Are us Libras that bad? (Page 2)

Moon_eyes.... you're getting sssllleeeeeeepppyyyyy ...... don't fight it hun. We are not the enemy. We come in peace to offer peace amongst everyone.

"Balancing out sometimes means to stir up things, too. Ever met a libra in wrath, for example on a crusade against something? Legendary outbreaks."

LEGENDARY indeed! I have seen this and its not pretty. And yes in order to balance you do have to stir things up. At the same time, I don't know but stirring things up may mean the person is bored too LOL

they can't be too bad. I'm a libra and hate being center of attention and I hate being selfish. It makes me feel like I'm not being fair. Plus I won awards for niceness and other things ^^ I'm very proud lol.

sorry but if the world was full of libras what a peaceful world it would be

'Amen Starfish!!! LOL I hear THAT! it sucks b/c in the end, love is supposed to be selfless.'

This is very important. All of the Libras I know approached love like this naturally the first few times then started to realize that people will take advantage of it which turns us cynical and those of us who don't control that do a lot of damage because if we want to be manipulative and forceful for our own benefit we can be really successful at it.

What usually happens is after being in a relationship love or otherwise personal and feel that our great capacity for depth and selflessness were taken advantage of we purge by being very self centered and getting what we want by any means so to speak. those that speak ill of us in this light are usually the ones that caught us on the corrective end.

Our need for balance is constant and when people don't respond or respect our gentle and subtle approach to maintaining balance we try again, then again, each time trying to be more clear without becoming callous. Eventually, if they are still not appreciative, responsive we start to see it as "I tried, now I am going to do if you don't like it you should have listened before."

If someone understands our love for harmony and is willing to be as selfless as we are in achieving this we will be able to let go so to speak and at our best we are extremely deep and loving.

In my experience a lot of peoples attraction to us is because under the surface they can see this and they want it for themselves and either they end up trying to take it selfishly and end up paying a heavy price or they attempt to show that they will respect and appreciate and see it as sacred and we will give them the world for this.

"Balancing out sometimes means to stir up things, too. Ever met a libra in wrath, for example on a crusade against something? Legendary outbreaks."

"LEGENDARY indeed! I have seen this and its not pretty. And yes in order to balance you do have to stir things up."

When Libras explode like this I think it is a beautiful thing. usually because I have seen the torment and torture they have experienced in trying to find every solution but raw force. But when they do have to revert to it I understand and I know that harmony is near because they finally did what they have to do and when aggression or force is necessary for a Libra it is usually done so thoroughly that it will never have to happen for those reasons with those people ever again. I feel bad it had to happen but am glad it did because you can just see the scales in them even out as they explode. No other sign is like this, watching absolute rage lead to absolute harmony.

I especially like it when the other party involved thinks they will be able to handle it because they saw our self control and avoidance of conflict as weakness. "I would leave now if I were you." is usually the last thing they hear and ignore before it happens.

"well hunni i gotta say not all but a damn good amount are so totally self centered. It may stem from self doubt or just the need for an ego stroke but in my experience libras tended to require a lot of ego boosts, emotional care and the world revolved around them or they made it seem like it did."

You almost understand. You know, I do need a lot of ego strokes and emotional care. I need it because every day I am out trying to right the world and I sacrifice a lot to try and accomplish things the right way and for someone to show me how awesome they think that is provides me more strength and more confidence to perform at my best.

In a lot of our conversations about Libras, especially the men I see a lot of your posts having the underlying tone of disapproval and even pity. You understand us pretty well but you seem to chose to see predominantly the negative aspects but are obviously continuing to keep in the company of Libras at least on these boards...are you trying to get us to see something or are you trying to change how you see us?

Amen to that....that attitude would go a long way in making a real relationship out of a Libra guy.

Are Libras that self-centered?

Well it depends on what part of the Libra you are asking about. Libras before a commitment is made can be very self-centered & appear to be the biggest & most arrogant jerks & pickiest creatures around. Before they settle down with you, they are very open with themselves & are good for leading others on. They can appear to be very unforgiving & will cut someone off for the littlest thing someone else done (even when no harm was intended). If they notice something in you they don't like, they have been known to leave others high & dry & without an explanation & without any guilt for escaping. They have very high standards to the point that they know the average person won't meet those standards, but b/c they appear to know EXACTLY what they want, they won't back down for anyone or let anyone in their inner circle unless that person is on "good behavior" for a longgg time.

BUT the Libran when the commitment has been made is a whole 'nother story. They become very adapting of their partner. They become more worried about how the other person feels & alot of the time put their partner's needs & concerns over their own. They become very adaptive & understanding & don't sweat the "small things" because they'd rather learn to get over it & still keep you rather than pick on you for it & lose you. They become extremely attached to their partners & aren't quick to shut out their partners. When things get confusing or when roadblocks enter the relationship, the "I know exactly what I want" attitude goes straight out the window & the "I'm so confused" stages start to take place. They will make sure everyone knows who their partner is & why will take great pride in doing that because they feel the other person should be lucky that they were chosen over others in the first place. Instead of leaving their partners high & dry & w/o explanation, they will want to "talk everything out" & will go to great lengths to wheel that person back in. Leaving someone they love with no explanation (especially over something so petty) is not even in their vocabulary.

So yes, I think Libras can be very self-centered when they haven't found love yet & b/c of their undying cravings to find companionship, they can sometimes act out & do appear to be everything BUT pleasant when in reality all they really want is to be understood, praised, waited upon & needed.

I wouldn't Trust a Libra BIITCH as far as I could throw her ass.

lol!!!

Kind of like children who really just want love from their parents or their peers. They'll act out or become very disobedient (or in other words, rebellious) because deep down, they are lacking something they crave. They will say, "Fine, I'm running away" when in reality, they can't imagine being anywhere else. But in order to get the attention they are seeking they "have to do what they have to do" even if that means at the expense of others. And it's not that children act out because they hate their parents, but instead because they are using their disobedience as a "sign on their foreheads" for others to acknowledge, appreciate & give them whatever they feel they are lacking...

And no I'm not saying Libras are like children. But the self-centeredness & the pride & all the manipulation that comes from their personalities when they are lacking companionship can be compared to how children are when they don't get something they want.