I hate my self

Right now I hate myself and my life for not being able to leave a woman who fucking doesnot even love me anymore. Bitch has no respect no fucking boundaries .... These are type of woman who will led men to cheat,,,,,,,,

Life sucks sometimes.

When you start to love your own sanity more than you love her, you'll be able to leave.

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
You don't sound like a victim.



You come off as a guy who's done dirt and angry because your girlfriend played the same games right back.


Either way, you two clearly shouldn't be together.

What do you know about me ?or her ? What makes you think I played the game ? what makes you think I have done the dirt ? Are you telling me you never get angry if you have been wronged .

I am just venting here

Posted by LunarGuidance
The behaviour of other people will not be the catalyst for any potential future action you choose to take,you are your own catalyst. Do not apply her behaviour as an excuse for your own.

I grew up in a home where domestic abuse was prevalent. I grew up to be a harmonious and amicable man. I did not let the behaviour of others effect my personality.

Look at the situation from a more rational and detached frame of mind. At this point in time,if you have not done so already,you can choose to move on and seperate yourself from a woman who you claim has questionable morals in regards to relationships and leave with your head held much higher than your partners.

Deciding to take action when you are angry will display a severe lack of judgement on your part and potentially transform you into a equal participant of behaviour you say you deplore.

There is no judgement on my part,simply advice,we all have karma we need to work through,you can make your karma a positive experience if you so choose to. I hope that will help you in your decision.

You know she was not always like that. Theres a part of me that truely loves her. I just have very little will power right now. But I just keep on getting bruised by her behavior,. I tried to break up her but again could not do so. Yes it was a mistake to mend with her immediately because I didnot want to play games. There are so many other things I should be focusing right now but her actions keep on distracting me. Its crushes me everyday . I keep on getting hurt from her yet I cannot leave . I

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Posted by MrMooney
Right now I hate myself and my life for not being able to leave a woman who fucking doesnot even love me anymore. Bitch has no respect no fucking boundaries .... These are type of woman who will led men to cheat,,,,,,,,

If she doesn't love you anymore, then i'm not sure how your cheating will affect her. You'd be more bothered if you don't get any reaction from her.

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I don't want to cheat . I have no intention of cheating . I m just saying bitches like her who have no fucking boundaries will cause men to cheat .

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Posted by MrMooney
Right now I hate myself and my life for not being able to leave a woman who fucking doesnot even love me anymore. Bitch has no respect no fucking boundaries .... These are type of woman who will led men to cheat,,,,,,,,

Why can't you leave?

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I just cannot at the moment. It is complicated like I am not the most attractive guy and I am more emotionally invested with her. I tried to but I couldnot . I fucking begged to make it work . I fucking hate. I wonder how it came to this. Have you ever been in love where she keeps on flirting , it kills you yet you cannot say something because you fear you will loose her . I should kill myself for being such a loser.

If it's not working then leave. No one is holding a gun to your head and saying to stay. Life is complicated! I've heard all the excuses for why men stay in shitty relationships: they'd have to start over, they;d lose everything, the kids would be devastated, it's his duty to care for her.....blah blah blah!....if you choose to stay then don't complain because you made that choice knowing what you're staying with.

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Posted by MrMooney
Right now I hate myself and my life for not being able to leave a woman who fucking doesnot even love me anymore. Bitch has no respect no fucking boundaries .... These are type of woman who will led men to cheat,,,,,,,,

Why can't you leave?

I just cannot at the moment. It is complicated like I am not the most attractive guy and I am more emotionally invested with her. I tried to but I couldnot . I fucking begged to make it work . I fucking hate. I wonder how it came to this. Have you ever been in love where she keeps on flirting , it kills you yet you cannot say something because you fear you will loose her . I should kill myself for being such a loser.

I sort of have been 🙂 but for me it worked out in the end
Make her miss you and if that doesn't work then there is no other option
Right now, make her miss you and show her that you enjoy life without her

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That's not going work either.

Posted by LunarGuidance
People are progressive by their very nature,we illicit change in ourselves or have a external force push us to change. If the person she has become no longer makes you compatible,you must ask yourself sincerely,"do we belong together?". We fear change,especially those of us who get complacent and invest too much too soon. Fear is a defensive mechanism we use to rationalise ourselves to resist change. Change leads to fear,fear leads to conflict.

I'm not quite sure what the true foundation may be,my intuition tells me that you have more to lose in this scenario. Your fear is loss and by loss,i mean not just loss of love for her and her love for you,but also loss of self love to the point you are willing to consider or ponder the idea of sacrifice of your own moral ethics and repeat the mistake of others.

Do you truely love yourself? Or were you always looking for someone to validate your existence or at least a aspect of you or your personality. You say you are not the most attractive guy,is it just personal appearance that cripples your self love? Are there other areas of the relationship where you gave away your power? Does she have a strong support network of friends and family,that you don't and you resent that sentiment? Does she earn more than you and is she helping to keep you financially secure?

My point is,you need to get to the true root cause of the deterioration of the relationship. Cheating and flirtation from your partner is a componant but not the catalyst in this situation since you have openly said that you are not the most attractive person,so self doubt and insecurity already built the relationship on unstable ground. Looking for validation or love from others seldom works. Love yourself and learn to be comfortable being alone before forming romantic bonds would be my advice.

One of the greatest fears we have is being alone,another is losing our personal power. I have been single for 7 years myself,over the last several years i have learnt that i do not need the love or attention of others to love myself and stand in my truth.

You refer to her a lot and say little about yourself,you have lost yourself in her. Couples enhance eachother not lose themselves in the relationship.

If you truely believe she is disrespectful towards you and the relationship and can find the power in yourself,you should turn and walk away,there really is no shame in letting go,walk with your head held high and find yourself,this will be a life lesson that you will use to grow from and empower yourself. Never rely on others to help in your own personal development,the only person you can truely rely on is yourself.

First of all I thank you for your time and kind words. I just came to this forum because i have no one to share this information. Your words are real

First of all I thank you for your time and kind words. I just came to this forum because i have no one to share this information. Your words are really soothing and has been most helpful. es I have a lot of fear. My last year has not been nice. I have also been single for a long time and when we connected it was magical. I tried to end it I really did but I just could not stopped thinking about her. I begged for her forgiveness. It is long distance so my fear is even more. Yes currently I dont have faith in my abilities, I have no will power and very little control. I have people who depend on me. We still talk but her action keeps on hurting me , I m tired of explaining her . But the thing is I keep on seeing her in facebook. I know this sounds really stupid but i live away from family i connect them through facebook. I cannot stop myself from scrolling her page and endup getting hurt. I cannot delete her because I don;t know she will accept again . Its ok when she talks with me but now she is giving me less and less of talk time and I fear soon she will end with me. I know i have to end it but i just not have been strong.

Posted by littlegigabyte
It appears to me that YOU are the one with no boundaries or self respect.

You seem incredibly unstable, angry, emotional, whiny, weak, and seem to have some serious codependency issues - I suggest counseling in order to re-establish your worth and move on from this girl.

Also, please don't ever try to justify cheating due to someone else's actions. Her actions does not excuse you for cheating, in any situation, period.

Do you even read you cold mofo cunt ?

I never said I am going to cheat .

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Posted by littlegigabyte
It appears to me that YOU are the one with no boundaries or self respect.

You seem incredibly unstable, angry, emotional, whiny, weak, and seem to have some serious codependency issues - I suggest counseling in order to re-establish your worth and move on from this girl.

Also, please don't ever try to justify cheating due to someone else's actions. Her actions does not excuse you for cheating, in any situation, period.

Do you even read you cold mofo cunt ?

I never said I am going to cheat .

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Direct this anger towards your girlfriend, and I guarantee you she will stop flirting.
You're projecting passive/aggressive hostility towards the wrong parties here.

She will say "Alas, this man has finally developed a backbone."

Leave... Sorry she turned out to be a bad person, but let it hurt right now by leaving... Or be hurt for more years because you stayed?

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Posted by littlegigabyte
It appears to me that YOU are the one with no boundaries or self respect.

You seem incredibly unstable, angry, emotional, whiny, weak, and seem to have some serious codependency issues - I suggest counseling in order to re-establish your worth and move on from this girl.

Also, please don't ever try to justify cheating due to someone else's actions. Her actions does not excuse you for cheating, in any situation, period.

Do you even read you cold mofo cunt ?

I never said I am going to cheat .

Nah, you made the most pathetic post I've ever seen on this website to date (and that is quite an accomplishment, let me be the first to tell you, dude) and then lash out when someone calls you out on your pitifulness.

The way you obsess over her, saying you "love" her so much, can't stay off her Facebook page, but repeatedly calling her a "bitch" and saying that "women like these make men cheat" in this sorry excuse for a thread just really struck a cord with me. The only bitch here is you, by the way.

You.... this post.... everything I can see here about your behavior when angry/sad is so incredibly unattractive on every single possible level, it's no wonder for a second that she's distancing herself and flirting with other men.

No woman wants to be with a man who behaves like this.

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I was venting here, it was meant to be pitiful you ignorant piece of shit nobody forced you to vomit. Why do you have to open piehole when I cateogrze such women......... i know coz u must be one them you fuckbucket.

Sure I look unattractive but you don't know my story . She made me this way. You cannot understand someone goind through the same pain. If you were you wouldn't so cold judgin slut,You are too motherfucking young to give any advice bitch too mothefucking young.....


Yes i am angry and sad but you will be there too with your motherfucking lack of emotions, judgement . I wish your boyfriend cheat on you, Only then you will realize your current words and pain of my situation .

Posted by Libra82
I don't think this is love. If you loved her you would respect her enough to not call her names.

I know its not healthy. I just cannot muster enough willpower to do anything. And i would never say any of these to her face.

Wow.

Um, I am not trying to offend you in any way.... so, please, don't take this wrong...

You need to seek out a therapist. You need to work on your anger, your manners, your behavior, and your words that you speak to others.... this behavior is abusive. Not only to others, but also to yourself!!!

I agree that you need to take a break and leave her alone. You need to work on your insecurities. Therapy will help you with that. Cuz, right now, you are on the verge as being seen as an online stalker. And if you continue to behave this way, lashing out in anger, she will be gone. She's already half way, if not most of the way, gone and you will have no one to blame but yourself. Becuz , you choose to be so angry and react to it....

Please, get help before it's too late...

Don't let day pass without reminding yourself you would have been happy in a positive relationship, but just as happy even without that relationship.