librachick0987
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My leo man is distant
I am a LEO and when we want something there is no stopping us. As you learned, there is someone else in the picture. The best way to get him back on track is to get him jealous. This always works on me....hahaha. Do not respond to him and he will wonder why. Once you get his attention, then its your time to shine.
I would say FWB too but he said he wasn’t seeing anyone else or sleeping with anyone else so this is kind of weird. Leo’s are usually all in or all out there is no in between but it seems like he’s taking you for granted. Just go ghost for a couple of days and see how he acts, i know leo guys need spaceeeeee
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Posted by 4evercharmThere used to be someone else in the picture in November, when I asked him last week he said there is no one. He could be lying idk
I am a LEO and when we want something there is no stopping us. As you learned, there is someone else in the picture. The best way to get him back on track is to get him jealous. This always works on me....hahaha. Do not respond to him and he will wonder why. Once you get his attention, then its your time to shine.
Posted by MoonshineLeoYeah okay I'll try that, I'm in exam period too so that works. Thank you!
I would say FWB too but he said he wasn’t seeing anyone else or sleeping with anyone else so this is kind of weird. Leo’s are usually all in or all out there is no in between but it seems like he’s taking you for granted. Just go ghost for a couple of days and see how he acts, i know leo guys need spaceeeeee
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Good god please kindly separate into paragraphs. It was reading word vomit. But here are my thoughts on your Leo:
1) He definitely has FWB/Casual situation or someone like a Gemini he just playfully texts and gets a certain type attention from that may not be anything physical or in the realm of cheating since you two are not exclusive. I haveFWB and borderline friends I harmlessly flirt with but not sleep with.
2) It's quite a big deal if you meet his friends and plans things around you. It shows that he does care for you more than you think. Just because he gets distant or have periods of being busy doesn't mean he's not into you. It just means we're busy ruling the world. I go on business trips and use to talk to my gf everyday. The minute I do get back from my trip or finish a project deadline for my teams, she's on the top of my list of people I make an effort to spend time with.
3) Don't say he's bad at communicating. He's going to get all emo over it lol. Maybe say, "Well can you communicate with me by telling me x..." You did ask him questions and he answered them. Whether his answers are to your liking, that's on you. If you don't say anything and honestly speak it into existence, we won't know. We're Leos, not mind readers.
4) I'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume that during that "3rd month conversation," even though he said he wasn't mentally ready for a relationship yet, he may (in his heart of hearts) have wanted to just hear you say that you wanted one. Instead, you went with half-assed options like, "It's cool to be FWB just let me know so I won't get attached etc." Um we're Leo's we want to be needed and given all the attention in the world. My Sag bestie explained Leos well, "You just want the illusion of being given a choice even though you already know what you want and made the decision." I just think he doesn't want to tip his hand or make his decision known because you haven't shown him a level of commitment or certainty he's waiting for.
Hmm...but he could possibly still be hurt from his recent relationship and licking some wounds from that. He could be figuring out if it's lust, if he wants another relationship out of loneliness to fill some void after ending one just 2-3 months prior, or if he genuinely does like you enough to dive into another committed relationship.
1) He definitely has FWB/Casual situation or someone like a Gemini he just playfully texts and gets a certain type attention from that may not be anything physical or in the realm of cheating since you two are not exclusive. I haveFWB and borderline friends I harmlessly flirt with but not sleep with.
2) It's quite a big deal if you meet his friends and plans things around you. It shows that he does care for you more than you think. Just because he gets distant or have periods of being busy doesn't mean he's not into you. It just means we're busy ruling the world. I go on business trips and use to talk to my gf everyday. The minute I do get back from my trip or finish a project deadline for my teams, she's on the top of my list of people I make an effort to spend time with.
3) Don't say he's bad at communicating. He's going to get all emo over it lol. Maybe say, "Well can you communicate with me by telling me x..." You did ask him questions and he answered them. Whether his answers are to your liking, that's on you. If you don't say anything and honestly speak it into existence, we won't know. We're Leos, not mind readers.
4) I'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume that during that "3rd month conversation," even though he said he wasn't mentally ready for a relationship yet, he may (in his heart of hearts) have wanted to just hear you say that you wanted one. Instead, you went with half-assed options like, "It's cool to be FWB just let me know so I won't get attached etc." Um we're Leo's we want to be needed and given all the attention in the world. My Sag bestie explained Leos well, "You just want the illusion of being given a choice even though you already know what you want and made the decision." I just think he doesn't want to tip his hand or make his decision known because you haven't shown him a level of commitment or certainty he's waiting for.
Hmm...but he could possibly still be hurt from his recent relationship and licking some wounds from that. He could be figuring out if it's lust, if he wants another relationship out of loneliness to fill some void after ending one just 2-3 months prior, or if he genuinely does like you enough to dive into another committed relationship.
Alright, finally got through everything. I'll be honest, I was pleasantly surprised by this post (@Lioness18881 I think the FAQ is working). Usually when a Libra woman posts a complaint about a Leo man here, it's because she overthought the situation, then detached too early, then became upset when the Leo mirrored her by detaching as well. Instead, you've seem to have been very straight forward in this situation.
In your scenario, you did everything correctly. The problem is, the Leo is not over his ex. He met you 2-3 months after ending a relationship with a woman he dated for 3 years. That's simply not enough time to get over such a long relationship. His ex clearly hasn't left his life since she's constantly trying to get him back (and he's allowing the communication). While the Leo may not be doing anything more than talking to her, he still hasn't fully let her go. This makes any potential relationship with you difficult and explains why he wants to keep things in a "grey zone".
It's entirely possible that there is no physical relationship between the Leo and his ex. It sounds like he's pushed her away for a reason. The issue is that his lingering feelings for his ex are still raw. So until he comes to terms with his emotions, you'll be more of a rebound than a relationship for him. I'm pretty sure he knows this and is therefore hesitant to jump into a serious situation with you. He probably knows this could all go south if he's not careful. Likewise his attachment to his ex may still be present. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, but he's simply not ready for something serious.
That being said, don't sell yourself short. You mentioned that you've been single for 2 years and are looking for something solid. Don't hold yourself down to this guy. I encourage you to keep the same open mind that the Leo has and date other people. Sure you may like the Leo, but he currently has baggage that he needs to sort out. Likewise, you don't really know this guy too well yet, so you should be keeping your options open. In the event he does wind up reconciling with his ex, you won't be completely tied to him.
Also be aware of how the Leo acted when you saw his interaction between him and his ex. He may have gone cold because he felt that you invaded his privacy. However he may have also gone cold because he knew he'd been caught. The ex being so communicative with him is a red flag. It's good that his friends don't think the situation is serious, but we Leos are notorious for remaining tight lipped and keeping love situations close to our chests when we're sorting out our emotions. It's only when our intentions become clear in our minds that we divulge the romantic details to our family and friends. Know that his friends may know very little as well, so just be careful. However it IS a good thing that you've met his friends. If a Leo doesn't have positive romantic intentions toward you, we're not introducing you to our close friends and/or family.
I don' think you're in a bad position, but you could be racing toward a red light. The dynamic between Libras and Leos is that a relationship can flare up fast and burn out just as quickly. Both can become extremely enamored with one another to the point of ignoring the important details. As I mentioned, I don't think you need to cut the Leo off, but I do highly recommend you date other people. Let the Leo know that while you're happy to date him exlusively, you can't be exclusive with him until he detaches from his ex. Let him know that you want to be with him and don't want anyone else lingering in the background acting as a distraction. Don't force him to do this though. Let him know that you'll give him the time to sort this all out.
In your scenario, you did everything correctly. The problem is, the Leo is not over his ex. He met you 2-3 months after ending a relationship with a woman he dated for 3 years. That's simply not enough time to get over such a long relationship. His ex clearly hasn't left his life since she's constantly trying to get him back (and he's allowing the communication). While the Leo may not be doing anything more than talking to her, he still hasn't fully let her go. This makes any potential relationship with you difficult and explains why he wants to keep things in a "grey zone".
It's entirely possible that there is no physical relationship between the Leo and his ex. It sounds like he's pushed her away for a reason. The issue is that his lingering feelings for his ex are still raw. So until he comes to terms with his emotions, you'll be more of a rebound than a relationship for him. I'm pretty sure he knows this and is therefore hesitant to jump into a serious situation with you. He probably knows this could all go south if he's not careful. Likewise his attachment to his ex may still be present. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, but he's simply not ready for something serious.
That being said, don't sell yourself short. You mentioned that you've been single for 2 years and are looking for something solid. Don't hold yourself down to this guy. I encourage you to keep the same open mind that the Leo has and date other people. Sure you may like the Leo, but he currently has baggage that he needs to sort out. Likewise, you don't really know this guy too well yet, so you should be keeping your options open. In the event he does wind up reconciling with his ex, you won't be completely tied to him.
Also be aware of how the Leo acted when you saw his interaction between him and his ex. He may have gone cold because he felt that you invaded his privacy. However he may have also gone cold because he knew he'd been caught. The ex being so communicative with him is a red flag. It's good that his friends don't think the situation is serious, but we Leos are notorious for remaining tight lipped and keeping love situations close to our chests when we're sorting out our emotions. It's only when our intentions become clear in our minds that we divulge the romantic details to our family and friends. Know that his friends may know very little as well, so just be careful. However it IS a good thing that you've met his friends. If a Leo doesn't have positive romantic intentions toward you, we're not introducing you to our close friends and/or family.
I don' think you're in a bad position, but you could be racing toward a red light. The dynamic between Libras and Leos is that a relationship can flare up fast and burn out just as quickly. Both can become extremely enamored with one another to the point of ignoring the important details. As I mentioned, I don't think you need to cut the Leo off, but I do highly recommend you date other people. Let the Leo know that while you're happy to date him exlusively, you can't be exclusive with him until he detaches from his ex. Let him know that you want to be with him and don't want anyone else lingering in the background acting as a distraction. Don't force him to do this though. Let him know that you'll give him the time to sort this all out.
I understand your frustration with him, however...
You entered into a sexual relationship right away.
You told him you’d be okay with fwb.
You continued to sleep with him without establishing sexual exclusivity.
You agreed to a ‘gray area’.
You agreed to his rules so what incentive does he have to change his behavior. Contract is signed. Expectations set.
Learn from this. Now you know a little bit more about yourself and you want a relationship rn, not a sexual fling.
Your focus should be on getting to know what these guys are about. Sexual chemistry and the fleeting feeling of a good fuck isn’t the only thing your looking for. Does he ask you questions? Show interest in your life? Does he want to go beneath the surface and connect with you on an emotional and mental level?
Let that happen first. And lock in physical exclusivity before fucking.
You entered into a sexual relationship right away.
You told him you’d be okay with fwb.
You continued to sleep with him without establishing sexual exclusivity.
You agreed to a ‘gray area’.
You agreed to his rules so what incentive does he have to change his behavior. Contract is signed. Expectations set.
Learn from this. Now you know a little bit more about yourself and you want a relationship rn, not a sexual fling.
Your focus should be on getting to know what these guys are about. Sexual chemistry and the fleeting feeling of a good fuck isn’t the only thing your looking for. Does he ask you questions? Show interest in your life? Does he want to go beneath the surface and connect with you on an emotional and mental level?
Let that happen first. And lock in physical exclusivity before fucking.
On a personal note I think you may have made too many compromises babe.
Libras are so accomodating - make it too easy for Leows I reckon
Do your thang, always do your thang first and foremost 🙂
Libras are so accomodating - make it too easy for Leows I reckon
Do your thang, always do your thang first and foremost 🙂
Posted by Lioness18881Mercury is in Cancer, but also my Moon is in Virgo (hence the detail).Posted by Chuckcem
Alright, finally got through everything. I'll be honest, I was pleasantly surprised by this post (@Lioness18881 I think the FAQ is working). Usually when a Libra woman posts a complaint about a Leo man here, it's because she overthought the situation, then detached too early, then became upset when the Leo mirrored her by detaching as well. Instead, you've seem to have been very straight forward in this situation.
In your scenario, you did everything correctly. The problem is, the Leo is not over his ex. He met you 2-3 months after ending a relationship with a woman he dated for 3 years. That's simply not enough time to get over such a long relationship. His ex clearly hasn't left his life since she's constantly trying to get him back (and he's allowing the communication). While the Leo may not be doing anything more than talking to her, he still hasn't fully let her go. This makes any potential relationship with you difficult and explains why he wants to keep things in a "grey zone".
It's entirely possible that there is no physical relationship between the Leo and his ex. It sounds like he's pushed her away for a reason. The issue is that his lingering feelings for his ex are still raw. So until he comes to terms with his emotions, you'll be more of a rebound than a relationship for him. I'm pretty sure he knows this and is therefore hesitant to jump into a serious situation with you. He probably knows this could all go south if he's not careful. Likewise his attachment to his ex may still be present. That doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, but he's simply not ready for something serious.
That being said, don't sell yourself short. You mentioned that you've been single for 2 years and are looking for something solid. Don't hold yourself down to this guy. I encourage you to keep the same open mind that the Leo has and date other people. Sure you may like the Leo, but he currently has baggage that he needs to sort out. Likewise, you don't really know this guy too well yet, so you should be keeping your options open. In the event he does wind up reconciling with his ex, you won't be completely tied to him.
Also be aware of how the Leo acted when you saw his interaction between him and his ex. He may have gone cold because he felt that you invaded his privacy. However he may have also gone cold because he knew he'd been caught. The ex being so communicative with him is a red flag. It's good that his friends don't think the situation is serious, but we Leos are notorious for remaining tight lipped and keeping love situations close to our chests when we're sorting out our emotions. It's only when our intentions become clear in our minds that we divulge the romantic details to our family and friends. Know that his friends may know very little as well, so just be careful. However it IS a good thing that you've met his friends. If a Leo doesn't have positive romantic intentions toward you, we're not introducing you to our close friends and/or family.
I don' think you're in a bad position, but you could be racing toward a red light. The dynamic between Libras and Leos is that a relationship can flare up fast and burn out just as quickly. Both can become extremely enamored with one another to the point of ignoring the important details. As I mentioned, I don't think you need to cut the Leo off, but I do highly recommend you date other people. Let the Leo know that while you're happy to date him, you can't be exclusive with him until he detaches from his ex.
I have a short attention span so... I just read the title and figured distant = fwb.
I should probably expand more on my assessments and maybe give advice or something... do you think I'm too short and blunt? Is that a Leo thing or something else.. your responses are really detailed. What's your mercury?
I'm only distant if i have doubts, i don't have an emotional attachment or i feel like the other person is losing their interest. Then i go on emotional shut down as a defense mechanism. Leo doesn't make someone they're interested in, feel insecure. We don't play those shitty games like fake peopleclick to expand
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