Are libras passive-aggressive and/or narcissists?

I had a strange relationship with a Libra that devolved into a quasi-abusive tug of war.

We met on an online dating site. He had a very upbeat and rosy profile which I felt as I got to know him better was a veneer to a somewhat troubled personality and past. After many dates together he finally invited me to his home which he was very hesitant to do because he said he had a stalker ex-girlfriend.

He invited me for New Years but was always texting his phone never left his side. He spent over an hour in the bathroom (I imagined texting). He said his ex-wife had always accused him of cheating in their marriage and had constantly checked his phone so he was very protective of it.

After 6 months of seeing each other which included being intimate he blurted out that he had no real feelings for me. Then he refused to even talk to me on Valentine's, he was out of touch. Due

to that I initiated what was one of many breakups. He said he was very hurt by this. He would always need a long time to recuperate to think things over before he gave the relationship another chance. Then we would always agree to continue seeing each other. The thing was that we never did any activity together, rarely had dinner or went out to eat. He was always traveling or had some time commitment with his friends. The funny thing was he always sent me texts every day, he was a relentless text-er. He would send me photos of his dog or with his family. He always responded to all of my texts almost right away.

Well through the course of the relationship he had a lot of problems with work and with his family some of whom he supports financially (including his sister who lives with him). He was always stressed out or going through some kind of crisis. So then another holiday rolled around and again he was going to disappear for the weekend. I was so upset because by this time I suspected he was up to no good or dating someone else. That was a big break. Every time there was a break and I attempted to amend the relationship because he made it seem like it was always my fault for asking questions he would give more terms which were never favorable for me (such as, we are

only being intimate with each other without the commitment but he swore there was no one else because he said he was too busy with work). The intimate time we were together began to take on a very dark tone. He wanted to recreate porn scenes and asked if I would let him film us. I always objected.

A couple times I had bruises because he said he was so passionate. He bit me a couple times.

One time he asked if I like to try something new like him slapping me. I objected thinking he was joking but

sometimes I thought he had a lot of anger issues with women or he was a closet sadist.

I thought he may have been hiding an addiction problem even though he looked squeaky clean because at times he seemed very agitated.

He was going through a lot it seemed. I felt compassionate towards him but I just always had a nagging suspicion about him that he was never being quite upfront. I felt it in my gut and in my bones.

But we were always in constant contact via text.

I finally got worn down and began to detach 16 months later. He lost his job but then he got himself a new car which he needed. I told him there was no need for us to exchange gifts (because I thought it would be a hardship for him) that I was not expecting anything truly. I also wanted to circumvent the expectation of seeing him for Christmas because I knew he always spent with his mother or siblings. But he said that we would exchange gifts. As the holiday approached I anticipated that I would see him before the holiday as it turned out he said we could not meet until after the holiday which drove me to tears. I felt I had been reeled in again so that he could disappoint me. After the holiday passed I felt hollow and I felt like just not seeing him for a while. I think on my part it was more of a test to see if I could really get away from him finally after so much back and forth and struggling to make things work. I asked if we could meet in the New Year and he said he had plans with his friend to see a game (which I totally believed. He's a big sports fan). Yet after the holidays and hardly seeing him I felt very detached from him emotionally.

The next big fight was when I found out he was still on the online dating site. He denied ever seeing other people. Finally, I sent him a breakup email and he graciously responded saying he was sorry it had come to this. Then no contact for 2 whole days (which was a first for us since the "relationship" started).

Then he texted me the following Monday morning to see if I was alright. He also sent me photos of himself and his dog. Then I felt really bad and awful. Then I checked the dating site and saw he went back on there in the evening. The following 5 days we went back and forth texting. I was thinking maybe we would remain friends at least. Then he said we could have a chat tomorrow ( which was Sat), Sat came and went and we never talked. Finally on Sunday he asked if I was home but I was with family.

He said it was fine that we could chat the next day. And the next day all hell broke loose.

Some of us are & some of us aren't. I think Libra women are more assertive than Libra men, but when it comes to being narcissists, the women moreso than the men lol.

But anyway, go on.

Well the following morning (by this time was fb stalking him, because he would never give me a straight answer about even mundane things) I saw that he had posted something on a female friend's wall regarding online dating. Up to this point he had sworn all along that although his profile was up he was not dating anyone while seeing me. His female friend was ripping on online dating and how pathetic is is and how there was no quality men on there. He replied twice saying you should see my online dating profile. You should take a look at my dating profile.

I'll admit I didn't react in the best way... I was livid. After so much crap that he had put me through and doubting and second-guessing myself, here it was in broad day light on a public post that he was dating.

Is something wrong with him mentally? I wondered.

BOTH!!

Wait what?

I think he had a lot of issues because of his ex-wife. He said she cheated on him but I think she must have put up with a lot over the years with his possible cheating and made a break by finally cheating on him.

Thank you. I made my choice by walking away but I feel afraid for the next girl who encounters him.

Yes, I agree a lot of red flags. I believe in karmic retribution. God will settle this. Any pain he's caused others

will come back to him.

This is not a Libra thing. This is a mental health thing. He has attachment disorder, it seems to be the anxious type. If not, then look up histrionic personality disorder.

The most disturbing part about it to me is all the pictures with the dog. Like he mistakes texting with his girlfriend for composing a dating profile.

He just seems to not be able to be alone, to need to have a backup plan in case his main scheme doesn't work out and to be shallow and superficial in his relationships.

Probably not his fault he is that way, probably suffers from being this way, I feel sorry for him – but the OP cannot afford to waste her sanity for him. He needs a shrink, not a date.

Posted by P6X58DE
My father is both and he is a Libra sun and moon combo.

He was physically violent when we were kids, but now it's all passive because well we can fight back and he would get nailed....

Other Libra's i know are female and they are nothing like my father's personality at all.

I find one of them extremely sexy, she has this flirtatious way about her.. but nothing more than that.

I keep reading over and over that Libra men are very different than libra women. Don't know how true that is since I don't know many Libra men....

My cousin is one.. but he has been single for a very long time.. since he divorced his ex, which was when I was very young. So I don't know how he is in a relationship.

I would never treat my significant other like OP explained though and I'm a Libra sun/moon as well.

Well, the Sun sign is really just part of the picture. A Libra with a Gemini Moon and a Leo rising like me would not be at all the same as a Libra with a Leo Moon and a Gemini rising. I don't think it is that much of a gender difference. I have known a Libra male who was very much like me save for being a bit of a player whereas I am not a player at all. I am also nothing like Kim Kardashian!

I read a lot on here about Libra females being princesses, charmers, paying very much attention to their looks, and I am nothing like that.

Let's not overcategorize. Doing so would mean there are exactly twelve personalities on this planet. We all know that is not true at all. A person is not only shaped by the zodiac. Upbringing, life experiences, medical conditions, even the culture of places they grew up in all play a part.