My heart hurts

It's over with my Aries and my heart died a little last night. I know we just were not meant to be together and it didn't end badly. We both just decided that we weren't on the same page. You know, I think breaking up is easier when you can hate someone, when they have done you wrong, at least then you feel validated saying mean things and getting it out...but parting on good terms...just hurts...cause it's simply that they don't want you so there is no anger...just pure gut-wrenching sadness, a major blow to my self-esteem, and the realization that I completely suck at relationships now.

It hurts no matter how it ends! But I think it's good to move on so you can meet the guy of your dreams!

*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Posted by starwars
aww you just need a cuddle 🤗

why do you take it as a blow to your self esteem when you're saying the reason is that you're not on the same page? if things didn't work out then, they simply didn't so leave it all behind.. its time for a new chapter.

Thank you ?? could use some cuddles tonight. ?

It's hurts me to feel like I wasn't good enough for him to want me more and just the feeling of rejection... even though it was mutual, it was only mutual because I knew where he was at and that it needed to end..so I initiated the process cause I knew he wouldn't. Logically, I understand that it's just the way he is in relationships, needs his own space and isn't as attached.

Yes, new chapter. This is just gonna sting for a bit.

Posted by pinkbird03
It hurts no matter how it ends! But I think it's good to move on so you can meet the guy of your dreams!

Thank you for the supportive comments ?? yes it hurts no matter what when you care about someone and got used to having them there. I think the only place I can meet the man of my dreams is...in my dreams. So I'm done looking for a while.

Posted by tiziani
The Aries that did a lot for your birthday?

Yes. ?

I was partnered with an Aries for a long time (years, years, years). Toward the end, one of his students with Autism kept repeating to me: "You mess with fire, you might get burned."

That's pretty much how that went.

Posted by LonerLoop
Babe, take your time to heal. I've been there, done that, it is indeed very painful but you will survive this.

You have me and the rest of the Gems here with you. Educate your heart to listen to your head. It is not easy, yes, but you will grow through this pain.

Big hug for you my Gem. I am always around if you need someone to talk to. 🤗

You know I love you bae. I have learned a lot and appreciate your friendship so much you already know. You know us gems bouncing back quick. Cry for a day, that's the only tears this gets.

Posted by LonerLoop
Okay baby, so no more FIRE men? Promise? 😄

Won't make promises I can't keep... Hahaha

Posted by misslissa
*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

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Okay baby, so no more FIRE men? Promise? 😄

Won't make promises I can't keep... Hahaha

😛

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Hahahhaha yeah I'm begging to get burned all the time. Ughh

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Okay baby, so no more FIRE men? Promise? 😄

Won't make promises I can't keep... Hahaha

😛

Hahahhaha yeah I'm begging to get burned all the time. Ughh

Yeah! Geminis will never learn. Butter! 😆

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Eh..Scorpio is water though so not off limits right? 😆 😆

Posted by AQ0206
I was partnered with an Aries for a long time (years, years, years). Toward the end, one of his students with Autism kept repeating to me: "You mess with fire, you might get burned."

That's pretty much how that went.

Yep. I knew what I was getting into and went in anyway. Sigh.

Posted by AriesWater222
Don't take it out on yourself?? Just cause it didn't work with one person doesn't mean you suck at relationships? Sometimes Aries can be very indecisive as well. Take it from an Aries sun/venus that we don't mean to hurt you and that isn't what was intended what so ever, we just can't help the burn outs and that is something we're trying to deal with as well.

Thank you. Yeah he was very indecisive and said himself he doesn't know why he is that way and doesn't know what he wants, knows he has issues with relationships...but only so long a partner can put everything into it when the other person is less interested. Aries definitely burns out quick.

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*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

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You are very much welcome! 🙂

I've been there, so many years ago....

I have to say, a finding-self journey can be so much fun! Not at first, tho. But, once you get the, "I can be anyone I want with the choices I make!" It is smooth sailing... and fun to discover the positive things, fun to discover the things we like and enjoy!

The trick is, after finding yourself... live it for awhile. Then, learn how to be the real you while in a relationship. Don't ever lose grip on who you are. It's not fair to your significant other. You have to let them love the "real you". If you lose yourself again, they are not loving you... but a fake image of what you portray... and that's what isn't fair. Not to them and, especially, not to you.

I wish you much luck and fun in your journey!

If you need to talk, at any time, just send me a msg.

🙂

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Posted by starwars
aww you just need a cuddle 🤗

why do you take it as a blow to your self esteem when you're saying the reason is that you're not on the same page? if things didn't work out then, they simply didn't so leave it all behind.. its time for a new chapter.

It's a blow to a woman self esteem because it makes women, especially aries, feel as though we lost the competition and didn't live up to the mates ideal.

But op, you'll totally get over it.. focus on some new booty.

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Yes, this is the way my Aries moon interprets a breakup. It hurts as both the loss of the future I envisioned having with the person and it's also an ego blow because it makes me feel undesirable.

Many hugs and I hope you heal from this quickly.

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*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

You are very much welcome! 🙂

I've been there, so many years ago....

I have to say, a finding-self journey can be so much fun! Not at first, tho. But, once you get the, "I can be anyone I want with the choices I make!" It is smooth sailing... and fun to discover the positive things, fun to discover the things we like and enjoy!

The trick is, after finding yourself... live it for awhile. Then, learn how to be the real you while in a relationship. Don't ever lose grip on who you are. It's not fair to your significant other. You have to let them love the "real you". If you lose yourself again, they are not loving you... but a fake image of what you portray... and that's what isn't fair. Not to them and, especially, not to you.

I wish you much luck and fun in your journey!

If you need to talk, at any time, just send me a msg.

🙂

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"You have to let them love the "real" you."

Only two Leo women have truly made me "lose myself" for a while and I have to catch myself before slipping up because there would be times where I'm like "gosh what was I thinking" when I snap out of it. Maybe it has something to do with the opposite signs that make each other lose grips with themselves? (Gem-Aries, Aqua-Leo).

Just a thought.

But yes~ there is truth to this, being your real self...

*edit- add one Sagittarius to that list as well. Damn fire signs.

Note, I realize Aries isn't Geminis opposite, but I know they generally tend to have a strong attraction for each other. So nevermind the opposite thing, I guess I mean strong attraction instead. My case just happened to be with my opposite sign...

Oh, you're back! What a warm place the Gemini board is! I'd like to give you one more hug... don't ever think you're not good enough! He might be thinking the same, that he's not good enough for you, but he wouldn't say it... eventually, there's no "not good enough", there's only incompatibility in the long term - no one's fault!

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Posted by Gemoodeye1
It's over with my Aries and my heart died a little last night. I know we just were not meant to be together and it didn't end badly. We both just decided that we weren't on the same page. You know, I think breaking up is easier when you can hate someone, when they have done you wrong, at least then you feel validated saying mean things and getting it out...but parting on good terms...just hurts...cause it's simply that they don't want you so there is no anger...just pure gut-wrenching sadness, a major blow to my self-esteem, and the realization that I completely suck at relationships now.

i usually turn my love to hate to forget someone i love.its like planning to bomb somewhere..its like separating flesh from the nail..i did that once but i hope i dont repeat it this time and i dont regret if i do that.but i i will be die trying everything b4 i pick at this option.my logic will take fully control of these period.if i c my partner let lose indifferently its easier to turn my love to hate.i let emotions take over my logic as my judge and revenge is the motivation.

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I can understand that, been there too. This is the first time a relationship ended for me with no hate, no feeling of betrayal, just disappointment. Luckily, I had some good friends walk me through the logic yesterday and talk me through what I already knew, but hadn't been willing coming to terms with. It's a good learning experience to have a relationship end maturely and know that I can walk away when it's just not the right fit.

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You will be fine.



I hope for u the best

☺️ Thank you. Feeling a little stronger today. Have some great things happening in my life. Going to focus on the positive.

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*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

You are very much welcome! 🙂

I've been there, so many years ago....

I have to say, a finding-self journey can be so much fun! Not at first, tho. But, once you get the, "I can be anyone I want with the choices I make!" It is smooth sailing... and fun to discover the positive things, fun to discover the things we like and enjoy!

The trick is, after finding yourself... live it for awhile. Then, learn how to be the real you while in a relationship. Don't ever lose grip on who you are. It's not fair to your significant other. You have to let them love the "real you". If you lose yourself again, they are not loving you... but a fake image of what you portray... and that's what isn't fair. Not to them and, especially, not to you.

I wish you much luck and fun in your journey!

If you need to talk, at any time, just send me a msg.

🙂

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Aww that's very wise advice. Thank you. Very true, many times I bend myself to fit what I think they need or want, put on a mask and am unwilling to show who I really am...get so wrapped up in the happiness of being with them that I lose myself to try to make them happy. I'm not sure how to be alone, have never really been..time to figure that out and start doing things that make me happy when there is no one else to see or please but me. It's kinda scary actually, but exciting to think about too. I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't have their own passions and didn't know who they were either so this experience is starting to be eye opening.

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*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

You are very much welcome! 🙂

I've been there, so many years ago....

I have to say, a finding-self journey can be so much fun! Not at first, tho. But, once you get the, "I can be anyone I want with the choices I make!" It is smooth sailing... and fun to discover the positive things, fun to discover the things we like and enjoy!

The trick is, after finding yourself... live it for awhile. Then, learn how to be the real you while in a relationship. Don't ever lose grip on who you are. It's not fair to your significant other. You have to let them love the "real you". If you lose yourself again, they are not loving you... but a fake image of what you portray... and that's what isn't fair. Not to them and, especially, not to you.

I wish you much luck and fun in your journey!

If you need to talk, at any time, just send me a msg.

🙂

"You have to let them love the "real" you."

Only two Leo women have truly made me "lose myself" for a while and I have to catch myself before slipping up because there would be times where I'm like "gosh what was I thinking" when I snap out of it. Maybe it has something to do with the opposite signs that make each other lose grips with themselves? (Gem-Aries, Aqua-Leo).

Just a thought.

But yes~ there is truth to this, being your real self...

*edit- add one Sagittarius to that list as well. Damn fire signs.

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Lol, damn fire signs, seriously. Them and scorps just stir something inside of me and get me hooked like a fish. I'm starting to have that snap out of it moment today. Realizing what I was doing was not making me truly happy.

Posted by Fragrance
Oh, you're back! What a warm place the Gemini board is! I'd like to give you one more hug... don't ever think you're not good enough! He might be thinking the same, that he's not good enough for you, but he wouldn't say it... eventually, there's no "not good enough", there's only incompatibility in the long term - no one's fault!

Heyyy! Yeah I'm back, for now. Hehe. Come and go.

*hugs you back* You're right. I think him and I both had many insecurities in ourselves, neither of us happy in our selves so we complained too much to each other lol. It's hard when you feel so compatible at the beginning and then start to realize it's not right. Coming to terms with that can be hard when you truly care about the person.

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Posted by Fragrance
Oh, you're back! What a warm place the Gemini board is! I'd like to give you one more hug... don't ever think you're not good enough! He might be thinking the same, that he's not good enough for you, but he wouldn't say it... eventually, there's no "not good enough", there's only incompatibility in the long term - no one's fault!

Heyyy! Yeah I'm back, for now. Hehe. Come and go.

*hugs you back* You're right. I think him and I both had many insecurities in ourselves, neither of us happy in our selves so we complained too much to each other lol. It's hard when you feel so compatible at the beginning and then start to realize it's not right. Coming to terms with that can be hard when you truly care about the person.

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I understand... I'd have felt like crap... but there's this saying "don't believe everything you think", since our expectations and emotions do a great job at fooling us

You never know who you meet next and when... could be someone who is much more easy-going and who wouldn't make you feel insecure! By then, take advantage of your freedom and rediscover the fun and pleasant part of falling in love with yourself over and over again... 🙂

Sometimes people are just not meant to be together. My last long relationship ended the same wasy and now that i've moved on i realise i wasn't really in love. We parted ways on good terms and we had a very passionate start but we lost it along the way because we were different in a few areas that matter. It's tough but if you were meant to be together it wouldn't have come to this.

You can't suck in being a relationship, you just need one that works for you.

Big hug and watch some motivational youtube videos, they are fun and are sooo true 🙂

The fastest way to get over an old flame is finding a new one with amazing sex skills.

Posted by honeyK
The fastest way to get over an old flame is finding a new one with amazing sex skills.

Tried that. Just don't go back to a Scorpio ex for it. Ultimate mind fuck. Nah. Be alone is so much better. Even Gemini can have enough and want to be alone eventually. People don't understand us or realize how deep some shit goes.

Posted by Gemsgem
Sometimes people are just not meant to be together. My last long relationship ended the same wasy and now that i've moved on i realise i wasn't really in love. We parted ways on good terms and we had a very passionate start but we lost it along the way because we were different in a few areas that matter. It's tough but if you were meant to be together it wouldn't have come to this.

You can't suck in being a relationship, you just need one that works for you.

Big hug and watch some motivational youtube videos, they are fun and are sooo true 🙂

Yeah, sometimes just not meant to be. It hurts like hell to lose someone you thought understood you and cared, but could let go so easily. Gemini may seem fickle, but we long for love and understanding the same as anyone else. Nah, I'm over being in a relationship or dating. Had my fair share of heartbreak. Maybe Gemini are better alone? That's how I'm feeling these days..work work work and my kids. Men can go fuck themselves.

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Posted by honeyK
The fastest way to get over an old flame is finding a new one with amazing sex skills.

Tried that. Just don't go back to a Scorpio ex for it. Ultimate mind fuck. Nah. Be alone is so much better. Even Gemini can have enough and want to be alone eventually. People don't understand us or realize how deep some shit goes.

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I AGREE! I'm a Gemini, but it worked for me because I had feelings for my Arian friends with benefits, but then realize he didn't feel the same, he just only wanted sex so I thought of all the negative stuff he did and pushed him to back of my mind and let a Capricorn in, and forgot ALL ABOUT HIM, and I actually was once in love with the Capricorn... so it worked for me. But the Capricorn fucked me over too. We lived together and he paid all the bills but he was only interested in me for sex as well, so he wasted my time. Sometimes a FWB is coo but sometimes when I want something serious I don't even have sex, but still end up getting used for sex. So WHY NOT BE SINGLE? I actually love it too, being alone. My curiosity about love and relationship has dried up and I'm no longer interested. If I just want sex it's gone be on my terms when I feel like doing it —? but single is SOOOOO much better, I'm better when I'm single. Imma Gemini.

Posted by Gemoodeye1
Yeah, sometimes just not meant to be. It hurts like hell to lose someone you thought understood you and cared, but could let go so easily. Gemini may seem fickle, but we long for love and understanding the same as anyone else. Nah, I'm over being in a relationship or dating. Had my fair share of heartbreak. Maybe Gemini are better alone? That's how I'm feeling these days..work work work and my kids. Men can go fuck themselves.

Unfortunately that's how i feel right now. I'm 26, my guy friends tell me i'm good looking, kind and fun yet chill, but i don't seem to get along with people on dates much.

At times i feel like i'm better alone and forget what it's like to date someone so i don't miss it. I don't know how some girls just seem to be in one long term relationship after another, i can't even manage one that's long term enough 😢

I want love, but i think i'm also scared of disappointment which is sending the wrong vibes to the universe. If you close yourself off or hold back you're not really opening yourself up fully. Might try some work on self realization.

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Yeah, sometimes just not meant to be. It hurts like hell to lose someone you thought understood you and cared, but could let go so easily. Gemini may seem fickle, but we long for love and understanding the same as anyone else. Nah, I'm over being in a relationship or dating. Had my fair share of heartbreak. Maybe Gemini are better alone? That's how I'm feeling these days..work work work and my kids. Men can go fuck themselves.

Unfortunately that's how i feel right now. I'm 26, my guy friends tell me i'm good looking, kind and fun yet chill, but i don't seem to get along with people on dates much.

At times i feel like i'm better alone and forget what it's like to date someone so i don't miss it. I don't know how some girls just seem to be in one long term relationship after another, i can't even manage one that's long term enough 😢

I want love, but i think i'm also scared of disappointment which is sending the wrong vibes to the universe. If you close yourself off or hold back you're not really opening yourself up fully. Might try some work on self realization.

As a Gemini, I'm always the one who gets betrayed in a relationship. I am able to commit myself to a long term rs but most often, when I really opens up, I realize they played me. It's tiring and this causes me to feel numb.

I have to say, I do agree, we Geminis are better off alone. It's just not worth the pain. 😢

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Funny enough all astrological sites tell us we're so hard to pin down hahaha but all we want is someone to love!

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*Hugs you*

You have a choice on whether you want it to effect your self-esteem or not.

I know you're hurting, and it's hard to hear right now, but it'll get better. I promise.

🙂

Thanks Misslisa ☺️ I have some work to do in the self esteem department. Need to figure out who I am without being half of a partnership as an identity.

You are very much welcome! 🙂

I've been there, so many years ago....

I have to say, a finding-self journey can be so much fun! Not at first, tho. But, once you get the, "I can be anyone I want with the choices I make!" It is smooth sailing... and fun to discover the positive things, fun to discover the things we like and enjoy!

The trick is, after finding yourself... live it for awhile. Then, learn how to be the real you while in a relationship. Don't ever lose grip on who you are. It's not fair to your significant other. You have to let them love the "real you". If you lose yourself again, they are not loving you... but a fake image of what you portray... and that's what isn't fair. Not to them and, especially, not to you.

I wish you much luck and fun in your journey!

If you need to talk, at any time, just send me a msg.

🙂

"You have to let them love the "real" you."

Only two Leo women have truly made me "lose myself" for a while and I have to catch myself before slipping up because there would be times where I'm like "gosh what was I thinking" when I snap out of it. Maybe it has something to do with the opposite signs that make each other lose grips with themselves? (Gem-Aries, Aqua-Leo).

Just a thought.

But yes~ there is truth to this, being your real self...

*edit- add one Sagittarius to that list as well. Damn fire signs.

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Libra-Aries

Aqua-Leo

Gem-Sag