@veronik01
7 Years
Leo Man, keeps dissapearing
Congratulations!!
What do you mean by disappear?
Do you mean you can feel when he "checks out" even when he not around...it feels like he doesnt exist...the energy feels different.?
Soooo Im engaged to this wonderful leo man, (we haven't been together that long) and I am crazy for him. We were living together at one point, then a few weeks ago he moved out of state, for a job opportunity, so we decided to give the long distance thing a try. Plan was, for either me to move with him once he settled in (im a single mother to a 7 year old boy) so i cant just up and leave. Or, if things dint work out for him, he would come back. A few weeks ago, he proposed, and we plan on marrying around October. Anyways, this man, has taken it upon himself, to be a father figure for my son, we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible. But every so often he dissapears. Hes done this many times before. Last time I confronted him, he told me that this is his way of coping. He works many hours, and the way he copes with it all, is taking some time where his mind can be blank. Im not sure what to do at this point. I need some tips lol. I love this man, but at the same time, when is it enough? BTW im a scorpio woman and hes a Leo man.
My question is about helping each other financially. How does this go?
If he’s gonna be a father figure to your kid and marry you, he can’t just check out from the relationship and being a dad. Make sure he understands this before you commit to a life with him.
How long does he disappear for? Did it start when he moved out of state?
This started since We started. Hes always done this. When i first met him he had a glambling problem and would be gone for days at a time.
My question is about helping each other financially. How does this go?
Well, we used to live toguether so the bills were shared. And now that hes out out of state hes helping me by helping me out with my kids back to school and summer camp stuff.
If he’s gonna be a father figure to your kid and marry you, he can’t just check out from the relationship and being a dad. Make sure he understands this before you commit to a life with him.
Yes, thank you. We really need to talk before i make any type of decision.
Congratulations!!
What do you mean by disappear?
Do you mean you can feel when he "checks out" even when he not around...it feels like he doesnt exist...the energy feels different.?
No.,like disappear,. not texting, calling. He removes himself from the world. He doesent even do social media and he does the same to his family.
You mean there is always something that makes him to go away for a while?
Every time hes stressed, he does the same shit.
he's gambling and this is going to continue to be a problem sorry
You mean there is always something that makes him to go away for a while?
at this point I dont know what to do
If he’s gonna be a father figure to your kid and marry you, he can’t just check out from the relationship and being a dad. Make sure he understands this before you commit to a life with him.
Yes, thank you. We really need to talk before i make any type of decision.
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I think it also depends on what kind of disappearance.
If its one of these things where he lets you know AHEAD OF TIME, like babe am super exhausted from deadlines all week. Gonna crash out hard tonight and take tomorrow as a personal day. Will call you sunday.
Then thats fine. He communicated with you and didn't you ghost you and come back with an apology tour. But if he is disappearing without pre-warning you, yeah thats not fun.
Ok just read about the gambling problem. When you say "we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible".... I hope that doesn't mean your financing his gambling addiction.
Ok just read about the gambling problem. When you say "we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible".... I hope that doesn't mean your financing his gambling addiction.
no. absolutely not
Ok just read about the gambling problem. When you say "we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible".... I hope that doesn't mean your financing his gambling addiction.
no. absolutely not
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good
How long have you known this man that you're now engaged to at the moment?
Ok just read about the gambling problem. When you say "we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible".... I hope that doesn't mean your financing his gambling addiction.
did someone i blocked quote this
cause ummmm i didn't nothing about gambling
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How long does he disappear for? Did it start when he moved out of state?
This started since We started. Hes always done this. When i first met him he had a glambling problem and would be gone for days at a time.
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😬😬😬🤐🤐🤐
I find it *interesting* that you haven't known him long but have omitted the amount of time in which you HAVE known him. Yet, you're engaged....to a man with a prior gambling habit AND who pulls disappearing acts. Red flags EVERYWHERE. SMH. Newsflash: Gamblers are USUALLY liars too. Proceed with caution 🤦
You mean there is always something that makes him to go away for a while?
at this point I dont know what to do
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What to do? Stay single and do not marry him.
My question is about helping each other financially. How does this go?
Well, we used to live toguether so the bills were shared. And now that hes out out of state hes helping me by helping me out with my kids back to school and summer camp stuff.
I though you helped him as well...no?
he's gambling and this is going to continue to be a problem sorry
lol how did you come up with this
seems out of thin air?
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the op mentioned in the thread that he had a gambling problem early on
He is shady. Honestly these days you should not show a man you love them more than they love you. It gets to their heads or some shit. You deserve a more consistent man in your and your kid's life. This is probably why parents get more along with other parents, there's usually that mutual understanding that you just can't checkout for a while whenever you want without warning.
leo men need the space, however if you have problems with it, it might be best to bring this up with him. it's enough when this is repetitive behavior and its not something you want. its very shady of him to propose too early on
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Soooo Im engaged to this wonderful leo man, (we haven't been together that long) and I am crazy for him. We were living together at one point, then a few weeks ago he moved out of state, for a job opportunity, so we decided to give the long distance thing a try. Plan was, for either me to move with him once he settled in (im a single mother to a 7 year old boy) so i cant just up and leave. Or, if things dint work out for him, he would come back. A few weeks ago, he proposed, and we plan on marrying around October. Anyways, this man, has taken it upon himself, to be a father figure for my son, we help each other out both emotionally, financially in every way possible. But every so often he dissapears. Hes done this many times before. Last time I confronted him, he told me that this is his way of coping. He works many hours, and the way he copes with it all, is taking some time where his mind can be blank. Im not sure what to do at this point. I need some tips lol. I love this man, but at the same time, when is it enough? BTW im a scorpio woman and hes a Leo man.