leo guy is not calling

I have been dating this leo guy and he is killing me with his constant lack of communication and disappearing act.
we are happy when we are together but he never makes any plans and it is me always initiating the contact. He keeps on asking "why don't you call me" which I don't because I am a libra female and if I initiate it two times, I want him to do something on the third. We find ourselves in this ego game. He reads my blogs and monitors my updates in facebook and he sees me online but does not say Hi and I feel so bad about it. Yesterday I mentioned that I will be moving on because dont like to be treated this way.
Just wanted to ask your ideas if what I am doing here is right and are all Leo's like that?

Thanks and Best

What your doing wrong is focusing on being the center of his attention, you seem a bit too needy and clingy for a leo male,

You also seem to be observing and chasing him online through facebook and blogs and headliners and trying to force him out through these methods...behaving that way doesn't work so stop it, it's not attractive and it creates more conflict and distance. If a leo male senses he's being watched and chased HE WILL RUN, that is instinctual and it's not meant to hurt you and it doesn't feel good to you or to him so why keep doing it...

Try staying OFF of facebook for a little while, don't appear too needy over him, don't discuss him online and don't reach out to him in a round about way through blogs if that's what your doing, if he see you doing this he will ENJOY the attention he's getting and stall and drag his feet to communicate, be a bit apathetic towards his behavior, don't call him and just get on with doing something else with someone else somewhere else, he will be back around giving you the attention you seek but this is something he MUST do on his own, he can't be nagged into it, coerced, talked into it, chased into it....show him through your actions you have better things to do than play his cat and mouse games, eventually it will balance itself out by him making more effort or he will leave and go play with someone else that is less serious and enjoys the cat and mouse chase, it's not to annoy you, it's to keep the tension going, to keep things fresh and fun and keep you focused on him and no one else...leo's get bored easily, let him play, instead of getting annoyed try a change in your attitude, be a bit more positive and have fun with it, stop taking it so personally, if it annoys you that much find something else to do and deal with him later when your feeling up to it. If it truly isn't your love style then find another guy to be with because this most likely will not change because you want it to.

hm. well. i must say that i totally agree with tiki on this one.

i don't think he's that interested to be honest. it's not like a leo to all out pull disappearing acts without communication. we may disappear but we're usually pretty good about communicating the reason why. if we fail to inform u then it probably means either we got really busy quickly with little or no warning OR ur not on the VIP list. i'm willing to bet on the latter unfortunately. the key thing is that u will KNOW if u make that list. yes, we can sorta disappear on our loved ones but we will eventually get back to them to let them know even if we only have time for a simple text. our nearest and dearest will already know how we operate though so it's not a big deal.

I think you've overreacted. Leo men are pretty basic creatures. They want attention, want to be the center of everything, but like any man, they like the thrill of the chase. They are patient, too.

I took things very slow with my Leo. He was very interested and I enjoyed his company, but held him at bay. I never called him, but always answered right away when he called and replied right away when he texted. Sometimes, he would go days, but then, always, I'd hear from him. Now we're both smitten with each other, it isn't an issue at all. He always calls or texts or emails. He makes it very clear, even though he admits it embarasses him a bit.

Leos are the kings - they want a queen to hold in their arms, not a doormat. You have to impress him and you have to be patient and let him take the lead. Or let him think he's got the lead...

So how do they react when you piss them off?? Because you do have your own life arent at their beck and call??

Thank you for all the comments.
I think he did not like the concept of "moving on" because although he knows that I am sick at home, he did not Not call or send any get well message.
well I agree with what you've said. I gave him too much priority and put him first although I was not on his VIP list )his friends) hence I also agree that this shift will make me understand if I really want this guy and he can also take his time too.
During this 4 months time, I called him only 4 or 5 times and he was always free and always reverting me back to me and asking me "why you are not calling me?" when I asked the same question to him, I couldn't get any reasonable response but absolutely he needed my attention.
Apart from that, I am quite sure that he does not have any other girl in his life but of course also sure that he loves flirting at the net where he can get all the attention he needs.
Now my overreaction caused a big communication gap between us. I believe although I was right, I acted wrong in my behaviour.

many thanks, I will keep you all posted.

Leos always have other people in their life, whether or not they are with them is a separate issue. If he asks you why you don't call him it means you don't call him enough. All you need to do is ask him why don't you call me instead? And he will. Leos take advice and they are straight foward so they won't be wierded out by your question. So no need to be shy!

Agreed, Leos take advice on board and normally try to rectify anything that causes friction (if we can).

As a Libra though, dont you think that things should "balance out"? If he calls you, shouldnt you call him next and so on? Leos LOVE the chase but if you dont reciprocate after a fair amount of time? next!!!!! LOL

Posted by amethystgirl
I have been dating this leo guy and he is killing me with his constant lack of communication and disappearing act.
we are happy when we are together but he never makes any plans and it is me always initiating the contact. He keeps on asking "why don't you call me" which I don't because I am a libra female and if I initiate it two times, I want him to do something on the third. We find ourselves in this ego game. He reads my blogs and monitors my updates in facebook and he sees me online but does not say Hi and I feel so bad about it. Yesterday I mentioned that I will be moving on because dont like to be treated this way.
Just wanted to ask your ideas if what I am doing here is right and are all Leo's like that?

Thanks and Best

now I wonder.. how things turned out? are you still together? after 6 years?

I* started talking to this Leo Male about a month ago. Fresh met him. I* walked by him in the store and when I* left he drove up to me while I* was walking and then drove me home. I’ve hung out with him multiple times. He likes chillen with my family if he can come during the day. Usually it’s at night tho after he gets out of work. He comes late after fitting everyone else into his schedule( which I* have no problem with) spends a couple hours with me before he has to drive 20 mins home. We had sex for the first time too and I.t literally on fire. The best I’ve ever had. He was in a relationship for 4 years and I* was in one for 2 years. I* split with mine in April last year and he did in May. I’m 21 and he’s 27. First time talking to someone older and he knows I.t too. I* don’t like to bother him to chill all the time. I* know he works and he’s tired at the end of the day. He usually comes over tho IF* I* ask him to. I* don’t text him a lot either because I* don’t want to come off as annoying. i’ll Check on him every other day. And ask him to chill like twice a week. I’d like to see him more so o can get to know him better and I* told him that. Is there any advice though that I* can be provided with, when talking/dating a Leo? Anything is welcomed.

Posted by LibraGang
I* started talking to this Leo Male about a month ago. Fresh met him. I* walked by him in the store and when I* left he drove up to me while I* was walking and then drove me home. I’ve hung out with him multiple times. He likes chillen with my family if he can come during the day. Usually it’s at night tho after he gets out of work. He comes late after fitting everyone else into his schedule( which I* have no problem with) spends a couple hours with me before he has to drive 20 mins home. We had sex for the first time too and I.t literally on fire. The best I’ve ever had. He was in a relationship for 4 years and I* was in one for 2 years. I* split with mine in April last year and he did in May. I’m 21 and he’s 27. First time talking to someone older and he knows I.t too. I* don’t like to bother him to chill all the time. I* know he works and he’s tired at the end of the day. He usually comes over tho IF* I* ask him to. I* don’t text him a lot either because I* don’t want to come off as annoying. i’ll Check on him every other day. And ask him to chill like twice a week. I’d like to see him more so o can get to know him better and I* told him that. Is there any advice though that I* can be provided with, when talking/dating a Leo? Anything is welcomed.

Why did you revive an 8 year old thread that was last updated 3 years ago for this instead of making a new topic of your own?

@chuckcem I.t wasn’t showing up as a new topic when I️ tried to post

Posted by LibraGang
@chuckcem I.t wasn’t showing up as a new topic when I️ tried to post

I'm guessing you landed on this post first from a search engine or somewhere else. To add a new topic you'd go to the Leo Forum section and hit the Add Topic button at the top.

In regard to your question, just tell the Leo what you want. Leos respond well to direct communication. As you've already said, he comes over when you ask him to do so. Otherwise he's probably respecting your space (and his own). Know that if the Leo is busy, he may have to juggle a few things, meaning you'll have to be patient with him regarding his time.

Also know that until a Leo knows that you're REALLY interested in us, we'll still keep things light. Don't become clingy, but Leos do respond well to powerful messages of passion when we're interested. It sounds as if everything is positive here too, so that's a good sign.

@chuckcem “don’t become clingy, but they respond well to powerful messages of passion when Interested.” I* know he’s interested but I* don’t wanna come off as too clingy so I* just chill with him like he’s just a friend until he makes a move. Whether telling me to come closer or to cuddle with him etc. I* don’t like rejection or to come off too strong. I* also don’t want him to think I’m not interested either. He knows how much I* like spending time with him. But to protect my feelings I’m always emotionally detached when I* first see him. I’ve been played before a couple times and he’s new to me. If I.t were up to me I’d wanna see him every day but I* know he’s busy working and fitting everyone else into his schedule as well. I’d also text him throughout the day but I* know that can come off as annoying or clingy as well. Or thinking I* need to see/talk to him everyday to be happy. But the way I* am I* just like to spend time to get to know the person better. I* also don’t mind seeing him every couple days either though gives me the space. It’s different for me but I* don’t mind I.t either. I* just hope he doesn’t read it the wrong way and take I.t as I’m uninterested.

@Lioness1881 I* have no idea how much air, I️ would have to check

He has a

Libra Rising

Leo Sun

Virgo Moon

Leo Mercury

Cancer Venus

@Lioness1881 lol I* say chill bc that’s just the term I’m using on here. I’m 21 I* use that word all the time. When I* ask to chill with him tho I* ask him if he would like to come over. I’ve told him I* just want to get to know him better. He knows I* like him. I’m not looking for fwb. I’ve known him for a month and we both knew we wanted to be more than friends. Taking I.t slowly tho

Posted by LibraGang
@chuckcem “don’t become clingy, but they respond well to powerful messages of passion when Interested.” I* know he’s interested but I* don’t wanna come off as too clingy so I* just chill with him like he’s just a friend until he makes a move. Whether telling me to come closer or to cuddle with him etc. I* don’t like rejection or to come off too strong. I* also don’t want him to think I’m not interested either. He knows how much I* like spending time with him. But to protect my feelings I’m always emotionally detached when I* first see him. I’ve been played before a couple times and he’s new to me. If I.t were up to me I’d wanna see him every day but I* know he’s busy working and fitting everyone else into his schedule as well. I’d also text him throughout the day but I* know that can come off as annoying or clingy as well. Or thinking I* need to see/talk to him everyday to be happy. But the way I* am I* just like to spend time to get to know the person better. I* also don’t mind seeing him every couple days either though gives me the space. It’s different for me but I* don’t mind I.t either. I* just hope he doesn’t read it the wrong way and take I.t as I’m uninterested.

A Leo isn't going to read your mind. If you want to see him more, you'll need to suck it up and tell him. Many people are so afraid to say what they're feeling/thinking it's INFURIATING. There's nothing better than someone that can just be openly honest.