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Competition
How Leos Respond to Competition and Flirting
Leos generally enjoy a bit of healthy competition and may feel flattered by attention from others. However, they value loyalty and can become possessive if they perceive a threat to their relationship. Their reaction to flirting depends on their confidence and relationship security, often balancing pride with a desire for reassurance.
Seek and destroy.
Id laugh my ass off if she'd sock the shit out of him. If she doesn't, then I will.
What do you mean, like be happy people want the person I'm with?
Posted by Soul
What do you mean, like be happy people want the person I'm with?
Some people take it as a compliment and don't show jealousy. Others are obviously possessive and jealous.
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Posted by Soul
What do you mean, like be happy people want the person I'm with?Some people take it as a compliment and don't show jealousy. Others are obviously possessive and jealous.
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I have Scorpio moon, Cancer rising, and Cancer Venus so trust and possession issues are known.
But maybe I could change my mindset to take it as a compliment rather then something negative.
It depends. If I'm just getting to know a person and I'm aware there may be another guy in the picture, I don't let it ruffle my feathers. I give women the space to choose me. However this also means that I'll put in very little effort aside from flirting (which generally works in my favor). I learned in the 5th grade that if a girl needs me to compete with another guy, she has no clue what she wants and it's waste of my time.
Until I get serious with a woman, I'm cool if she she's dating other guys because I'm probably talking to other women. However if she expects me to become exclusive with her, I need to see that she's honest and loyal. So the likelihood that she'll be able to lock me down while seeing other guys is slim.
Instead it's better if there's a natural progression on both of our parts to focus on each other to the point that exclusivity becomes practically inevitable. If she is the type that needs to keep guys around up until the point of becoming exclusive, it just tells me she isn't confident in her feelings or mine.
Once I'm exclusive with a woman, I simply expect to receive the same respect that I give her. As long as there is trust between us, light flirting doesn't bother me so much. I also don't register light flirting as flirting since I'm an accidental flirt myself. Anything beyond that though and I'll probably be rubbed the wrong way. I'm not one to make a scene either (at least not immediately). I usually wait and give the woman enough rope to hang herself with first. If I get to the point that feel disrespected, I'll say something, but I probably won't be in a great mood. If it goes too far though, all bets are off.
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.
If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
what's meant for me will always be mine
Posted by sultrykitty
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
Yeah I was definitely more jealous when I was MUCH younger. I think it's one of those weird traits a Leo can grow out of though. For me if I need to be jealous, then I don't need to be with that person. In fact I use jealousy as a potential litmus test for myself. If I ever have to feel jealous, something is wrong and I should go.
Is this a joke question? I think most Leos would really NOT appreciate this kind of interaction...
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Posted by Soul
What do you mean, like be happy people want the person I'm with?Some people take it as a compliment and don't show jealousy. Others are obviously possessive and jealous.
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It's not about being jealous or possessive, it's about respecting your partner enough to not engage yourself with a person who is trying to lure you out.
Posted by Soul
Seek and destroy.
LOL I said "DESTROY." before I even clicked on the thread!
Competition in games is fine and other things. BUT....if it's someone just trying to be mean-spirited in your love life? Then hell no.
Ofc it all depends on the context- like trusting the partner, being playful, yada yada.
I think I'll get into a relationship with my teddy bear.
Posted by SpiceNSugar
Is this a joke question? I think most Leos would really NOT appreciate this kind of interaction...
I have had it both ways. If I'm jealous than I tend to not trust the person as much, whether that's me being distrusting or them giving me reasons.
I have dated guys that it didn't bother me at all because it never (to my knowledge ) was more than a little flirting and they were open with it. Maybe I just didn't like them as much lol
Posted by sultrykitty
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
Yeah I was definitely more jealous when I was MUCH younger. I think it's one of those weird traits a Leo can grow out of though. For me if I need to be jealous, then I don't need to be with that person. In fact I use jealousy as a potential litmus test for myself. If I ever have to feel jealous, something is wrong and I should go.
What would the reasoning be in your mind? This is something I need to learn, and would like to know how.
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My rationale is if I'm jealous one of two things is happening:
1. The woman is trying to make me jealous, which means she isn't good for me and I need to end things.
OR
2. I'm insecure and can't be with this woman because I'm too emotionally weak and need to end things.
Regardless I see jealousy as a crack in the relationship on either her end or my own.
I don't like that shit, if I saw that I would approach the situation cautiously, stand by my man and stare at the bitch until she felt uncomfortable.
Lol.
The Aries ex husband is constantly telling her he loves her. She just ignores his texts.
People have openly flirted with her in front of me, she just leans over and gives me a kiss.
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Posted by Soul
What do you mean, like be happy people want the person I'm with?Some people take it as a compliment and don't show jealousy. Others are obviously possessive and jealous.
I have Scorpio moon, Cancer rising, and Cancer Venus so trust and possession issues are known.
But maybe I could change my mindset to take it as a compliment rather then something negative.
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I'm sure your placements work well for you 😉
Posted by Ssuperman
Lol.The Aries ex husband is constantly telling her he loves her. She just ignores his texts.
People have openly flirted with her in front of me, she just leans over and gives me a kiss.
I tend to shut people down quickly. Either that and they flirt and I always find a way to make the comment relate to my guy. Example: someone says I have pretty eyes. I say "thanks, my boyfriend loves them too"
Posted by Leoqueen21
I don't like that shit, if I saw that I would approach the situation cautiously, stand by my man and stare at the bitch until she felt uncomfortable.
I can just imagine a death stare lol
Posted by sultrykitty
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
Yeah I was definitely more jealous when I was MUCH younger. I think it's one of those weird traits a Leo can grow out of though. For me if I need to be jealous, then I don't need to be with that person. In fact I use jealousy as a potential litmus test for myself. If I ever have to feel jealous, something is wrong and I should go.
What would the reasoning be in your mind? This is something I need to learn, and would like to know how.
My rationale is if I'm jealous one of two things is happening:
1. The woman is trying to make me jealous, which means she isn't good for me and I need to end things.
OR
2. I'm insecure and can't be with this woman because I'm too emotionally weak and need to end things.
Regardless I see jealousy as a crack in the relationship on either her end or my own.
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You don't think you would be able to work through the insecurity?
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Leos, how do you feel about a little competition? If you like/dating/married someone, how do you feel about someone else hitting on them or a littleo innocent flirting between them and someone else? If you were to see/know some thing like that happened, what would you do?Someone innocently flirts with him would make me raise my eyebrows, but I'll let him have his attention. Outright flirting, then she best start flirting with me too. If he starts to flirt back I'll turn cold and will see me distant from him.
In a relationship he wouldn't have to worry about competing for my affection...he knows he's number one. But if he gives off the idea that I have to compete with someone then I'm gone.
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I agree with you. I'm all about one person, even just dating. I have been told not to put all of my eggs in one basket. I kind of hate the dating process...especially with the focus of dating more than one person. Good for the people that do, I see the rationale behind it. Just not my style .
Posted by christinelovessnickers
Posted by sultrykitty
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
Yeah I was definitely more jealous when I was MUCH younger. I think it's one of those weird traits a Leo can grow out of though. For me if I need to be jealous, then I don't need to be with that person. In fact I use jealousy as a potential litmus test for myself. If I ever have to feel jealous, something is wrong and I should go.
What would the reasoning be in your mind? This is something I need to learn, and would like to know how.
My rationale is if I'm jealous one of two things is happening:
1. The woman is trying to make me jealous, which means she isn't good for me and I need to end things.
OR
2. I'm insecure and can't be with this woman because I'm too emotionally weak and need to end things.
Regardless I see jealousy as a crack in the relationship on either her end or my own.
You don't think you would be able to work through the insecurity?
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It depends. I'm mature enough that a single moment of jealousy won't send me into a tailspin because there is a good chance I'll rationalize my way through it. So if I become he jealous, I'm going to first try and understand why I feel that way. If it's because of my own insecurities, then I'm going to try and contain the feeling. If the feeling continues to emerge, I may even start to back off (yes, I know this isn't the best thing, but I don't like to show weakness). I may bring it up briefly to my partner if/when she noticed a change in my demeanor.
HOWEVER, if I realized that my partner was intentionally trying to make me jealous, I would be more adamant about ending things. I like women who are trustworthy and emotionally secure. I can not be with someone who would resort to playing games instead of communicating like an adult. If she stoops to the point of giving attention to another man to get a rise out of me, I'll just cut her off (there's a chance I may give her a warning if I REALLY like her). Even if she's solely trying to get my attention by making me jealous and not actually entertaining the advances of another man, I'm not going to reward her with my time. Instead I would leave her to her own devices.
I know a Leo who likes to compare his penis to other men's so he can feel bigger (but his is already huge so idk why he's insecure).
Posted by Whorpio
I know a Leo who likes to compare his penis to other men's so he can feel bigger (but his is already huge so idk why he's insecure).What the hell lol Idk why men get so caught up with the size. It's all about how they use their hips. An expansive understanding of legato, staccato, and basic/complex hip rolls can go farther than the most juicy, large peen.
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He claimed to be great at sex, buuuut we didn't really get that far as it was too big to fit in me 😐
Though in a way, if he was good at sex wouldn't he have been good at breaking me in ?
Posted by Whorpio
I know a Leo who likes to compare his penis to other men's so he can feel bigger (but his is already huge so idk why he's insecure).What the hell lol Idk why men get so caught up with the size. It's all about how they use their hips. An expansive understanding of legato, staccato, and basic/complex hip rolls can go farther than the most juicy, large peen.
He claimed to be great at sex, buuuut we didn't really get that far as it was too big to fit in me 😐
Though in a way, if he was good at sex wouldn't he have been good at breaking me in ?
Hmmmm....sex isn't just about what you can do with your genital...
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To me it is, as well as the chemistry you create.
Posted by Whorpio
I know a Leo who likes to compare his penis to other men's so he can feel bigger (but his is already huge so idk why he's insecure).What the hell lol Idk why men get so caught up with the size. It's all about how they use their hips. An expansive understanding of legato, staccato, and basic/complex hip rolls can go farther than the most juicy, large peen.
He claimed to be great at sex, buuuut we didn't really get that far as it was too big to fit in me 😐
Though in a way, if he was good at sex wouldn't he have been good at breaking me in ?
Being broken in is half psychological, not just about what a man can do with his cock. You remember that and be careful who you give the power to break you in.
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I read your other post about making sex all sensual and shit, so I was gonna post this meme:
Let's not say things that imply intimate sex, ok?
Leo's don't like competition in matters of the heart .... We are all in when it comes to the heart so there is no competition...anyone that thinks there will be one.... Can forget it... A Leo will walk slap away from that.... With no problem.... Also the bew will check the competition at the door.... ♌ sun and rising here ... Competition .... Are for sports or excuricular activities .... In matters of the heart in which Leo's are ruled by.. We don't need to compete with anyone when it comes to the heart ... At all... .
Posted by TaylorMitchell1993
Sounds like a valid reason for an Assault or Battery charge...If you are our gf. You have agreed to me MINE... and we dont share what we love.
And believe me, we stay woke to potential snakes in the grass...
Your face looks like it belongs in a classical
painting o.O
Greek or Roman, possibly.
Posted by sultrykitty
I used to be rabidly jealous. Rabidly. Now it doesn't bother me at all. If a girl is flirting with my guy, he has absolutely no freakin clue that she is. If she gets more aggressive, I know he'd put a stop to it.If he doesn't then he's free to go with her, and I'll hold the door open for him. Then change the locks. No man is worth fighting over.
It could be that since we've been together for so long that I'm very comfortable and confident about his level of commitment. I can't say for sure that if the relationship was still relatively new I wouldn't be more possessive.
No man is worth friggin over...until you've met one who is!
Then you screwed! ?
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Leos, how do you feel about a little competition? If you like/dating/married someone, how do you feel about someone else hitting on them or a littleo innocent flirting between them and someone else? If you were to see/know some thing like that happened, what would you do?