Gemini Men and Love?

How do Gemini men act when they are in love?

I read somewhere, when gemini men actually start have feelings for a woman or have fallen in love with a woman they treat her like they cant stand her or they just dont like her.

Is this true?

Yes .. that is true

He does like to take me to dinner, shopping. He also likes to cook for me. He wants to by me a puppy and take me away for my birthday. He asked me to be patient with him while he gets his life together, ofcourse since I agreed to this, he says I have to behave "no seeing other people, or smashing" So I said, this goes for u also, so he says yes thats why im asking u to do this for me. He tells me that he cares for me soooo much.

At the same time it seems like the closer we get, the ruder he acts, Like he cant stand me.

Is that the norm for Gemini men?

in love means for us to share and be confortable with "who ever". Love also means helping people and make them happy in a way even sometimes you might get hurt. Love means letting people go when they want. Love means for gemini something else. Love means to be understood. Love means debating, being me (not to play around - when i start to the that be sure is over) love means when i feel good. Our love has so many ways but a.m is about.
If you want more...let me know

GEM FOX's post was on the money, they seem to get really playful anf if they see you they'll always come up to your crowd. Even if they don't talk to you directly, they'll still be joining in and they'll ALWAYS call you back, because usually gemini men are thhe ones geting all the calls and chatting to multiple people so they wouldn't usually but if they really like you, they do.

and wow a gemini guy that cooks....lucky girl!!

wrote to sexysiren. hope i was able to explain my thoughts which can be "even for me" difficult to understand sometimes. Geminifox yes we let love and people go when the time is right or they think is right (forcing, kinda yes sure). My last relationship ended just few weeks ago (almost 4 years with a scorpio girl) - if and when i feel ok to write about will do so. This was probably my biggest expirement in all these years. But the time came to change thinks just for me this time with the hope that all to benefit in long run.
Cooking for a woman - when i cook is just to impress, love (usually for the sake of expirement) and is correct i dont' like cooking just for myself. I m not talking here about plain dishes.

Tet, yes i did understand what u were saying. Lol! Thanx 4 your advice. I actually did use it. Gemini Fox, he actually told me i should feel special because he doesnt Cook 4 just anybody.

well walking alone the great WALK right now and packing.

"Love means to be understood"

Tet, you are so right about this one!
Most of the time I can't find someone who understands me completely

Just wondering about a gemini man.....? We were introduced by a mutual friend and he didn't seem interested...he even forgot to ask for my number..he later got it from our mutual friend, and texted me the same night! I did not respond..then I texted back later the next day..He called and asked me to do him a favor and when I got to his house he was very affectionate then asked me when he could he see me again? I said maybe this wweekend! Then he said I will call you later, but I didnt hear and it was getting late..so I called then he proceeded to have some sort of visual ...What are you wearing..and so how he was visualizing me with no clothes on....strange! Then i told him it was late and I had to go to sleep and thats when it went down hill! He texted me twice over the next two days telling me that he was really busy at work and he would try to call later..then friday came and I had something that belonged to him so I stopped by and he invited me and my girlfriend to come up, but he was really boring and laid back...when she left I tried to show affection and his response was..that he has to regroup the last time I tld him I was shy and uncertain..I asked if he wanted me to tuck him in, and he said that as soon as his head hit the pillow he would fall asleep.
I do know that he is under a tremendous amount of pressure at work and he is stressed and working late...but does that attribute to the mixed messages. I saw him today cause he offered to pay for my ticket..then I was planning to meet him and just drop it off, but then he said he had some down time so lets hang out for and hour or two...brought him back to work and gave me a really weak peck on the cheek! Is this a gemini or is he just not interested anymore..He told me some bull earlier that day about I was asking too many questions, and it was annoying that I am trying to make a decision so early...DUH! you think...any advice wld be appreciated.

I was thinking the same thing, but i just feel something happened...could this have to do with the fact he is distracted? with work— i dont think so..cause I asked him if he was attracted and he said HELL YES! they say that when they act cold that mean they are interested....TWisted!!!

Wots your sign? Yeah Gemini man can deliberately instigate an argument just to keep the relationship 'burning' so to speak - this works best with Gemini's opposite Sagittarius, but yes Gemini is likely to be extremely verbal and antagonisitic - you have to remember that unlike the other two Air signs the Gemini is very openly verbal and can utilize verbiosity as a method to heat up a relationship - the rational in the astrological sense within this Gemini association is that Gemini utilizes antagonistic verbiosity as a method to maintaining the sparkle and romanticism of the relationship. Its a contradiction but that's how it works. You are not going to get much of the tact and softness of Libra or the ........ what shall I say about Aquarius - you are not going to get much of ummmmmmm I don't remember what to say although with Gemini you're gonna get it, I'm not sure what exactly but you are going to it.

My sign is scorpio....and yes he deliberately started an argument today cause I told him that I was a little thrown off with his approach(or lack of) I was subtle..he went balistic and he told that his does not appreciate my questioning him..I am to analytical....I explained that I was trying to get to know him better..he said that I was trying to make a decision about him! And he will not be questioned by no one!!!!I was suppose to meet him to give him a parking ticket that he offered to pay for since our first meeting he told me to park and I was uncertain so he agreed to pay ticket! he called me and told and asked me if I wanted to meet him today I said no pressure, but I will be happy to drop off! He has not asked me out on a formal date...always wants me to come over....boring!

yes he let me have it today!
I would have liked to have been friends and seen all this fun, creative stuff that geminis have to offer, but he has been boring, arrogant, moody and crass! I do not think that he values or respects me as a someone of value in his life! The irony is that I accidently picked up a flyer from his house where he is doing a start up...and I could have really helped in the line of business that I do....yeeesH but he never mentioned or share ony gloom about his job.....BORING, DULL, NO MENTAL STIMULI!

And I give him total space....I do not call him! I have something he wants that is why I think he keeps calling..(and its obviously not sex) with his peck on the cheek. I dont like being used..so I am tking myself out of this equation.
A little bruised ego..caused he pursued me..and I wasnt even interested—??

Hmmm that sounds awful becoz a Scorpio woman should normally find a Gemini man very sexy and romantic and irresistable - you wouldn't think that a Gemini man possess these traits but to a Scorpio woman a Gemini man should be very allurring - probably a few shades too alluring - its an astrological quirk since the typical Gemini man does not exude tons of sexual charisma (or rather lots of 'sexuality') except a Scorpio woman would find him that way. I don't think that you have to give up your pesonality just for him just be yourself if you can help him I'm sure that he would be glad to accept (maybe grudgeingly?) seems like he is going through a really aweful time something about the economic recession. sorry about your problem hope things work out.

ok I took a look at your post on the top of this page - don't go cold on him its ok baby things will work out, atleast he isn't smothering the living daylights outta ya take care.

LOL !!!!!That wld be a little refreshing..I LOVE ATTENTION and I am used to getting it! How dare he act aloof..just kidding...LOL! Should I call him to see if he's ok..I usually dont! (OK WITH HIS JOB..I THINK THEIR ARE ABOUT TO CAN HIM!)

Thank you Joe for all your kind introspective words!..and if you are a gem then maybe there might be hope for the gentleman..I wish him the best!!! The irony is that I just got laid off on friday and I still have my spririts high and trying to boost his as well! and he has not asked once asked are you OK, no support, no advice, nothing...... but I am to blessed to be stressed and on my way to cancun next week...!

atlantic myst...about the questions?...trust....they are few and far between..if you read my brief introduction about how we met...then you will understand that I only asked questions to get to know him...he came on strong then got defensive when I didn't reciprocrate his advances...only because IliterallY just met him? I am mental about my interests and before I go physical I need to go mental..the confusion is about him not even asking me out on a real date?

I thought gems like to have fun, EXCITMENT AND ADVENTURES/

Emerald I am only casual because it is too soon to be anyhing else..I need to be friends first//i felt a connection...the work doesnt bother but i dont want to waste time..with a one way friendship—

I think he is hiding something he is too defensive>>>>

Curious....I wonder if an odd question would be....To ask a gem why he offered his business card to a girl that was with his friend while he was suppose to being introduced to me. He turned and handed us both his card, and when we went on our first date I asked why he made that gesture since they obviously had no business or social connection..they even lived in different cities...His reply was it was just a habit but didn't appreciate me quesitioning...(JUST A NOTE MY FREIND THAT MADE THE INTRO THOUGHT IT WAS ODD too) But it was odvious he was attracted to her! WHATEVER!

its really hard to dump someone that you dont even know...like I said earlier whe he came on to me it came out of left field!!! He did not seem interested....so when he did I was compelled to ask...whats up with that...card thing..I am in sales and I never give out my card to a friends date unless they ask..and she didn n n n t askkkkkk! nor was there a commen nominator between the two??

I like the idea of dumping him but there is nothing to dump just an attraction..at least there was one....i need to get a life..i cant believe I am still talking about this idiot!

They like to take you places,& do fun things with you. He might invite you out on
a date for dinner then paintball!!! They like doing fun,playful,sporty things!
If they introduce you to their best friends,they like you alot!

... One of my best friends ( a gem guy ) has done all of that and now he's compaining about his love life and he keeps asking me if mine is ok. >.< I love the guy to death but more like a brother.

After reading your post gem fox....I find myself really confused...are you serious?

"I agree with the fact that Gemini male & female won't try to force someone
to stay or to love them" ?

I have one that I can't get rid of ....after he was the one who professed his love for his ex of 10 years.....which I made peace with..he calls her all the time, and me all the time..telling us both if he can't have both...he does not want either....EVEN AFTER I TELL HIM OVER AND OVER AGAIN...THAT MAYBE WE CAN BE FRIENDS AT SOME POINT....(sweet guy, but a bit lost) He has convinced himself I still want him..yeesh! he has offered me everything to stay with him and her (LOL)! He will not accept NO!..

Oh! I know thats just his gemini twin...thats always the fallback? Im not mad I just want him to realize that we have no future! I care but will never trust or believe anything out of his mouth!

that's true most people don't understand us so it's hard for us 2 get our point across at times...speically when that "one" we want doesn't have a clue about us

Im dating a gemini man...it is true they will slowly say things that make you put on a "wtf face" lol. Im dating a gemini guy that seems so natural and so easy to date. We just click. SO WELL that it makes me iffy. We like the same things...think the same. adaptable, chlll signs...that he keeps insisting that im a people pleaser (which im seriously not). Through our course of dating..like almost a month now...im noticing that he will play games not to hurt me to seem not interested. HE"LL ask me out on a date and wants to hang out, confess how much he likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend. The next is acts as if he never asked. One minute he is being there for me ..the next he lacks to respond to my text. (perhaps his space thing) when we do hang out he'll sorta treat me like nothing. Going to friends events he'll not even introduce me (he just seems to expect me to do it myself) which is cool cuz im an aquarius..i am social too. Then he'll come kiss me then leave. Then suddenly, one day his ex-grlfriend came by when i was there (that was awkward) the email he wrote may bring insight to how fickle a gemini guy may be..He loves her but he just cannot be with her. Its been 6 months without her but him as an indivdual is caring so he doenst know what to do with her so here it is:

Okay so in all honesty. I do like you. A lot. And like you said, i have absolutely nothing to lose by telling the truth, because at the moment, i don't have anything. so here it goes.

I think you are really fun and great. Every time I'm with you, I have a good time and you genuinely make me laugh. I think you're life and personality are just random and crazy enough to fit in with my equally ridiculous (sometimes dramatic) life.

I'm not saying that we are going to get married or anything like that, but AT THIS POINT, I could definitely see a future with you. A good future. I'm not going to put any pressure on it, and i know our last couple talks/situations have made it ever more real. but it doesnt scare me.

Minus last night, everything has been fun, exciting, fresh, attractive, a bit spontaneous and a bit wild.

So about my ex girlfriend. where to even start? I did date her for a long time, on and off, almost a year and a half since we started that ridiculous ride. Majority of the time as fuck buddies while I dated other people. About a year into it (this june) i tried being with her and so i cut off all other girls and started dating her. I think I was in a low point in my life and I knew she wasnt the one for me but I wanted to give it a legitimate try. She always wanted more from the relationship and when I look back on it, i just wasnt THAT into her. Thats what made everything so difficult. I really like her personality and she is very smart and she would make a great girlfriend since she is so caring. i think what made me not attracted to her as a girlfriend was that she is very much like a little girl (naive and sweet but almost too innocent in ways). She doesn't have hardly any friends in los angeles, she is unemployed looking for work, yet she is very talented. I admire these qualities and on paper she is an amazing girl. I just never got that crazy heartpounding connection with her. our kisses were cold and empty. It always felt like I was kissing my sister or something. She is like the little baby that you have. You obviously love your baby girl and you need to take care of her ALL the time and protect her but at the same time, you don't marry your baby girl and thats how i felt since I know she was looking to get married in the next three years. There is nothing wrong with her goals, and its not that there was one big thing wrong with her, it was more a compilation of little things and the fact that I didnt have any crazy sparks or felt like I was being ruled. I decided it wasn't fair that i keep leading her on and it wasnt fair to myself. I wanted more from the relationship as much as she did. We actually stopped having sex almost completely...maybe once every two weeks if that. Then there was one day in her apartment like two months ago, we broke up. I went home and cried because I thought this was the type of girl I was supposed to be with and I couldnt find anything particularly wrong with her. She was too nice and too sweet to hate. she never cheated, she was smart, but there was just something missing. So i came back and won her back and then we stayed together another week, I really really tried during that week to make myself happy with her, but it just wasnt happening.

the next saturday morning I woke up and said "this isnt working" and she told me to get out. I left and then that was the end. I realized however, she had been there for some really dark times that i had the summer before, when I was unemployed for five months, trying to figure my life out, i was poor, and fighting with my parents, and she had put up with a lot of shit that other people never would have. THATS WHY i never wanted to throw her under the bus or have a night like last nite. she really is a sweet girl that didnt deserve anything bad i did to her, she cant even comprehend any of it... cuz she is like a baby. I feel so terrible the way i treated her. I wish i could go back and undo meeting her, cuz i definitely fucked up her life more i think rather than made it better. so i always felt like i owed her something. so i tried to just be friends with her. She would come over and i helped her build a website, we would still go grab dinner but mostly it was a cold relationship where she would come over and i would just work on my computer. we didnt have sex except maybe once in that time period of six weeks after we broke up. Then one night she came over and just started crying her eyes out and said she couldnt' live like this : where we were neither in a relationship nor really out of one. so i told her i couldnt see her anymore at all cuz i realized she wasn't able to do the "friend thing". so once in a while she had texted me, but just stupid small talk and i hadnt seen her really at all in the last three weeks. i think once when i was just at home, she came over for a sec and we sat in her car, like we did all last night (she never came in, she wanted to i wouldnt let her) and I told her "she wasn't the one for me and i wasnt the one for her" and we "aren't going to be together" and she started crying again. so i thought she got the point, , she came by, and she went out with me to a bar and just watched me eat dinner and then we went back and she updated her website while i slept on the bed and then she left. I never told her that i was hanging out with you, she was so upset about just the thought of us breaking up, i didnt want to bring you into it, yet.

I wasnt hiding it anything, just think she didnt need to here it at that moment. just needed time for things to sink in. so, then last night i think she was trying to just hang out and be happy and not be sad for once and the complete opposite happend since i had to tell her you were over. I KNOw you must be super confused. well, i am trying to make everything clear for you. i said what i was going to do, i went down there and told her clearly that we are not together and i can see other people. She came to try to be sweet to me and hang out and I told her I was hanging out with another girl that I had been out several times with. She instantly broke down and started sobbing.

She told me that she had a burst of anger and seriously felt like killing you out of jealousy. She is just a little 95 lb girl so she didnt really mean it, but she had lots of adrenaline in her, im sure.

I could tell that kissing you in front of her really killed her. It will probably eat her away for a long time.

after hours of crying and trying to talk about things, I drove to your house immediately after she left at like 245 am.. My plan was to come wake you up in the pouring rain and have you come out so i could apologize in person and explain what happened. I wanted to show you that I didnt sleep with her or have some makeup sex or anything like that. Unfortunately, I only had enough energy to make it barely one way, I tried calling and your phone was turned off, so u probably woke up to three voicemails this morning.

the issue is that she is a FOB, she IS still a good person, she is scared, doesnt have any real friends in los angeles, and is having a really hard time getting over me. She is the type of girl that ONLY wants one man in her life and just wants to make that one man happy for the rest of her life. I have so much respect for her because she is naive and has a beautiful soul. It just wasnt completing me. Its really hard to even describe what I was feeling, it was just not feeling satisfied, not feeling whole. something important was not there. She is the type of girl that never wants to give up no matter how bad the relationship is. Very typical chinese. She gets it from her mother who was cheated on several times by her father but still stayed and made it work. Is that right or wrong? I dont know.

I do have strong feelings for her, we shared a lot of great memories, and a lot of terrible ones, like last night. Lately, i have only heard her cry... My feelings are somewhere between like and love, somewhere that we don't have a english term for. someone that you care for but you are not truly madly deeply in love with. not sure if that makes sense to you.

i so wish i could. but maybe she needs her space. i wish i could find her something that would distract her and divert her attention from me. so she doesnt have to sit alone with her thoughts and driver herself insane everyday. Hopefully down the road I can help her again, and I will. Just not for a relationship. Just help her get her life together as a friend. thats all. I don't know if ANY of this makes sense. Im sure it makes me sound really unattractive, but I care about people in my life that are good people, even if i cant be with them.

I would love to see you again, (my name). To hold your hand and go on some adventure with you. I'm sorry our movie / fondue night got ruined and I'm sorry u had to live through that. I never saw that coming, and i never wanted anything to happen like that. I don't want to have multiple girls in my life, as I have learned from the example with her, even though its super super difficult, i don't want to cheat on anyone. I want to find someone that i enjoy being with, put effort into that, if it doesnt work, then just fuckin end it.... but i don't need to go fuck someone else, or want to get caught fuckin someone else, to end it with someone.

I have no idea how you are going to react to this, but i'll hope for the best. I would love to spend sometime this weekend with you dressing up for halloween and being retarded around la.

well, hope to hear from u...

THE END

I agree that Gemini men can tell you they love you one minute and then treat you like they hate you the next.I think when they realize that they are falling in love with you it makes them feel vunerable.You have to be a strong woman to deal with a Gemini.There is going to be alot of giving on your part but,the returns make it all worth it.

Posted by sexysiren
How do Gemini men act when they are in love?

I read somewhere, when gemini men actually start have feelings for a woman or have fallen in love with a woman they treat her like they cant stand her or they just dont like her.

Is this true?

HI Sexysire,

Do you know the name or the site you read this on? Have a Gemini male close friend that seems to have been rude, offish and almost seemed obligated when he came to visit me over three 1/2 weeks ago. When we said good-byes he didn't say we couldn't be friends or meet up anymore, also I had sensed he was talking to his ex-girlfriend who's a Cancer and possibly has bi-polar, I was right about what I sensed because they were seen together the next day.
So, your comment kind of hit home with me, but I could be wrong, we've been off and on since 2010, we have a complicated and sensitive situation at hand, it's been very hard on me to tell when and if he'll come back to me again.
We had no contact for almost 6 months, then the eve of my birthday he texted Me; I let him back in, then the thought hit me that because he still didn't initiate contact on my bday, nor the weekend, so on Monday I texted him -we visited for the rest of the day. I would text him and either no reply or slow at replying-then my thoughts went to maybe he thinks he made a mistake in contacting me at all, the day before my birthday.