How do I get her attention back?

I'm usually friends with someone for months before I date them. I talk to many girls but I don't smash and pass. Sex is easy to get but good company isn't. Then I finally met a girl who I fell in love with. But I had to fuck it up. She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her. I just couldn't chill. I didn't make the time when she made herself available to me and asked me to hang out or call her. Truth be told she makes me feel nervous. She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do. Nonetheless I feel like she liked me the same but you know Gemini's are notorious for liking somebody to unexplainably stop liking them. She called me a player because she thought I was fucking a few other girls. That always offended me because I am very much into her. I always have been. It's a bitch when the girl you want thinks you got all the girls after you so she stops giving a fuck and it translates into you actually having nobody. Sucks to be a Libra. It's been months since we last talked yet I still think about her everyday. Talking to other girls just fills that void. I'm sure she's not going to turn things around I realize that's up to me. What can a guy do to make a Gemini woman want him again without chasing her away the second time around?

Posted by Quadeca

I'm usually friends with someone for months before I date them. I talk to many girls but I don't smash and pass. Sex is easy to get but good company isn't. Then I finally met a girl who I fell in love with. But I had to fuck it up. She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her. I just couldn't chill. I didn't make the time when she made herself available to me and asked me to hang out or call her. Truth be told she makes me feel nervous. She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do. Nonetheless I feel like she liked me the same but you know Gemini's are notorious for liking somebody to unexplainably stop liking them. She called me a player because she thought I was fucking a few other girls. That always offended me because I am very much into her. I always have been. It's a bitch when the girl you want thinks you got all the girls after you so she stops giving a fuck and it translates into you actually having nobody. Sucks to be a Libra. It's been months since we last talked yet I still think about her everyday. Talking to other girls just fills that void. I'm sure she's not going to turn things around I realize that's up to me. What can a guy do to make a Gemini woman want him again without chasing her away the second time around?

good luck

"She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her" wtf?

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Posted by Quadeca

I'm usually friends with someone for months before I date them. I talk to many girls but I don't smash and pass. Sex is easy to get but good company isn't. Then I finally met a girl who I fell in love with. But I had to fuck it up. She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her. I just couldn't chill. I didn't make the time when she made herself available to me and asked me to hang out or call her. Truth be told she makes me feel nervous. She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do. Nonetheless I feel like she liked me the same but you know Gemini's are notorious for liking somebody to unexplainably stop liking them. She called me a player because she thought I was fucking a few other girls. That always offended me because I am very much into her. I always have been. It's a bitch when the girl you want thinks you got all the girls after you so she stops giving a fuck and it translates into you actually having nobody. Sucks to be a Libra. It's been months since we last talked yet I still think about her everyday. Talking to other girls just fills that void. I'm sure she's not going to turn things around I realize that's up to me. What can a guy do to make a Gemini woman want him again without chasing her away the second time around?

good luck

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Posted by Sag898

"She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her" wtf?

I shouldn't have given her a hard time as a joke. I know now that's exhausting to deal with.

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I'm usually friends with someone for months before I date them. I talk to many girls but I don't smash and pass. Sex is easy to get but good company isn't. Then I finally met a girl who I fell in love with. But I had to fuck it up. She has a busy schedule which I tried to out busy her. I just couldn't chill. I didn't make the time when she made herself available to me and asked me to hang out or call her. Truth be told she makes me feel nervous. She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do. Nonetheless I feel like she liked me the same but you know Gemini's are notorious for liking somebody to unexplainably stop liking them. She called me a player because she thought I was fucking a few other girls. That always offended me because I am very much into her. I always have been. It's a bitch when the girl you want thinks you got all the girls after you so she stops giving a fuck and it translates into you actually having nobody. Sucks to be a Libra. It's been months since we last talked yet I still think about her everyday. Talking to other girls just fills that void. I'm sure she's not going to turn things around I realize that's up to me. What can a guy do to make a Gemini woman want him again without chasing her away the second time around?

good luck

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truly I don't know how - you are a Libra and love the social life which leads to misinterpretation of what is actually going on (which is nothing most of the time) ... you would have to be given the opportunity to explain yourself to her and be honest and upfront and see where that goes

Posted by LethalFantasia

OH MY GOSH! I swear you were talking about a Gemini before you mentioned it.

a) She is doing it on purpose because she wants you to chase her and prove your fondness. Also, regardless of stereotypes, there are MANY Geminis who are not promiscuous. She was probably extremely turned off by you "fucking a bunch of girls" and thinks you view her as one of those girls. lolz.

b) She is genuinely over you and moved on and realized it could never work

I'm going for a). When I would ask her why she didn't hit me up anymore she'd say she wanted to let me whore around.

Posted by LethalFantasia

"She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do"

Geminis are manipulators, let's be real here. If you're not giving us a clear signal of what you want, we get very insecure and start to manipulate to try and get a sense of how you're feeling/what you want. Your actions making her more insecure and paranoid is kind of what happened, so then she retaliated with mind games.

Then we're the same in that regard. I am a naturally confident person but when I fall hard for somebody there is a lot of questioning and doubt that exists in my mind. How do Gemini's like to be chased?

do you want her attention back or do you want to get to know her?

Posted by DrinkWater

Dodged a bullet.

Explain.

You need to be open and vulnerable. Just be real with her and see how she receives you.

Posted by DMV

do you want her attention back or do you want to get to know her?

Both. The purpose of getting her attention back is tied back to knowing her better.

Gemini is all about communication.

Making being busy a competition really backfired on you. If you want to be with her than make an effort.

Thinking about her every day isn't going to do sheeeit.

Like at all.

Talk to her.

Spend quality time with her.

Rinse and repeat.

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Posted by LethalFantasia

"She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do"

Geminis are manipulators, let's be real here. If you're not giving us a clear signal of what you want, we get very insecure and start to manipulate to try and get a sense of how you're feeling/what you want. Your actions making her more insecure and paranoid is kind of what happened, so then she retaliated with mind games.

Then we're the same in that regard. I am a naturally confident person but when I fall hard for somebody there is a lot of questioning and doubt that exists in my mind. How do Gemini's like to be chased?

Lol just show her you're serious and like her. Just be like "listen, if you don't want to be with me then it's fine but atleast let's go to dinner or get a drink or something because there's a lot that I want you to know!"

And then just be honest and tell her that she got a horribly wrong impression and that you genuinely are into her and would love to go from there. And give her time to think about it.

But I feel like this should be easy lolz. Geminis are good at ignoring or whatever but are secretly romantics, especially second decans (Venus decan). She won't resist after a while and will agree to see you. I don't know the whole situation but I do feel like she likes you for sure lol.

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Did it work if she went off on me and straight up told me to fuck off with all my picky shit LMAO.

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Posted by LethalFantasia

"She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do"

Geminis are manipulators, let's be real here. If you're not giving us a clear signal of what you want, we get very insecure and start to manipulate to try and get a sense of how you're feeling/what you want. Your actions making her more insecure and paranoid is kind of what happened, so then she retaliated with mind games.

Then we're the same in that regard. I am a naturally confident person but when I fall hard for somebody there is a lot of questioning and doubt that exists in my mind. How do Gemini's like to be chased?

Lol just show her you're serious and like her. Just be like "listen, if you don't want to be with me then it's fine but atleast let's go to dinner or get a drink or something because there's a lot that I want you to know!"

And then just be honest and tell her that she got a horribly wrong impression and that you genuinely are into her and would love to go from there. And give her time to think about it.

But I feel like this should be easy lolz. Geminis are good at ignoring or whatever but are secretly romantics, especially second decans (Venus decan). She won't resist after a while and will agree to see you. I don't know the whole situation but I do feel like she likes you for sure lol.

Did it work if she went off on me and straight up told me to fuck off with all my picky shit LMAO.

You know what? NO, it's OK! Now you just hold back, don't contact her again and wait until she misses you and regrets her angry wais ~

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Sheesh I liked her reaction. I want more.

Posted by Quadeca

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Posted by LethalFantasia

"She would give me lots of attention just to disappear come back and repeat the cycle. She probably did that because I weirded her out by some of the things I would say and do"

Geminis are manipulators, let's be real here. If you're not giving us a clear signal of what you want, we get very insecure and start to manipulate to try and get a sense of how you're feeling/what you want. Your actions making her more insecure and paranoid is kind of what happened, so then she retaliated with mind games.

Then we're the same in that regard. I am a naturally confident person but when I fall hard for somebody there is a lot of questioning and doubt that exists in my mind. How do Gemini's like to be chased?

Lol just show her you're serious and like her. Just be like "listen, if you don't want to be with me then it's fine but atleast let's go to dinner or get a drink or something because there's a lot that I want you to know!"

And then just be honest and tell her that she got a horribly wrong impression and that you genuinely are into her and would love to go from there. And give her time to think about it.

But I feel like this should be easy lolz. Geminis are good at ignoring or whatever but are secretly romantics, especially second decans (Venus decan). She won't resist after a while and will agree to see you. I don't know the whole situation but I do feel like she likes you for sure lol.

Did it work if she went off on me and straight up told me to fuck off with all my picky shit LMAO.

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lol you got this lol

Be visible but don’t initiate, let her come to you.

Posted by swampy1

Be visible but don’t initiate, let her come to you.

That wouldn't have worked on her. I took everyone else's advice on the communication thing and it worked. Normally I'm passive with expressing my feelings but I gave vulnerability a try and we cleared things up. Now I'm more confident to maintain her attention. She brings out my committal and caring side.

Posted by nanobot

You didn't exactly elaborate on why she accused you of being a player. But you did say that you talk to a lot of women. Did she catch you doing that when she felt you two had something special? I feel like you're leaving something out.

Yes. I was looking for distraction and fun from other girls while she was busy.

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You didn't exactly elaborate on why she accused you of being a player. But you did say that you talk to a lot of women. Did she catch you doing that when she felt you two had something special? I feel like you're leaving something out.

Yes. I was looking for distraction and fun from other girls while she was busy.

So you didn't make time for her when she was available, but you made time to have "fun from other girls while she was busy"

You sound gross and like you can't be taken seriously.

She liked you and you even said you were in love with her, but you failed at even the most basic of levels.

I get being a fuckboy if you're just dating around and no one catches your attention. But why entertain other women when you're in love with someone else?

There is the answer you seek. And I hope for her sake, that she disposed of you like the fuckboy you are and that you learned a valuable lesson from this. You are filed away as fuckboy and waste of time.

Maybe she has some water placements (for lingering emotions) or fire placements (spontaneity, impulsiveness, quick to forgive and forget) though that you can slide your way back into her life.

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Daaaaammmmmmnnnnn! I felt this!!!! 😆

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You didn't exactly elaborate on why she accused you of being a player. But you did say that you talk to a lot of women. Did she catch you doing that when she felt you two had something special? I feel like you're leaving something out.

Yes. I was looking for distraction and fun from other girls while she was busy.

So you didn't make time for her when she was available, but you made time to have "fun from other girls while she was busy"

You sound gross and like you can't be taken seriously.

She liked you and you even said you were in love with her, but you failed at even the most basic of levels.

I get being a fuckboy if you're just dating around and no one catches your attention. But why entertain other women when you're in love with someone else?

There is the answer you seek. And I hope for her sake, that she disposed of you like the fuckboy you are and that you learned a valuable lesson from this. You are filed away as fuckboy and waste of time.

Maybe she has some water placements (for lingering emotions) or fire placements (spontaneity, impulsiveness, quick to forgive and forget) though that you can slide your way back into her life.

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Sheesh. Thanks for your thoughts.

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Posted by nanobot

You didn't exactly elaborate on why she accused you of being a player. But you did say that you talk to a lot of women. Did she catch you doing that when she felt you two had something special? I feel like you're leaving something out.

Yes. I was looking for distraction and fun from other girls while she was busy.

So you didn't make time for her when she was available, but you made time to have "fun from other girls while she was busy"

You sound gross and like you can't be taken seriously.

She liked you and you even said you were in love with her, but you failed at even the most basic of levels.

I get being a fuckboy if you're just dating around and no one catches your attention. But why entertain other women when you're in love with someone else?

There is the answer you seek. And I hope for her sake, that she disposed of you like the fuckboy you are and that you learned a valuable lesson from this. You are filed away as fuckboy and waste of time.

Maybe she has some water placements (for lingering emotions) or fire placements (spontaneity, impulsiveness, quick to forgive and forget) though that you can slide your way back into her life.

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Sheesh. Thanks for your thoughts.

Usually we are very patient women when we really like/love someone, but the moment we realise we are taken for granted, palyed with, fooled( because we are so goood at detecting it) we would drop you and walk away, and no matter what u do, it wont be the same ever again, yes she would respond and be friendly with you depending on the way u intend to go at it, but to love you and be herself with you again meh...i dont think so

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Posted by nanobot

You didn't exactly elaborate on why she accused you of being a player. But you did say that you talk to a lot of women. Did she catch you doing that when she felt you two had something special? I feel like you're leaving something out.

Yes. I was looking for distraction and fun from other girls while she was busy.

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If you think that she ll forget just because u talked it out think again, and wait for it .....take from a triple gemini woman