Is it cheating— Will he 4give—

I'm a Scorpio Sun, Moon Aquarius, Venus Libra, he's Gemini Sun, Moon Virgo, Venus Leo. I was always fascinated by Gemini's my 1st heartbreak was 1. Met this 1 in Dec we hit it off. He hunted my numbers down coz when we met both our phones were down. He told me from day 1 that he's gonna marry me. I laughed it off as it was a matter of been there, done that, never got the t-shirt. Well we both came bk from the festive season nd when I went to work he was already waiting 4 me. We had a picnic in the night where we opened up nd he was so honest nd that just made me fall. It was the 1st time ever I could open up 2 som1 about my past. We had so much fun dancing in the moonlight nd he tricked me by sleeping over saying his car broke down nd nothing happened. I TOLD HIM NO SEX UNTIL we have a solid foundation. Only thing he did was make me touch his SO BIG thing it made me scared nd he just said good night. Next morning I woke him up told him let's talk about what I held last night to embarrass him. We laughed about it nd we hv been inseparable since then. Don't get me wrong I got a 2 year old with a Taurus Sun, realized down the line I didn't love him. Been single 4 2years coz I'm tryna find myself.

Nd here comes this Gemini who tells me we are in a relationship 4rm day 1. I'm not used 2 being told what to do as I'm always in control. He is so carrying, sweet nd kind but what caught me nd still catches me is the way he respects me. Long story short, I moved away, he lost his job so we became in a LDR. I would call him everyday, sometimes he will pick up, sometimes he wouldn't nd it irritated me. He partied up a storm nd I will be all emotional about it coz when he called I will hear girls in the back ground nd it got to me as the Ldr wasn't helping. I'm a loner, love indoors nd my own space nd he's always out and about. I ended up breaking up with him coz I had a gut feeling he was cheating nd I need words to assure me he loved me. Well he begged 2 sort things out but I wouldn't budge 4 a month but we continued to speak everyday. He was involved in a car accident that took him 2 a dark place. He just lost his job, now car accident so everything was just not ok on top of that I had broken up with him. His mom will call me, nd I will try talk 2 him but he will even ignore my calls. This happend 4 like 2 weeks, so 1. Day baby daddy came. I told him about my Gem and he also became emotional saying he hasn't been with a woman since we broke up nd he still loves m

me. I don't know, the rejection I felt 4rm the Gem nd baby daddy sweet talking me I just ended up sleeping with him, I felt empty that day, didn't even feel the sex I just cried coz I knew I did it 4 the wrong reasons. I just didn't love him nd he was my destruction 4rm the guy I wanted. A week later my Gemini called me, nd told me he loved me he will get his ish together. I told him ok we can try again but he must stop pushing me away. I aint never going anywhere. He opened up telling me his ex left him when he lost his job so he pushed me away thinking I will do the same. I told him I'm loyal 2 the core.

We still haven't had sex I actually want to wait till we are married as he proposed nd I said yes. Things are beautiful now, we like best friends, we talkers, we clown around nd we totally honest with each other. He told me that if I ever cheat on him, the way he loves me his shooting me in the ass I laughed about it but now its killing me that I did what I did in the break period, I don't wanna hurt him, I know I tell him its game over. I also don't wanna lose him but this is eating me up inside. There's nothing I have kept 4rm him thus far except this part of me just want to tell him another part just want to pretend that never happened nd move on. Only thing is the guilt is eating me up.

1) Looking at our charts, do u think he will 4give me?
2) Also how compatible are we 4rm this chart reading?

Thanks 🙂

Well you're a liar, cheater, and manipulator.

Just keep lieing, seems to be working in your favor.

@DMV I'm just going 2 sideline you coz u calling me things according 2 my star sign. I never manipulated, lied or "cheated". No hard feelings 4rm my side thanks 4 the comment

@MoonGem I hear u but in my childish defense, we had broken up. we were not going 2 get back together. But we did, nd I did what I did. Nd now we just had a 3 hour conversation on the phone. I brought it up in 3rd person nd asked him his input. He said and I quote " He won't tell me, what I don't know won't kill me and besides we were on a break, his honest opinion is to let it go". I asked him but what happened 2 starting on a clean slate, he just replied it was in the past, the girl should just let it go plus they were on a break. I told him I'm that girl, he said I know. He won't dwell on it coz he loves me. He won't ask with who coz he will kill the guy, nd he still wants 2 marry me nd still have sex on our wedding night. He says love like ours were we friends its rare nd he's never letting this go I never left In his darkest hour nd loyalty like that can't be bought. But he asked me 4 some space he will get back 2 me later on in the day. WHY iS he SO UNDERSTANDING!!! Is it in our charts? Honestly I feel like I'm dating myself. We are so alike nd he tore down all my walls. He knows things about me not even my shadow knows. This is becoming scary by the day but I love him more now .

@SH I'm worried that he even loves me, why is he so fine with everything, on top of that's he's too understanding. On the upside, he communicates everyday, he opens up about intimate stuff nd its things he never revealed b4 we broke up on the downside, his too understanding nd loving. He gets jealous nd possessive which is cute 4 me, but sometimes like 2day I felt like he was just too good to be true. My other side just want to be thankful that this is not turning in2 drama, then my intuition has a lot of what if he just want to tell me what I want to hear, nd once he has sex with me just bounce. Reason y I. Broke up with him was cause he wouldn't communicate or tell me what's up. Disappear nd reappear like nothing happened. I called him out on his crap nd left him. But in all this time I can see he really has a hard time expressing himself. Even speaking out of anger takes a lot from him. I respect him 4 it but sometimes it frustrates me when he's like this. But ever since we have been together, we have been inseparable. We talk all day everyday unless we busy with work. But its like we addicted to each other. I'm just scared of when 1 of us sobers up.

You sure did lie, cheat and manipulate. Loyal to the core??

You felt some kinda way and used it to justify your actions.

Sleeping with your baby daddy one minute cause its convenient but denying gemini cause you want a stronger foundation.

Get yo life.

As a Gemini woman, I don't count what you did as cheating because you were technically broken up. So don't feel guilty and move on like he said.

And just because some Gemini's are two-faced ScorpiosHarmony doesn't mean that we all are. Most of us are very honest with what we are thinking and feeling. We might be a little inconsistent with our feelings but I would never call myself or any Gemini I know two-faced.

What it sounds to me is that he felt a little smothered and that was why he was fickle with the answering of calls. You have to remember that Gemini's are very independent and love their freedom, and most of us when we feel like we are being chained down or smothered, quickly try to find a way to relieve that feeling. Ie. Ignoring phone calls, going out and trying to get things off our mind. Also we get bored really easily as well which could explain the going out to party. You just have to find a happy medium in your relationship that allows the Gemini to still have their freedom.

Like I dont get the logic, youd rather sleep with some dude youre not even in a relationship with rather than keep building a connection with a dude who you do want to sleep with.

Whats your definition of "stronger foundation?"

DMV what do you not understand about they were not together? Stop being annoying. Either give some actual advice or go back under your bridge, you troll.

If he did that to you, you would be done with him.

I feel like deep down you want to be told what you did was wrong.

Which is why you keep bugging that he is so understanding.

Just be real.

I stand by what i said, if its truly not a big deal, why u here?

If it was indeed a clean break, why u here?

"Solid" not stronger

They have a point. If it was a clean break then why are you questioning, unless you are lying and it actually wasn't.

I mean he obviously loves you, otherwise he wouldn't be so possessive of you which happens when Gemini's fall in love. I'm honestly doubting if you even love him.

She did tell him apparently he was fine with it. That's why she's complaining that he's so understanding.

Thanks guys for the constructive criticism. Honestly I do love him, I just don't know, or didn't know how 2 receive his love coiz of my own in securities. In the beginning it was all fun him going the extra mile etc but since the LDR happened my insecurities kicked in. I loved him the 1st time I laid eyes on him, just that I'm so used 2 being in control of a relationship nd with him showed me from day1 I won't control him. He made me realize that when I just let things be that's when it all becomes beautiful. Everyday with him I learn more about love like I will sit down by myself nd start smiling at the lil things he does 2 make me feel special. I also noticed I've allowed him 2 take the lead. Its like since we got back 2geta life just became beautiful. No1 pushes the next we just in sync. 2 answer ur question I love him. I'm just learning to love him the way he is nd that I don't hv 2 try 4rm my side 4 him 2 accept me the way I am. My previous relationships I used 2 try so hard nd that's how I got 2 be in control coz I will build this perfect picture of a sweet girl who will always be there 4 u. Nd I will use sex to lure them in. I mean I love sex nd lots nd lots of it, that's how I used 2 control my previous bfs but with this 1, for us 2 be together 4 so long with so many issues where I don't hv 2 do anything but just be my "krazy psychotic" self as he calls me it feels like I emancipated. I just let life be. We connect more intellectually then anything we never run out of things 2 say nd for the 1st time EVER in a relationship I don't use emotions just logic. I feel like I breath fresh air 4 the 1st time I just wanted us 2 be clean nd start afresh.

To answer ur question my whole life I grew up defensive nd suspicious. When som1 does things out of kindness instead of saying "thank you" I ask "what did they do/ or what do they want". I feel like the world just attacks me so even with guys I chose them b4 they choose me. So this is my 1st relationship where the guy is in control nd I just let him take the lead. I'm still in fear hence I'm n still questioning if his really genuine. I just hv2 trust nd let go. Let things be. My natural mode is 2 do a background check stalk his exes friends etc 2 c if his serious, but I'm glad that 4 the 1st time ever I decided 2 let everything slide nd let him reveal himself 2 me as I am 2 him. At our own pace. I hope I'm making sense...

Can any1 read our charts? Its really scary trusting your heart with a Gem es

Especially 1 that's 24 and already wants 2 get married. But He is my Gem. I love him

@Busy logically it doesn't make sense 2 have slept with another guy after I broke up with som1 especially som1 I'm willing 2 make wait until we are married. Emotionally this guy is the 1st guy I'm dating since I broke up with my baby daddy 2 years ago. During my 2 year break I decided that I want sex with som1 after marriage even though I never told Gem that, just that me nd him must be solid b4 we take it 2 another level. The last time I had sex was with my baby daddy. I explained that Emotionally I felt rejected I just broke up with Gem, he wasn't answering my calls nd when BD came over telling me that he still loves me nd I'm the last person he's slept or been in a relationship with, at that moment I just gave in. He was the guy I slept with 3 years during our relationship nd now afterwards. I was just emotionally exhausted that day no excuse I just felt empty. Empty 4 sleeping with som1 I didn't love, empty 4 hurting him when I'm drained, empty 4 knowing that the person I wanted was not taking my calls nd I can't be there 4 them. Call me dirty or whatever but I did what felt so wrong at the moment to try make myself better.
Even if it doesn't workout between Gem nd I, I will make the next 1 wait as well. Just that now I must learn not 2 use Taurus as a pawn 4 my own emotions.

Hope I made sense

One of the reason why i am so reluctant to date a man with kids. baby mamas and daddys always hooking up on the low.

Posted by Impulsv

Posted by DMV
One of the reason why i am so reluctant to date a man with kids. baby mamas and daddys always hooking up on the low.

Ugh I hate to admit but it will always be in my mind. First sign of trouble go to sexing with the ex because of the comfort level.

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it is my #1 fear of dating a parent. Plus, as you can see here, they dont even think of it as cheating.

shit like this keeps me awake at night.

Yes Impulsiv we had broken up. 4 like a month. He ignored me after he had an accident. Nd only called me a week after I done the did with BD

@DMV and Impulsiv I fully agree with you. Had I not had a baby I would wait. Till marriage. Funny enough I'ma be a hypocrite here I will never date any1 with a baby.

So in the shortest form without the nitty grittys Gem nd I hooked up, we broke up. I thought it was over, slept with my baby daddy, hooked up again with Gem, after MoonGems advice spoke 2 him, told him he understands but I'm still holding my breath as I'm still waiting 4 him 2 get back 2 me after he asked 4 a bit of space during the day. So what's now left is what ifs, overthinking and hoping 4 the best...

@Lust nccccaaaww girl actually that was past of the romance so u missed out (or not) on the he tricked me part. Gems should get an A+ 4 most romantic sign hands down. They go after what they want in a grrrrrr way

Gemini's are definitely not the most romantic sign. We can have our moments but when it comes to sex personally, I'm like an animal and I know a lot of Gemini's who are the same way.

So are you going to break up with him and sleep with someone else every time he needs space? You do realize that Gemini's can get very emotionally detached at times. Our sign is the Twins for a reason. Our emotions are all over the place and can flip like a switch, almost like we become a different person, ie. the Twin.

If you continue on with your insecurities, you will end up getting clingy and possessive which will honestly be the death of your relationship.

If she tells him, the trust is completely gone. Most people don't like messing with single parents b/c of that fear of them going to their ex all the time. She did the classic stereotype of single parents, she was hurt and lonely, and landed in her exes bed. Whether she has feelings for him or not, if he knows she did this, he will dump her and she knows it.

She wasn't technically cheating but she won't have sex with the Gem but she screwed he ex baby daddy, that is like a slap in the face to the Gem.

@Caro & WaterGem I get it I'm starting 2 sense his withdrawal symptoms already. Last night we spoke and I could kinda feel like he was fighting with his inner thoughts coz he kept on saying he loves me nd I'm his wife. Felt like he was tryna convince himself more than me. I asked if he wants 2 talk about it, he just said did it mean anything, I said no. I told him I thought we had broken up 4 good nd I just found solitude there. I actually felt stupid but at that moment of rejection I wanted 2 be wanted. He said he used 2 do that in his previous encounters so he understands where I'm coming from. We said our prayers over the phone. So 2day he usually calls me in the morning he didn't. But I'm not gonna push coz right now I just wanna give him he's space to think things through. He just sent a text saying he's missing me, told him I miss him 2. That's about it. I'm hoping 4 the best *fingers crossed*

Posted by phoenixrises

..... baby daddy sweet talking me I just ended up sleeping with him

..... haven't had sex I actually want to wait till we are married as he proposed nd I said yes.

wow, what a fucking buttcrack .... my regard for Scorpios is diminishing by leaps and bounds.

You're so fucking superficial. Your words to him about loyalty are a lie. The truth is, if you have an empty day, you will spread your legs to whoever is sweet talking you.

You can't be trusted .... so you don't deserve a trusting person.

You will get what's coming around, and I hope it devastates you.


You're fucking cunt.

I literally laughed reading this!!! He y P Angel, how's u ma'am— R u good— Did u wake up on the right side of the bed this morning— Please enlighten me how am I superficial, untrustworthy, disloyal etc...
Let me bring you on board. 4 the past 5 years, I have slept with 1 guy 3 years in the relationship and recently after 2 years. So my question is Mr Gem we had broken up 4for 5 weeks I thought he wasn't coming back nd at the moment of rejection nd feeling emotional I went back 2 my comfort zone where I admitted it was a huge mistake. But technically speaking I was single living my own life and doing me not expecting Gem 2 come back. So now I'm asking you, how do u remain loyal 2 som1 who doesn't pick up ur calls, disappears on u nd rejects u then after 5 weeks u supposed 2 pretend like u never had a life just sat down twirling your thumbs waiting 4 som1 u not even sure they gonna come bk— Yes, I slept with my BD b4 he Gem even came bk I already decided it was a mistake. I never went bk there. I continued with my life no Gem, no BD just doing me until a week later some sense knocked in 2 Gem that hey he actually loves me. In 5 years 1 guy, I'm happy my body count didn't go up, imagine I remained "loyal" 2 Gem nd we slept together nd he still left. So then would u pat me at the back? Honestly, I'm not questioning him what he got up2 in the 5 weeks we weren't together. I came clean coz we have been transparent with each other 4rm day 1 nd it did eat away on my guilt. But I won't feel guilty 4 him, or any1 else. The only guilt honestly is 4 my BD coz I see he still loves me nd I feel like I used him2 make myself feel better. Other than dat please like I said do enlighten me Oh Holier than thou