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I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
IF he blocked you, he will unblock you.
you seem to be great together but have different languages.
i think he may also have some prev baggage, he sounds insecure and some things you say/do, may trigger stuff for him. really not your problem, he needs to get over whatever history and baggage he has.
leo men can be high maintenance, meaning they need appreciation put in words, many times, especially this guy, as he strikes me he's got insecurity issues.
i mean, every sign out there, and every chart possible will have their own set of issues!!! i'm a firm believer in communicating, as much as they want it too.
Thank you! I too got the same feeling after but then I do too sometimes so it was bypassed. I am authentically just trying to keep him around so I can get to know him better. His BIrthday in 3 weeks
I think I will wait until his bday to wish him a Happy Birthday. If he was feeling the vibe too he should come around..... yes? So disappointed
IF you get to talk to him at all any time soon, I would mention his bday coming up, like: "cmon, i was looking forward to celebrating your bday!!!" or any other remark you wish to make
it is a vanity thing, we like ppl acknowledging our bday beforehand. can't help it hehe 😄
he will like and appreciate that you thought of his bday.
I will be out of town for a wedding that weekend and he actually sounded disappointed when I told him for being so early on. He said ....are you sure it’s that weekend? Sigh
and one more thing: keep in mind that it's up to his emotional maturity also. if he throws in the towel so quickly and then doesn't talk or blocks you, makes me wonder what is a long term relationship gonna be like?!
when we got hurt before we don't want to get hurt again, but getting hurt is part of the process of love, just gotta learn how to deal with the hurt and communicate!!!!! w/o communication everything else is dead, even if you two get into a long term, you will continue to hurt each other, unintentionally, everybody does, we're all human. not to be used an excuse to be a b..ch or a...hole, BUT we're not perfect
if he cannot communicate with you now, will make it much harder in the future.click to expand
100% ! Thank you!!
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I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
IF he blocked you, he will unblock you.
you seem to be great together but have different languages.
i think he may also have some prev baggage, he sounds insecure and some things you say/do, may trigger stuff for him. really not your problem, he needs to get over whatever history and baggage he has.
leo men can be high maintenance, meaning they need appreciation put in words, many times, especially this guy, as he strikes me he's got insecurity issues.
i mean, every sign out there, and every chart possible will have their own set of issues!!! i'm a firm believer in communicating, as much as they want it too.
Thank you! I too got the same feeling after but then I do too sometimes so it was bypassed. I am authentically just trying to keep him around so I can get to know him better. His BIrthday in 3 weeks
I think I will wait until his bday to wish him a Happy Birthday. If he was feeling the vibe too he should come around..... yes? So disappointed
IF you get to talk to him at all any time soon, I would mention his bday coming up, like: "cmon, i was looking forward to celebrating your bday!!!" or any other remark you wish to make
it is a vanity thing, we like ppl acknowledging our bday beforehand. can't help it hehe 😄
he will like and appreciate that you thought of his bday.
I will be out of town for a wedding that weekend and he actually sounded disappointed when I told him for being so early on. He said ....are you sure it’s that weekend? Sigh
and one more thing: keep in mind that it's up to his emotional maturity also. if he throws in the towel so quickly and then doesn't talk or blocks you, makes me wonder what is a long term relationship gonna be like?!
when we got hurt before we don't want to get hurt again, but getting hurt is part of the process of love, just gotta learn how to deal with the hurt and communicate!!!!! w/o communication everything else is dead, even if you two get into a long term, you will continue to hurt each other, unintentionally, everybody does, we're all human. not to be used an excuse to be a b..ch or a...hole, BUT we're not perfect
if he cannot communicate with you now, will make it much harder in the future.click to expand
I mean, I left him a vm sincerely apologizing. I told him I was buzzed but meant every word I said because I did! I just had a set of balls that night to say it. He said, I feel like a layer of the onion has been peeled and I’m getting to know you better now. I guess when i called a little buzzed and told him I was buzzed it all went out the window. I feel like I did my part and if I don’t hear from him I truly will be disappointed
Posted by TruScorpPosted by RisingPosted by TruScorpPosted by RisingPosted by TruScorpPosted by RisingPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
IF he blocked you, he will unblock you.
you seem to be great together but have different languages.
i think he may also have some prev baggage, he sounds insecure and some things you say/do, may trigger stuff for him. really not your problem, he needs to get over whatever history and baggage he has.
leo men can be high maintenance, meaning they need appreciation put in words, many times, especially this guy, as he strikes me he's got insecurity issues.
i mean, every sign out there, and every chart possible will have their own set of issues!!! i'm a firm believer in communicating, as much as they want it too.
Thank you! I too got the same feeling after but then I do too sometimes so it was bypassed. I am authentically just trying to keep him around so I can get to know him better. His BIrthday in 3 weeks
I think I will wait until his bday to wish him a Happy Birthday. If he was feeling the vibe too he should come around..... yes? So disappointed
IF you get to talk to him at all any time soon, I would mention his bday coming up, like: "cmon, i was looking forward to celebrating your bday!!!" or any other remark you wish to make
it is a vanity thing, we like ppl acknowledging our bday beforehand. can't help it hehe 😄
he will like and appreciate that you thought of his bday.
I will be out of town for a wedding that weekend and he actually sounded disappointed when I told him for being so early on. He said ....are you sure it’s that weekend? Sigh
and one more thing: keep in mind that it's up to his emotional maturity also. if he throws in the towel so quickly and then doesn't talk or blocks you, makes me wonder what is a long term relationship gonna be like?!
when we got hurt before we don't want to get hurt again, but getting hurt is part of the process of love, just gotta learn how to deal with the hurt and communicate!!!!! w/o communication everything else is dead, even if you two get into a long term, you will continue to hurt each other, unintentionally, everybody does, we're all human. not to be used an excuse to be a b..ch or a...hole, BUT we're not perfect
if he cannot communicate with you now, will make it much harder in the future.
I mean, I left him a vm sincerely apologizing. I told him I was buzzed but meant every word I said because I did! I just had a set of balls that night to say it. He said, I feel like a layer of the onion has been peeled and I’m getting to know you better now. I guess when i called a little buzzed and told him I was buzzed it all went out the window. I feel like I did my part and if I don’t hear from him I truly will be disappointedclick to expand
Oh yes, I understand. the disspoinment is hard. especially when you're emotionally invested.
And trust me, I've been there, done that, and it hurts like b..ch.
in the end though, you want smbd who doesn't phased if you're buzzed, or say the wrong things sometimes, or you're just being yourself.
he's probs so afraid of getting hurt, his armour is up, waiting for the onion to peel, peeking over his shield whether he gets hurt again.
and i can understand that also - it's tough.
but you want to be you!!!
i would want the good, the bad and the ugly! i want a complete acceptance from a guy and of a guy.
cannot step on eggshells all the time!! again, not to be used as an excuse. Really!! i strongly believe we should all make giant efforts to get to know the other and not offend them, hurt them, disrespect them and all that!
Posted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.click to expand
WOW! Just wow Leo Man. Thank you for that. It seemed like such a long story so I did not include it. Our first date was absolutely AMAZING. Laughing, dancing, giving each other little kisses, holding hands it was perfect. The entire time everything was 100% . Honestly, I can sometimes be very, very picky but the minute I saw this guy I knew I was interested. How he interacted and carried himself in front of others was impressive. He has a lead position and some of the guys he manages showed up with their significant others, as well as his cousin and his wife. He was so attentive, I was very impressed. I am not that girl nagging you to stick by my side because I’m uncomfortable, I actually manage to make friends everywhere I go to the point where it’s annoying. My resting bitch face does not detour anyone. Girls mostly. While he was entertaining he kept checking on me and I really appreciated that about him. I had already made friends with all the girls and I was feeling 100% .
We were so loveable together, he kep pulling me in for kisses, massaging my back and neck during the concert, dancing... it was one of the best dates I have ever had. I found him 100% attractive and the feeling was mutual. Wasn’t until the bar after the concert. I walked into the ladies room and he positioned himself to where he was watching me walk out looking for him the whole time while he’s watching other men check me out. I’m a bitch, I ignore people when I’m alone and I would never be disrespectful like that especially I’m really digging this guy. That’s when he started with “you like him? You wanna go with him?” I don’t even know what guy? I don’t want this to come out the wrong way, but I get a lot of attention coming and going 99% unwanted to the point where I’m talking crap to people and giving dirty looks. I think I left because number 1 my feelings were a bit hurt because I was ALL ABOUT HIM and #2 I felt disrespected for being accused of something that didn’t happen. When I left I thought, he must be insecure but everything before that was fine.... I didn’t hold it against him. That was the first date.
Our 2nd date was good, he was even speaking about future dates with me and I was totally fine with that. I told him I am out of town for a wedding and he said are you sure it’s that weekend? That’s my bday weekend was thinkyof going to Vegas. It was almost like he was included me. On the way home we got detoured somewhere in Hollywood and he said we have to check that place out next time. It was during our drive on the 2nd date I was playing with him. Maybe because the day of the concert it was all fun and games but I kind of feel like he invited to an actual date and wanted to impress me and I was still on concert mode play?
This is true 200% percent about keeping our feelings to ourselves so why is it so bad too be 100% honest when you are a little tipsy. It may have not come out otherwise. If anything it was a good thing.
The reason for the cancellation: We were scheduled on a Thursday for our first date I worked all day and he had that Wednesday, Thursday and Friday off. He texted me and wanted to move it back to 8pm and I was bothered because I worked all, he didn’t
He actually was the one to disregard the time. My time. I was bothere but mostly nervous... perfect opportunity to cancel and I did.
About the call... he told me his next three days off so we could hangout then he disappeared all day while I was at work... he sent a good Morning text we went back and forth for a minute then my last text went unanswered
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.click to expand
Until 7pm telling me he just got in from a massage spa....I know the girl he was seeing before has days off and works nights and he just didn’t respond to my last text basically all day. No he is not my significant other but you know when Scorpio’s want someone we can get jealous and even though I would not come out and say it my call to him was pretty much passive aggressive because I was bothered. And then it was over....I really liked this guy... that never happens. I feel disappointed 100% I really do. You know so much Chuck I need to keep picking the Leo brain! Everything you touched base in so very thorough & informative...Thank you
My next move? I told him the ball was in his court so I don’t have one.....you think if he is truly interested and had as much fun as I did he will reach out to me? I feel just disappointed..
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.click to expand
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It's just a Leo male, not the end of the world. As much as he acts like he is everything, he just a simple human like everyone else. I was kind of like this guy my early 20's. He will make you feel all this stuff at once, and put you in a dramatic game of "Chase the ego." He will throw you into his world, leave, throw you back in again, and make it hard for you to ever truly escape. As long as you fuel his ego, he will never leave. Fuck that guy. Leave him high and dry with nothing from you. Don't give him any emotion, thoughts, or the time of day. Completely move on, and find better. That will completely blow his mind, put his ego in check, and maybe teach him a valuable lesson in life. You can't string people along because you find it fun, dramatic, exciting, and have your heart on your sleeve. Be mature and real with people, and just be honest. At the least don't give false ego boosts to people just because it sounds good. That's a tip for all the egotistical Leo males.
Posted by Soul
It's just a Leo male, not the end of the world. As much as he acts like he is everything, he just a simple human like everyone else. I was kind of like this guy my early 20's. He will make you feel all this stuff at once, and put you in a dramatic game of "Chase the ego." He will throw you into his world, leave, throw you back in again, and make it hard for you to ever truly escape. As long as you fuel his ego, he will never leave. Fuck that guy. Leave him high and dry with nothing from you. Don't give him any emotion, thoughts, or the time of day. Completely move on, and find better. That will completely blow his mind, put his ego in check, and maybe teach him a valuable lesson in life. You can't string people along because you find it fun, dramatic, exciting, and have your heart on your sleeve. Be mature and real with people, and just be honest. At the least don't give false ego boosts to people just because it sounds good. That's a tip for all the egotistical Leo males.
Absolutely love this!! Thank you! Truth! It’s just I never feel this way about anyone... like I’m going to be single forever!!! I was totally digging him...FML
But what you said..100%
Not the only man out there BUT TGEVINLY ONE I HAVE LIKED in forever
Posted by Soul
It's just a Leo male, not the end of the world. As much as he acts like he is everything, he just a simple human like everyone else. I was kind of like this guy my early 20's. He will make you feel all this stuff at once, and put you in a dramatic game of "Chase the ego." He will throw you into his world, leave, throw you back in again, and make it hard for you to ever truly escape. As long as you fuel his ego, he will never leave. Fuck that guy. Leave him high and dry with nothing from you. Don't give him any emotion, thoughts, or the time of day. Completely move on, and find better. That will completely blow his mind, put his ego in check, and maybe teach him a valuable lesson in life. You can't string people along because you find it fun, dramatic, exciting, and have your heart on your sleeve. Be mature and real with people, and just be honest. At the least don't give false ego boosts to people just because it sounds good. That's a tip for all the egotistical Leo males.
I appreciate that! You know first hand and you are telling me fuck that guy!! Lol love it! Says a lot about you too =)
Posted by Foxy777Posted by TruScorpPosted by SeaLion
You ruined the "vibe" by joking that the vibe was off. You cock blocked yourself with that comment. You might as well of punched him in the nuts.
Fml, didn’t mean any harm. It was banter
More opinions, reach out or walk away?
The average leo is very traditionally romantic. They want to win you and for you to swoon.
Act helpless to their charms.
Do that. Tell him you were joking and say you are devastated by the text.
(which is true anyway)
Make it a REALLY LONG ASS TEXT ...like a rachel letter from friends ..8 pages long two sides.
REALLY over the top dramatic.
People will say this is a bad idea ..but trust me i know leos.click to expand
Lmao!! I texted one short text and left him an apology voice mail and nothing
Posted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sighclick to expand
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.click to expand
Guilty.....Ty Leo
Still bummed
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.click to expand
Ty Mr Leo... in ref to not being able to handle me.... my personality? My vibe? In what way. Still nothing from him.... should I even wish him a happy birthday? I know he was interested and the worst part is, I feel like I chased him away. Still sincerely bummed
This is way too much effort for someone you barely know.
I'm starting to question your mindset.
I'm starting to question your mindset.
Posted by VenusAquarius
This is way too much effort for someone you barely know.
I'm starting to question your mindset.
Regarding my mindset:
I am super picky, especially with whom I spend my time with. For me wanting to know more about him is already in itself mind-blowing. In, answer to your question. This never happens! I am constantly turning male suitors away but not this one. This one I want to know! HUGE difference, completely different ....Mindset.....BUMMED =)
Posted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.
Ty Mr Leo... in ref to not being able to handle me.... my personality? My vibe? In what way. Still nothing from him.... should I even wish him a happy birthday? I know he was interested and the worst part is, I feel like I chased him away. Still sincerely bummedclick to expand
This Leo reeks of insecurity. Here's the thing about Scorpios, there is usually a fairly strong sexual energy that exudes from you once you get past the "mystique". Leos can generally cut through that mystique fairly quickly. A Leo who understands this will be enticed, but a Leo who doesn't may think that a Scorpio's sexual energy is shared with everyone. An insecure Leo will simply not understand why they are evoking such an intense energy from a Scorpio so early.
From what I gather, the Leo got in his own head and saw your energy as a threat. He probably let his imagination run wild and deteriorate into jealousy. He couldn't peg you. Likewise you were probably more direct than he anticipated, so he probably thought you act this way with everyone.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.
Ty Mr Leo... in ref to not being able to handle me.... my personality? My vibe? In what way. Still nothing from him.... should I even wish him a happy birthday? I know he was interested and the worst part is, I feel like I chased him away. Still sincerely bummed
This Leo reeks of insecurity. Here's the thing about Scorpios, there is usually a fairly strong sexual energy that exudes from you once you get past the "mystique". Leos can generally cut through that mystique fairly quickly. A Leo who understands this will be enticed, but a Leo who doesn't may think that a Scorpio's sexual energy is shared with everyone. An insecure Leo will simply not understand why they are evoking such an intense energy from a Scorpio so early.
From what I gather, the Leo got in his own head and saw your energy as a threat. He probably let his imagination run wild and deteriorate into jealousy. He couldn't peg you. Likewise you were probably more direct than he anticipated, so he probably thought you act this way with everyone.click to expand
Ty Leo, my original thought... ok he has some insecurities. In groups of large people his dynamic exude pure confidence and I completely appreciated that... it drew me in actually. I have toned myself down a lot of times and I just won’t any more. He went from appreciating me being 100, telling me it was refreshing to this. Hot and cold. He said he hates playing games but I’m second guessing that one. He has completely cut me off
And it sucks because I’m not like that with anyone... only people I like lol. I think I’m just completely bummed because I’m picky, been single for a minute. No one catches my attention easily but he did... he had it and then he was gone... still bummed
Posted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorpPosted by ChuckcemPosted by TruScorp
I may have left a small detail out about our first date. Originally we had a dinner date. I was pretty clear that I didn’t want to drink on our first date. I was so nervous I cancelled our first date. Thus the Misfits concert, extreme... I know! He was not happy when I canceled (5hrs ahead of time) same day. I reached out to him the next day and he apologized for jumping to conclusions and said “wanna make it up” Misfits concert! The vibe was so chill, relaxed, natural and the chemistry definitely there. We ended up drinking throughout the date but not one of us was drunk. We were chill, lovable, playing and joking. Our Uber dropped us off in a downtown area with plenty of bars. We went into one and all of a sudden his alcohol must have kicked in because he started telling me if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him... I was completely 100% in my date, that’s not my style and I didn’t even know what guy he was talking about. I felt disrespected and confused so I left him there. Both of our cars there and I live two blocks away. He called me like 30 minutes later, apologized and said “ im hungry, let’s go eat!” I was too! He was two blocks away ended up grabbing breakfast and just talking for hours. We completely hit if off. He sent me a text a few hours after our date ended how he appreciated our conversation, how I keep it 100% and it was refreshing. So he had one strike out but I enjoyed his company, chalked it up to the alcohol and it was like it never happened. Forward to after we mended our little misunderstanding. I let him know I was kidding, I was nervous and we were back on. I opened up to him like really honest stuff and he appreciated that but I was buzzed while doing so and he didn’t know it. I’m maid of honor in a wedding quickly approaching so lots of planning, girl time and wine time. I’m buzzed and call him and tell him I had the balls to tell him my feelings the night before because I was buzzed and he basically tells me he’s done. I called him back like wth... so basically he had his little moment that I chose to get over but he’s holding mine against me kind of deal. Now that you guys know the back story
Should I just leave it alone? Yesterday was the first day in a month We didn’t speak
I think he blocked me? Cannot tell with Verizon...
Next time lead with the full story since context is everything. I'll say this first, this Leo is insecure. @Rising nailed it all on the head it seems, but I'll throw in my 2 cents having dealt with Scorpios before. This guy either isn't confident in himself, afraid of getting hurt, OR is playing hot/cold games to gain the upper hand. Either way, it's all due to insecurity.
Scorpios can be difficult to read since you choose to hide so much of your true intentions on a consistent basis. Leo's only want someone who can be direct/upfront. While we can be forgiving, we are prone to distancing ourselves from potential pain. If we see something we don't like, we may retaliate by doubling down and walking away. Emotions take energy and unlike Scorpio, we derive no pleasure when emotions run foul. We're a sign of passion, not intensity. Keep that in mind.
Furthermore cancelling five hours before a date is terrible. You don't know what plans he had to move around to see you. It's obvious that you weren't being honest with him since everyone knows their schedule five hours prior. Unless an emergency happens last minute, canceling last minute sends a signal that you don't respect the other person's time. It makes you look fake. This definitely painted his initial idea of you. If you already told him that you canceled because of nervousness, that helps, but doesn't mean that he believes you.
I had someone cancel on me last minute once because of some excuse. She apologized and tried rescheduling. I let her know that I'm a busy guy, so if she wanted to see me she'd have to reconfirm and pay for dinner. She agreed and I still managed to show up 45 minutes late. I only kept the date because I already knew her prior. Otherwise I would not have made the time for her in my schedule. Leos are busy people, so a lot of us don't have time for games.
If I had to guess, while the Leo was busy trying to "appear" confident, you were trying to chip away at his facade. I imagine there's another side to this story in which you were "testing" him and he doubled down to prove that he could push you away. Again this is all miscommunication, but Leos tend to have a reason for what we do. We are not a subtle sign. When he said, "...if you like that guy why don’t you just go with him," it was him being drunk/stupid. However in his mind, since you were already teasing him, he probably thought that you were trying to make him jealous.
Again this is his own insecurity and he should have handled that better. Yet I've personally known Scorpios who will use manipulation to get under someone's skin in order to see the "real them". This of course is only a good tactic for finding someone's negative attributes. What you seek, you will find. That's not to say this is all your fault or anything, I'm just trying to give you context.
As for your last interaction with him, it sounds like he shut down because of the drama. Calling him drunk to say that you opened up due to alcohol probably didn't translate well with him. A common misconception is that Leos like drama. The truth is we can find other people's drama entertaining, but unless we are severely lacking in emotional fulfillment, we tend not to like our own drama that much. It's also possible that he missed you and got jealous when you called him drunk, feeling as if the only time you're honest with him is when something is wrong or when alcohol is involved. Again that's his own insecurities at play. It just sounds like the communication has been off and he may be taking that to heart. He'll need to understand if he's dealing with a Scorpio that he can't take everything personally.
Also it doesn't sound like you've known this guy long. Understand that the ups and downs of this situation may be intriguing to you, but could be a clear sign this guy isn't emotionally mature.
Another thing, he commented quite often how much he appreciated my strong personality and said how refreshing it was. I was with a cancer previously and always had to mellow out to please him because he was more chill than I
Then he made a comment about two strong personalities not working. I told him with two strong teammates you know what you are.... winners. I’m just confused and honestly disappointed.
Do you think he’ll come back around? I did my part
He got a genuine apology from me. I will not chase him... doesn’t mean I don’t want to! Lol sigh
It really sounds like he may not be able to handle you. It's your choice if you want to wait around on him, but it's up to him to start speaking to you again since he's the one who bailed. Also try to see this situation for what it is and don't get caught up in the back and forth, hot and cold games he appears to be playing. Scorpios can often fall for push/pull tactics from aloof people, or people who seem hard to get. If this guy is too insecure to not cause unnecessary problems, see it for what it is, not what you want it to be.
Ty Mr Leo... in ref to not being able to handle me.... my personality? My vibe? In what way. Still nothing from him.... should I even wish him a happy birthday? I know he was interested and the worst part is, I feel like I chased him away. Still sincerely bummed
This Leo reeks of insecurity. Here's the thing about Scorpios, there is usually a fairly strong sexual energy that exudes from you once you get past the "mystique". Leos can generally cut through that mystique fairly quickly. A Leo who understands this will be enticed, but a Leo who doesn't may think that a Scorpio's sexual energy is shared with everyone. An insecure Leo will simply not understand why they are evoking such an intense energy from a Scorpio so early.
From what I gather, the Leo got in his own head and saw your energy as a threat. He probably let his imagination run wild and deteriorate into jealousy. He couldn't peg you. Likewise you were probably more direct than he anticipated, so he probably thought you act this way with everyone.
Ty Leo, my original thought... ok he has some insecurities. In groups of large people his dynamic exude pure confidence and I completely appreciated that... it drew me in actually. I have toned myself down a lot of times and I just won’t any more. He went from appreciating me being 100, telling me it was refreshing to this. Hot and cold. He said he hates playing games but I’m second guessing that one. He has completely cut me off
And it sucks because I’m not like that with anyone... only people I like lol. I think I’m just completely bummed because I’m picky, been single for a minute. No one catches my attention easily but he did... he had it and then he was gone... still bummedclick to expand
I wouldn't be shocked if he reemerged. It'll be up to you if you want to entertain his advances again.
Late to the party, but you guys went to a Misfits concert? Damn. If I could that off, I’d bag my Aqua, no question.
So freakin jealous of you US folks. Damn..
Ok. Continue.
I got no Leo dude input. But being vulnerable and showing me how much you care would make me forgive you (as a Leo female).
So freakin jealous of you US folks. Damn..
Ok. Continue.
I got no Leo dude input. But being vulnerable and showing me how much you care would make me forgive you (as a Leo female).
Posted by Leo138
Late to the party, but you guys went to a Misfits concert? Damn. If I could that off, I’d bag my Aqua, no question.
So freakin jealous of you US folks. Damn..
Ok. Continue.
I got no Leo dude input. But being vulnerable and showing me how much you care would make me forgive you (as a Leo female).
Lol! We did & they put on an amazing show! 5 hours straight with Rage Against
Amazing time with amazing company that day!
Still nothing from This Leo my friends
It went from 100 to zero real quick. From all good to all bad....still bummed
But keeping it moving.... Happy Tuesday guys!
It went from 100 to zero real quick. From all good to all bad....still bummed
But keeping it moving.... Happy Tuesday guys!
Posted by Erinelda
Wait wait wait.. I don't care about the stupid dude. You set a boundary with yourself and with him that you didn't want to drink but you still did? Be kind to yourself, set and keep your boundaries. If you don't not only will you suffer but guys will try to walk all over you.
Lol, this is correct but coffee and Misfits just don’t jive! Once I felt comfortable and at ease with this Leo the drinks shortly followed. There was no pressure it was a personal call. We maintained our alcohol consumption all day until the bar when he scared me away lol. All in all it was a great time up until then....I brushed it off
but Back to the dude.... lol
Opinions... Do I even reach out to wish him a Happy Birthday?
I would wish him a happy birthday and try asking about him and see how he is doing.
Don't push or pry.
Let him kinda regain control of the situation or feel in control for awhile.
You can pm if you want so I can get a better understanding of,the whole situation and go more in depth.
Don't push or pry.
Let him kinda regain control of the situation or feel in control for awhile.
You can pm if you want so I can get a better understanding of,the whole situation and go more in depth.
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Soooo Im engaged to this wonderful leo man, (we haven't been together that long) and I am crazy for him. We were living together at one point, then a few weeks ago he moved out of state, for a job opportunity, so we decided to give the long distance thing
I'd like some brains to help me out, I'm not sure if I should keep seeing this Leo guy. But it has been so sweet and fun, it's hard to let it go...
So I've known this Leo guy for a month. I met him on the street after watching a horror movie, it was midn
Leo male is one of the most complex sun signs in universe in many ways. Our best qualities are giving, loyalty, joy and energy, family, adventures etc. on the other hand, we demand attention, a lot. If you are a Leo you know you own that skill that nobody
I just broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago due to his parents didn't bless our relationship. We came from different beliefs and faiths so i kind of understand why his parents rejected me. I just never thought this would happen when everything was alrigh
So, everything I've ever read about Leo men is that they like to be in control, to be the dominate ones in a relationship. I guess every person is different regardless of charts. I've found my Leo to be very much the opposite. He likes me to make the plan
Need some guide on how to improve myself from a woman Cancerian boss perspective? I'm the usual ambitious Cappy woman and there's a work promotion coming up that is important to me that I'm also competing along with a Leo man. So I also want to know how t
A Leo man I know through other people started snap chatting me. He’s very flirty. We are both in a relationship. I ignored for a while but then didn’t want to be rude & started replying back. My bf was annoyed so he friend requested him. Leo didn’t m
Be okay with knowing that work will always be their number one passion. Not hating on it at all, but after dating 5 Leo men I can say this is a hard fact. The passion they have for their work is really intense. Ive also noticed they have all been involved
Personal experiences? Pro’s? Cons?
So I’ve been talking to this Leo guy for the past 3 months.. we never met but we are from the same city. Our conversations were deep, open and sometimes sexual. We finally met last weekend at a music festival and camped together. He gave me many mixed sig
I’m completely serious.
I want to get rid of this leo man, he been chasing for more than 6 months
He ask me to marry him more than 5 times.
I start to feel like he will never leave me alone
He is a business man, and ask to be his partner in work t
When this Leo gets mad he blows up n is very harsh. Before I used to go back and forth but I realized it only mad it worse. So now I let him explode. N then He feels like an asshole a few hours later. He tells me express how I feel but I told him when I d
Hello I am a Leo man, I’ve been dating a Capricorn woman for a little over a month now. Everything was good, she was shy at the beginning but things got progressively better and by 4th date I could tell she really started to like me, she became more affec
Might be a modern astrology thing but I laugh at the idea that a Scorpio is going to get the better of a Leo, now a Capricorn maybe.
But it feels like Leo men get painted as soft, sensitive and happy go lucky forgive and forget types all too often.
Im 34 he is 39
One week ago i found out that my leo was lying to me over 3 months about where he was at only one night every week but the rest of the week he was with me...he told me a lot of lies like he was with his family and other lies
I found out h
So I’ve previous posted about this Leo I’m still dealing with. It’s being a good 5-6 months of ups and downs with some struggles. We’ve had a period of time where communication stopped because he wasnt expressing himself but when I sent him a text express
Would someone be willing to hear my story and give me some insight...... message me or anything.. thanks
I’ve been talking with a Leo man for the past 6 months. He’s gonna be with his family for the next couple of days for Labor Day. Since he was going to be busy I told him that I’m going to take this time to be to myself for awhile to self reflect n see wha
I have been involved with a leo male off and on since I was a teenager ( IAM now 30 and he's 33 ). Through all of my past relationships he has always managed to pop up and so I would find myself ending the relationship that I was in. In the beginning our
I just don’t get why my Leo man is being so ughhh, we’ve been fucking not dating for about 10 months and decided to move in a house. Well he’s not going to live there just pay the bills while he grows weed(its legal here). But as of lately he just stopped
and one more thing: keep in mind that it's up to his emotional maturity also. if he throws in the towel so quickly and then doesn't talk or blocks you, makes me wonder what is a long term relationship gonna be like?!
when we got hurt before we don't want to get hurt again, but getting hurt is part of the process of love, just gotta learn how to deal with the hurt and communicate!!!!! w/o communication everything else is dead, even if you two get into a long term, you will continue to hurt each other, unintentionally, everybody does, we're all human. not to be used an excuse to be a b..ch or a...hole, BUT we're not perfect
if he cannot communicate with you now, will make it much harder in the future.