was there.
Is this normal for a Gem? She told me that I clearly don't want to spend money on her despite the fact that it's all I seem to do.
Are there any additional thoughts or guidance out there? Is this type of personality synonymous with a Gemini?
This is the behavior of a PROFOUNDLY insecure person that hasn't performed healing before entering a new relationship.
Update: Her Sun is in Gemini, Moon is in Cancer.
She got really mad at me last Sunday and called the whole thing off. We were having a nice Sunday morning until my daughter referred to my ex-wife as mommy. Things spiraled out of control quickly with her telling me that this was a mistake and leaving abruptly while telling me that she pursues no one in a relationship.
Fast forward to Tuesday and she starts texting, calling, telling me she is sorry. Being the Scorpio that I am and having little tolerance for non-sense, I ignored her. When she realized she was being ignored, she sent very hateful texts. lol
She called and texted all week with me ignoring her. She showed up on my doorstep yesterday with a candy gram and a very heartfelt apology.
I am somewhat lost as I do care for her but when she goes all over the map, she accuses me of erratic behavior. I may be a Scorpio but I'm about as predictable and even keel as they come.
Is it possible that I'm inspiring the drama? She really hasn't ever pursued someone in a relationship before but... she is indeed pursuing me and I have no idea why.
Are these Gemini traits that will even out or am I dealing with something else entirely?
Is this worth entertaining or should I pull the plug?
She got really mad at me last Sunday and called the whole thing off. We were having a nice Sunday morning until my daughter referred to my ex-wife as mommy. Things spiraled out of control quickly with her telling me that this was a mistake and leaving abruptly while telling me that she pursues no one in a relationship.
Fast forward to Tuesday and she starts texting, calling, telling me she is sorry. Being the Scorpio that I am and having little tolerance for non-sense, I ignored her. When she realized she was being ignored, she sent very hateful texts. lol
She called and texted all week with me ignoring her. She showed up on my doorstep yesterday with a candy gram and a very heartfelt apology.
I am somewhat lost as I do care for her but when she goes all over the map, she accuses me of erratic behavior. I may be a Scorpio but I'm about as predictable and even keel as they come.
Is it possible that I'm inspiring the drama? She really hasn't ever pursued someone in a relationship before but... she is indeed pursuing me and I have no idea why.
Are these Gemini traits that will even out or am I dealing with something else entirely?
Is this worth entertaining or should I pull the plug?
Insecure. Like you said your 'normal' compared to the train wreck of guys shes been dating + you own your own business. She's intimidated by your 'togetherness'. She's trying to push you away to see if you care enough to stick around. Its a fucked up mentality. However if you care about her be more demonstrative. Let her know that you are only dating her and that you only WANT to date her.
Tell her that it hurts that she is pushing you away. Offer her more affection, communication, and assurance. Give her another chance. If things still don't change then you can walk away knowing you gave it your all.
Tell her that it hurts that she is pushing you away. Offer her more affection, communication, and assurance. Give her another chance. If things still don't change then you can walk away knowing you gave it your all.
Nothing to do with Gemini, all to do with crazy...
Leave her, you don't need the drama and head/heart ache.
Better will come along, trust.
Leave her, you don't need the drama and head/heart ache.
Better will come along, trust.
Posted by -Flo-Not nesrserily!
You're going to end up exhausted and hurt.
She seems like bitchy gem and he is like best of Scorps...
Well...tough...
I am feeling so strange having not one disagreement or argument with my Scorp forever - I am chocked on this though I thought I can rule it for them but I can't!
Posted by UndineMy friend said my upper head knows she is no good but my lower one fighting it!
She sounds like my Gemini-dominated, Taurus mum. A nightmare for everyone involved. Selfish, entitled bully.
Why would a man keep entertaining something like her is beyond my comprehension. Probably because you are a fixed sun, like my father. Smells the shit, but cannot get his feet out of it.
Luckily it ended and all happy now!
But he was so in love and sincere!!!
Lol
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I (Scorpio) started dating a Gemini woman about two months ago. Let me start by saying that I know we are not the most compatible of signs.
That being said, she is a breath of spontaneous fresh air and I'm crazy about her.
I have started to see a few problems creep in and I don't know quite how to handle it as I really, really like her.
I am a man and, as such, have certain behaviors that offend her without knowing I did anything wrong.
She doesn't tell me that she's offended or that she would prefer a different type of behavior at the time. She continues on as though we are the greatest of friends and waits one day, two days, or a week to tell me her feelings are hurt.
1) I never mean to hurt her feelings.
2) I don't understand why she waits to tell me about it.
Yesterday, she told me that she feels I'm embarrassed of her and she feels like a POS as I've not introduced her to anyone yet. She was visiting my business and my business partner showed up. We started talking business and I got wrapped up in the matter at hand completely forgetting to introduce her as he had to leave abruptly. I haven't introduced her to my parents yet as they are controlling and get involved in matters they shouldn't thereby adding strain to a new relationship.
We had a fantastic day yesterday ending before bed with her telling me that she never thought we would have these issues and that I had hurt her terribly which has carried on through today.
I have been upfront and honest with this girl this entire time. I told her that my family is controlling and I wanted to put off their meeting as it strains the relationship. I told her that I got wrapped up in business and honestly forgot to introduce her to my partner.
She is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop in this relationship.
I honestly don't know what to do to ensure this stops happening. I constantly write her notes, letters, and shower her with thoughtful small and thoughtful not so small gifts. I know this isn't a display of love by itself but I would think that it would stand for something.
Please educate me on ways to convince her of my integrity and honesty. She has been hurt terribly in the past and, as such, I have no intention of hurting her but only showing her the best life I can give her.
She focuses on the negative and somewhat allows one small, innocent discrepancy to spiral downward.
Please help...