Is it me or is it hard for Leo Women to find love?

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I think we expect fairytales and a love like the movies but reality is stupid. We love big and expect a big love back but no one can love us like we can love them.
False! My best friends Leo/Leo are happy and I haven’t seen Leos having bad luck in love! Check your other placements and maybe look in a mirror! Just what you see? Do you LOVE IT?

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I think we expect fairytales and a love like the movies but reality is stupid. We love big and expect a big love back but no one can love us like we can love them.
False! My best friends Leo/Leo are happy and I haven’t seen Leos having bad luck in love! Check your other placements and maybe look in a mirror! Just what you see? Do you LOVE IT?



I have virgo venus and some shitty libra saturn thing. But i love hard and will move the whole world and put my life on the line for someone i love. I would litterally rip my heart out and give it to someone if they prove worthy. But i think it's very hard to find someone worth giving my all to.

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I really identify with bring afraid of intimacy because it requires being vulunerable. It does require you to lose control and I realized that a while ago. I guess I never thought about the way it is projected in my interactions. Being a fire sun sign helps me to have that passion he spoke of...there's a lot of that but emotionally I realize I have some work to do. Thanks for this video. It confirms what I've been going over in my mind.
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Venus in Virgo

Mars in Cancer

Moon in Capricorn

Rising sign on Aquarius

I am like a lot of you all that love hard and don't mind showing it to my mate...whats odd is that I seem to attract emotionally unavailable men. Trying to understand why that happens so I can stop it.

He's boring but watch this....


I can't stand this dude. He makes me want to puke.
Lol me too but what he says except about us being boring is true.
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did yu all go on youtube and read waht the commentors are saying?



"Diana Perry

U kno Simon I have a dear friend with Leo sun and Venus n Virgo and although they are fun and Inspirational to myself and others via they're sun sign they can be a "debbie downer" at times only because they say can see thru everybody and situation. They're motto is "you can't fool me" and I really think their powers of discernment are on point and helpful but not everyone is part of a conspiracy or has an ulterior motive"
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then read the rest of the comemnts lol

meaning you all are thinking each little flaw every guy you come across have, and they all are bad guys,

but really it's more you can't trust anyone. but is it really? you just have lack of confidence in yourself it sounds.

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It is hard to trust your own judgement after going through tough relationships. It's true that being able to discern so clearly is a good and bad thing as well and it makes sense that it would cause me to hold back. I guess that it takes knowing what you can live with and without when it comes to partnerships realizing that no one is perfect sigh...its hard to realize that you are the reason you don't have what you want.
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Yes high thick walls. When I try to get rid of them, something happens which validates their existence. I am very loyal and I will hold on even when I shouldn't. I'm exhausted from those type of situations. I'm trying to get to a place where I am with a man that values and loves me. I know I'm a good woman and I know what I have to offer the right man. I don't want to be too jaded when he comes and inadvertently push him away. That would be tragic!
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Venus in Virgo

Mars in Cancer

Moon in Capricorn

Rising sign on Aquarius

I am like a lot of you all that love hard and don't mind showing it to my mate...whats odd is that I seem to attract emotionally unavailable men. Trying to understand why that happens so I can stop it.

He's boring but watch this....


I can't stand this dude. He makes me want to puke.
Lol me too but what he says except about us being boring is true.
did yu all go on youtube and read waht the commentors are saying?



"Diana Perry

U kno Simon I have a dear friend with Leo sun and Venus n Virgo and although they are fun and Inspirational to myself and others via they're sun sign they can be a "debbie downer" at times only because they say can see thru everybody and situation. They're motto is "you can't fool me" and I really think their powers of discernment are on point and helpful but not everyone is part of a conspiracy or has an ulterior motive"
"





then read the rest of the comemnts lol

meaning you all are thinking each little flaw every guy you come across have, and they all are bad guys,

but really it's more you can't trust anyone. but is it really? you just have lack of confidence in yourself it sounds.



I agree with that. But not about thinking people are bad guys. I stay friends with most of them and see good in them. I've never been with an asshole. I don't trust people with my feelings so i put up walls. I figure the right person will come and break them though. And definitely have a lack of confidence. I'm very insecure, sensitive and easily hurt but appear very strong and resilient and no one notices that i have feelings. But they're in there.

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it's hard to explain so what i write doesn't come out how i want it to explain to you,

but i meant, bad guy as in you think the other "Potential mate" is a bad guy by pointing out all the flaws.

not your friends or family cause they not mates/lovers.

can't stay long we're going out again.
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I want to be free to be that way with someone. I'm affectionate and loving but only if I'm sure that is what my partner wants and deserves. I have found myself in relationships where I'm not getting that love back. I leave and the men always come back regretful. It's frustrating to always be someone's life lesson. I've heard so many times...oh I should have done this or I'm sorry I did that. Meanwhile they are stuck in these unhappy unfulfilling relationships or marriages that they can't seem to leave. It makes me wonder at what point am I supposed to stop serving as a man's "the one that got away"
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I am trying to get over my involvement with a cancer man. He is not over his past, maybe even wants his ex back and that's why he doesn't want a relationship. I'm afraid that if I stick around in limbo with him, when he is ready for more, he will find someone else because he will think I was cool with casual. I'm not. I hear a lot of people say Leo Women are whores but not this one. I've always wanted to be in a relationship with just one man and share life, grow and build together. At the same time, we give each other space for our own interests and friends as well. My cancer man does this getting close and pushing away thing too. I feel like he is trying to test me by playing games and I don't like it. My heart isn't a piece I'm willing to bargain with.
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He doesn't talk about her at all. They have a kid together so no matter what they always will have to be in each other's lives. I did ask him if he wanted to be with her and he said if that's what he wanted that s where he would be...not really believing that. I'm willing to bet she is why they aren't together. I know he loves her and admitted to wanting to marry her at one time. You don't get over that easily. I had a man I wanted to marry way back. Loved him with everything in me. 10 years pass we reconnect only to discover we won't ever be able to be together. That's when I finally moved on. Things don't work out for a reason. My friend has one more try left in him for his ex I believe. He and I have had sex and it's 💥💥💥🔥🔥🔥...but I don't want to be FWB only. That's why I've decided to stop being physical with him, date around and see what's best for me. I'm making myself do this though so I'm not giving myself to someone that takes me forgranted
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No matter what jacked up relationships I've had, I still want love and a committed relationship. Why does it seem so hard for that to happen? Has any other Leos had this problem? Then when you look at women like JLo and Hallie Berry who are Leos, it just makes me wonder what's up. Any Leos that overcame this and how?
Maybe it’s because you see yourself as a Love Goddess? And are you really?

Inflated ego? I think that could be IT!
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It’s interesting that Leo’s are thinking like this right now about love.

There’s a lunar eclipse in leo in like a week. That has to do with how Leo’s love themselves. How we need to love ourselves before we can love other people. We are going to go through our relationships and connections and what we need and want.

Then two weeks after that there’s a solar eclipse? I think it’s solar but that one will be about how we love OTHER people since it’s in aqua.

Our love life is up for the test.
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Yes too much generosity isn't good. That's a mistake I don't want to keep making. It opens the door for being taken advantage of. Cap moon placement seems to impact work ethic. We work hard for what we want in life but when it comes to love that quality seems flawed. Working for someone's love seems to be the wrong approach. They should be inspired to give it. For a very long time I refused to ponder all these things and I've learned the hard way that delaying emotional maturity cost the most expensive thing we have which is time. I've learned that the only thing I can work on is myself.
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@Gemitati My name on here isn't a reflection of the way in which I see myself based on my ego. It's more about what I would like to become more than anything. Every Leo isn't too full of themselves to be considerate, loving, and kind. Life has a way of humbling everyone if a person decides to pay attention to the lessons and evolve.
I ain’t buying it! Drop that Goddess shit and get your head out of the clouds.

You are a woman in need of a man!

Not a Goddess who are looking for God!

You will see how it’ll change your love life.

Just become real! 👍
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It’s interesting that Leo’s are thinking like this right now about love.

There’s a lunar eclipse in leo in like a week. That has to do with how Leo’s love themselves. How we need to love ourselves before we can love other people. We are going to go through our relationships and connections and what we need and want.

Then two weeks after that there’s a solar eclipse? I think it’s solar but that one will be about how we love OTHER people since it’s in aqua.

Our love life is up for the test.
woot! it;s a heavy week this week and a full plate this week.

&also my birthday this week. i heard the full moon leo is coming up too. how lovely.

hope everyone has a good week and the rest of the month

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http://www.astrologyhub.com/leo-full-moon-lunar-eclipse-work-it/

Eclipse: Not much to see.. Yet

Don’t bother trying to watch this week’s lunar eclipse, there won’t be much to see. It’s a penumbral eclipse, which means the Moon only passes through the outer edge of the Earth’s shadow.

Nevertheless, this eclipse marks the beginning of something new. Astrologer Kathy Biehl explains:

“This month’s Leo Full Moon launches two-year cycle of eclipses on the Leo/Aquarius axis, which has us revisiting and resetting the challenge of shining as individuals while coexisting within a group. A defining question is: Who is your tribe? Here’s another: Where is your stage?

“Watch for related themes, situations and even people to come back (perhaps only in your thoughts) from the summers of 1998 through 2000, the last time we underwent this eclipse cycle.”





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Leos depend to much on others to love them.

That makes you easy to exploit for many while it makes you a little bit annoying at times.

Your ego is also too easy to hurt or bruise.

Besides that you can be pretty cool.
This is very true, im so annoying when i start to like someone. Im just sprung lol

Sometimes we need to chill and take time for ourselves, how can we love others properly if we dont love ourselves first. Or we just need to stop looking and stop trying so hard to make something happened.

But when im chilling minding my own business thats when people are drawn to me so i guess i just just chill more :p
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@Gemitati My name on here isn't a reflection of the way in which I see myself based on my ego. It's more about what I would like to become more than anything. Every Leo isn't too full of themselves to be considerate, loving, and kind. Life has a way of humbling everyone if a person decides to pay attention to the lessons and evolve.
I ain’t buying it! Drop that Goddess shit and get your head out of the clouds.

You are a woman in need of a man!

Not a Goddess who are looking for God!

You will see how it’ll change your love life.

Just become real! 👍
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love that!
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i feel like virgos in venus always overestimate the situation at hand, if they are falling for someone they focus on the negatives that MAY happen due to their previous experience in relationships. so far in life i haven't had the best experiences in love, however i'm with someone who claims they love me sometimes but there's always this itch in the back of my neck that's always trying to ruin my love life, it's easier said than done to just 'ignore it and be happy' and to just 'trust in my partner', but how can i do that when my previous experience of men has been pretty bad? in order for me to ditch my intuitive views on such situations i'd have to let go completely, and that would run the risk of me getting hurt even more. i think i speak for most leos when i say that i don't take being hurt too well therefore take extreme caution before investing into things.

my mars is in scorpio, venus in virgo, rising in leo and moon in virgo for reference
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@LuckyLioness you hit the nail on the head. The man that I'm feeling does this push pull thing and I've read that cancer men are notorious for this. Being a Leo Sun woman with a Venus Virgo creates this dynamic where I'm used to going after I want when it comes to every aspect in my life except in love due to fear of what you mentioned above. So when he pulls me close, it's great but when he pushes away, I find myself analyzing everything. I care about him and I always will but I have to have consistency.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
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I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?

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Aries moon, virgo venus.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
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Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?


Aries moon, virgo venus.


Virgo venus.. Isn't verbal in love.

It's all about actions... Which isn't bad......

She's still... leo sun.. It's not all lost 😁

Paired with Aries moon... though... Hot and cold.

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right, trust me i've shown enough action and have been put through so much already that the fact that im even still around is a lot. but yeah, she is the defintion of hot and cold. ironically, shes so proud of being a leo and talks so much about how much love they give, how great they are etc, but is the most un leo person i know.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
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what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
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Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
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Well that's the thing, not much has happened since. She made all this hype about us being together but it's been pretty much the same. It started off awesomely, and I thought she was finally happy, but has proceeded to continue the same trend and be even whinier than ever before... *sigh

I'm starting to think this isn't worth pursuing anymore.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
BTW the times lately that I have bought it up to her, her exact words are "you always bring these things up, every time i see you (no i don't), just let things happen naturally. im done talking about it." keep in mind shes said this to me two years ago and just this past month lol.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?


Aries moon, virgo venus.


Virgo venus.. Isn't verbal in love.

It's all about actions... Which isn't bad......

She's still... leo sun.. It's not all lost 😁

Paired with Aries moon... though... Hot and cold.


right, trust me i've shown enough action and have been put through so much already that the fact that im even still around is a lot. but yeah, she is the defintion of hot and cold. ironically, shes so proud of being a leo and talks so much about how much love they give, how great they are etc, but is the most un leo person i know.


🙁 ugh.



Oh... I meant..Virgo venus... Are all about showing you they love you through actions.... Not so much words.

Have you told her how you feel?

Perhaps she's not aware ?

You know... Sometimes people need to be told..the obvious?

Perhaps you're both due a heart-to-heart type of discussion...?

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we 've talked about it. just gonna copy and paste this here:

BTW the times lately that I have bought it up to her, her exact words are "you always bring these things up, every time i see you (no i don't), just let things happen naturally. im done talking about it." keep in mind shes said this to me two years ago and just this past month lol. i only talk to her about it maybe every other month if things havent gotten better. if i ask for some personal space to sort things out, she gets whiny and complains about how no one gives a crap about her or that she's just a pain in the a $ $ for anyone that has any sort of relationship with.

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It sounds like she is unhappy with herself. She is holding on to that negativity and probably doesn't even realize the depth of what she has going on emotionally. Unfortunately it seems like she hasn't dealt with her issues and it's projected into her relationships with everyone in her life. She has to face what's making her unhappy and do something about it for things to really change. She has the desire to be that loving Leo that she knows she is capable of but right now she is blocked imo.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?


Aries moon, virgo venus.


Virgo venus.. Isn't verbal in love.

It's all about actions... Which isn't bad......

She's still... leo sun.. It's not all lost 😁

Paired with Aries moon... though... Hot and cold.


right, trust me i've shown enough action and have been put through so much already that the fact that im even still around is a lot. but yeah, she is the defintion of hot and cold. ironically, shes so proud of being a leo and talks so much about how much love they give, how great they are etc, but is the most un leo person i know.


🙁 ugh.



Oh... I meant..Virgo venus... Are all about showing you they love you through actions.... Not so much words.

Have you told her how you feel?

Perhaps she's not aware ?

You know... Sometimes people need to be told..the obvious?

Perhaps you're both due a heart-to-heart type of discussion...?


we 've talked about it. just gonna copy and paste this here:

BTW the times lately that I have bought it up to her, her exact words are "you always bring these things up, every time i see you (no i don't), just let things happen naturally. im done talking about it." keep in mind shes said this to me two years ago and just this past month lol. i only talk to her about it maybe every other month if things havent gotten better. if i ask for some personal space to sort things out, she gets whiny and complains about how no one gives a crap about her or that she's just a pain in the a $ $ for anyone that has any sort of relationship with.


'' I'm done talking about it ''

wow..that's very dismissive of her.

You have to do what's best for you,

if you've tried talking to her and she shuts you down, what else can you do?

You mentionned she was like this in the past?

What made you believe she would change?
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she's made some pretty horrid decisions with whom shes dated in the past. her aqua ex was emotionally abusive, and cheated on her countless times. so she told me years ago she was sorta withholding from being emotionally invested in anyone until she sorts herself out. when she met me, she told me how she was happier again, and getting to that emotional place she wanted to get to finally. so i guess i thought that aspect would change. :\
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No matter what jacked up relationships I've had, I still want love and a committed relationship. Why does it seem so hard for that to happen? Has any other Leos had this problem? Then when you look at women like JLo and Hallie Berry who are Leos, it just makes me wonder what's up. Any Leos that overcame this and how?
My Leo mother has never had this problem. She has that uncanny ability to turn a fuck buddy situation into a relationship.
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No matter what jacked up relationships I've had, I still want love and a committed relationship. Why does it seem so hard for that to happen? Has any other Leos had this problem? Then when you look at women like JLo and Hallie Berry who are Leos, it just makes me wonder what's up. Any Leos that overcame this and how?
My Leo mother has never had this problem. She has that uncanny ability to turn a fuck buddy situation into a relationship.
That's because she's a queen, lady.
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I’m sure all the scorp placements help.
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No matter what jacked up relationships I've had, I still want love and a committed relationship. Why does it seem so hard for that to happen? Has any other Leos had this problem? Then when you look at women like JLo and Hallie Berry who are Leos, it just makes me wonder what's up. Any Leos that overcame this and how?
My Leo mother has never had this problem. She has that uncanny ability to turn a fuck buddy situation into a relationship.
That's because she's a queen, lady.
I’m sure all the scorp placements help.
What are her placements?
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I can only remember Scorpio ascendant, same as my sister. Just texted her for her birth info. Gonna look it up 😅
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?


Aries moon, virgo venus.


Virgo venus.. Isn't verbal in love.

It's all about actions... Which isn't bad......

She's still... leo sun.. It's not all lost 😁

Paired with Aries moon... though... Hot and cold.


right, trust me i've shown enough action and have been put through so much already that the fact that im even still around is a lot. but yeah, she is the defintion of hot and cold. ironically, shes so proud of being a leo and talks so much about how much love they give, how great they are etc, but is the most un leo person i know.


🙁 ugh.



Oh... I meant..Virgo venus... Are all about showing you they love you through actions.... Not so much words.

Have you told her how you feel?

Perhaps she's not aware ?

You know... Sometimes people need to be told..the obvious?

Perhaps you're both due a heart-to-heart type of discussion...?


we 've talked about it. just gonna copy and paste this here:

BTW the times lately that I have bought it up to her, her exact words are "you always bring these things up, every time i see you (no i don't), just let things happen naturally. im done talking about it." keep in mind shes said this to me two years ago and just this past month lol. i only talk to her about it maybe every other month if things havent gotten better. if i ask for some personal space to sort things out, she gets whiny and complains about how no one gives a crap about her or that she's just a pain in the a $ $ for anyone that has any sort of relationship with.


'' I'm done talking about it ''

wow..that's very dismissive of her.

You have to do what's best for you,

if you've tried talking to her and she shuts you down, what else can you do?

You mentionned she was like this in the past?

What made you believe she would change?

she's made some pretty horrid decisions with whom shes dated in the past. her aqua ex was emotionally abusive, and cheated on her countless times. so she told me years ago she was sorta withholding from being emotionally invested in anyone until she sorts herself out. when she met me, she told me how she was happier again, and getting to that emotional place she wanted to get to finally. so i guess i thought that aspect would change. :\


Getting over an abusive relationship, takes time..unfortunately I think she might not have taken enough time working on herself and dealing with the past trauma.

It's not her fault what happened in her past but it's not yours either.

You mentioned how she's proud of being leo / being loving ... it could be a blanket to her insecurity.

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I don't hold any of this against her obviously. I too was in an emotional abusive relationship and have been cheated on. If anything, that's sorta what drew us together in the beginning and has kept us together, the ability to relate to one another.

People move at different paces at the end of the day, I guess I've just gotten to my limit on waiting around or I guess, not seeing much change or adjustments on her end. There's an obvious maturity gap between us. I get that crap happens to people, but there comes a point where you can't keep victimizing yourself about every little thing.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
Well that's the thing, not much has happened since. She made all this hype about us being together but it's been pretty much the same. It started off awesomely, and I thought she was finally happy, but has proceeded to continue the same trend and be even whinier than ever before... *sigh

I'm starting to think this isn't worth pursuing anymore.

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I can’t speak for all Leo’s but i don’t like it when someone is constantly nagging me especially my bf. Why can’t things just be? That’s probably how she feels.

Just from the sound of the statements you’re making it doesn’t even seem like you like her. I haven’t heard you say anything positive about her like ever. Why are you with her again?
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
Well that's the thing, not much has happened since. She made all this hype about us being together but it's been pretty much the same. It started off awesomely, and I thought she was finally happy, but has proceeded to continue the same trend and be even whinier than ever before... *sigh

I'm starting to think this isn't worth pursuing anymore.


I can’t speak for all Leo’s but i don’t like it when someone is constantly nagging me especially my bf. Why can’t things just be? That’s probably how she feels.

Just from the sound of the statements you’re making it doesn’t even seem like you like her. I haven’t heard you say anything positive about her like ever. Why are you with her again?

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Constantly nagging would be to bring it up every day, which I don't do. I only bring it up when I reach a certain point of uncertainty, and that's when I try to have a heart to heart convo. But it gets shut down. Why can't things be you ask? Because nothing has really changed for the better, and if it's going to be like this, I'm not a fan of it and would rather be apart.

I definitely like her, but it is definitely starting to fade due to her overall attitude being the same. I have stated positive things, such as how if she's in a good mood, she's great to be around. It's just that the majority of the time, she's in this bad head space and just nags a majority of the time. As a BF (and even a GF), don't you WANT to be a positive influence on the person you're with? Don't you WANT to help that person through hard times and make sure that they achieve their goals? Don't you want to be their rock? I don't understand why you're being critical of me when all I've been to her is supportive. Don't my feelings matter?

As a lover, if you're with someone and it seems like they're still mopey and depressed a majority of the time, you start lose hope in it, no? You start to feel like you can't do much for them and it's depressing as hell. I just want to see her happier generally. That's all I'm asking for.
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Still waiting for my leo to open up to me in the way that all you leo's claim you can reach. So far the leo's i've dated have been very cold and off putting. We'll see I suppose.
Have you opened up to her?
I have on many occasions through the years, especially lately and after we officially started dating. She's treated me the same even pre relationship, and not much has changed besides being slightly more physical here and there.
What's her moon and venus?


Aries moon, virgo venus.


Virgo venus.. Isn't verbal in love.

It's all about actions... Which isn't bad......

She's still... leo sun.. It's not all lost 😁

Paired with Aries moon... though... Hot and cold.


right, trust me i've shown enough action and have been put through so much already that the fact that im even still around is a lot. but yeah, she is the defintion of hot and cold. ironically, shes so proud of being a leo and talks so much about how much love they give, how great they are etc, but is the most un leo person i know.


🙁 ugh.



Oh... I meant..Virgo venus... Are all about showing you they love you through actions.... Not so much words.

Have you told her how you feel?

Perhaps she's not aware ?

You know... Sometimes people need to be told..the obvious?

Perhaps you're both due a heart-to-heart type of discussion...?


we 've talked about it. just gonna copy and paste this here:

BTW the times lately that I have bought it up to her, her exact words are "you always bring these things up, every time i see you (no i don't), just let things happen naturally. im done talking about it." keep in mind shes said this to me two years ago and just this past month lol. i only talk to her about it maybe every other month if things havent gotten better. if i ask for some personal space to sort things out, she gets whiny and complains about how no one gives a crap about her or that she's just a pain in the a $ $ for anyone that has any sort of relationship with.


'' I'm done talking about it ''

wow..that's very dismissive of her.

You have to do what's best for you,

if you've tried talking to her and she shuts you down, what else can you do?

You mentionned she was like this in the past?

What made you believe she would change?

she's made some pretty horrid decisions with whom shes dated in the past. her aqua ex was emotionally abusive, and cheated on her countless times. so she told me years ago she was sorta withholding from being emotionally invested in anyone until she sorts herself out. when she met me, she told me how she was happier again, and getting to that emotional place she wanted to get to finally. so i guess i thought that aspect would change. :\


Getting over an abusive relationship, takes time..unfortunately I think she might not have taken enough time working on herself and dealing with the past trauma.

It's not her fault what happened in her past but it's not yours either.

You mentioned how she's proud of being leo / being loving ... it could be a blanket to her insecurity.


I don't hold any of this against her obviously. I too was in an emotional abusive relationship and have been cheated on. If anything, that's sorta what drew us together in the beginning and has kept us together, the ability to relate to one another.

People move at different paces at the end of the day, I guess I've just gotten to my limit on waiting around or I guess, not seeing much change or adjustments on her end. There's an obvious maturity gap between us. I get that crap happens to people, but there comes a point where you can't keep victimizing yourself about every little thing.


Truth.

It's a process that she needs to realize and admit to herself.

It's okay to need time and understanding from a partner but she needs to meet you halfway ....at the very least ..show you she's trying to..wants to.

Hopefully she does before your relationship ends.

Relationships are hard work, especially in these conditions.

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Exactly, thank you for understanding. I'm still in it because I WANT to help her get better. It's just a lot to work through and seems like she's further away from meeting me halfway than I am, which I'm not okay with. This is one of the hardest relationship I've ever been a part of, and it has only been a few months.

They say there's always a honeymoon phase in relationships, but there has not been one at all in this one. I like her when she's in good spirits, but it simply doesn't happen nearly enough and I'm not trying to be dragged into a dark place atm.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
Well that's the thing, not much has happened since. She made all this hype about us being together but it's been pretty much the same. It started off awesomely, and I thought she was finally happy, but has proceeded to continue the same trend and be even whinier than ever before... *sigh

I'm starting to think this isn't worth pursuing anymore.


I can’t speak for all Leo’s but i don’t like it when someone is constantly nagging me especially my bf. Why can’t things just be? That’s probably how she feels.

Just from the sound of the statements you’re making it doesn’t even seem like you like her. I haven’t heard you say anything positive about her like ever. Why are you with her again?


Constantly nagging would be to bring it up every day, which I don't do. I only bring it up when I reach a certain point of uncertainty, and that's when I try to have a heart to heart convo. But it gets shut down. Why can't things be you ask? Because nothing has really changed for the better, and if it's going to be like this, I'm not a fan of it and would rather be apart.

I definitely like her, but it is definitely starting to fade due to her overall attitude being the same. I have stated positive things, such as how if she's in a good mood, she's great to be around. It's just that the majority of the time, she's in this bad head space and just nags a majority of the time. As a BF (and even a GF), don't you WANT to be a positive influence on the person you're with? Don't you WANT to help that person through hard times and make sure that they achieve their goals? Don't you want to be their rock? I don't understand why you're being critical of me when all I've been to her is supportive. Don't my feelings matter?

As a lover, if you're with someone and it seems like they're still mopey and depressed a majority of the time, you start lose hope in it, no? You start to feel like you can't do much for them and it's depressing as hell. I just want to see her happier generally. That's all I'm asking for.
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Of course your feelings matter.

I don’t know many Leo’s that stay in a funk though. We may be in a funk but it doesn’t last long so I’m not sure if she has other things going on in her life. It’s been a hard time for Leo’s the past year and this year doesn’t seem any better honestly.

Do you guys go out? Try going out in a date night once a week and see if it helps your overall relationship. Don’t be stuck in a rut with her go and do stuff together. Just see if it works if not then I’m sorry but you both deserve to be happy.
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@Earlong16 how long have you guys been dating? Maybe she isn't sure how you feel. Maybe sitting down and openly communicating will help. Have you tried that?
She's known how I felt for 2-3 years at this point, and we didn't start dating officially until the end of 2017 but we've fooled around prior to being official. She's just very hot and cold (mostly cold) for the most part and always victimizing herself all the time. I thought she had made progress but if anything, being with her has shown me more of her true colors. When she's happy, it's amazing but it doesn't happen nearly enough.
Shes probably really comfortable around you at some point the fire does die down a little bit.
what fire? if there was a fire from her, it was tiny. i've spoken to ya about my situation in the past lol.
Ah yea i remember you. Nice picture (:

Why do you sound bitter? Did something happen?
Well that's the thing, not much has happened since. She made all this hype about us being together but it's been pretty much the same. It started off awesomely, and I thought she was finally happy, but has proceeded to continue the same trend and be even whinier than ever before... *sigh

I'm starting to think this isn't worth pursuing anymore.


I can’t speak for all Leo’s but i don’t like it when someone is constantly nagging me especially my bf. Why can’t things just be? That’s probably how she feels.

Just from the sound of the statements you’re making it doesn’t even seem like you like her. I haven’t heard you say anything positive about her like ever. Why are you with her again?


Constantly nagging would be to bring it up every day, which I don't do. I only bring it up when I reach a certain point of uncertainty, and that's when I try to have a heart to heart convo. But it gets shut down. Why can't things be you ask? Because nothing has really changed for the better, and if it's going to be like this, I'm not a fan of it and would rather be apart.

I definitely like her, but it is definitely starting to fade due to her overall attitude being the same. I have stated positive things, such as how if she's in a good mood, she's great to be around. It's just that the majority of the time, she's in this bad head space and just nags a majority of the time. As a BF (and even a GF), don't you WANT to be a positive influence on the person you're with? Don't you WANT to help that person through hard times and make sure that they achieve their goals? Don't you want to be their rock? I don't understand why you're being critical of me when all I've been to her is supportive. Don't my feelings matter?

As a lover, if you're with someone and it seems like they're still mopey and depressed a majority of the time, you start lose hope in it, no? You start to feel like you can't do much for them and it's depressing as hell. I just want to see her happier generally. That's all I'm asking for.
Of course your feelings matter.

I don’t know many Leo’s that stay in a funk though. We may be in a funk but it doesn’t last long so I’m not sure if she has other things going on in her life. It’s been a hard time for Leo’s the past year and this year doesn’t seem any better honestly.

Do you guys go out? Try going out in a date night once a week and see if it helps your overall relationship. Don’t be stuck in a rut with her go and do stuff together. Just see if it works if not then I’m sorry but you both deserve to be happy.

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I take her out so many times... Shes temporarily happy then goes back into that funk immediately when it's over with. When she gets home, she calls and texts immediately telling me how sad she is to be in her room with no company and becomes self destructive. :\

She wants to sing so being a musician, I've been writing demos for her to sing on as well and involving her in my projects.

Thanks for the help, it's just always nice to hear from a Leo's POV. I'm barely hanging on with her but I'll give it a few more weeks and if it stays this way, I may just cut the chord on this and move on... I don't want to though at all, I really do hold a lot of love for her and just want her to be happy.
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