InLoveWithLife
@InLoveWithLife
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Back to back dating and I'm mentally tired!!!
Don't settle! Wait for the perfect guy.
Posted by InLoveWithLifeYou've been out on one date, right? - maybe talked a few weeks, whaddya expect him to already profess his undying love for you?
Taurean - Very hardworking and ambitious, that's impressive, but too serious and not open enough with feelings.
Yeap it's a cold world for all the 'single and happy & loving life' -ladies out there. For every date you're on will leave you more confused and jaded until you can't tell quality from quantity. Calling some past fwb to keep you company on those nights you need it the most cuz at least he's a familiar face, doesn't matter for now he doesn't feel anything for you, the pretend-intimacy will have to do tonight...
#lovingmylife
#lovingmylife
Maybe you're just mental.
Posted by -Roman-This is my exact mentality. Except I've called it Team Realist.
Seriously dating in this new climate is confusing as fuck.
Everyone is looking for the other person to have their shit together even if they themselves lack any of the qualifications to adult full time.
My advice for dating is to expect nothing from anyone and be very surprised when they actually turn out to be decent. Everything takes time and no one is who they appear to be.....dating someone casually for a while is the best option to take, not rushing forward and expecting fireworks. It doesn't happen like that anymore.
Team jaded ?
Posted by ChrisIsKodak"Humble"? sorry, I don't understand that! 😉
Humble brag.
Posted by pinkbird03Yeah, don't wanna settle. 🙂
Don't settle! Wait for the perfect guy.
Posted by enfant_terribleHaha, not exactly. But he doesn't wanna talk anything about his feelings or what his preferences are or anything about his emotions or affection. It was all work, work, work and how he's achieved a lot, blah blah...Posted by InLoveWithLifeYou've been out on one date, right? - maybe talked a few weeks, whaddya expect him to already profess his undying love for you?
Taurean - Very hardworking and ambitious, that's impressive, but too serious and not open enough with feelings.
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I'm quite open and speak my mind - can't find that kind of frankness in most of the men I see.
Posted by Ellyganti don't mind meeting new people, but all these guys say that they're seriously looking for a long term relationship, but you know... Phew!
Soak it up.
For me dating comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I'm peeling options off me left and right and I have so much attention coming my way. Those times are nice for the ego, oh boy.
Other times I'm sitting in my bed watching cheesy early aughts rom coms wondering if it's a good idea to finish the bottle of wine even though I know it really isn't but I just ate a block of cheese already so fuck it.
Lately I've evolved to the work so much you don't have time to date stage which I gotta admit has been my favorite so far lol. But I'm a water sign and get overwhelmed easily by trying to deal with new people all the time.
That's why I'm on bed now, watching an old romcom. This is much better than making plans, postponing it or changing the location, meeting and seeing what common features we have, and all that headache!
Posted by Gob_ShiteHaha, I don't suppose all can understand. Wonder if some irons are ever hot. JK. 😉Posted by MiZLeo
Why don't you spread out your dates more? Don't blame them cause of your bad time management.
Ever heard of striking while the iron's hot?
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Thanks for the awesome bit of advice; I truly don't get "blaming" BTW.
Posted by EllygantLOL!Posted by MiZLeoThat's how I felt at first too.Posted by EllygantI'm in the wine and cheese phase right now.....thinking I lost my mojo.
Soak it up.
For me dating comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I'm peeling options off me left and right and I have so much attention coming my way. Those times are nice for the ego, oh boy.
Other times I'm sitting in my bed watching cheesy early aughts rom coms wondering if it's a good idea to finish the bottle of wine even though I know it really isn't but I just ate a block of cheese already so fuck it.
Lately I've evolved to the work so much you don't have time to date stage which I gotta admit has been my favorite so far lol. But I'm a water sign and get overwhelmed easily by trying to deal with new people all the time.
Then I got so used to it, anytime I got asked out I'd go skippering away trying to avoid dating lol.
Then one day my pants didn't fit too well anymore and I thought maybe it was time for a new phase. 😆click to expand
Posted by InLoveWithLifeIf you're as open as you say you are then most sensible men would run the other way. I meanPosted by enfant_terribleHaha, not exactly. But he doesn't wanna talk anything about his feelings or what his preferences are or anything about his emotions or affection. It was all work, work, work and how he's achieved a lot, blah blah...Posted by InLoveWithLifeYou've been out on one date, right? - maybe talked a few weeks, whaddya expect him to already profess his undying love for you?
Taurean - Very hardworking and ambitious, that's impressive, but too serious and not open enough with feelings.
I'm quite open and speak my mind - can't find that kind of frankness in most of the men I see.
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4 dates/week is a chore !! And this comes from a guy.. It just reeks of validation issues to put it mildly.
Posted by LovingSeraphinaI'm yet to figure that out. First of all, I need to see which one of these guys is serious and consistent. Trying to have fun, yes, but I kinda miss my long sleep. 🙂
Go with the one you love who accepts you as you are 🙂 Have fun 🙂
Posted by MiZLeoIn case of all unplanned dates, we were only talking over phone and chatting. I didn't know what made them wanna ask me if I'm free and if I'd like to see them or if it'd be okay if they'd come to see me. Because they were polite and nice, I didn't wanna say no. Yes, hanging out and getting to know different people is fun, but they come from different places and one even from a foreign land, so postponing was a bit difficult.Posted by Gob_ShiteLol, yes. But she could still spread it out a little...like every other day. If the guys are worth it they will wait. Besides, isn't it better to no come off so eager. Sounds like these guys are asking her out the day of. That's just rude.Posted by MiZLeo
Why don't you spread out your dates more? Don't blame them cause of your bad time management.
Ever heard of striking while the iron's hot?
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Posted by InLoveWithLifeGlad to see you've moved on from the capPosted by pinkbird03Yeah, don't wanna settle. 🙂
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Posted by MiZLeo^This.
Why don't you spread out your dates more? Don't blame them cause of your bad time management.
Spread your dates out. You're not going to get the full affect of a person if you're stacking them up like that. Imagine if you tried shoveling 4 different entrees into your face back to back. You wouldn't be able to savor or even distinguish each one. 1-2 dates a week is the sweet spot. 4 dates means you'll probably be too exhausted to even pay attention to the finer details.
Damn girl, that's a lot of dates for one week ! Lol u aren't going to take a break after that?
Posted by SofiaV87Lol, I am taking a break, attending only to my work and relaxing for a few days now. But I can see similar things happening in the coming week, too!
Damn girl, that's a lot of dates for one week ! Lol u aren't going to take a break after that?
I wish I could be invisible for the weekend. 😉
Posted by pinkbird03That I have, yes, dear. If a cheat can be so guiltlessly happy, why can't genuine people be happier? Hope you're doing good? 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifeGlad to see you've moved on from the capPosted by pinkbird03Yeah, don't wanna settle. 🙂
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Posted by ChuckcemThat's my point, too. I mean, I believe in something similar - hang out with one at a time if you're looking for a long-lasting relationship, get to know them, see how things go and then decide. This is indeed mentally exhausting even if each one of them is individually fun!
Spread your dates out. You're not going to get the full affect of a person if you're stacking them up like that. Imagine if you tried shoveling 4 different entrees into your face back to back. You wouldn't be able to savor or even distinguish each one. 1-2 dates a week is the sweet spot. 4 dates means you'll probably be too exhausted to even pay attention to the finer details.
But these guys come from different places and I don't want to tell any of them "I'm seeing someone else now; we'll meet later."
Come on, they're all new faces. I've nothing special about any of them. From my experience I know, very few people have the power to deal with honesty and not take things personally!
How do I tell them to postpone their plans without hurting their ego?!
Posted by InLoveWithLifeMight be a but too late for that. You're just going to have to tell each/some of them you're not interested, or continue to play along and spread out the dates to figure this all out. Basically you ordered the entrees, now you have to figure out when you want them or if you want to cancel. (It's a messed up analogy, but it works for the situation)Posted by ChuckcemThat's my point, too. I mean, I believe in something similar - hang out with one at a time if you're looking for a long-lasting relationship, get to know them, see how things go and then decide. This is indeed mentally exhausting even if each one of them is individually fun!
Spread your dates out. You're not going to get the full affect of a person if you're stacking them up like that. Imagine if you tried shoveling 4 different entrees into your face back to back. You wouldn't be able to savor or even distinguish each one. 1-2 dates a week is the sweet spot. 4 dates means you'll probably be too exhausted to even pay attention to the finer details.
But these guys come from different places and I don't want to tell any of them "I'm seeing someone else now; we'll meet later."
Come on, they're all new faces. I've nothing special about any of them. From my experience I know, very few people have the power to deal with honesty and not take things personally!
How do I tell them to postpone their plans without hurting their ego?!click to expand
Posted by InLoveWithLifeThat's great ?Posted by pinkbird03That I have, yes, dear. If a cheat can be so guiltlessly happy, why can't genuine people be happier? Hope you're doing good? 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifeGlad to see you've moved on from the capPosted by pinkbird03Yeah, don't wanna settle. 🙂
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I'm still friends with the cap, but nothing more and I'm fine with that. I've dated a few other guys. I'm currently dating another cap actually, but the experience has been a lot more pleasant!
Omg I've been feeling this exact same way as of late! I was in a six month relationship that ended in February. Once my relationship ended (with a Gemini, due to me becoming unattracted to him) I felt like a bird being released from a cage or rather a zoo-kept lion being released into the wild jungle!
It felt liberating to be free and not tied down to one person. I've been on soooooo many dates between now and then that I am just tired. It feels like 10 different guys are randomly texting or calling me all singing the same song; "you treat me so wrong" or "damn, have you forgot about me?" or "I seen you on Snapchat, it looks like you were on a date with someone else" blah blah blah.
All of these men are too emotional and it's just fvcking exhausting ?. I'm such a sweet person with a genuinely loving and caring nature but now I feel emotionally drained. I feel the need to turn the power off on my phone for the next month or so and just mentally recharge.
Btw since March, I've "casually dated" a Pisces, 2 Aquarius, a Virgo, another Gemini, a Scorpio, 2 Leos, 2 Libras, and a Sagittarius. Don't judge me, it was all in good fun! ??
FYI didn't sleep with them all; I talked, hung out, and simply reconnected with a few who were from my past.
It felt liberating to be free and not tied down to one person. I've been on soooooo many dates between now and then that I am just tired. It feels like 10 different guys are randomly texting or calling me all singing the same song; "you treat me so wrong" or "damn, have you forgot about me?" or "I seen you on Snapchat, it looks like you were on a date with someone else" blah blah blah.
All of these men are too emotional and it's just fvcking exhausting ?. I'm such a sweet person with a genuinely loving and caring nature but now I feel emotionally drained. I feel the need to turn the power off on my phone for the next month or so and just mentally recharge.
Btw since March, I've "casually dated" a Pisces, 2 Aquarius, a Virgo, another Gemini, a Scorpio, 2 Leos, 2 Libras, and a Sagittarius. Don't judge me, it was all in good fun! ??
FYI didn't sleep with them all; I talked, hung out, and simply reconnected with a few who were from my past.
GIRL chill you're gonna regret it. Quality over quantity. Don't settle and wait for someone better, maybe life is testing you to see how serious you are about dating and your partner.
They say dating is supposed to be fun but I never really had fun.
It seems as if you didn't find what you needed in them nor you enjoyed dating this much this often.
Maybe that's a sign that you must take a break
Maybe that's a sign that you must take a break
Posted by InLoveWithLifeBut how do you know that after only one date?? A few hours isn't enough time to know what someones about.
Each one of these guys has something good and interesting, but nobody's a complete package!
If theres chemistry and you have things in common give em a second date.
Posted by pinkbird03Hey, that's nice! When I read "another Cap", I'd to swallow. LOL, I know not all belonging to one zodiac sign are the same or anything because I've seen both a gentleman Cap and a loser, cheat Cap myself.Posted by InLoveWithLifeThat's great ?Posted by pinkbird03That I have, yes, dear. If a cheat can be so guiltlessly happy, why can't genuine people be happier? Hope you're doing good? 🙂Posted by InLoveWithLifeGlad to see you've moved on from the capPosted by pinkbird03Yeah, don't wanna settle. 🙂
Don't settle! Wait for the perfect guy.
I'm still friends with the cap, but nothing more and I'm fine with that. I've dated a few other guys. I'm currently dating another cap actually, but the experience has been a lot more pleasant!
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But still, after my experience, I've learned to take things very slowly, give time some time and only after a few months, only after a few conflicts will I tell myself "this guy is trustworthy" because no nasty guy is gonna show his nasty face early on.
No, I'm not discouraging you or anything, dear. Enjoy, but be cautious, too. Have fun! 🙂
Posted by SweetQueenLeoLOL, I can't stop laughing, because I got off with a Gem, too, only recently!
Omg I've been feeling this exact same way as of late! I was in a six month relationship that ended in February. Once my relationship ended (with a Gemini, due to me becoming unattracted to him) I felt like a bird being released from a cage or rather a zoo-kept lion being released into the wild jungle!
It felt liberating to be free and not tied down to one person. I've been on soooooo many dates between now and then that I am just tired. It feels like 10 different guys are randomly texting or calling me all singing the same song; "you treat me so wrong" or "damn, have you forgot about me?" or "I seen you on Snapchat, it looks like you were on a date with someone else" blah blah blah.
All of these men are too emotional and it's just fvcking exhausting ?. I'm such a sweet person with a genuinely loving and caring nature but now I feel emotionally drained. I feel the need to turn the power off on my phone for the next month or so and just mentally recharge.
Btw since March, I've "casually dated" a Pisces, 2 Aquarius, a Virgo, another Gemini, a Scorpio, 2 Leos, 2 Libras, and a Sagittarius. Don't judge me, it was all in good fun! ??
FYI didn't sleep with them all; I talked, hung out, and simply reconnected with a few who were from my past.
It wasn't a relationship or anything, but still he made me feel somewhat caged, that too, unfairly. Despite being attracted to me, he wouldn't admit it that he wanted me by his side. He'd tell me about other women which I'd take lightly, but when I mentioned some other guy, this Gem fellow used to get instantly jealous!
It was passive hot and cold. Neither would he want to get into serious relationship with me nor would he want to let me go my way! It was funny to some extent. I thought it was cute for some time, but then repeating this play got on my nerves, and he and his repeat drama became ultra boring for me!
I told him "no longer will I allow you to play games with me" in his own diplomatic, passive language and I'm FREE! Relieved, yep!
If Gems are freebirds, we Leos are freer birds. I'd say this loudly even in their season of the year. LOL! After all isn't it Leo season 365 days of the year?
Enjoy the freedom and give yourself some time, too. I've decided to put self care first for now. I'm enjoying time alone and doing things I love staying at home!
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Why can't they come like one in a week or something? Lol!