What's the best thing I can do for this Gemini

Hi all,

so two years ago I've met a Gemini, we were both recently single. I'm a Libra.

When I first met him, I like him but It wasn't loved at first sight.. I was also living my life to the fullest as it was probably the best time for me when I was single.

He was more persistent and eager to tied me down and he did. We ended up going out and everything was perfect. I loved him big time.

The relationship official ended after 4 months as we fought over nothing like small things.I realized he wasn't outgoing as he claimed to be at first and he just became boring so when I confronted him about it, he said he lied and tried to impress me and it worked but it wasn't really him.

He enjoys not going out as much and he saves and he doesn't like traveling, blah blah

So since then, we've been trying to get back to what we had and we would fight over and over. He would be up for commuting and then he changed his mind.

This lasted for over 2 years till now. Little does he know I've actually been dating people and slept with other people and he thinks I'm the one who needs to move on.

I'm not planning to tell him either because I don't want to lose him and I don't think he had moved on either. Makes me question why hasn't he done it? or maybe I just don't know.

My impression of him is that he loves saying he wishes we could move on and both be happy but yet he always just talk to me and still sleeps with me.

I have such a bond with him like no one else, I trust him so much with anything but this is just too toxic and I wish I could say it to him how I truly have been behaving but technically I didn't do anything wrong.

I'm not in a relationship and I haven't been...

please be honest with your feedback. Give out to me if needed but I'm genuinely stuck with him.

I love him so much but I'm not in love with him, I genuinely feel like I'm becoming insensitive and not believing in romantic gesture because of him.

Posted by ufo
move on to the next

Believe me I've tried and I think I have moved on from like trying to make it work with him but I can't cut him off for some reasons.

Are you a Gem? what do you think he's doing 🙂

You very much know what you need to do. Do the hard work of ripping the band-aid off, and in a few months youll thank yourself. Time to do the hard work now--which is learning to live without each other. Maybe in 6 months to a year you can work on a friendship.

Said so yourself... it’s toxic. He’s not for you and you are kinda leading him on.

Posted by heliumfiasco
You very much know what you need to do. Do the hard work of ripping the band-aid off, and in a few months youll thank yourself. Time to do the hard work now--which is learning to live without each other. Maybe in 6 months to a year you can work on a friendship.

Yeah.

You're right, I know what to do.. It's super hard that's all

Posted by LibraJackson

Posted by heliumfiasco
You very much know what you need to do. Do the hard work of ripping the band-aid off, and in a few months youll thank yourself. Time to do the hard work now--which is learning to live without each other. Maybe in 6 months to a year you can work on a friendship.

Yeah.

You're right, I know what to do.. It's super hard that's all

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The sooner you do it, the sooner you can heal.

I haven’t understand a thing about the ‘problem’

You love him but you not in love with him.

You entertain other people but you can’t let him go? WTF? Is he the best of all in bed? Why are you getting back with him?

What is it? Some kind of a mindfucking?

Posted by Gemitati
I haven’t understand a thing about the ‘problem’

You love him but you not in love with him.

You entertain other people but you can’t let him go? WTF? Is he the best of all in bed? Why are you getting back with him?

What is it? Some kind of a mindfucking?

To be perfectly honest with you. He's the best in bed that's why It's hard to let go so you are right there hahaha

But over all It is a toxic relationship, It helps to see other people see it too.



I appreciate all feedback though, that's why I created the post.

Posted by LibraJackson

Posted by Gemitati
I haven’t understand a thing about the ‘problem’

You love him but you not in love with him.

You entertain other people but you can’t let him go? WTF? Is he the best of all in bed? Why are you getting back with him?

What is it? Some kind of a mindfucking?

To be perfectly honest with you. He's the best in bed that's why It's hard to let go so you are right there hahaha

But over all It is a toxic relationship, It helps to see other people see it too.



I appreciate all feedback though, that's why I created the post.

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I am so smart...I can cry...ahhhhh

Dick power!!!

I'm just going to throw this out there... You said "It helps other see it" ... Um, I hate to tell you but no one sees it, they are literally taking YOUR words and telling you to basically do what you already feel you should do.

WE do not know your situation, but WE can read that you aren't happy with him as he is. So, that's why you're being told to leave him.

Posted by WateryGem
I'm just going to throw this out there... You said "It helps other see it" ... Um, I hate to tell you but no one sees it, they are literally taking YOUR words and telling you to basically do what you already feel you should do.

WE do not know your situation, but WE can read that you aren't happy with him as he is. So, that's why you're being told to leave him.

I mean you take everything I said literally that you're right. You wouldn't see it.

It was an expression and it's my own sense of comfort to hear others can SEE it too .. but it's not literally, sure they might take it from what I said...so what ? that's why I created a post.

I enjoy seeing other people's opinion.. but at times I do see odd ones like yours, literally... I know you can see the situatin.. I don't think I'm that dumb ha

Until you cut him off fully your not going to be able to truly move on and have something good with someone else.

At the very least you owe him the truth. I know, your not together together. But your playing with his sexual health by fucking other people behind his back.